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[ - ] What items that belong to your children will you save for your grand kids or sentimental reasons? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:56 PM Flag
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We have a pretty epic dress up collection, could practically run a kids' theater program with it and my dd and her friends had fun goofing around with it all through high school. I think I"ll save some of the greatest hits in case grandkids want to play with them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:59 PM Flag
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So awesome. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:08 PM Flag
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Keep all! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 05:20 AM Flag
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I have kept many baby dresses on hangers in her closet. I will likely reduce the amount but for now it just looks like an organized rainbow of dresses in her closet that makes me smile [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:59 PM Flag
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I bought pretty much the whole radio flyer collection in red for our kids. They are in excellent shape. I have the room to store them in the attic so they will stay there next too our luggage and Christmas tree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:00 PM Flag
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Outfit they wore home from the hospital, favorite stuffed animal, wooden kitchen set, wooden rocking horse, blocks, Legos [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:07 PM Flag
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This is sweet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:08 PM Flag
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maybe the lego sets, the AG dolls and clothes and my DS's extensive wooden train collection. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:22 PM Flag
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legos? would never occur to me to save [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 10:08 PM Flag
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Of course you should. My siblings and I still mourn the disappearance during a move of our big collective Lego chest. We have no idea what happened to it and it drives us crazy to this day. It also included vintage sets that belonged to our uncles back in the late 50's and early 60's. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 11:11 PM Flag
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Silver rattles, silver spoons [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:23 PM Flag
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^^magnatiles and legos and doll stuff [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:23 PM Flag
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We aren’t saving anything, they won’t want it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:56 PM Flag
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My children play with all of the things my parents kept [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 11:44 PM Flag
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Some of her early drawings, the first "I love you mama" note. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:00 PM Flag
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OMG. Sweet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:10 PM Flag
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I can imagine keeping legos, magnatiles, and maybe some Calico Critters for future grandkids. Games? Not sure. Sentimental reasons I have some of their art and also a small tote with old favorite clothing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:09 PM Flag
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Huge bin of Thomas the tank Engine trains and track, some baby clothes too cute and full of memories, board books that were favorites at bedtime, I could on... have definitely kept too much stuff but I'm very sentimental. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:50 PM Flag
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Some legos and some baby and toddler clothing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:56 PM Flag
[ - ] When you switched to high protein/low carb, did your energy levels increase? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:50 PM Flag
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opposite for me, I really need some carbs for energy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:01 PM Flag
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^ same here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:44 PM Flag
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I need a balance of both but heavier on protein. I hate feeling lazy and that is what carbs do to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:03 PM Flag
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yes but not a first [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:12 PM Flag
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So for 21 days I am doing a "dr.Mark Hyman" thing of high protein/fats, whole fruits and veggies. I ate a bagel in yesterday and was so tired the whole day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 01:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you have a collection of anything? Does it bring you joy or clutter? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:49 PM Flag
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Recipe books. I love them and use them but get most of my recipes online. I love going through them though. I have them beautifully displayed on a huge shelf mixed with decorative objects so it does not look like clutter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:52 PM Flag
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Or- I definitely have a cookbook and pretty much every cuisine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 09:26 PM Flag
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From [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 09:27 PM Flag
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same, although mine are not beautifully displayed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 01:08 AM Flag
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My mom collects Christmas ornaments. She says it's the perfect collection because it only comes out once a year. Whenever she travels, she gets an ornament there. Whenever there is a special event, like a birth, anniversary, or graduation, she gets an ornament made to commemorate the occasion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:52 PM Flag
