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[ - ] What's the best wedding anniversary gift you have ever received from DH? The best you ever gave him? I'm looking for some inspiration! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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last year he gave me a simple silver picture frame engraved only with the number of days we had been married. he is not a super sentimental guy, so I loved it. Once I gace him cufflinks and engraved on the back of one was the date we met, the othe the date we married [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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awww, those are awesome gifts! How thoughtful and romantic. Lucky you (and him)! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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we're not particularly romantic people, but these two things stuck out... you ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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we've been married 3 years (this week) and we have never exchanged gifts b/c we bought a house and then had a baby the 1st year and another baby 3 weeks after our 2nd anniversary. We were spending enough money. . .so this year I am doing a gift and just bought a beautiful leather frame and put a wedding pic in it since 3rd year is leather. I thought I would go traditional b/c I did [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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didn't know what else to get him. So I got that, some super nice sheets (he's a sheet snob) for 2nd year - cotton and a subscription to the local paper for our 1st - paper. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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very nice... We had a laugh with friends who a week or ten days ago celebrated the "wood" anniversary. he called to ask me what to get as all he could think of was walking into the room with a big "woody" ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:07 PM Flag
[ - ] i love fireflies... 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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and they, you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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why thank you... it was just a looking-out-the-window-stream-of-consciousness post, but I love them... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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You're welcome. They are very romantic in the old american summer sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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They remind me of summer camp [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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i do, too. so bummed that there aren't any where i live. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:01 PM Flag
[ - ] if we move this summer and give up two spots at the private preschool, will they give us any money back if they fill the spots? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.17.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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Nope [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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op: that's what i thought. major bummer, but i guess the upside, we won't have to pay private school ever again...we will lose about $12k on each child's tuition that we already paid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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You'll have to pay the full contract for each kid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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op: really? that's really does suck. but i guess that's what we'll have to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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np: I don't think they will go after you for the remainder of the contract. you should ask them - usually as long as they fill the spot you won't need to pay the remainder of the contract - but they won't refund the deposits already paid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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op: i can understand that, especially because we had two spots there. we have given quite a bit in donations as well, so maybe they would let us off the hook for the remainder. hoping to knowfor sure if this is going to happen in 2 weeks, so if we are able to let them know by july 15th... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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most probably not. Asked dh who was Board Pres at private school in NYC [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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does he know, someone told me it's a tax writeoff since it's a contribution to a non-profit? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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np: should be, since you are paying and getting nothing in return. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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what happens to all the people who get job transfers? is there no compromise in that case? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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np: I have to wonder if companies reimburse the cost of the deposit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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he says it's tuition but you can always ask if the school will aceept is as a donation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:58 PM Flag
[ - ] The stats for NJ schools in Maplewood, South Orange and Montclair are really bad, but people in the areas seem to think the schools are good but just more diverse. What's true? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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they are really bad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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are you in NJ? TIA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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I"m in Maplewood and the elementary schools are decent (some of them) from what I have heard. My friends w/older kids say if your kid is the top in the class, then Columbia HS is fine, but if they are not, then it's not a good school. Overall they do not have a good rep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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Our three kids went to Tuscan in Maplewood, it was so good that I sometimes told people that I would pay to send my kids there. Our neighbor's kids are there now, they are loving it, too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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They are diverse schools, so if you disaggregate by race/SES, they are actually very good. Both upper middle class white and upper middle class (meaning, economic and education of parents) score very well on SAT's,(and go to top schools, look at the list) and other groups score well above average as well. The problem is that you are comparing homogenous schools (like Millburn or Chatham, consistently upper middle class and white/Asian) to heterogenous ones (Maplewood and Montclair.) Columbia has over 80 AP scholars most years, has one of the largest selections of AP classes anywhere. Plus the arts are basically the best there is. Our kids are in the schools, my DH and I have several ivy degrees between us, we think the schools are great. Not perfect, but unique. The kids learn to think critically and creatively and get excited about ideas. If that's important to you, then it's a good place. We love it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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arent there Gangs at Columbia? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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NO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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My kids go there, I wouldn't send them there if there were. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 06:38 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you work out regularly? Include WOHM or SAHM with answer please. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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yes, sahm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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about 3x/week. sahm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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yoga approx 3 X a week and the miserable horrible gym about 1X a week [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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yes, SAHM but it's a new thing for me... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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no, unless "swimming" with the kids counts. sahm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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No WOHM. I try though. Maybe twice a week if I'm lucky after my kid goes to bed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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Nope. WOHM. Not any more between 2 dc and work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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Yes sahm, run 3 miles day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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Where are the kids when you work out? That's my struggle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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np: I exercise while everyone is sleeping... 5Am or so and I actually like it. DH is at home sleeping with DC, the time is mine, and the day can go on with me knowing that I took care of myself... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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No, SAHM. I need to find the time, once I get them on the same nap schedule I think I'll be ok! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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Yes, WOHM (run 3x/week and go to a class 2x/week). It's a lot, but it makes me happier (and healthier!). I'm a teacher, so my "after work" is earlier than most. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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not even a little bit, wohm. I really need to, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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Yes, 4 or 5X week, WOHM. If I don't I'm grumpy and resentful. OK, am anyway, but worse if I don't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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no, wohm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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yes. I WOHM p/t at a company with a gym. I work 3 days a week, work out on those days. And the gym membership is included with my salary. It's ideal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Why do more SAHM seem to have household help vs WOHM? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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they can afford to stay home in the first place [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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cause they're not spending all their money on childcare? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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Huh? My $$$ goes for groceries, insurance, mortgage, etc. My son is in school during the day btw. But thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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okay. just from my own experience, I can afford a housekeeper once a week because I am not spending $600 weekly on a nanny. that's all. no need to be defensive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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I can't afford a housekeeper or a nanny, but then again I actually like cleaning [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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i have been both SAH and WOH and did not have the help either way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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ita- I sah p/t & woh p/t and don't need help [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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because you don't want to feel like a "housekeeper" and not to feel like old fashioned housewife. we are not rich, but if i did not have a housekeeper i would go totally insane. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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What's wrong with housework- its just the daily job of life. I think it keeps you honest [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Is your faith important to you? Do you attend church as a family and live your life according to your beliefs? When you answer, please include # of dc and hhi 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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no, no, yes. 2 dcs, $1mil+ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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fakety fake fake [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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np: why do you think this is fake? In nyc $1mil+ is not unusual. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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no, no, 2, $1M [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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yes, yes, 1dd, 450K [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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faith is important to me, but not religion. i just haven;t found an organized religion that i connect with, but I do believe in a "higher" power. no church. i live by my beliefs. 3, 5 mo. 300k [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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yes; holidays only; yes; 4 dc; $3MM+ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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why just "church" and not temple, mosque... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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The word "church" can be used for any place of worship. Don't be parsing please. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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Well, actually no (NP BTW) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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From Wiki: A church is an association of people who share a particular belief system. The term church originated from the pre-Christian Germanic kirika. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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no jews ever refer to their temple/synagogue/shul as a church. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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because for those attending temples the answer is obvious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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Yes. We are very active in our church and make decisions based on our beliefs. 1 ds, $270k [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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yes, yes, 3dcs, $300K [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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yes, we try *we have tow faiths in our family), 2 $1 mil [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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^^^that should be yes, yes (we have two faiths in our family and we attend services for one regularily and the other for important holidays; we try to recognize both as part of our beliefs and value systems) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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To me - not really. To DH - yes. Go to synagogue throughout the year (maybe 1x/month, plus holidays). 2 DC (bring them to children's programming). HHI is $180k. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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why do you ask? just curious? a theory? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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I'm faithless, but believe in being a kind, good person. Raised catholic. 1 dc, $150K. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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Yes, I'm a Buddhist so I attend teachings and events, my faith has no meaning apart from applying it in practice, 1dc, 80k [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:10 PM Flag
[ - ] does tylenol or advil lower a fever 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.17.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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i think it is tylenol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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they both do. if fever is high, alternate tylenol and advil every 2-3 hours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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both. advil works faster imo, you can alternate them for a stubborn fever [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:51 PM Flag
