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[ - ] So, do we think NYC will go into phase 2 on June 20 or it will take a little longer? I assumed it would be 2 weeks later like the rest of the state, but feel like DeBlasio is hinting at early July. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:20 AM Flag
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its not up to DeBlasio. Regardless, i think it really depends on how Phase 1 goes in NYC. My guess is July. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:56 AM Flag
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I’m crazy scared the pandemic will tick up thanks to easing of lockdown and the protesters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:22 AM Flag
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Oh please, look at Georgia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:32 AM Flag
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ehhh look at Florida [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 03:48 AM Flag
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Arizona too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 11:16 AM Flag
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AZ in bad shape and getting worse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 12:36 AM Flag
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I am nervous about Mexico, Brazil and India ticking up right now. Those are big, dense population countries. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:10 PM Flag
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The earliest is June 22 (not June 20), and let's see. I think the protests might mean more positives, and then we will be set back. Look at these looters from last week -- not even wearing masks, many of them. https://nypost.com/2020/06/09/video-shows-suspected-looters-breaking-into-macys/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 06:35 AM Flag
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it's the police that aren't wearing the masks - the protestors are. it's the police spraying tear gas. please don't link to that right wing rag to prove anything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 12:38 AM Flag
[ - ] School's out, we're out of the city for the summer. Usually we are planning who is coming to visit, and when. Not sure if that will happen this summer... is anyone planning to visit friends or have visitors? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:16 AM Flag
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Nope. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:18 AM Flag
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Doesn’t UB hate second home visitors? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:19 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:22 AM Flag
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UB has made me so paranoid as a guest, I don't even want to accept invites in normal times [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:38 PM Flag
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Nope. We are happy to have friends stop by to hang in the backyard for a couple hours but not having any weekend guest, including family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:22 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 06:48 AM Flag
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Absolutely no guests for us. I feel bad for DCs but DH is high risk and we just decided this weekend that we won’t socialize whatsoever this summer, no camp, no tennis. I’m ok with it and DH is too. I also think our DCs will miss the summer sleepovers but we’ll try to make the most of it. I’m relieved as I hate house guests! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:22 AM Flag
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Your kids will be fine. They are at a summer house. Feel bad for all of the kids in apts in the city with working parents and no camps - remind your kids of this if they whine or complain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:41 PM Flag
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No. We usually have a couple of parties and a weekend or two of guests but nothing this year. may we'll do a small political fundraiser. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:24 AM Flag
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I'm not planning on visiting anyone including my parents other than outside on their deck or backyard. My friend who has a beach house in Maine plans to tell people they can come visit at the beach but they should bring their own food and drink, can't come in, or use the bathroom. Very hard to be hospitable in the circumstances! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:48 AM Flag
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Not sure. We usually have houseguests regularly at our beach house and we spend a week at a friends house on the Cape. This year we won't have any guests, but may reassess in AUgust. We will likely have my sister and her kids at some point, but not sure. We are also debating accepting our friends' invitation tot he Cape later in the summer, but not sure. Playing everything by ear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:59 AM Flag
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We are renting a house sight unseen. Well now we know what it looks like. The back yard is maybe 10 feet long by 4 feet wide. Really tiny. So if anything it will have to be no more than 3 or 4 people coming by and not coming inside. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:24 AM Flag
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how did you find the house. We did the same - rented through airbnb, im a bit nervous! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:47 AM Flag
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If you don't mind me asking- where did you rent and what were the costs? Thx!~ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 03:14 AM Flag
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not the 10 by 4 yard. We rented in Litchfield County, CT and the house is 15k per month [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 03:43 AM Flag
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Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 06:41 AM Flag
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We will continue to have our son’s best friend come every couple weeks for the weekend. Both families are isolating and we have an agreement RE restarting quarantine 14 day clock if we have some real level of exposure. Also, a close friend and her family are coming for a weekend. Also isolating and Both families will do a strict 14 day Quarantine prior. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:27 AM Flag
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I don't know anyone who is isolating anymore (unless you and I have different definitions of isolating) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:55 AM Flag
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what do you mean by isolating? We only see a handful of people (all family) thinking about seeing some friends at some point but being careful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 03:04 AM Flag
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Seeing very few people (occasionally see my brother and one set of neighbors) and at a distance. Taking as few grocery trips as possible, not going to public places, stores, etc. No camp this summer, working from home. I know a number of families who are doing this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 08:33 AM Flag
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OR -- I think that is what most people are doing now, which is not isolating. Isolating is no one in, no one out, all deliveries contactless, wiping down everything was delivered. And I do know a lot of families who did that at the beginning (including my family). But now we have seen cousins, had a few of the teenager's friends over the back yard (with masks when they weren't 6 feet apart), gone to the occasional doctor's appointment, gone to the grocery store (with masks and gloves). IOW, no longer isolating at all, but rather just taking precautions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 03:37 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.10.20, 06:47 AM Flag
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we are having visitors but keeping a distance as much as possible in the backyard, and they are staying in a hotel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 07:28 PM Flag
[ - ] 2-Year Moratorium on requirement AND consideration of SAT and/or ACT test scores for Caltech. This makes it the first selective school to go test-blind since standardized tests began to be widely used. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:39 AM Flag