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I do this too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:07 PM Flag
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I posted below. I am the same. Does your mother keep a neat and organized home? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:07 PM Flag
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Organized to her. When she has a guest who is very good at organization, her home drives them crazy. Especially her kitchen and pantry. The secret to understanding her organization is to think about the fact she's under 5 feet tall, her husband's over six feet tall, and she often has babies and toddlers over. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:11 PM Flag
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That is some height difference! As long as she understands of the chaos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:48 PM Flag
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I do this too. Travel and also an ornament to commemorate every year (usually a picture ornament). It's nice because when we put the tree, we reminisce over the places we've been and family pictures over the years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:17 PM Flag
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I have stamps from when I made hand stamped card. I should get rid of them. They are in my attic so I easily forget that they exist.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:53 PM Flag
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Just the books I keep accumulating. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:53 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 02:59 AM Flag
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My old teachers manuals or student editions. Once COVID subsides am donating them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:56 PM Flag
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Magnets from every place I've been to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:00 PM Flag
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So, YOU'RE the one who buys those things! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:03 PM Flag
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Me, too! They bring me so much joy and take up zero space in our small apartment. I like collect Christmas ornaments from my travels, as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 11:26 PM Flag
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Ornaments from our travels. I hate tchotchkes. My mother has so many and thinks they are so valuable. They are more sentimental than anything but have little monetary value. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:06 PM Flag
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Antique chinoiserie vase/urns, but I'll pass on any piece I don't have a place in mind for. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:11 PM Flag
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Christmas tree ornaments from places we travel to. Makes it extra fun to bring them out and remember our trips. Definitely brings joy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:39 PM Flag
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Art, and design books. Joy, I keep it within strict limits, I don't buy anything if I don't have a place for it and declutter aggressively/frequently. My mom is a hoarder so I grew up with it and would never, ever allow my home to be overrun like that, it makes my skin crawl just to think about her apartment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:49 PM Flag
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I have a large book collection including many signed books. Joy and clutter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:11 PM Flag
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Do you have a favorite? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:18 PM Flag
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several things: Pez candy containers. Brass candlesticks. Egg cups. Faberge eggs. Apostle silver spoons. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:24 PM Flag
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I have a perfume collection. It's mostly in a box in the closet but all the sample sizes are in a cute dish next to my bathtub (I spray them in the water when I take a bath) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 01:10 AM Flag
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Handbags. Not like shelves of LV or Goyard crap. 50% is vintage. A lot of exotic skins. Some has deprecated in retail value but the collection, as a whole, has almost tripled in value. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 07:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking for new soup recipes. Please share a link to something different yet simple. Thank you! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:48 PM Flag
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cauliflower/carrot soup: in InstantPot saute leeks, then add 2 heads of cauliflower, a bunch of carrots, 1 box of vegetable broth (plus a little water or bit of a second box.) Cook on manual setting for 6 minutes, blend with immersion blender, season. Sometimes add a little bit of shredded cheese. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:22 PM Flag
[ - ] As a disclaimer, I posted on ybm and was told to talk to someone else at my kid's school. It's a small, public high school. There are less than 500 students, I'd guess. There are two counselors. One helps with class selection. The other helps with college stuff. Now, I do not have a four year degree or understand much about the process. DC's public high school does not rank. I asked the college counselor if the school provides a statement of rank where she could at least say if DC was in the top 10%, 30%, 50%, or whatever. She responded that she didn't know what I was talking about, and the school does not rank. I asked if she knew if any of the schools DC was considering would not consider DC first gen (bioparents don't have bachelor's, but stepparents do, and one is a doctor). She responded that she had no idea why I'd think schools would ask about stepparent education. So I thought I just needed to phrase my questions more clearly. But I was told on the other site that she seemed lazy and I should switch counselors. Since there is no other counselor that does college stuff, who else would I talk to? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:47 PM Flag
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Well, I have a JD and I was the first one in my family to attend college and I don't know what you're talking about. Class rank, I get. First gen. I always thought referred to 1st gen. American. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:58 PM Flag
