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[ - ] i'll probably get flamed for this, but what tv shows does your 6yo like? i have v specific reasons for asking, not just lazy, that I can get into if asked. but, they'll bore you, so if you can just list some programs, i'd really appreciate it. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:20 AM Flag
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sorry dont have a 6yo so can't answer, but your post makes me curious as to 1) why do you think it will be flamed, and 2) what are the specific reasons? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:22 AM Flag
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ppl are so anti-TV around here. ds has autism, and a lot of his teachers are amazed that he actually has the attn span to get through a tv show. that, plus until recently he liked the more preschool-y cartoons, like clifford or curious george, but it seems like he's matured all of a sudden, and i'd like to know what is more age-appropriate, w/o having him watch spongebob if possible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:24 AM Flag
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Daniel cook series on PBS. 15 minute shows that are educational and calming might be appropriate for your ds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:26 AM Flag
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i thought that was on Disney? am I thinking of something else? good suggestions, any more? thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:27 AM Flag
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I am a special ed teacher and it does not surprise me that your son has the attention span to sit through a tv show. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:27 AM Flag
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i do know kids who can't sit still at all, though, and are very destructive. i do feel lucky that he'll watch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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Hannah Montana, America's Funniest Home Videos, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:24 AM Flag
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FHV is a great one - he'll love that, thanks! don't know about HM - he's all boy, and i really don't know. although he loves music, so we'll give it a try. thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:25 AM Flag
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My 5yo loves POKEMON and that's all he'll ask to watch these days. He also will watch science shows like Nova and Discovery about space (generally shows for adults on these topics). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:24 AM Flag
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huh - wonder if he'd get the science stuff. that kind of abstract reasoning is hard for him, but if I combined it w/TV, who knows? I have a meeting w/his teacher today, I'll ask her what she thinks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:26 AM Flag
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How about shows from Animal Planet. Aimed at kids, but not cartoons. On PBS, there is a show called "Kindergarten" that follows a K class throughout the year, like a documentary. He'd get to watch other kids interacting, different school projects, teachers. (I'm not a SN mom, but I think that might be interesting for him to watch, without having to join in). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:29 AM Flag
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yeah! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:31 AM Flag
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Well, I'm not anti-tv but I AM one of those crazy parents who controls what my kids can watch, so he is into Bindi mostly although he'll still watch Backyardigans with his younger brother. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:26 AM Flag
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what's Bindi? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:27 AM Flag
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Bindi the Jungle Girl. Steve Irwin's daughter. It doesn't have a story line to follow, but each episode does have a theme. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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My son loves Zach & Cody on Disney, Clifford & Wonder Pets. All very sweet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:29 AM Flag
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Magic Schoolbus on Discovery and Discovery Kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:32 AM Flag
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my 5.5 year old like Cyberchase, the Man Show, Veggie Tales, Max and Ruby, etc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:33 AM Flag
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My DD is so strange: she likes certain cartoons like Tom & Jerry and Ben 10 (because her brother watches it) but she's way more into realistic shows now. She likes the Bindi jungle girl show, she loves shows on the food network and House Hunters (because she likes to see if she can guess what house they will pick at the end..lol) and she loves animal/nature shows on discovery. Anything that has a lot of interesting information. She's certainly has not been like this always but she's in a "sponge" age where she wants to find out more, more, more. She was into Hannah Montana and the show with the twin boys but I stopped that because I didn't like the attitudes of these kids and she was emulating the way they talk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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my jsut turnned 7 y.o. loves cyberchase, arthur, also magic schoolbus [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have a lot of Braxton-Hicks around 25 wks or so? What did OB say or what did you do? not just here and there but frequently throughout the day 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:20 AM Flag
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Yes, I am 26 weeks and have them about 5 times a day. OB said to "start to worry when its five times an hour." Books say to "drink a lot more water." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:22 AM Flag
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did OB tell you to take it easy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:24 AM Flag
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No. She didn't. Or if she did, I didn't really listen. It's not early labor or anything, just rehearsal. Your uterus contracts all the time, even when not pg. But now you can feel it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:25 AM Flag
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I had them at regular 5 minute intervals. I had to go to the hospital for IV fluids and then was told not to exercise (b/c of dehydration potential). I had them throughout the rest of my pregnancy, but ended up delivering 2 weeks late! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:34 AM Flag