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http://admissions.divisions.caltech.edu/apply/first-yearfreshman-applicants/standardized-tests [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:40 AM Flag
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Hmm... I don't understand this. With all the variance in how schools are operating by region it seems a standard test would be helpful. Especially given how many schools don't have grades right now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:14 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:15 AM Flag
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It's very unusual. We are in California, though, and my rising senior attends a school that does not administer SAT or ACT during the school day. Her April and June ACT tests were cancelled, and she was shut out of July. She got an error for the August SAT and got an SAT date for September. So I'm sure their decision has more to do with limited access to testing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:41 AM Flag
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Access to testing is definitely driving the decision for next year, but schools are extending it into the following year so they can assess whether they should eliminate completely. There's a lot of conversation on the inequalities of testing due to test prep, etc. The UC system announced a few weeks ago that they will be phasing out over the next 4 years and possibly developing their own test. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:59 AM Flag
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I know. They say they'll go test-blind if they cannot figure out a way to make an equitable test. There really is no way to make it equitable as long as there is an entire industry devoted to providing test prep for those willing to pay big bucks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 03:42 AM Flag
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They are going test-blind for kids graduating high school in ‘23 and ‘24. Napolitano wants two years worth of test-blind results to compare with the two years of test-optional results she gets from the classes of ‘21 and 22. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 05:41 AM Flag
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As an alum, it makes me so happy you typed it correctly as Caltech and not CalTech. But yes this is to account for reduced access to testing and to try out getting rid of the exam totally and see how it goes. Many graduate schools have eliminated the GRE requirement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 05:04 AM Flag
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go them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 12:39 AM Flag
[ - ] Okay, I posted about emergency potty training my 3.5 year old for camp (starting June 29). He’s been diaper free since Saturday, and had FOUR FRIGGIN’ ACCIDENTS today. I am literally asking “do you have to go pee pee” every 60 seconds. He will say “no” and pee his pants 2 minutes later. He doesn’t want to go bare bottom (keeps asking for pants), but has been pooping on the potty accident-free since January. What else can I do?! Help! He is desperate to go to camp and we are desperate for him to go, too! 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:37 AM Flag
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Don't ask him. Take him in the bathroom every 20 minutes. You will feel like you are living in the bathroom for the next 3 days, but don't give up. Blow bubbles while he is sitting on the potty. Training my 2nd was completely miserable for 3 days and we almost gave up, but then he got it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:43 AM Flag
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Then you can stretch it to every hour, and then ever 2 hours + every time before you leave and when you arrive somewhere with a bathroom. He'll eventually be able to tell you or take himself to the bathroom, but probably not for quite a while. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:45 AM Flag
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Op - like, how long is quite a while? Thanks? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:00 AM Flag
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Months. But it's really not a big deal. Once he's in a good routine (even with you leading it), he'll have only rare accidents even if he doesn't tell you he needs to go. That would mean you/counselor/teacher take him to the bathroom when he wakes up, before every meal, when leaving and arriving anywhere, and before bedtime. I promise, you can get through this. Stick with it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:42 AM Flag
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This. One of the whole keys to the "Oh, Crap" book is that you don't ask. You say "it's time to pee" and march them to the potty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:16 PM Flag
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The more zen you can make yourself, the faster it will work. Pretend you don't care. Don't ask every 60 seconds. Don't ask at all actually, the answer will always be no. Just calmly say "it's time to use the potty" at a regular interval. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:49 AM Flag
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One more thing, do anything to keep him sitting on the potty. Bubbles were the best for us. He can also "read" board books or you can read to him. Do a sticker chart, feed him m&m's, just try different things until you find out what keeps him sitting and trying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:51 AM Flag
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OP - but if I am always putting him in the potty, how will he recognize that he has to go? Does that just happen? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:51 AM Flag
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Absolutely. He'll learn to associate the potty and the feeling of needing to pee. He doesn't know how to associate that yet because he hasn't had the experience of that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:55 AM Flag
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^ and camp will probably take the little kids so frequently that he can be "potty trained" without consistently being able to say when he needs to go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:57 AM Flag
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This is how you train. I trained both my kids at 2 using the method in the “Oh Crap” potty training method. It’s all about them learning to recognize the cues. You help them at first by them going pantsless and watching for a cue they are about to go. Rush them to potty. Pretty soon recognizing their own cues clicks for them. Dont our pants on till they reliably do this. Then go commando for a while as underwear feels too much like diapers (muscle memory). It’s effective. It works (well, for my n of 2). It’s a quick read and I highly recommend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 11:19 AM Flag
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you need to calm down. Stop pestering him, and realize that accidents are normal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:34 AM Flag
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Your poor child. He is not on your "schedule" and your need to have him trained by a deadline will surely backfire. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:42 AM Flag
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ITDA. I'm sure a 3.5 year old can learn. Just relax, stick to a routine, and definitely don't punish him in any way for accidents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:44 AM Flag
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OP - yeah, he is also dying to go to camp and understands he needs to learn this to go. He’s fine. He just needs to learn this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:52 AM Flag
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He will. It’ll click. And then you’ll laugh about it in a few years when another mother mentions shes PT her child and having issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:52 AM Flag
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and he will learn much faster if you calm the F down [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:55 AM Flag
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i agree with others he will be fine. they are gonna take him potty when he gets there, before lunch, after lunch, middle of the afternoon, before gonna home. he’s not the first and only kid who has to be reminded all day. he will be fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:29 AM Flag