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Here's a New York Times article on it: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.nytimes.com/2017/11/03/education/edlife/first-generation-college-admissions.amp.html [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:02 PM Flag
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Huh. Interesting. And ironic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:58 PM Flag
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There is nothing wrong with your questions and it sucks that your college counselor is giving you attitude. A good resource is the website College Confidential. I think you should try asking your step parent question there. As for class rank, not all schools rank. My children's school does not and does not provide percentile info to colleges either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:45 PM Flag
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It looks like there's a lot of disagreement on College Confidential, so probably schools look at it differently. Maybe my daughter should ask the admission counselors at the different colleges directly? I'd really like a yes or no question on the ranking. But I do understand that the best I'll get is probably "I don't really know what you are trying to ask, but we don't rank." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:54 PM Flag
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First gen is almost certainly not going to care about step-parents. Class rank doesn't matter if the school doesn't rank, my DC's school doesn't rank and it was a non-issue, the counselor will send a counselor's recommendation that will make clear whether the DC is a good student or not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 09:33 PM Flag
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this may be the problem... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 03:00 AM Flag
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Bad and not so nice counselor. Find another one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 09:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Wish us luck. Supposed to start at new private MS this fall. Decided not to go, unrelatedly to COVID. Got a great public placement. Telling school today. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:43 PM Flag
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Congrats! And lucky you. I am dreading the MS process next year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:01 PM Flag
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Me tooooo :-( Though I'm feeling more and more like a lottery may actually be the fairest thing with the state of the world as it is and the systemic advantages to white students. Will my kid get screwed in the process - most likely! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:15 PM Flag
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Same. I feel bad bc my older kid went to a screened school and we loved it. Was planning to send #2 there and of course he wants to go to the same school as his sibling. With a lottery that is unlikely to happen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:08 PM Flag
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Aren't you on the hook for tuition at this point? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 08:23 AM Flag
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Good luck OP!! DD loved public MS (Dist. 2) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 12:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Is the most professionally successful woman you know more successful than her husband? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:42 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:47 PM Flag
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The most professionally successful women I know don't have husbands. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:03 PM Flag
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By choice? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:14 PM Flag
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OR: probably a choice to focus on work and therefore having little time for a personal life. I know many Biglaw partners not married, no kids. Several women in politics, journalism, and very visible in nonprofits. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:26 PM Flag
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I know successful women in all of those industries and ALL are married with kids, including me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:36 PM Flag
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really? I am very professionally successful and have similar friends and we are all married. and yes, most of our husband's are less successful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:16 PM Flag
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she is more successful than her wife :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:41 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:27 PM Flag
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Yes. And she is a nasty middle aged beast. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:57 PM Flag
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Who I know personally? Yes, all of them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 09:34 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 03:08 AM Flag
[ - ] Any day camps that will be open in the city this summer? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:42 PM Flag
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I've heard Asphalt Green and Steve & Kate's (only UES location) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:24 PM Flag
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Chelsea Piers is opening end of July. Not in the city, but I got an email yesterday that House of Sports (Ardsley) will be open beginning June 29th. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Therapist moms please help: I feel terrible. I have a longterm therapist that has helped me through childhood trauma. We never really talked about my love life or sex life - it always seemed like there was other work to do and when I brought it up I got the sense that she felt those issues were trivial to my overcoming trauma. Recently I had a spectacular breakup with a boyfriend that was utterly painful and he humiliated me in a way no one has. So I called a friend's couples' therapist and am seeing her weekly and she is helping me in a way the other therapist could not. I did not tell longtime therapist and with the new therapist I lied and said my old therapist was not available and gave an excuse. I am not a liar in therapy. I am very good at being real. What am I doing? Can someone tell me how to come clean or if I need to? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:34 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:42 PM Flag
