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Dear UrbanBaby community,

Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] So I haven't BF 6 month old for a week but breast lumpy - do I pump or will this milk duct just go away on day soon? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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Manually express (in warm shower). Don't pump. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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will try. thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:41 PM Flag
[ - ] best carseat out there? DD outgrowing her 1st, looking for one that's good up to say 50-60lbs. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.30.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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we have a britax marathon and it has worked well. that said, I don't think my dc will last in it up to the weight limit (65 pounds). He is 40 pounds but 43 inches tall and uncomfortable in it now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:40 PM Flag
[ - ] My wife is on a business trip with her boss. We have a 2.5 year old and a 6 mo old. The boss has two young children. I am concerned she is cheating. How would I know? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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what makes you think she is cheating? Has she done something that seems off or are you just paranoid? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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I am paranoid. But isn't it weird to spend 5 days with someone of the opposite sex and not have any sexual issues arise? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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It's a business trip. They are conducting business. I'm sure they are also having some fun, but that does not mean sex is happening or that anyone wants it to happen. Unless she is showing some signs of cheating, stop worrying [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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What are signs of cheating? What should I be wary of? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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I'm sure the women here can fill you in. I'm not paranoid. I trust my DH to go out to lunch with women friends and co workers etc and nto cheat. She could cheat at home if she wanted to. You should stop worrying about it or talk to her about it if you really think something is up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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Haven't you ever travelled on business? It's possible to spend weeks working with someone and not have any issues. As long as everyone knows where the boundries are, it's totally possible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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you are what you say you are. she is probably working. have you met her boss? is he attractive? do you really think he's the type to hit on her? what line of work are they in? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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With 2 young kids, I'm not interested in sex with my husband much less someone else.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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OP: But that's the point, I guess. When you're far away from your young kids and free of them... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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Eh, I'd rather order room service, go to the gym, and sleep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:42 PM Flag
[ - ] where to buy cute bathing suits [for women]? kind of athletic since i will be chasing after my kids. tankini or bikini. tia 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.30.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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Lands End, believe it or not [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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I agree - sil just bought a couple and loves them. you can try them on at sears, believe it or not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:58 AM Flag
[ - ] Need camp lunch ideas! Thanks 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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how old is dc? My 4 y/o seems to like having a bunch of different things in the lunch box - today it was an egg, crackers, carrot sticks, grapes, cookies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:36 PM Flag
[ - ] 4Real Foods-Just bought a bunch at the Walmart near Woodbury Commons-Made for kids but absolutely delicious. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.30.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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me too. bought it for dd -- loved it too. ate most of it myself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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My twin DS gobbled it up like they've never eaten before. is this a new product? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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i think so... never saw it before [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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I can't reconcile the "4 Real" part and "Food" with Wal-Mart. IME, they don't sell any real food there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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Super Walmarts now offer an organic food section. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:28 AM Flag
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Walmart Supercenters sell a lot of grocery items at low cost. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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yes. my kids loved it. ALL NATURAL. Easy to make and for those of us still trying to lose baby weight, a low point value food. Gets a gold star in my book [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:43 AM Flag
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And just think, buying at Walmart undermines collective bargaining and reduces the likelihood that your fellow Americans will earn a living wage!! Yummy!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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What exactly is this new wonder food? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:14 AM Flag
[ - ] Waiting to miscarriage... Went for a sono because I had some early spotting. I was told that the gestational sac appeared to have an irregular shape and that I would likely miscarriage. I am only 5 or 6 weeks (3-4 in terms of how long ago we conceived). So now I just sit and wait until my follow-up appointment next week. Very anxious. Anyone else go through something similar? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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TTC 06.30.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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yup. me. they told me exactly the same thing, that i would miscarry because the gestational sac was an odd shape and they couldn't see the 'fetal pole' -- this was probably at 5 or 6 weeks. same as you. they sent me home and i felt icky. a week later a friend got me in to see her doc, and another ultrasound showed a heartbeat! the rest is history. DD is nearly 2 now. i don't want to raise your expectations but don't give up hope until it's really over! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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So stressful. Did you have any early spotting? I have to say that I dont feel nautiated any more (not a good sign). This is so upsetting. I miscarried in Nov,and only now recovered from the D&C. Thanks for sharing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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a tiny bit. it was SUPER stressful and horrible. and they were so matter of fact about it, as in: you will miscarry, just go home and wait. huh? but then it didn't happen. so sorry you've had one before. once you start talking about it it's amazing how many people have had them too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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If I am going to miscarry, I do hope that I do not need another D&C, and it happens naturally. It took me 8M to recover from the D&C. It is a horrible waiting period. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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Yes. this happened to me...was eventually ruled an ectopic and I had mexothrexate and miscarried a week or so later. Best of luck. The waiting is awful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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So sorry. What is mexothrexate? Are you trying again? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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I've since had 2 DCs. Methotrexate is an injection that stops cell growth and starts a miscarriage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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So sorry. I have 2 boys and feel like I should quit while I am ahead. Prayers to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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Thanks. I'm all good now. Are you seeing an RE, by chance? They're better at this stuff than OBs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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What is a RE? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Are we all on the same cycle? It's very prickly here tonight? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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lol That would be funny if UBing synced women's cycles, like living together in a dorm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:40 PM Flag