[ - ] A kid (FIVE YEARS OLD!) was being so rude at my son's baseball game. He was laughing at every kid who didn't hit and was just really nasty. I get that he probably has older siblings and parents who condone this, but it made me want to vomit. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:19 AM Flag
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Were his parents there next to him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:20 AM Flag
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:29 AM Flag
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Is his name Evan? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:35 AM Flag
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I have no clue. Not on our team. Could have been, but I am sure there are plenty of nasty children in the world. So sad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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did you say anything to him? I would have. "Gosh, that's interesting. Tell me why you're laughing at Bobby?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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He wasn't on our team... not that this is much of an excuse, I guess. I just am not sure how I could have approached the situation without being a nosey parent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:31 AM Flag
[ - ] Hooray. I love Idol. Glad my 10 votes helped. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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David Cook is a true talent. Better yet, I think he seems like such a nice guy. His mom could have maybe let him has his moment before she ran up on stage and put her head on his shoulder while he was trying to talk, though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:20 AM Flag
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Yes. I will try not to do that when my DS wins! (hee, hee). We know they are a very close family and he seems like he'd be a terrific son and brother. So glad he won! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:23 AM Flag
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OP: I watched it on DVR and it cut off right after they announced it. What was his reaction? Did he speak? Did he sing again? I love him...he really does seem so nice. I loved how nice he was to Archuleta on Tuesday and what he said to him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:23 AM Flag
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that happened to me! Ryan goes, "and the winner is David Co..." then it switched to Top Chef. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:27 AM Flag
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He cried. (awww). then he sang a great song. (was that the winning song from the song contest?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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that song was terrible. hopefully he can make it better when he records it for the album. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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Yes, I'm so happy David Cook won! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:21 AM Flag
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OMG, get a hobby [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:22 AM Flag
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Your hobby must be being a judgy b&*^%! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:25 AM Flag
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ugh, I wish David Cook had not won. Now he has to make some crappy album with the idol execs. He would have been better off coming in second. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:25 AM Flag
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It didn't hurt Kelly Clarkson, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:26 AM Flag
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true. but she didn't get to make her kind of music on her first album. David Cook is so much better than that horrible song they made him sing last night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:27 AM Flag
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Totally see what you mean; however, it would still be a slap in the face if Archuleta beat him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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I see what you mean. Like Daughtry? Still, he deserved the crown. He still has to go on the hokey Idol Tour! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:27 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone received their ELA scores for this year? When are they supposed to arrive? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.22.08, 06:15 AM Flag
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We received 4th grade scores from the school, not the sheet with the graphs and breakdowns. PS 199 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:23 AM Flag
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how did your dc do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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The third grade teacher has received them, but the school hasn't released them yet (not sure why). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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Teacher (and testing coordinator at my school until I went on maternity leave) - according to an email I received this morning - parents won't get scores until June 19th. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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PS 9 parents received the ELA scores already. Principal said she expects to receive the breakdowns in early June. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:12 AM Flag
[ - ] Do YOU have a "sex tape?" 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:15 AM Flag
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I have lots! Unless you mean one with me IN it.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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op [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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sorry. OP: one with you IN it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:17 AM Flag
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No, watching myself have sex would make me sick. I hate watching myself do anything on camera. I can't imagine how much I'd hate watching myself have sex! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone recommend an OB in the Union Square area? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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TTC 05.22.08, 06:11 AM Flag
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a bit further down (broadway & prince) but i love Downtown Women [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:13 AM Flag
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Thanks, is that near the N/R? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:14 AM Flag
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yes. a block away. i'm about to have #2 with them and love the practice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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Thanks! Can you give me a Drs name so I can see if my insurance uses them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:17 AM Flag