[ - ] posting again - need some advice or at least commiseration: any wohm's just feel like they cannot get it all done? i woh - pt and since db#2, i just am not holding it together. I'm sloppy at work, losing my train of thought, can hardly conduct a meeting, late on projects, etc. on the other side, my house is a mess, i can hardly get home to make dinner. I'm just so tired all the time i dont feel like i am enjoying my kids as much anymore. I just kind of suck at everything nowadays. help! 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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i am guessing your db#2 is very young, right? things will get better. what is your childcare situation? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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6 mo, older dc is 3 yo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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^^^childcare is only when i'm working. i just feel like i'm drowning [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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can you afford a few hours of childcare for me-time? a cleaning lady every other week to help? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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Do you have a commute? What is your work schedule [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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no commute (less than 30 minutes). work 3-4 days/week at the office, more at home. 9-4. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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that is sounding relatively full time to me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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it is right now - somewhat project based so we're in a big project right now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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I can commiserate. I have 2dc and feel like I'm falling apart at the seams. I don't feel as though I'm performing at work, but also have a million loose ends at home...and my children aren't behaving. So I know what you're going through. I feel like I suck at EVERYTHING too. No advise except that getting a wireless card for laptop so I can be more productive on my commute has been invaluable. And, I do take some time at night for myself before heading back to the work. If you can afford housekeeping, do it to stay sane, including laundry and putting away laundry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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thanks - that is just how i feel. the exhaustion just compounds everything. i am seriously thinking i'll just throw in the towel and SAH, but i don't think we can swing it right now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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How old are your dc? It got a lot easier with my older one who is 4+. She can start to help, follow direction, and entertain herself. It is the 2 YO that is tough... [ Reply | More
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6 mo and 3 yo. and they're both sick right now, so that is adding to my stress level [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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I hope you have a helpful DH...It does get easier at some point...perhaps you can unload some responsibilities at work? I have asked to consult so I can better manage my hours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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I can commiserate. I'm in the same situation, I find it helpful to set goals for myself...accomplishing a few nagging tasks does makes a world of difference in my attitude towards thinking I can do it all. Although, reading/posting on UB doesn't help with accomplishing the projects at work or the tasks at home! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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wohm here--i never feel on top of anything, and it always seems like everyone else is but me. i hear you, op! hang in there! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone on in or around Duxbury MA? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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sort of, what up? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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we're moving to the South Shore. Considering a house in Duxbury and the only person I know there (dont know her very well) acted like it wasnt a 'prime location' of Duxbury. Is there really an unfavorable part of town or something? Frankly, I dont care, but curious what the deal is. Also wondering if anyone is familiar with South Shore Conservatory preschool. Where are you? We are considering other towns there too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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do you have the address or MLS #? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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yes, its on Chandler Mill Drive. Its new construction at the end of the block. Dont have the MLS handy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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Well Duxbury is beautiful so I don't think you can make a bad move there. It is a small, preppy town with a lot of older/historic homes. Having said that, this is a spec house on a street of homes valued at less money (best-house-on-the-block syndrome) and if you were my client I would steer towards something a bit more classic. Having said that, there is a lot to be said for central air and great master suites! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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thanks! Our agent kind of tried to steer us away too. There is another house on Summer St we are considering too. We've been looking for 4 mos and have seen houses in various towns. I like Duxbury, Norwell and Hingham best, and have found, surprisingly we can get most for our money in Duxbury. Thank you for your time :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Argh. So mad at 5 yo ds. He came out after bedtime and started screaming, running and jumping all over the apartment, so I put him back in his room, and then went to my room and locked the door. He came out and with two swift runs at the door, broke the lock and tore half of the molding off the doorframe. How am I going to explain this one to my super? (we rent) I'm not even sure how to deal with this. I was thinking of making him help the super pick up trash/sweep the sidewalk and also taking away TV for a week. What do you think? 45 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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strange to lock your door, imho [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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Geez it was an accident. I would be more concerned about the reason for his behavior. [ Reply | More
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it was not an accident. he deliberately beat the door down. [ Reply | More
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is that normal? why was he screaming in the 1st place? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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becuase he's overtired and wound up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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So what can you do to calm him down? Does he have a bedtime routine? Why is he overtired? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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OP: He's overtired because he won't go to sleep. Doesn't nap at school, and even if we put him in bed at 7PM, he still stays up unti at least 8:30PM. Wakes up at 7AM almost evey morning. Maybe we need to try to wear him down more after school with trips to the park or long walks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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wow. actually, sounds like something my dd would do. the punishment sounds ok to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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thanks. Glad I'm not alone iin dealing with this behavior. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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sounds like you have bigger problems than explaining this to your super [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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OP: very true. [ Reply | More
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was it a night terror ? my DS is & and still has them occassionally... he walks around the house - sometimes runs a bit - and calls for me, cries for me, all that, but he is NOT "there"... it is in his sleep... [ Reply | More