[ - ] does anyone have their finances mixed in w/their in laws? like, a credit card that is connected to a trust or something, to accrue interest, etc? this is us, and today FIL sent me/DH an email (mainly me) admonishing for high spending this month, saying we all need to talk about a budget at next family get together. i am livid. dh seems to think it's fine. seriously considering divorce. hate the lack of privacy, and feel like dh has never really cut the cord, despite our life. advice? anyone btdt? have i a right to be pissed? how best to talk w/dh? told him i wanted my own card, through our own account to use, that his parents can't see. he seemed annoyed, b/c i guess it's not as financially wise. freaking out. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.30.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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So who pays off this credit card? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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we do, but i think b/c we are in a tough place now (dh switching jobs soon, but now his salary barely covers the rent, etc. so we always have to dip) they want to help out. just torn. what can i do? i feel like if i want to break free they will scorn me, etc. and i'm sure already say horrible things about me (how dare she make a charge for $8 at starbucks when they are broke?!, etc). am also sahm, no family, one ds has serious special needs. just feel so overwhelmed. hate that fil is acting like big brother, and that dh seems fine w/it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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How are you surviving on such a tight budget? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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why are you spending $8 at starbucks? Grow up and support yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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nope [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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I would be beyond livid if FIL started commenting on my spending. But, until your finances are completely separated from theirs, they are going to know and comment, esp. if they are paying the bills. You and DH need to talk about this, seriously and calmly. He needs to make his parents understand that your discretionary spending is between you and him, they do not get a say, and if that's not "financially prudent", then he needs to decide what is more important - having his parents paying his bills and running his life or his marriage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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c'mon - if they foot the bills they absolutely get to have a say in what they are paying for. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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ITA. It's only fair - OP. If they are paying your bills, why would they not get a say in how the money is spent? It's their money! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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op: i just want to cry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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If I were in your spot, I wouldn't use that card to buy anything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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np here definitely don't use the card for much. maybe get a cash advance on it weekly and use that to spend. that way they can't track what you spend [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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nnp and I think the ILs would likely flip if she started getting cash advances on the card [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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I am on your side here, I really am. But you DO need to have a family budget. So sit down with DH and create one, including an adequate amount of weekly spending money for you. If that card is where your money comes from, then get yourself a weekly cash advance, and you use that for Starbucks, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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I don't want to make you feel worse, but I do think it's odd that you would use a credit-card that in-laws are helping you pay to buy things like Starbucks. You mentioned that you "have to dip" and they are "helping out." If they are helping you out, they just don't want to help you get a latte. They want to see if go for necessities, like food, rent etc. Why don't you just apply for your own card? You don't need to do it with DH - do your own thing. I've always had my own cards. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:57 PM Flag
[ - ] 11 mo dc throws a fit in the bath tub. literally screams bloody murder. is this a phase? not sure how to get over this hump. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.30.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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sponge bath / wipes / no-alcohol witch hazel on a cotton pad / water only on hair, etc. -- do you really need to give db a bath? sounds like it freaks her out right now. it will pass (when? i don't know)... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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phase. Mine did the same. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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Phase. Skip baths--we had "baths" in the sprinklers at the park last summer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:48 PM Flag
[ - ] I am about to send a letter threatening to sue someone. Never done this before and while I am in the right, I am nervous. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.30.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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Its such a meaningless threat these days. Whenever people are annoyed they pull the lawyer gambit. Either hire and lawyer and have them send a letter or find a different route. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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I have a lawyer who will send it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:40 PM Flag
[ - ] need rolled oats for a recipe. not sure what those are, but have Quaker oats (for making oatmeal). think I can use that? clueless non-cook here. tia 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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Quaker oats are rolled oats, so yes;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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see, I told you I was a non-cook! Thank you! :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:25 PM Flag
[ - ] is the playground at 85th and 5th avenue opened yet? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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I don't think it's supposed to be ready to reopen until after the summer is over. It looks like they are levelling it and totally rebuilding it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:39 PM Flag
[ - ] what is your skin care regiment if any? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.30.08, 06:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Low milk supply? Last night when I fed my 2mo my boobs never felt full, they felt empty? I've been EBF except he's had 2 bottles of formula, once 2 weeks ago, and one time 3 nights ago. Granted that meant I didn't feed for almost 8 hours, but could my supply be that screwed up? Or is it normal for your boobs to not feel big anymore? So confused 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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Totally normal to have your supply ebb and flow over time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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your supply is not going to get screwed up by two bottles given over 2 weeks. It is normal to feel less full as the baby gets more efficient at eating and your supply adjusts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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ok, good to know. wish my boobs would go down a size. I am still a 36DD and they look ridiculous on me, I hate them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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have you been to kellymom.com? tons of info on bfing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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yeah your body is probably adjsuting to the right supply and that is why you are no longer engorged. make sure you are dirnking lots of fluids tho. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:24 PM Flag
[ - ] is it awful not getting an anniversary gift for dh and vice versa? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.30.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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2008 anniversary gift to DH: hair pomade DH gift to DW: nothing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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not awful, at least not for us. other than our 10th (long weekend away w/o DCs), all we have ever done for ours is dinner at a really nice restaurant. we still love each other. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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