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This was my youngest. He was almost 4 years old as well. I tried everything- candy, quarters, stickers, cookies. He wasn’t into it until I found his one particular sweet spot in terms of motivational reward and treat. Every 5 gold stars he’d get some Sprite. Hang in there, OP! It will happen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:49 AM Flag
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You’re stressing him out. See if things get better in the next 3 days but he just got out of diapers. He’s not used to that feeling let alone the need to pee. Other kids do the same thing and leave diaper dry but pee in their pants when diaper is off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:57 AM Flag
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When he does pee/poo in the potty, make it a happy event, sing a congratulation song. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:43 AM Flag
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Our DS also started using the toilet at 3.5; a few accidents are perfect normal, especially if he knows he's leaving for camp. Reinforce like heck when he gets it right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 11:22 AM Flag
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send him to camp. he will learn more from his peers and teachers, and they expect accidents... all will be well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 11:31 AM Flag
[ - ] How safe do you feel renting a vacation house now in another state? Last occupants will have been there 24 hours before us. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:18 AM Flag
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The science is increasingly clear that you get it from people, not from surfaces. The risky part is not a vacation house, the risky part is your bathroom stops along the drive there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:22 AM Flag
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I agree. I’d just open the windows for a day and wipe down obvious high touch surfaces, then call it good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:24 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:29 AM Flag
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We just did this past weekend. I’m high risk due to asthma and went a little crazy: lysoled all the knobs, replaced beds with our own sheets and duvet covers, wiped down surfaces. But it was so so worth it. dh who turned into a temperamental jerk the past few weeks has been wonderful and keeps saying thank you i feel so relaxed and recharged, dcs are happy, i’m happy... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:09 AM Flag
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Oh and i just booked three more drive to house rentals over the summer. i’m not allowing camp. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:10 AM Flag
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how old are your dcs? and sleepaway or day camp? my dd is not going to sleepaway and I am the worst mom in the world [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:48 AM Flag
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You need to stop with this Hysteria [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:34 AM Flag
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OMG 24 hours? It's fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 03:13 AM Flag
[ - ] I used to work for a large well known consulting firm until I started a small practice a few years ago. My expertise is highly sought after given the pandemic so I’ve really busy finally. Last week I got an email from a senior executive at a different big consulting firm, he said he’d heard about my expertise from one of my former clients and wanted to have an intro call to discuss the space. I did the call with him today and he had of his colleagues on the line. Essentially they’re business has dried up and they wanted me to help pivot into my area. I listened to them waffle for about 15 minutes before they started asking pointed questions about what I do and how I charge, which I refused to answer. It wasn’t hostile but I told them that obviously I wasn’t going to be training a competitor and help them out. I’m really annoyed that they’d even reach out to me and then this evening they sent a follow up email to ask for a quick follow up. I want to tell them to F off 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:08 AM Flag
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Dude that sucks! They should have offered you a contract if they wanted to pick your brain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:25 AM Flag
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^^”hey, thanks for reaching out - if you’d like to discuss further I’ll send you an engagement letter.” [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:27 AM Flag
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No because they just want me to give them the playbook I’ve worked on for 25 years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:51 AM Flag
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I’d politely thank them and say you don’t think further conversations wouldn’t be Productive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:05 AM Flag
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Yes sometimes these groups invite me to their client events as a speaker or guest which is helpful to me. But only because what I do is not a priority for them. But this group has never actually invited me to anything so I don’t feel any obligation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:13 AM Flag
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np. A polite and short answer, and then forget about them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:20 AM Flag
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np: I like that suggestion bc it's not so much that you'll pick them up as a client it's sending a message in a clever way by saying, I know what the F you're doing. I have my own business and I've done that. Never heard from them again and you best believe they will not waste my time again or think so little of me. Ppl think women are so easy to mess with. Sorry, no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 03:44 AM Flag
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Thanks for sharing your perspective. I think I came off as assertive and aggressive which is good. I basically called them out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:02 PM Flag
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nnp. So glad happy for you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 12:36 AM Flag
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I know and I don’t think they would have done this if I was a man either!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:51 AM Flag
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Give them a price to buy you out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:26 AM Flag
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No I’ve no interest in that big company culture [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:51 AM Flag
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Send them a bill for your time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:59 AM Flag
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I’m just annoyed that they’d think I’m so naive that I’m going to share my fee structure, I mean WTF?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:05 AM Flag
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Doesn't hurt them to ask. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:06 AM Flag
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I know and I’m glad I was assertive and shut them down [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:13 AM Flag
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I posted above and glad you did! Assholes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:22 AM Flag
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Was is one of the more junior callers who started this? That sounds cumbersome for someone senior. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 09:53 AM Flag
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Yes it was a younger guy who reached out to be on behalf of one of their senior partners [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:03 PM Flag
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Don't help them. I am glad you recognized this and stopped it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:25 AM Flag
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Love it thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:03 PM Flag