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Please don’t start therapy with a lie. That’s actually part of what you are in therapy for. Signed - therapist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:44 PM Flag
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I know. I feel shameful about it. But I was panicked because the breakup was a nuclear bomb and longtime therapist had no idea how to handle it. This new one does. What do I do now? The guilt is killing me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:48 PM Flag
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rip off the band-aid and start a new session with new therapist by saying you want to come clean on how you started with them. It will be no big deal, and you will feel like a ton is off your shoulders. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:18 PM Flag
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OK thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 09:49 PM Flag
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I am a therapist too and this is some BS. You don't expect a client to come in and immediate tell you everything and your most difficult things. It takes time to build trust and relationships. This is a very small white lie and it is not worth the guilt you are feeling- which I would guess is more related to the difficulty you had in leaving your long term therapist. You can tell her next time you meet with her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 11:23 PM Flag
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thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 02:32 AM Flag
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It is easy to solve this. People grow and change and it is normal to feel like you want a change. I would tell the first therapist that you are taking a break and the second one that you are looking for a therapist who can help you with relationships and that you felt your long term therapist had helped you with trauma [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 11:20 PM Flag
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I'm not a therapist but I have been a patient. It occurs to me that you are deeply afraid of sharing your whole self with anyone and the vulnerability that entails. So you shared a part of your life (your childhood trauma) with therapist 1 but held back about your current romantic life. And you projected it as being her fault for being disinterested. Now those relationship issues are coming to a head and you need to get it out but since you can't share it with therapist 1, you found therapist 2. Except now you don't want to share other things about you and your past with therapist 2 because again that's too much for you to share with one person and this time you're blaming it on the awkwardness of switching therapists and the white lie you told but it's really just an excuse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 05:30 AM Flag
[ - ] Not following a diet but looking for simple high protein dishes to rotate into my meals. Thanks. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:29 PM Flag
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I always make sure to roast or barbecue extra chicken breasts to have leftover for the week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:36 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:49 PM Flag
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Boil a few eggs and keep in fridge [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:37 PM Flag
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Cottage cheese with a vegetable burger but add your favorite condiment like Tomato salsa, sriracha salsa. Erode, bbq sauce, etc. I eat this multiple times a week [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:39 PM Flag
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Can of garbanzo beans drained, mix with olive oil, salt, tobasco sauce and paprika. Bake in oven or toaster oven until desired crispiness. I eat these with cottage cheese on the side or as a snack. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:40 PM Flag
[ - ] For those who like tofu, what is your favorite way to prepare it? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:28 PM Flag
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Slice extra firm tofu into “cutlets” . I season them with soy sauce and sesame oil then bake it for 15 minutes in the toaster oven. Serve with garlic chili, sriracha or crunchy chili flakes with a side of veggies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:33 PM Flag
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Not my favorite but easy. If I am making egg salad for the family I also add diced firm tofu to increase the protein content. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:34 PM Flag
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Press out the water and add to salad. I love it like cheese. Also baked tofu with terikayki is so killer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:37 PM Flag
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Never thought to add to salad. Great idea! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:41 PM Flag
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If you do a salad with lemon/mustard/honey dressing and on top add roasted beets, roasted sweet potato, tahini, tofu, sprouts, and hemp seeds you are never going to be hungry again. Enjoy! Make sure to press press press because tofu w/water sogginess is grody [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:43 PM Flag
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That sounds amazing. Thank you! All I need to buy is beets and sprouts. Love finding new recipes with what I have in the house :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:45 PM Flag
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Roast beets by peeling them. Add crushed thyme, salt, pepper, EVOO. Once roasted, drizzle on a cup of orange juice with about two tablespoons of vinegar. They are to die for. Last about a week in fridge in the juices. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:49 PM Flag
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Great tips! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:54 PM Flag
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In the old days when restaurants were open, General Tso's Tofu. (You may have guessed that tofu has never been my favorite). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:38 PM Flag