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http://www.downtownwomenobgyn.com/insurance.html [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 07:34 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone planning to get gifts for dc's preschool teacher(s)? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 05.22.08, 06:10 AM Flag
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i hardly get gifts for my family.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:11 AM Flag
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so would that be a yes or no? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:12 AM Flag
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that would be a no. but just so you know most people do give gifts to their dc's teachers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:14 AM Flag
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Our class goes into together and gives the teachers a GC. They love that. Signed former elementary teacher. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:22 AM Flag
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we're going to do that AND get teachers something special but little. DS wants to pick out some gifts -- they've been his teachers for 2 years now! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:31 AM Flag
[ - ] DH has substance abuse problems he needs to handle. I'm kicking him out. Flame away but he needs to work on this and i need to live a normal life with DD. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.22.08, 06:09 AM Flag
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you're doing the right thing. this is why dh finally started AA and got sober. are you doing alanon? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:12 AM Flag
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i'm not. you recommend it? I feel like i don't have time for anything [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:13 AM Flag
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make time for alanon. get a sitter if you have to, but it has been so hugely helpful to me. I hated it at first. Took me a while to "get it." But now it's a life saver. Commit to at least 6 different meetings. It will help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:17 AM Flag
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Ok, i will. Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:21 AM Flag
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:) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:25 AM Flag
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that is exactly the thing to do assuming u stick to it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:13 AM Flag
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that's so hard for me. but i really plan on it. i forgive and forget so easily and after 2 years his substance abuse doesn't even phase me anymore. but if he doesn't get help he probably wont be around much longer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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what's he using? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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He goes on a cocaine/alcohol binge once a month. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:20 AM Flag
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what is the substance? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:19 AM Flag
[ - ] I received a letter from the State of NY claiming i filed my 2006 return late, I guess my accountant did without me knowing. Now I am being charged $1590.00 in fees. WWYD? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.22.08, 06:08 AM Flag
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bill your accountant [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:08 AM Flag
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i know...not sure why i'm nervous about mentioning it to him. especially since i usually pay him around 1500 to file my return [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:10 AM Flag
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call your accountant, duh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:09 AM Flag
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duh. lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:10 AM Flag
[ - ] Watch what your kids are doing on the internet. They may be blogging negativity, gossip and ugliness on the internet on sites like BlogSpot. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 05.22.08, 06:07 AM Flag
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u mean sites like UB [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:08 AM Flag
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well they must be learning it somewhere. either from their parents, peers, or the TV (gossip girl) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:14 AM Flag
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i heart gossip girl. and of course you are correct! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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i don't think you should heart it too much. not when your little darlings are publicly posting nasty comments about their peers and may find themselves getting the boot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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ok. i really have only one episode of it. and im not really sure about what blogs you are referring to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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http://www.nysun.com/new-york/tears-glee-greet-a-gossip-girl-copycat/76895/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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yikes. luckily DD is 1... parents should be more aware of what goes on in their kids lives. i mean, did you hear about those kids killing themselves over myspace? terrible [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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DD is 1? lol. you have other things to worry about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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kids? I heard of 1 kid... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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you are too old. it's embarrassing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 07:47 AM Flag
[ - ] any realtors on who have a minute? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:05 AM Flag
[ - ] i'm scared about having db #2 when first one will be 22mo. Please give any words of advice! Thank you 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:05 AM Flag
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It'll be great because they'll be able to play together well in about 1 1/2 years and you won't have to always entertain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:08 AM Flag
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My DD#1 is a bit older than your #1, but I've found that I'm much more relaxed with #2. I know what to expect, and I know that things always change with babies, so not to get myself too stressed out about anything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:09 AM Flag