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Good for you! Email them, I don't have anything more to offer you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:01 AM Flag
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I deleted the email rather than respond to it and put my thoughts in writing :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:04 PM Flag
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I once went on a job interview in the field I've been working for 20+ years and they asked me about the structure of the department I was applying to work in. I told the truth and said they more resources devoted to the that department than in other similar offices I had worked in. They wound up not filling the job at all, just disappeared it. I felt like they owed me a management consulting fee after that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:20 AM Flag
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Yes it feels like the same kind of thing. Just picking our pockets really [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:04 PM Flag
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I have had this so many times and it makes me insane! i would just ghost them or clarify 'just to clarify with regard to a secondary conversation, does this relate to a role at your firm or another consideration? If the former, feel free to send over the JD and we can take it from there. Thanks!' [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 03:59 AM Flag
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I love my little business and have zero interest in going back into that world. It was clear that they couldn’t understand how id have so many clients when my team is so small. But we’re smart and efficient in particular about identifying good clients [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:06 PM Flag
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You're a highly sought after consultant who doesn't know the difference between they're and their? Unlikely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:17 PM Flag
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Why so petty? I make typos all the time here and I loved learning spelling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 03:30 PM Flag
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LOL you’re a bitter shrew [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 05:38 PM Flag
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I love this. happened to me a couple of times. when I was a young salesperson, a new firm wanted to hire me for less than I was already making and in a lower role - that was hilarious. another time, one start up with 2 owners that basically wanted me to come on board and to provide just about everything for them including using my client list where I would get some sort of small commission, and I told them that if I was to set a new business that I wouldn't need either of them. i did do that a couple of years later too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 12:51 AM Flag
[ - ] We’re renting a beach house for the rest of the summer. I’m sure many items are already stocked. Any tips on what I should bring? Maybe order FreshDirect in advance? What am I going to blank on? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:02 AM Flag
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Spices to cook with. Check what type pots pans knives if you plan to cook. Have rented a few places where they ‘ have everthing’, But if it so bad and should have been thrown out 10 years earlier! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:06 AM Flag
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OP: thanks! Would never have thought of spices [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:14 AM Flag
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Last summer, I brought a few personal linens, outdoor table clothes, quilts, etc. Felt very homey. Yes, spices, oils, condiments, etc. though we were lucky that the owners had them. Toilet tissue and paper towels (never enough). I like to go to a local supermarket and the boutique shops, makes you feel like a local. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:37 AM Flag
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Everyone bring their one favorite pillow. Your chef knife and favorite cutting board, sheets for everyone (I often can’t stand rental home sheets...people often buy the cheapest For their rentals), way less clothes than you think you need, bikes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:33 AM Flag
[ - ] To the person who posts almost every day about people moving out of NYC: We are not moving out. We love NYC. Covid19 will not drive us out. Neither 911 nor the 2008 financial crisis drove us out. Live with your decision to move to the burbs. It is also a great place to live. We are not coming. 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:43 PM Flag
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Let that poster will everyone out. More room for me. I'm not leaving either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:59 PM Flag
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I am not sure who you are referring to, but my family IS leaving and I was born and raised in NYC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:59 PM Flag
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where you are you going? is it because you're afraid of getting covid? other reasons? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:05 AM Flag
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Both, plus taxes. And schools. Summit NJ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:42 AM Flag
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I'm also a native New Yorker, with NY roots going back to the 1800'a. I would move out now if we could. DH works in the UN, so we can't go far, and the immediate suburbs don't hold any appeal. But I do think NYC is going to be absolutely dead for a few years, and the school situation is going to be dire for more than just a few months. Have you been to Chinatown recently? It's a boarded-up ghost town. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:06 AM Flag
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bc of the protests or covid? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:12 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:18 AM Flag
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I work at the UN too, otherwise would love to leave for a while and come back to apply to K for my child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:02 AM Flag
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This - I get it. I want to escape too - but this whole crisis is making me want to double down on a vacation house so I have somewhere to escape to. I love my city in all of its dysfunction. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:33 AM Flag
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A lot of people are making that decision. Many of whom were already on the fence and the pandemic, protests and upcoming presidential election are just accelerating the trend. NYC is going to take years to recover from this. It’s totally different to the others shocks you mention [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:07 AM Flag
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Yes, those posts are so annoying. Like the people on Facebook who announce that they're leaving Facebook when they could JUST LEAVE. I'm born and raised here and have no plans to leave so I would appreciate not having to read over and over again about what a crime ridden, wasteland the city will be with no good schools, no rich people tax dollars blah blah blah. Enough already, we get it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:32 AM Flag
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Wow I just moved here with bf [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:41 AM Flag
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We are artists and are happy these people are leaving [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:46 AM Flag
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I think I am making the right decision given my own circumstances but it did not occur to me that >>NYC is going to be absolutely dead for a few years<< as poster said above. Hopefully everything works out for the best [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:55 AM Flag
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Not sure who is posting. Born and raised in NY (3rd gen ) and moved out permanently. It’s sad but I’m happier , my family is better off. NYC will take years to recover. At 43, I don’t have time or money to waste [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:43 AM Flag