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^^ meant to say DS is 7 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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No, not a night terror. Just his usual MO when DH is out for the night. We end up in a battle almost every time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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Ah... testing you... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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op: yup. I have a really hard time ignoring it when he's bouncing off the walls or jumping on me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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op; did that and he ran right back out after me. It's maddening. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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One week you need to just keep putting him back and back and back and back and back. No words, no fights, no hiding, no nothin. Just back in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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and you ran and hid. DC won [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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I think I agree... If mom is hiding that means DS is the boss. IMHO you need to "gird your loins" and prepare to wrest control from that youngin... [ Reply | More
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op: how? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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that is the million dollar question, isn't it. Immediate consequences for actions that have real meaning to him. what does he love the most ? take it away. [ Reply | More
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He has so many toys that it never seems to matter when I take them away. The thing that bugs him most is when I take myself away, which is one of the reasons I locked myself away in the first place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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withdrawing mom- its clearly not working. You have to work it out, not run from the problem [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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You going away I think is the wrong message... you will always be there, but there must be something he really values... every kid has something that they would be very upset to lose... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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np: OP, it sounds like you are trying your best o keep your cool within the framework you have inherited. Perhpas it is time to re-fram bedtime...do it totalllly different...with anew approach. Warn dc about the new rules, etc. I can't rec, since I don't know what you did before, but I do agree with some punitive action related to tonights destruction. What would dh do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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doesn't nanny 911 have a book? that might be worth it for her to check out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks for the kind words. It is obvoius that what I do doesn't work. We generally do pjs, tooth brushing, then story and bed. Maybe I could add a few minutes for him to look at books by himself after we read to him so that he can ease into sleep. When dh is here, ds only comes out once or twice to use the bathroom. He knows dh will get really mad, so he doesn't chance it. When I get really mad, he just thinks it's funny. (I have Supernanny book, btw, plus about 50 others. Have taken classes, too( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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the lock and the molding must have been in a poor shape if a 5yo tore it down. the kid is a kid and is normal imo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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op: probably weakened by the other times he's tried to break the door down... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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np: why did you lock the door? So bizarre, why not just try to control or calm down your DC? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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op: I lock it when I'm at my wit's end and need a time out. Of course I try to calm him, but unfortunatley, he's not an easy kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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It seems wrong to blame the kid- you created the situation that generated this behavior. What is dh's take on it all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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How did I create the situation? By trying to put him to bed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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It seems like a power-struggle dynamic. It's easier to blame him than to look at the big picture of the household [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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I totally get why you locked your door. Better that than doing what you probably feel like doing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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exactly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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This is insane. I think that it is time for therapy honestly. I have never heard of a kid this out of control with a parent... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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is this normal behavior for your ds? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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OP: when he's overtired, yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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OP: sorry to disappear. I went to lie down with him for a bit and try to soothe him to sleep. Seems to have finally worked. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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duh. he wanted you, and when you locked yourself in your room, he felt abandoned and scared (and, being overtired, out came "the bahvior"). You are on the right track here. BE with him. Just sit in his room as he winds down (or goes like the energizer bunny then crashes, whatever his MO is). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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I meant to write behavior. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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op: I do usually lie down with him for a few minutes at bedtime, but when he's wound up like he was tonight, he climbs and jumps all over me and my presence seems to get him more agitated. I can't take that for very long. I told him repeatedly tonight that if he could stay calmly in his room for 10 minutes that I would come back and lie with him. Anyway, I get your point, but it's just really tough sometimes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:29 PM Flag
[ - ] How does one go about researching private schools if they arent required to publish their test results? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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many of the ongoings publish their exmissions and SAT scores. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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No, that is not what it is about, but you can easily find out where dc go to college [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:12 PM Flag
[ - ] does anyone know a phone number to reach beth israel hospital - specifically the ER 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 06.17.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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General Topics 11.24.08, 11:05 PM Flag
[ - ] 14 yr. old cousin visiting - want to take her and my 5 yr. old on the beast (that boat ride) do I need to buy tickets in advance? where can we go to dinner around there?? tia 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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buy tickets in advance. there are no restaurants in that area to my knowledge but there are carts selling hot dogs etc... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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i think there are tables and chairs to sit and eat as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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Are you leaving from South Street Seaport? Lots of restaurants there of course. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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