[ - ] Hey SAHMs: You are letting your DHs walk all over you!!! You job is to take care of DC and the house during working/business hours. In the morning, the evening, the night, and on weekends, all that stuff should be a more or less 50/50 split between you and DH! 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:05 AM Flag
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Maybe but I find things work better when I do them as opposed to DH, so I'd rather just do that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:06 AM Flag
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than i imagine you're not among the women who come on this site to complain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:07 AM Flag
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I guess not. I'm pretty happy with the ways things are and I've been doing it for 4 years now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:07 AM Flag
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absolutely ita - who are these ppl? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:07 AM Flag
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I can get all the housework done while dh is at work. I don't need his help with that. But when he's home he does much more than 1/2 the childcare because he WANTS to. He misses them and spending time with them is good for him AND them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:08 AM Flag
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mine too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:10 AM Flag
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ita. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:11 AM Flag
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I completely disagree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:09 AM Flag
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Except that dh has to get ready to go to work in the am, so how can I expect it to be 50/50 then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:09 AM Flag
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b/c it takes 2 minutes! It's more symbolic than anything else - you don't realize this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:11 AM Flag
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your child is rolling around in a shitty diaper, go change it. Or are you calling DH home for lunch to do this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:13 AM Flag
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AND (even though I'm not one of them) there's nothing wrong with having a sitter for pete's sake [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:10 AM Flag
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I know! I can't believe that some DHs would make their DWs feel bad about a few hours or a few days of babysitting during the week. Doesn't DH take a lunch break or coffee break, or gym break at work? Of course they do! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:14 AM Flag
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actually, I'm talking more to the posters on here who flame for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:15 AM Flag
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Do you go to DHs work and help him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:11 AM Flag
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His job is not 24/7! If his job were, say, "running the family business from home," then yes I would help him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:13 AM Flag
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np: my dh's job is just that. I help him, he doesn't help me. It's been a problem, and we're working on it. I can't remember the last time he made dinner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:15 AM Flag
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dinner might be too big a project for him. Let him suggest some other things he can do. You're a team, so make him a full partner! (and please don't criticize the way he does things) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:17 AM Flag
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Of course. Doesn't everyone know this already? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 07:53 AM Flag
[ - ] i usually just watch the chatter on here about applications to private schools with bemused detachment. i have always been very very against showcasing your own achievements to an audience of school masters and mistresses in the hopes of being deemed appropriate. It is just so ugly. My nonsense, however, has left me stranded! It turns out where I am from it is not quite as perfectly egalitarian as I had hoped and a few schools - still public - do accept pupils based on the parents' motivation letter. I feel sick having to wrote this. Do people really talk about their academic and professional achievements in a boastful way in these letters? (this is just a big cultural difference for me I think) ... should I just talk about why I want him in the school and what education means to us? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:04 AM Flag
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Be honest and sincere. Not boastful. Give them a true picture of dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:06 AM Flag
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and is it OK to focus on my child, on our ideas about education etc without naming what universities we went to and hinting at out income? it's the latter i can't stomach. won't it be clear enough that we are "successful" from the rest of the content. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:10 AM Flag
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absolutely. Anything else would be a turn-off to the school as well. I used to work in prep school admissions, and some parents have a weird idea that those "boasts" help their dcs, but they absolutely do NOT. We don't want obnoxious families. We want families dedicated to their children's education and who have great values. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:15 AM Flag
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thanks. makes me feel much better! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:25 AM Flag
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GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:31 AM Flag
[ - ] My 4yo ds is so precious, sweet and loving (totally different than older dc was at this age) I cant stand thinking about sending him to K in the fall. Who will give him the 50 kisses he requires during the day? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:04 AM Flag
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puke [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:04 AM Flag
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I get it. I get so worried about my ds going off and facing the world full of rotten monster children. I hope he is with kids as sweet as he is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:05 AM Flag