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Where’d you go? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:36 AM Flag
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Sounds like OP is in the minority here. We also stayed through 9/11, the financial crisis, and don’t forget Sandy. But this is it for us. Like the OR, we don’t have the time in our lives (or our kid’s lives) for NYC to bounce back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:55 AM Flag
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How old are your dcs and how old are you? what are your work and school plans? I am done, DH doesnt want to leave and dcs are middle school aged [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 03:05 AM Flag
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Early/mid 40s. DCs are 2nd and 4th. I don’t mean to imply it’s an easy decision - in retrospect I feel like I wasted 2 seasons of my life getting them into TT schools - but I’m no longer convinced it’s what’s best for them. Even before 2020 happened, I was increasingly uncomfortable with the direction the city was headed - not the same place I envisioned letting my kids eventually navigate on their own. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 11:25 AM Flag
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Good for you, do you want a “Real NYer” badge? Who cares? I’m born and raised NYer, but with young kids, I’m keeping my eyes open for opportunities elsewhere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:08 AM Flag
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i'm not sure this is one person... I know many families that are leaving and NYC is a city of many millions so chances are it is multiple? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 03:21 AM Flag
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The thing about the impact of all this on NYC is it is an 'inconvenient truth'. no one wants it to be so. everyone wants nyc to bounce back. we have a good chunk of our money - prob 70% - tied up in our NYC apartment. our lives are there! it brings me ZERO joy to predict that NYC will not be the same for a long time. It bums me out SO much! financially, spiritually, emotionally. Doesn't make it any less factually and scientifically likely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 03:24 AM Flag
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+1. Our family has had a tremendous experience being in the city. But I think that life is over for now. It’s very sad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 11:28 AM Flag
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I don't feel that way. out walking today and saw so many people enjoying life + ran into 2 friends even. love NYC even now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 12:53 AM Flag
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Not a NY-er, but NYC will bounce back. GL OP. I hope you make stacks of money on your RE. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 09:54 AM Flag
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agreed. same. i just cannot for the life of me understand why people are fleeing the city. unless you are super high risk. even if you get covid statistically you will be FINE your kids will be FINE! things will be normal again. and those who want a yard and a big house - those are the reasons i do NOT want to live in the suburbs. our jobs will not be remote forever. i work for a conservative office they want us back in the fall. i guess if you work at google its diff (remote indefinitely). but then again i grew up in the suburbs and i HATE the suburbs. literally my nightmare to have a big house and have to go to home depot every weekend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 10:47 AM Flag
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I'm not afraid of catching Covid and I hate the stereotypical suburban lifestyle but the city's finances are in shambles. The city will suffer and the quality of living will go down. Crime was already on the uptick. Taxes were through the roof. Our neighborhood playground was an embarrassment and when it finally reopened it was routinely covered in human feces. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:30 PM Flag
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I'm the same. grew up in the suburbs as did DH. neither of us wants to live in one ever again. dc loves NYC and nothing will replace their experience that they're having. school, friend group, activities, access to culture is only here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 12:55 AM Flag
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We're not leaving either, and the person who keeps pounding the "Everyone is moving" drum has some kind of axe to grind. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 11:13 AM Flag
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Hallelujah - I agree (except for the part that burbs are great). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:50 PM Flag
[ - ] I’m moving from NYC to the ‘burbs and will need to furnish a house. It’s been so long since I’ve bought any furniture. Any recommendations for stores that have good quality but aren’t super expensive? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:27 PM Flag
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What is your home decor style? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:43 PM Flag
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The house is old so we are going to do modern farmhouse [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:32 AM Flag
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Pottery barn. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:24 AM Flag
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https://www.roomandboard.com/m/catalog/bedroom/beds?filter=New [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:37 AM Flag
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Overstock, Kaiyo, West Elm. go on instagram and start following rug and furniture companies, then you'll get lots of paid posts by more those industries and you'll get to see some less well know places and do some internet window shopping. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 12:57 AM Flag
[ - ] Hi everyone. I am a teacher at an independent school. In March we had to sign and turn in our contracts for the 20-21 school year. These contracts included our raises and new salary. I.e. I make 60k this year and was slated to make 62k next year. Today in faculty meeting they stated that since enrollment has dropped for next year they no longer can give us raises and will re-issue our contracts with the 19-20 salary. So I am signing the same contract, but now for 60k not 62k. Is this legal? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:16 PM Flag
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I don’t know if it’s legal but given the deflation that’s about to hit our economy I’d be happy to stay flat! What % is the drop in students? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:17 PM Flag
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My school was under-enrolled this year by 20 students out of 450 target and we are currently under enrolled by 30 for next year but there is major concern that it drop further this summer. To get under enrolled by just 30 I suspect the school accepted everyone who applied. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:19 PM Flag
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Interesting. What is the date when tuition has to be paid for next school year? A lot of us are so confused about what to do next [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:28 PM Flag
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Me, too. I got a 50% pay cut. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:01 AM Flag
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Is this in NYC? Manhattan? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:41 PM Flag
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yea, its a like 3rd tier private. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:47 PM Flag
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Honestly, I would sign it. So much is going to change. Much of it to the worse. We were accepted to 5th grade private, and we are likely to move. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:49 PM Flag
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Which school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:46 PM Flag
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if there is no union I bet they can [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:57 PM Flag
