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[ - ] What are you a sanctimommy about? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:25 PM Flag
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that moms and dads should be able to make decisions about how long they'll breastfeed their kids in their families, without anyone else butting the hell in and thinking it's their business. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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no juice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:35 PM Flag
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manners and how to act in public (in restaurants, etc) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:36 PM Flag
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good one! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:37 PM Flag
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I don't know if it is sanctimommy, but my recent annoyance with other moms is I have been seeing a lot of toddler/just walking moms on the playgoround who don't let their kids hands go for 30 secs. The kid is so excited that he can finally walk and all he wants to do is explore and they won't let go of him. I mean come on lighten up, walk behind him --he just learned to walk how fast and far can he go. I don't know why but it drives me crazy, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:39 PM Flag
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Me too. I saw a woman actually climb up on the play structure with her child the other day - completely hovering and not letting her child play on her own. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:40 PM Flag
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or: I actually do that, but ONLY becuase my DS doesn't really get the whole falling off the edge of it thing yet. But he is really young --13 mos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:43 PM Flag
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^^but I don't hover, I just stand in front of hte stair opening. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:44 PM Flag
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That is not annoying at all. That's just smart. This woman was just obnoxious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:46 PM Flag
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sanctimommies not butting out. to each his own. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:40 PM Flag
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oh lots: giant kids in strollers with pacifiers in their mouth; when a child is trying to talk through his pacifier; all the crappy nannies I see -- someone hired each and every one of these tools; i hate every mom who claims absolutes (NEVER sugar, NEVER TV, NEVER artificial anything); I could go on and on.... I never say anything, but boy do I think it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 04:29 AM Flag
[ - ] i know it just came out, but if anyone's seen the Kit Kitteredge movie, do you think that 5 yr dd would like it? (she's not familiar w/ the American Girl brand) is she too young? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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I'm sure a 5yo would like it, and what rock are you all living under that she hasn't heard of American Girl? It's all the rage in the preschools and early elementary schools in my neighborhood [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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my 4 1/2 year old DD doesn't know American Girl, thankfully -trying to avoid that kind of commercialism...but have heard the movie is good... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:25 PM Flag
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FWIW, AG is great. My DDs got AG dolls for Christmas when they were 6yo and they love them. We don't go nuts on the outfits and accessories. They have a few cherished things. There is a way to control the hype [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:26 PM Flag
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Ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:36 PM Flag
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Tritto - no AG here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:01 AM Flag
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took my 5 yo and she really liked it. You don't need to know about American Girl to enjoy the movie. I did explain the depression (in very basic terms) to her just so she could catch on quicker in the movie. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 09:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Give a clever phrase for "finishing off a bottle." 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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for what purpose? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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I'm writing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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topping it off [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:03 AM Flag
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Get another one [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:18 AM Flag
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sending the firewater to a happy home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:19 AM Flag
[ - ] co-worker advised that i shouldn't let 3 month old sleep the whole eight hours he has been doing the last two days. he was doing 7 hours for two weeks prior. is this correct? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.30.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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Bizarre. Why not? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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didn't say...i didn't even think to ask...duh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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doesn't matter. that is dumb and makes no sense. if db sleeps 8 hrs get on your knees, thank the lord, and let him! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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i will! lol thanks for responding. my gut told me all was fine and to let him sleep. i figured this was good for everyone! :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:28 PM Flag
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Good lord if you db is sleeping let him/her sleep! My dcs both slept through the night by 3 months and they are totally fine 5 and 8 years later! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 09:21 PM Flag
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mom of 2 month old - first of all, thank you. It's great to know that a 3 month old can do that! secondly, I agree w/ the other posters-if I were you I would be thanking God and doing a happy dance! my dd slept for 4 hours the other night (the only time she's done that) and dh and I were THRILLED! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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the only reason to wake a sleeping baby, is if he is struggling with weight problems -- then you wake to eat him. But unless this is an issue (and your ped would tell you) -- do not wake him up-- count your blessings, and NEVER wake a sleeping baby! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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^^^ lol I did not mean to eat him. I meant to feed him. Unless you are struggling with weight problems :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:00 AM Flag