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Exactly, he is still so dreamy. I cant imagine him being in a class with 20 other dc and getting lost in all of it. I'm so afraid he will lose his sweetness. [ Reply | More
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I am actually going to talk to ds's principal about this today because I want to know how the teachers deal with this, especially in relation to one particular rotten child who might end up in his class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:11 AM Flag
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ooooh, he's going to get beaten up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:10 AM Flag
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I know you think you are being funny, but this is a very real fear of mine. And there is no way that I will "toughen" my kid up because I feel that the problem is with the other kids whose parents believe that bullying is okay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:12 AM Flag
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OP: Ita, although I did laugh when I read that lol... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:17 AM Flag
[ - ] Need ideas on how I can help my mom who was just diagnosed with Stage IV cancer throughout multiple parts of her body. I just had DC#2 13 days ago, and can not get out to see her very easily. I really want to support her, but need to be here for my little ones too. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:03 AM Flag
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Anyone? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:11 AM Flag
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oh, I'm so sorry. can you have meals sent in? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:12 AM Flag
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I was thinking of that, but she's very paticular about her food and her cleaning. And, I'm scared that with her chemo she won't want to eat, but it would probably help my dad a lot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:14 AM Flag
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it would help your dad, and that's almost as important, honestly. do you think being around the baby will be more trouble for her than it's worth? I couldn't get to see my dad often enough b/c of the kids, and I'm sorry to say that I regret it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:17 AM Flag
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also, if she's going through chemo, she'll have a bad week (I forget the schedule, but the doc can tell you). she won't care how the house is done, I'd bet. maybe just a cleaning service for that week each chemo round? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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I'm going to ask her how she feels about it. I can take the train out to see her with DS & DD in tow; I don't drive due to a medical condition of my own. I just can't believe this is all happening all at once. 3 weeks ago the surgeon thought he got it all out of her breast, and now this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:19 AM Flag
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ugh. i'm sorry. things happen in clusters, and it sucks. my gmother died, my dad was re-diagnosed w/lung cancer, and my ds was dx'd with autism all in the space of a month. i know how you feel. it's overwhelming. any chance you can get a sitter for the older one? and the baby, if you're not bf OR you can pump enough. honestly, you won't regret it. you'll have plenty of time with them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:22 AM Flag
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that is terrible. not to be crass, but how long does she have left? It sounds like very little time. Go. Take the baby. I've BTDT and you will regret every minute you do not go care for her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:13 AM Flag
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They didn't give her a time limit, the oncologist she saw at the Mayo Clinic yesterday, Dr. Edith Perez, believes she can fight it. She has to get an estrogen test to determine if she is post or pre-menapausal (she's 51 and had a hysterectomy 20+years ago), and that will determine course of treatment: aggressive vs. very aggressive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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Still, go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:17 AM Flag
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You have to understand that "fighting it" does not mean curing it. Once it's spread it's a matter of time. Treatments can extend that time, but often the treatments make the extra time miserable. I have lost 4 close relatives over the last 6 years to cancer and I have grown to hate the whole cancer industry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:23 AM Flag
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Do you mind telling me more? My mom was resistant to the chemo treatment idea, but the oncologist assured her that it was the right step. She would rather move back to Italy and live out her days there. I don't want her to be chemo sick for the next year, but I don't want her to give up either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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I would urge her to ask more questions. Ask directly about side effects. Moving back to a place she loves and being happy sounds beautiful compared to mouth sores, brain swelling, puking, weakness -- my uncle even had persistent hiccups 24/7 for a week after every chemo, which sounds funny but was MISERABLE. Doctors are human and in our experience most oncologists think patients want to hear they have a chance. That's an easier conversation than "sorry." And, my cynical side says it's not good business for the oncologist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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np: I agree with you. We really care about extending life over quality of life and I'm not sure this is always best for both the cancer patient or the family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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Thanks to you both. I need to do more research once the determined course of treatment is established. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:50 AM Flag
[ - ] How come all the women on clomid aren't worried about having multiples? I would be 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.22.08, 06:02 AM Flag
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i read 10%, so that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:03 AM Flag
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I certainly am each time I take it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:05 AM Flag
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why pick strapless if tou have flabby arms? tons of dips daily [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:05 AM Flag
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sorry lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 06:06 AM Flag
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huh [ Reply | More
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