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I just had my share of insurance changed -- employer school (independent) says it can't afford it's share. So mine is going up. It's horrible. It amounts to a pay cut. They were told it's legal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:04 AM Flag
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There is massive deflation coming for all of us [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:07 AM Flag
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K-12? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:07 AM Flag
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In other industries, it would be and it happens. Assuming you are not unionized, I don’t see how this would be illegal under the current very unusual circumstances. Unless you can find a better job in a different school, you don’t really have too much of a choice, and it is not so terrible compared to all the job losses, furloughs, major compensation cuts. The other issue is the school under enrollment. Assuming they are a true 3rd tier (and not a new for profit), it sounds like they punched above their weight: accepted and tried to attract top students and were looking to compete with the big gun schools. I know lovely families with smart kids who would have been thrilled to get into some 3rd tier schools and didn’t get accepted. A well managed 3rd tier school should not be struggling to enroll students. There is still a supply demand imbalance at this level. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:39 AM Flag
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i don't think any of us are getting raises for a long time. we are cutting salaries at my co. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 03:25 AM Flag
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450 is a lot of kids...is it a k-12? or k-8? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 03:51 AM Flag
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sounds like a k-8. 50 kids per grade x 9 grades = 450. I wonder if this is my private. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:19 PM Flag
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College prof and we're also getting no raise and a pay cut but more expectations around teaching. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 05:48 AM Flag
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Private? Why are you even surprised? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 11:17 AM Flag
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Unfortunately it is. Many people are hurting, so I think keeping the old salary is fair. Many people have lost their jobs or had major pay reductions, so I would take it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Maybe already discussed, but did everyone see the leaked DOE meeting notes about NYC heavily planning a staggering every other day school attendance? Really sucks. 77 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 10:35 PM Flag
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What would every other day attendance prove? Germs from the day before will still be in the air, unless they have major filtration systems, and potentially alive on surfaces unless they disinfect every night. Makes no sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 10:37 PM Flag
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OP: EXACTLY. ridiculous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 10:38 PM Flag
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Kids leave at 2:20 and come at 8. I doubt germs live that long in the air. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 10:46 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 03:47 AM Flag
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Air and surfaces won't be an issue. Half the kids means they might be a little further apart from each other, although honestly it's a lost cause. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:13 PM Flag
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15 kids is a far cry from the 30 in my child's class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 05:38 PM Flag
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Ummmhhh no! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 10:40 PM Flag
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Can you link it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 10:48 PM Flag
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every other day? that is the dumbest idea ever. its unsustainable for families who are working. mass confusion on what days to come in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 10:56 PM Flag
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Yes impossible to get to work! Or even WFH well. I'm a single mom. HELP! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:05 AM Flag
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they are also looking at M7T, W&Th with Fri off. Either that or alternating weeks makes more sense, ALternating weeks is the best safety wise, because the surfaces in the class room will only be touched by the same group of kids for the week. Imagine everything that kids touch in a classroom. = [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 05:40 PM Flag
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Ridiculous. How will this work for working parents? We need the kids to be in school every day (at least in the beginning of the school year). This would be too disruptive in the learning to go to school every other day. What they could do is to have school every day until Thanksgiving or winter break and then switch to remote learning if there is a potential 2nd wave. This way the kids will have a chance to meet their teachers and classmates in the first half fo the school year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 10:56 PM Flag
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The doe doesn’t care about working parents. Eg, those stupid “half” days that are really a quarter day for people who work full time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:40 PM Flag
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My kids have three half days a year in NYC public. That is way different than every other day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:51 PM Flag
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Obviously the DOE knows that this situation would require working parents to stay home some days. That's one of the points. (By keeping kids home, parents are home as well. So that's a lot less people out and about.) (I hate it when people think of the most obvious thing and assume nobody else thought of it. Including people whose jobs are to think about this shit all day every day.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 05:44 PM Flag
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YES!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:05 AM Flag
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The public health guidelines require kids to social distance. They cannot do this in full classrooms of 32 kids. This trumps your "need" for the kids to be in school every day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 07:59 AM Flag
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Why do you put “need” in quotes? Do you question the idea that working parents are struggling to work when kids are not in school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 09:37 AM Flag
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I question the idea that it trumps public health guidelines. It is possible for parents to find other childcare solutions. It's not easy, and it sucks, but you can't just say "we need to send our kids to school" and expect that to magically erase the health advice that they CANNOT all be there at once. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 10:29 AM Flag
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People need to pay their bills. You are out of touch. Kids are starving in my area. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:52 PM Flag
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this. SERIOUSLY out of touch [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 03:27 PM Flag
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I am not out of touch. I understand what you are saying. But you are in denial that WE ARE IN A PANDEMIC and there is public health advice that precludes full attendance at schools on any one day. What do you propose the DOE do? Just rip up the guidelines and wait for the lawsuits when someone dies? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 08:21 PM Flag
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You are denying that people need to work to survive. Staying home for a full year is not an option. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:34 AM Flag