[ - ] why are so many of you claiming you would like your dc to be a plumber? give me a break. you are not pouring over UB night after night, micromanaging their every educational moment just to see them repair toilets. you all are quite full of it. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.30.08, 08:15 PM Flag
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I am not one of those micromanager and I would not like my ds to be a plumber. I ahven't seen anyone say that here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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scroll down. one poster likes electricians too. one has a dh who is a journeyman, and on and on. they are wearing it like a badge of honor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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what is a journeyman? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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I mean, I wouldn't be upset about it (like if he were a porn director or a tobacco lobbyist) but it's not what I would want for him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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Plumbers and electricians make great $s and it's relatively recession-proof. I wouldn't mind that at all! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 04:40 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it normal for my ex-dh and his family to have a seperate wardrobe for my son that is only used when he is with them? I'm thinking this is wrong, but I'm not sure if I should say anything. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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wrong in what way? I would think it's better for you (less laundry, don't have to pack a bag for him every time he goes to see his father), no? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:21 PM Flag
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ITA. No packing1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:23 PM Flag
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I can't even imagine why this could be wrong, other than unnecessary expense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:25 PM Flag
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not wrong, unless the wardrobe includes dresses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:27 PM Flag
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lol. we keep some separate clothes for dh's kids here, mainly b/c he's v gungho about his alma mater (so they wear a lot of tshirts etc emblazoned with the university name) and his exwife can't stand that, so we just keep all that stuff here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:32 PM Flag
[ - ] What percentage of wives do you think cheat on their DHs? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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a lower percentage than that of dhs cheating on their wives [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:23 PM Flag
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5%??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Really, really dumb question here, but I had a preemie 3 years ago when my water broke prematurely. They ended up inducing me b/c of that and I had an epidural. Anyway, now I'm pg with #2. How do you know you're in labor? I kind of missed that last time - just had the water breaking and the rest didn't occur naturally. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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I'm in your exact situation, but I didn't even have water break. But everyone says, "when it's real, you know." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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Why did you go early? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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your contractions will be pretty unmistakable, spaced closer and closer together, more and more intense. good luck! i hope you get to experience it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:32 PM Flag
[ - ] 37 weeks pregnant, after sitting for several hours, I see a stain on my skirt. How do I know if it's water broke, or just some pee residue? Feel fine.. Do I need to call doc? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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Did you smell it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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^^amniotic fluid smells kind of like ocean and pee smells like pee [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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op: it definitely does not smell like pee. But not like ocean either. has a weird, but very very faint, smell [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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Could be regular discharge. It wouldn't hurt to call ob now... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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you think it would be bad to just go to bed, and (assuming I don't feel any contractions) call ob tomorrow morning (after ds is in school)? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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I don't think so. Put on a pantiliner so you can tell if there is more. But I don't think it would be bad to put in a call to ob just to put your mind at ease. I would! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:15 PM Flag
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thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:16 PM Flag
[ - ] How do you know if you have bedbugs? I have been waking up in the a.m. with mosquito-like bites on my ankles, but I don't recall running into any mosquitoes. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.30.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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That's what they're like. Often they are 3 in a row (but not always). Look on your sheets for tiny bloodstains. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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How do you get rid of them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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We had to get an exterminator to do it. It worked. Soooo nasty and I was embarrassed to tell anyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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can you post the name of the exterminator if they were good? I found a bug crawling on me last night that looks highly suspicious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.01.08, 06:04 AM Flag
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i killed a mosquito in dc's room last night - they are still around [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.01.08, 06:06 AM Flag
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I know. We actually had a mosquito problem, but located the source and got rid of it - they were breeding in pooled water in the A/C. We were all getting bitten up - and they were definitely mosquito bites. Then last night - and believe me, I wasn't looking for it - I felt something crawling across my forehead. Squished it and brought it into the light and looks like a bedbug. I'm trying really hard not to FREAK OUT. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.01.08, 06:08 AM Flag