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We make this vegan general tso recipe: https://simpleveganblog.com/general-tsos-tofu/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:50 PM Flag
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ma po tofu -- tofu with ground pork in spicy sauce, served over rice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:00 PM Flag
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this, but its not exactly healthy: https://herbivoracious.com/images/2012/03/Herbivoracious-Caramel-Cooked-Tofu.pdf [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:41 PM Flag
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One tip if you want really firm tofu is to freeze it first. When you thaw it, press out the extra water and cut - it will really hold its shape. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 12:46 AM Flag
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Cut into small squares, with chopped scallions and shredded ginger and a bit of soy sauce. My childhood fave! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 03:10 AM Flag
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https://pickledplum.com/hiyayakko-tofu-recipe/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 03:11 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm just starting to get into running and I've been doing the lower loop of Central Park (slowly). Today I got a side stitch- how can I prevent that? Also, do you run in shorts or leggings in the summer? Any other tips for a newbie? 50 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:05 PM Flag
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Awesome! Drinking too much before running can do this. Generally, I stay hydrated all day so that I'm not guzzling before a run. I run in shorts. Leggings only in winter. Going slow and mindful of form is better than just going fast. Do you have a goal in mind? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:10 PM Flag
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Ah, that makes sense. I simultaneously have been trying to drink a gallon of water per day. My goal is to lose 10lbs and hopefully I'll enjoy running and it will become a hobby in the process. Any recs for shorts that don't ride up? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:12 PM Flag
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This is so hard bc bodies are different. I love Oiselle. They truly don't run up on me. I like Tracksmith but have a hard time finding things that fit really well. I like their fabrics. I think I'm more caught up with their marketing than I am with the clothes. I think you'll love Oiselle. I swear by their running bras. I've bought five shorts from them in the past three years. I do like Tracksmith running shirts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:15 PM Flag
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op: thanks so much! I haven't heard about those brands, so it's good to know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:26 PM Flag
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I second oiselle- holds up well. OP, make sure you have good running shoes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:49 PM Flag
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+1 this is VERY important [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:55 PM Flag
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op: thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:55 PM Flag
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Welcome to running!! Remember your hat, and don't buy too much gear at first, because you'll lose so much weight that you'll soon outgrow it! See you in the park! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:53 PM Flag
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op: I hope so! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:55 PM Flag
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np. how much did you lose when you started running? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:55 PM Flag
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Are you hot with a hat on? What about wearing sunglasses instead? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:24 PM Flag
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No, I wear a Nike baseball cap (synthetic, not cotton) and it acts like a sweatband and keeps the sun out of my eyes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:09 AM Flag
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Are runners in central park wearing masks? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:59 PM Flag
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Some yes some no. If you are worried, don't run in Central Park. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:01 PM Flag
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Not worried. Don't want to be shouted at for running w;out a mask. Heading back to NYC in July [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:03 PM Flag
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I have been running in CP without a mask for weeks. Haven't been yelled at there - and I've been regularly yelled at in Riverside. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:10 PM Flag
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same - no one has said anything to me in CP. Thank goodness! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:22 PM Flag
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you're fine! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:19 PM Flag
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The honorary mask police are horrendous in Riverside Park. If you are worried and want to be where people are pretty consistently wearing masks, go there instead of Central Park. I agree that Central Park is a mix. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:08 PM Flag
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op: I wear my mask until I get inside Central Park and then pull it down so I can breathe while running, and I would say at least 50-70% of other runners/walkers there are doing this too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:19 PM Flag
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I've posted a couple of times that I hate running in my "muzzle," but I do it anyway. It's a courtesy thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:09 AM Flag
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It's really not healthy though and could be dangerous for some people who cannot get enough oxygen while wearing the mask. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 03:55 PM Flag
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Really? what makes it unhealthy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 06:27 PM Flag