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Agree. Of course people need to have childcare and meals, but it doesn’t have to be in the form of school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 07:29 PM Flag
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Hey would you put a bunch of kids together and not teach. Makes no sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 08:11 PM Flag
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Because the people supervising them would not be teachers? I mean, if the DOE can magically double its number of teachers by September, then by all means. But here in the real world, what will probably need to happen is some form of alternate child care/supervision, maybe run in church halls, community centres etc, with numbers allowing for physical distancing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 08:18 PM Flag
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The teachers work every day and they teach half the kids one day and the same lesson the next. They have assignments on google classroom for the day they are not there. If the other kids all go to a daycare, why not just have a full class? It makes no sense to have half the kids in class and half in daycare. Just open up fully. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 11:08 PM Flag
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It's about physical space. If the whole class is in the classroom, they do not have space to distance appropriately. What about this is so challenging for you to understand? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 05:09 AM Flag
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To have a full class, they need all classrooms to be double the size. Physically impossible. Better to have those who can, stay home alternate days, and find other space (gyms, community halls etc) to supervise those whose parents can't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:39 AM Flag
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Kids are not going to social distance. Do you really believe 15 four year olds will social distance? They will not. What about kids that need to be toileted? Kids that have 1:1s. There will be no social distancing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:36 AM Flag
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Ok, so get the health department to revise the guidelines to say kids are exempt. Until they do, DOE has to follow them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:48 PM Flag
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Childcare is not the DOE's responsibility. I accept that many have come to rely on school for childcare, and under normal circumstances that is reasonable, but this is not business as usual and schools cannot safely care for all children every day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 10:31 AM Flag
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No, but they have a responsibility in educating the children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 05:57 PM Flag
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And they can do that by alternating in-person and remote learning. It's called blended learning. It's not ideal but neither is the fucking global pandemic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 08:16 PM Flag
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Leave it to the DOE to come up with the stupidest possible plan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:00 PM Flag
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No, I had not heard that but it makes sense as it is what the private schools are planning. Do you have a link? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:25 PM Flag
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really? every other day? they should at least do some sort of blocks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:34 PM Flag
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Who said this is what privates are planning??? Privates are easier able to have small classes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:06 AM Flag
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Lol not our private [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:09 AM Flag
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None of the privates are planning every other day! Many are planning for the older students to be in the building half the time, but they are looking at one week on, one week off, or even 2 weeks at a time (which is what a lot of offices are planning as well) and the time at home will be fully synchronous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:38 AM Flag
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things are all over the place. My dcs are in 2 different k-12 privates (coed and ss) and both are leaning more towards younger kids having more in person school as remote learning is much harder for them. But who knows what will ultimately happen. We are supposed to get the next update in July. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:21 PM Flag
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op: Sorry, I just meant that privates are planning for partial in-school and remote learning. Maybe not alternating days! I wasn't intending to be that specific. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:48 AM Flag
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it is the alternating days part that is nuts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:58 AM Flag
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This is then only possible option for re-opening in Sept. If they can even pull this off it will be a miracle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:33 PM Flag
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It really isn’t. It’s a dumb idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:35 PM Flag
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It is because they cannot have 25-30 kids in a classroom per public health guidelines. Social distancing is still required. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:39 PM Flag
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This. There is no alternative. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 08:01 AM Flag
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Teachers every day? They will be at no less risk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:35 PM Flag
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At least they can distance a bit more effectively, at least in theory. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 07:57 AM Flag
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Looks like the post was deleted? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:25 AM Flag
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Yes and how many teachers are they going to fire ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:45 AM Flag
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Teachers won’t get fired, that will never happen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:25 AM Flag
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How would firing teachers play into this? There are still the same number of kids to be taught, just not all of them in the building at one time. Same number of teachers still needed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 07:52 AM Flag
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good thing you're not trying to run a school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 05:45 PM Flag
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At my husband's NYC public school the principal already announced that multiple teachers will be laid off over the summer and won't be returning in the fall. They don't know who yet, so basically everyone is panicking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 06:38 PM Flag
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It goes by seniority of license. They are not fired. They still get paid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 08:12 PM Flag
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Is this directly COVID related, or have enrolments dropped? I thought NYC teachers had a union cap on the number of sections/students they could teach (quite rightly, I should add...) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 08:24 PM Flag
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This is a troll because teachers do not get fired for lack of enrollment. They get excessed and find a new job. They still get paid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 11:10 PM Flag
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I am the poster you are responding to and I am not a troll. Who are you calling a troll? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 05:09 AM Flag