[ - ] Are you a woman who had pretty easy pregnancies (got pg, expanded somewhat, then had a baby) or was pregnancy difficult for you? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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easy easy easy...the worst part was the love handles that I can't get rid of. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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OP: I am always so in awe of people like that! I met a woman with my same due date the other dayc - she was out exercising. I can barely walk! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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Honestly, I was so expecting to hate every minute of it....it was the complete opposite of what I expected. I was in shock everyday that I actually loved being pg. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:48 PM Flag
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ok, how come i can't get rid of mine either? I am 110 and have a little love handle thing going... had easy pregnancy and delivery. don't get why the love handles are still alive! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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easy pregnancy (after the morning sickness subsided), but lots of post partum depression and anxiety [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:38 PM Flag
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i am sure others had it worse but for me it sucked. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:40 PM Flag
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easy except for some morning sickness-- and a fantastic result! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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2 m/cs but then super easy pg, gained 40 lbs, went back to looking exactly the same after with slightly smaller boobs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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^^though I did barf in subway platform trashcans several times and no one cared! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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not difficult from a serious problems pov, but i have the morning sickness in the first tri and the whole body expansion just does not agree with me - the stretching hurts, my skin itches, my breasts weigh 100 pounds, my back hurts, i can't sleep, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 01:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you think it's inconceivable that a woman with a 6 month old child would cheat on her husband? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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Are you the DH whose wife is away on business? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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Oh. I don't think it's inconceivable at all. Why would it be? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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It would be strange, no? Should be a time to be focused on the kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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Should be. Marriage should also be monogamous. Doesn't mean it always is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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I would never cheat on my dh, but by the time my ds was 6 mo I was back at work, having sex (with dh!), reading the odd book, etc, all while feeling very focused on my db. Could have easily switched out one of those activities with sex w/ someone else! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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It seems unconceivable on the surface, but it depends on the situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:40 PM Flag
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I think it's totally conceivable -- say, ppd turns into lack of attachment to baby, turns into looking for a way out. could be a way to escape the whole "mother and wife" role. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 04:33 AM Flag
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no - especially if she has ppd. my brother had an affair with a woman who had a three month old and i always suspected that she had ppd among other issues [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 04:48 AM Flag
[ - ] what I have learned having 2 kids, 1 in public and 1 in private: private school kids are more prone to nut allergies. is this because their parents never expose them to anything? 70 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.30.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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Interesting. Maybe parents are more protective of those kids and trust a private to take the allergie more seriously? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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Or private parents are bigger advocates? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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np: every kid at our public eats pb at lunch. they even serve it for school lunch. has never been a problem. unless there is a documented case in the school, it should be allowed. the whole thing is overdone in nyc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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np: I don't think it's overdone at all. Kids can DIE from this. Thankfully my own kids don't have food allergies but I think it should be taken seriously. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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like I said, if there is a case of it in the school, but an all out ban as occurs in all privates is over kill. kids in public do fine, and they are not dropping like flies from it either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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They ban it outright even if no one in the entire school has an allergy? And none of that was clear in your posts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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yes. pita to send a lunch [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:23 PM Flag
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Not a very creative lunch maker, are you? My kid hates pb and we manage to have lunch daily. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:24 PM Flag
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my dcs have a very limited range in terms of foods they will eat for lunch, no matter what I dream up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:26 PM Flag
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Send them with leftovers from dinner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:27 PM Flag
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np. I don't believe this. Please tell us which school has an outright ban but no dc w/ allergies? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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actually, I think every private school I looked at had an outright ban. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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np. Your claim was that they ban it outright even if none of the students are allergic. At which schools is that the case? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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except for the kids with allergies - there are many in my dd's public [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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Do you have one dc with allergy and one without? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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our 9yo dc has a moderate-to-serious peanut allergy, and honestly, she's a sensible girl and we're completely confident in her ability to avoid the occasional pb&j or peanut infested trail mix... totally not worth a supreme court case, imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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9 yr olds are much more savy about this than preschoolers or even k kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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Good for your dc. My dc isn't allergic at all, luckily, but he has a couple of friends whose allergies are so severe they get anaphylaxis just from being NEAR nut products. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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No. It's because private school kids are more likely to have been sired by older moms who had to turn their bodies into science experiments via IFV in order to conceive at their advanced age. By short-circuiting Mother Nature's Natural Selection process, you end up with children who aren't as healthy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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np: You're such an idiot. More kids with peanut allergies are in privates because peanuts are banned in privates and because teachers in privates are allowed to give epi-pen injections. My cousin had to send her DD to private because publics will not ban nuts even for kids with contact allergies and only the school nurse is allowed to inject kids (my cousin's DD could be dead by then). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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The research bears this out. YOU are the idiot. Pull your head out of the sand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:28 AM Flag
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Show me the research that says an IVF baby is less healthy than an non-IVF baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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Clinical researcher here. She's right. The research IS out there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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So provide a link, it's not that hard to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:43 AM Flag
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Not all the research is online, hon. Go to a university library. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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There is no chance that a study about this has not been discussed in a journal, and so even an abstract would be online. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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Not necessarily. I worked as an editor at JAMA. You'd be surprised what they keep off the Internet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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You are full of crap. Even if JAMA didn't put it up themselves, some other publication with an online face would be discussing the research. The only study that I have ever seen turned out not to be adjusted for preemies and other high-risk issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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such research, if significant, would be way to popular to keep out of the news. It would get picked up. Jeez--that stupid, sloppy caffeine study got tons of press. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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If the medical journals aren't publishing it, how would the "news" find out about it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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They would be publishing it if it were a groundbreaking, well-organized study that could not easily be dismissed. It would be huge! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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Oh hon. You really don't know how the medical industry works, do you? Such a study would be a fatal blow to the multi-BILLION dollar industry of fertilizing older women. The medical and pharmaceutical industries are now virtually one and the same, since 90% of the research money comes from Big Pharma. Do you really think the medical profession would bite the hand that feeds it by publishing such a study? THINK, girl. I've been there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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DING DING DING! Bingo. Researcher here. This is why I can only get government grants. MY research has nothing to do with finding "market-based solutions", so the drug companies (and the foundations that support them) won't touch me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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this is so scary [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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np. Do you think if you keep saying "hon" enough that your condescending tone will make you sound more credible? Keep trying. You're so full of it, it's almost funny. You can't cite one piece of research. You imply that if we go to a uni library we'll find it. OK. So give us a cite for something that we can find at the library. You can't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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np: By the person who did the research. Isn't that obvious? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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Oh, HON, go away with your rational arguments. She's a "clinical researcher!" ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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np again: I'm just a shlub but if the Journal Articles I worked on in grad school had been buried by the Journal Publishers for political/financial reasons... the principals would have been all over the news. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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by reading UB you nitwit! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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ITA. Provide a link. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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np. ITA too, but she can't provide a link. She's FoS. I love the excuse that JAMA would or could keep this out of the public eye if there really had been a study that found this! lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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my friend who is an older IVF mom and also a doctor who works in medical research has told me this as well. there is growing research that kids born via IVF in particular to older parents (not so true for IVF to younger parents) have more problems both health and developmental even when compared to the naturally conceived children of older parents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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np: it makes intuitive sense, but people aren't going to want to hear it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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not wanting to hear it, doesn't make it less true. this woman has twins - one of whom has mild issues that will prob be "outgrown" soon, but the other is SN - developmental as well as food allergies, etc. it's not like she isn't happy that she had the kids, she just thinks that people shouldn't foold themselves about the "risks" or concerns involved. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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out of curiosity, what constitutes "older mom" for purposes of this analysis? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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she said over 40 and she was considering paternal age too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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^^^ and also mentioned that in her dc SN schools, the vast majority of the parents were in their 40s and up and a good number of those had used ART. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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I have no clue, but the medical establishment seems to benchmark older mom at 35+. I don't if that's the same in this case. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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^^np [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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agreed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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what kinds of problems? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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well, my ivf twins are hitting all their milestones early, and are 90th % for size. 41 when they were born. Perfect health, gorgeous babies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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part of that is an older mom issue not the IVF issue. obviously your eggs deteriorate over time. plus, once you're over 35, your body carrying the pregnancy is not in top shape either. it's not nec a matter of the IVF process! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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i agree - i think however that a woman who conceives naturally over 40 yo might have better quality eggs and be in better physical condition than one who needs ART. obviously this is in general and not specific to any ONE person though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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http://www.biomedcentral.com/1472-6947/4/3 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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There is something so very wrong about this post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:42 AM Flag
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It's more complicated than that. Many women and men with fertility issues are actually suffering from undiagnosed infections which affect the children as well. Also older fathers have children with more issues (particularly autism) regardless of the age of the mother. Their sperm is damaged by age. I realize you might feel superior about having a child younger but if you were in these women's places you would go to IVF as well. You never know. And no, I did not use IVF. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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That's not true in our public, quite a few kids with severe peanut allergies. They have a SEIT and sit at different tables during PB&J days, not really a huge deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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Why ban nuts just because some kids can't eat them? The kids are old enough to know to stay away. BTW, you have to have really severe allergies to get the SEIT. With garden-variety one, you just skip the PB&Js. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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#1, because for some dc just being near nuts or touching something that nuts had contact with is enough to trigger a life-threatening reaction. #2 because it's cheaper to ban nuts than to pay a SEIT. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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I think if the kids were so allergic that they could not be in the cafeteria with nuts at all then school may have to ban but that's rarely the case. I assume such kids could not travel on an airplane either. The kids I know with SEIT have other severe allergies besides nuts, so the SEIT is needed to keep an eye on all of it. All the kids I know allergic to nuts (granted, sample of 8-10 only) are allergic to other things too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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I find that the kids with "nut allergies" are exposed to nuts frequently. (The problem is, they distract us from the few kids with actual nut allergies.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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Did any of you read the Harpers article about the growing food allergies in the US? It was about six months ago. http://harpers.org/media/slideshow/annot/2008-01/index.html [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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My neighbor is a cancer researcher. He says there are diseases of the affluent; children who are not exposed to the "normal' outside world, (i.e. playing in dirt at the park vs. playing in sterilized indoor play places) develop stronger manifestations of diseases from the common cold to cancer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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np: I believe that. But I'm the mom of a kid with a food allergy (that developed when he was 6 and we are still trying to track down) - and I'm considered a "dirty mom," the one who considers fallen cheerios a food group and never has hand sanitizer and lets the kids play in the sandbox at the park. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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Above poster is correct--it is actual micro-organisms in dirt (soil, not cheerios on the floor) that help immune system develop in a good, coherent way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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I was like that till my kid tested high for pb. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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np. Am I the only one who initially read this as the kid testing high for peanut butter? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:53 PM Flag
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probably more that parents with kids with allergies seek out nut-free schools, which happen to be private [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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nope [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:42 AM Flag
[ - ] I am 34 weeks pg with #2 and in the last few days have had really horrible foot pain. It is very difficult to walk b/c of it and I am limping around. Weight gain moderate and about the same as with #1 and this didn't happen last time. What the heck is it and how long after delivering will it go away?> 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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Are they swollen? Heat makes the joint pain worse. I had to sit with my feet up for the last couple months of pg with my Sept. DD [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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Not really. I was very swollen last time but this is different. It feels like the bones are giving out. I know they're not but that's how it feels. Every step hurts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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A really beautiful down to earth smart woman who seduces me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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Twins, but an otherwise uneventful pg. My OB insisted I stay home and not go in to work after 30 weeks. So i worked from home with the blessing of him and my boss. Good thing, too. I worked in the WTC and my twins were born in October 2001, so I may well have been there that day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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pre-e. was only on it for a few days before I was induced though. [ Reply | More
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