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A mask will restrict airflow in and out of the mouth and nose, creating a situation where oxygen and carbon dioxide exchange are compromised,” says Michael Figueroa, EdD, a professor and graduate director of kinesiology at William Paterson University of New Jersey. He explains that during physical activity, the body’s carbon dioxide levels rise, resulting in faster breathing and increased heart rate. The mask might trap some of this carbon dioxide inside. While levels are too low to cause poisoning, they could lead to fatigue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 06:34 PM Flag
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Interesting: I know perfectly well that i can't breathe as well wearing the mask, but I wanted to be considerate to my fellow park users. Does your source suggest doing away with the mask? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 06:39 PM Flag
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If you feel lightheaded or fatigued, yes. Especially important for kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 07:02 PM Flag
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TY; stopping if you feel lightheaded is basic commons sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 07:43 PM Flag
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Yes! Great job. A truly addicting activity once you get going. I used to get side stitches because I wasn't breathing properly. Try to breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. I personally wear shorts in temps 55 degrees or so up. Yesterday I was running in Central Park and was truly baffled by the number of folks in leggings - I would just melt. I second the recommendation to get a good pair of running shoes, but you really need to be fitted in a running store (the shoes you choose will depend on your gait). Not sure where you can do this right now unfortunately. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:07 PM Flag
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op: good tips, thanks so much. I probably wasn't breathing correctly. I breathe very heavily on the slight incline portions of the loop- my heart rate was in the 160's (I'm 40yo)- hopefully it will improve with more practice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:21 PM Flag
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I know that loop very well :-). It is a lot of rolling hills. So my recommendation - try to keep your heart rate pretty consistent the entire run. If you need to slow way down on the uphills, that's okay - this will train your body and you will also get better at running hills at the same time (which is a whole thing that runners need to conquer). Central Park is a great place to run but it is not an easy place to run, if that makes sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:36 PM Flag
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op: totally makes sense. Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:38 PM Flag
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This is good advice, and I would add not to push yourself too much at first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:14 AM Flag
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+1 on shorts and good shoes. I buy Brooks at DWR or Nordstrom Rack. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 05:07 PM Flag
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Long time runner here - congrats and welcome to the club :) When I get side stitches I massage it (as I’m running) and try to work it out. Usually it will go away after a few minutes. I run it shorts when its warm. I got some biker style shorts from Amazon that come down to a little above the knee - I like them because I feel like I get better range of motion and also I don’t have to worry about anything jiggling. Other tips - find great music you love to run to. Push yourself but also listen to your body and don’t feel bad if you need to stop or slow down for a bit. Make sure you have good shoes - you can injure yourself by running in old or worn down shoes - BTDT. If you get blisters, don’t pop them if you can help it. Try covering with some band aid tape. Other than that, enjoy :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:49 PM Flag
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op: Yes! The music is what motivates me. I really do need to get some running shoes soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:55 PM Flag
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You can wear pretty much what you like, but good running shoes are pretty much the only item you can't stint on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:10 AM Flag
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And don't spend too much on gear: a champion hoodie will keep you just as warm as a lululemon hoodie. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 12:18 PM Flag
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+100 I love my Champion gear! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:08 PM Flag
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watch your posture! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 03:12 AM Flag
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+1 stand up nice and straight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:15 AM Flag
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pull in your stomach and keep your back straight [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 05:04 PM Flag
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I'll be going out later today (Tuesday), but I'll be wearing camo tights and a grey t-shirt, so you may not see me as you pass me. Stealth Mom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:16 AM Flag
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Lol. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 03:56 PM Flag
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Was that you? I felt a breeze go past me but didn't see anyone! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 06:40 PM Flag
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And keep in mind that every person's body is different. Do you and notice pains and aches and what exercises to incorporate to compensate. I don't think running is that hard on your body as long as you work on keeping other things strong like core, glutes and stretch a lot. Have fun! You're going to find running to be a wonderful stress reliever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 03:59 PM Flag
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Nice! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 04:04 PM Flag
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+1 I've been running for years and have had bouts of IT band tightness, hip aches, the occasional fall, but knees are fine and my doctor says the bones are happier for all this impact. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 05:06 PM Flag