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Sorry. How does your dh work in a NYC doe schools that fires people? That does not exist so I assumed you were making it up. If not, your husband is completely incorrect and should not spread inaccuracies. Teachers who get exceeded get paid. There is also a hiring freeze for new teachers so schools will hire excessed teachers. Nobody gets “fired”. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:39 AM Flag
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Sorry if by paid off, you meant excesses but laid off sounds like people lose their jobs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:40 AM Flag
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Honestly, I've been assuming they'd be completely online. I'd be thrilled if they can pull off staggered attendance!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 05:20 AM Flag
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I would prefer week on week off, but it's a no-brainer that some form of staggering is going to be needed to comply with the health directives. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 07:57 AM Flag
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The thought is to teach the lesson at school and practice remotely at home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:53 PM Flag
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Where was this? It's largely been left to the individual schools to figure out how they're going to handle it, at least at the high-school level. And what's scary is that many of them have only just started planning. (Relative is on a planning panel for a HS.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 05:46 PM Flag
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No individual schools are planning if they open next year in the doe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 06:00 PM Flag
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It will be inconvenient, but it is not the DOE that decides that social distancing is required. Some kids can continue to distance learn. Groups can try to organize into pods to help with commuting and childcare. Many may also be working from home or have flexibility with their hours, depending on childcare/school hours. There may be childcare centers or before/after school options, private at least, that hopefully help out. Nothing about this has been convenient. But staggering to every other day is not the biggest issue, IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 07:49 PM Flag
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This. Everyone is losing their minds like the DOE decided to have a pandemic for funsies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 08:23 PM Flag
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I think the pandemic has been stressful in nearly every way, present and future. But instead of getting angry and pointing fingers, or even waiting for the PTA, class parents, DOE, state funding, government guidelines, etc people can start to make plans for themselves too. Instead of thinking they need to bail, as if privates won't get the virus, or small towns won't get hit, they can get prepared. They can find out who in their building or neighborhood or school is willing to help out and organize now, in case the schedules are staggered, in case childcare is needed, in case someone in the household is sick and a family self-quarantines (so student needs work sent home, family needs food, etc). Parents can try to pitch in together to hire an after school or alternate day sitter and keep kids (from the same school) occupied at one DC's house, on rotation, so parents can WFH more efficiently. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 08:46 PM Flag
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This. The learned helplessness on this board is disturbing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 09:19 PM Flag
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But if we are grouping our dc together at home instead of at school, are we really gaining on the social distancing front? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 11:34 PM Flag
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Smaller groups, more space. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 05:10 AM Flag
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I'm a teacher and a parent. I really hope my district and my kids' district both go to a hybrid program like this. Both my own children need some teacher attention and social interaction they find in school. But they both do really well working on their own at home, too. My own classroom is already only at about 16-18 kids, so to have 8-9 kids per day? The individual attention I could give would be amazing. I do as much as I can in my already small classroom, but I could seriously meet 1:1 with every single kid every day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 08:56 PM Flag
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But you would only be meeting with the kids every other day... So many kids have done horribly on the remote learning. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 11:35 PM Flag
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This is true. But I believe that what I could do with a very small group of kids in 2 days + sending home all the less important work (ie, handwriting, some worksheets) for distance learning will be significant. Much less time wasted on behaviors. I'd be very happy if we all went back as usual too. I love my job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 01:14 AM Flag
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yes but this would kill everyone else's jobs especially those with younger kids for whom remote learning is not a thing/ abject failure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 01:29 AM Flag
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So, you can have your kids home with you every single day for months or you can have them home with you 3 days a week. Which do you prefer? Because kids back in school 5 days a week isn't an option. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 11:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Need to go cross country. Not total rush but have to get to ny. Option is fly to jfk or Newark or cross country on Amtrak w my own sleeper rooms ( change trains twice but all private rooms) w private bathroom. I can wipe down my Own room. Thoughts? Again time not issue. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 10:29 PM Flag
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We just booked 4 hour flight cross country for July [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 10:40 PM Flag
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I would fly over amtrack [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 10:41 PM Flag
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Definitely fly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 10:51 PM Flag
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definitely fly and wipe your space down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:17 PM Flag
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100% fly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:19 PM Flag
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Op: I’m surprised - I thought flying far more risky. Especially in your own train compartment [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:23 PM Flag
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you're on the train a lot longer and i have no idea how well they filter/circulate the air. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.20, 11:25 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 12:01 AM Flag
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I would fly. -MD mom FWIW. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:25 AM Flag
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As an adult who can wipe down their surfaces, wear a mask the entire flight, apply sanitizer regularly and be very careful, I would absolutely fly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:14 AM Flag
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Recycled air on trains. Fly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:24 AM Flag
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Ummm, you know, don't you, that plane cabins are pressurized? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 11:15 AM Flag
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Fly but wipe down your space and the bathroom too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:39 AM Flag
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fly and go non-stop if you can. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 01:42 AM Flag
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