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Not OP but I too have recently gotten into running thanks to the comments on this board. Still slow and overweight but finally starting to understand why it's so addicting. I find it helps keep mild depression/anxiety at bay which is even more valuable than the weight loss aspect (for me at least) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 05:50 PM Flag
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That's why it's called "runner's high". Enjoy!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 06:28 PM Flag
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I love running in shorts in this weather, though many people prefer something longer. After a few runs, you'll decide what you're more comfortable with, and that's the bottom line. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 11:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Any advice? My oldest is 8. She is always so cheerful when we say, who will help us clean the bathroom/weed the garden/etc? (Younger sister will be sweet and lovey to try to get out of anything) She always follows the rules, eats what she’s served, she never asks for anything for her bday/Christmas, is happy with whatever activity we do together or put her in (camp/sport/art/etc). The issue: she still has meltdowns if a toddler takes her toy at the pool, or a friend reorganizes her Lego scene, or someone tries to play a game the “wrong” way. We have talked about it a lot, worked on strategies, etc. If we are out somewhere, we immediately take her to the car if she has a fit. But if something violates her sense of fairness, she just really struggles to deal with it. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:03 PM Flag
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She sounds awesome. I would just practice with her. Roll play, make up silly/funny scenarios that are unfair. Get her laughing around it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:17 PM Flag
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Thank you :) Great idea [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:20 PM Flag
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NP. I've tried this with my DC. Outside of the meltdown she "Gets" it and knows she was wrong. In the moment, she can't control herself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:27 PM Flag
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nnp: she needs skills to manage the metdown, then. breathing, removing herself from the situation, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:37 PM Flag
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is there a resource where I can learn more about these? I've tried many things. reading generally helps her, but that's not the best solution for all contexts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:48 PM Flag
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this is more than you probably need but take a look: https://www.sunrisertc.com/distress-tolerance-skills/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:51 PM Flag
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thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:55 PM Flag
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i have a similar child. I would describe her as very happy, mature, but with meltdowns. I'm not sure what to do, either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:02 PM Flag
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This sounds exactly like my sister, and 30 years later, she still struggles to deal with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:07 PM Flag
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That's so sad to hear. I'm the NP with a kid who has these meltdowns and I desperately want to help her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:26 PM Flag
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My parents always say they wish they had impressed upon her sooner that life isn't fair. I would try to flip the script on her and see how her perception of fairness isn't everyone's. For example: "The baby at the pool hasn't learned about sharing yet. You are old enough that you have. I know it doesn't seem fair that he took your toys, but when you had a temper tantrum, you were a big kid yelling at a baby. Is that fair?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:54 PM Flag
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do you think it's really a logical thing? LIke the kid just needs to understand something? To me it seems emotional. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:13 PM Flag
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I agree that it isn't a logical thing. See my response below about OCD. It's not actually OCD, but it is related. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:57 PM Flag
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anxiety? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:18 PM Flag
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One of my kids is like this. She is a delight. But it really bothers her when people break rules. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:19 PM Flag
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try really focusing on the good things you mentioned. Give her tons of praise when she is helpful, grateful, accepting. She sounds like an amazing kid. And at a calm moment, talk to her about how life isn't fair. But honestly, I have a kid like yours. She is now 18. And while I thought it was about fairness when she was little, I have since learned that is not the issue. It's actually more like a mild form of OCD. Mindfulness and CBT help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:55 PM Flag
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My kid had different issues, but did have tantrums if he didn’t get his way. The OT would set up a game, like chutes and ladders, and tell DS ahead of time that they were playing, but he was going to lose the game. This was to get him used to the feeling of disappointment and being ok with it. I do think it helped and when we would play at home, I would warn him constantly while we were playing that he might lose. This seemed to help. Maybe do some role playing with your kid... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:37 AM Flag
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I was like that. I think it was partially my parents' fault - great parents overall but they tried to shelter me. So when something happened to me that I thought was not fair, I had meltdowns. Once I got out into the real world and learned that life is often unfair, it took me a few years to become more indifferent and resilient. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 03:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Hello! Where can I get antibody test on UWS and is it covered by insurance? Thanks 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 05:56 PM Flag
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Any urgent care and yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:00 PM Flag
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I think if you put your address into this page (at bottom), it will show you a map with free places closest to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:19 PM Flag
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https://www1.nyc.gov/site/coronavirus/get-tested/covid-19-testing.page [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:19 PM Flag
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my test was covered by insurance, but my "visit" co pay was not [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:28 PM Flag
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the urgent care places will do it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 07:44 PM Flag
[ - ] My tenant who is leasing my apartment would like to pay a very reduced monthly amount (1/5 of rent) as he's now shelter in place with his gf. I totally get it but can't work with that amount. WWYD? He'd like to pay the reduced amount through end of year and pay normal amount in January. 57 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 05:29 PM Flag
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is the lease expiring and this is a renewal negotiation? or he is mid lease? either way, I would not reduce. I am a landlord and plenty of people aren't paying rent or are breaking leases. but we haven't reduced the rent mid lease. and on renewals, only slightly to be nice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 05:32 PM Flag
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Yes, expiring end of this month. He's saying that apt has become a luxury storage unit for him. I was thinking to offer a free month that he could spread over the next six months. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 05:37 PM Flag
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np: Wait, so it's a storage unit for him because he no longer lives there and lives with his GF? Then he should move out at the end of this month. He can't just decide that his unit should be priced the same as a storage facility because he's not using it anymore. He should just rent a storage facility and move his stuff in there. 1/5th is an insane amount. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 05:41 PM Flag
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op: Exactly, yet I don't want to lose the tenant. Should I make some concession to move this along? WWYD? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 05:43 PM Flag
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He sounds like a problem, lose him and rent the place out a bit cheaper to someone else. I would never accept 1/5th, and it's easier to just find someone new (yes even now) without taking such a drastic reduction. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 05:46 PM Flag
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no. it doesn't matter what he is using the apt for. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:07 PM Flag
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you're going to lose him anyway in the long term if he's serious with this GF and in the meantime, it's as good as vacant. I bet you could find someone else to pay more than 1/5 before January. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 12:05 AM Flag
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100% this. If I rent a place and decide to stay somewhere else that was my choice. It doesn't matter how someone uses the place they're renting. I can't go to my landlord and say "I know I agreed to $x, but now I only have my dog living there, this is now a doghouse, so I'm paying less." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 05:44 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:29 PM Flag
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Then he should get a non-luxury storage unit and move out. It may be harder to find a tenant right now, but basically, with what he's proposing, then the place could sit empty for 4 months and you'd still be as well off in the 5th month. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 05:51 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 05:53 PM Flag
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exactly! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 08:07 PM Flag
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Neither of them are working? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 05:35 PM Flag
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op: both working [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 05:36 PM Flag
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Then he's taking advantage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 05:39 PM Flag
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If both working, why a reduction in rent? It wasn't your decision that he leave the apartment. I think he just needs to decide if he no longer wants the unit. Will you be sad to lose him as a tenant? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 05:42 PM Flag
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He will not be the only good tenant out there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 06:14 PM Flag
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My rent is 3000. So this is like me saying to my landlord that I will now be paying $600. Is that right? Exactly how high is he? I agree with poster saying free month spread over 6 months. But honestly, I'd be fairly nervous about this tenant just deciding to stop paying and not leave. Should you switch him to month to month vs. resigning a new year? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 05:43 PM Flag
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op: he's been great and trouble free for three years. I find this proposal to be out of sync. And yes, he's asking to pay 600 a month. That doesn't even cover monthly maintenance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 05:47 PM Flag
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Ridiculous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 05:50 PM Flag
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Woah, he is crazy. I think you can write back and say 'Hi Steve, thanks for reaching out. Unfortunately I cannot reduce the rent on the unit and still cover my expenses. Please let me know if you are planning on ending the lease and moving in permanently with your girlfriend and