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[ - ] Which would you choose to spend winter: 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:13 AM Flag
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A https://ibb.co/cYZDxmf or B https://ibb.co/q1hZd2T [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:13 AM Flag
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(another version of B https://ibb.co/86bX6gK may be easier to visually compare) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:15 AM Flag
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Tell us the places [ Reply | More
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Okanagan and Victoria [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Any experience with Kwellet Prep for Hunter for a 6th grader? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:06 AM Flag
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Few of DD’s friends did it. I know at least one of them got in with Dd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:27 AM Flag
[ - ] Oy, I contacted an old bf on linked in just to say HI. Haven't seen him in 30 yrs. He asked me if I am a Tiger Mom, and I said that my kids probably think I am , but no, I think I'm fun. He then tells me he and his wife disallowed TV for first 10 yrs or something, and that he made a rule that if one of his kids asked him to do something, he would never say no - ever. I guess he got me feeling like a bad mom, so I then responded that my dh and I are more relaxed, but my ds turned-out really smart and highly motivated, so I guess it was ok. Today, crickets.... 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:06 AM Flag
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^ which is the truth [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:07 AM Flag
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That’s such a weird first conversation to have with bf of 30 years ago [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:12 AM Flag
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OP: well, the first conversations were a synopsis of the last 30 yrs for each of us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:17 AM Flag
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Agree. Can't imagine most men picking child rearing as a first topic after that long. No way would DH ask an old girlfriend that. He probably wouldn't even ask if she had children! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:35 AM Flag
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OP: I thought it was a joke. I responded "Tiger Mom???" ...blah blah. "and what about you, Mr. ___? I see you as relaxed more than a disciplinarian." He then responded above. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:44 AM Flag
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He sounds like an asshole. Like someone who has held fast to various child rearing policies so that he can feel above others. Meanwhile, how do you never say no to at least some of your kids requests? My younger son wanted to turn our bedroom in to a swimming pool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:31 AM Flag
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OP: to be fair, he said when they asked to play [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:33 AM Flag
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Np: i never say yes to requests to play ! [ Reply | More
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OP: :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:42 AM Flag
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My son wanted to weld an underwater exploration suit out of sheets of metal... at 8. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:47 AM Flag
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he had detailed plans drawn out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:48 AM Flag
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Just consider yourself lucky that you didn’t marry the nutcase. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:16 AM Flag
[ - ] Are there any genuinely nice people out there anymore?? Every time I meet someone that is kind to me, I usually find out that I’m just being used for something or another (carpool, MLM scheme, buying their new fashion line, etc). I give up. I’ll stick to my 5 close friends. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:48 PM Flag
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Whats sting with 5 friends?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:57 PM Flag
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Nothing at all! I guess I just like meeting new kind people that I connect with sometimes, and lately I’ve noticed that most people aren’t genuine. Seems worse than ever before [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:59 PM Flag
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I'm genuine and nice! I talk to cashiers, bank tellers, random women in my yoga classes etc. I read "How to Win Friends and Influence People" and it changed my daily interactions to be more friendly and positive (without needing anything in return). I've found it's helped my perspective on humanity quite a bit. I used to be very depressed, cynical and grumpy. Being friendly has really helped me be happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:02 AM Flag
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I can see this. Sometimes I just don't have the energy though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:07 AM Flag
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Op. Funny I download this book last week! I’ve always been kind and friendly to the point of being taken advantage of. I’m over it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:12 AM Flag
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This is good advice. When you deal with someone friendly, you are more friendly in return, for sure. You get better interactions when you're nice, and the world seems a better place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:13 AM Flag
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I agree! It's been happening to me and really works. And I'm fat and not even attractive, so I know it's basically from me just being friendly and kind. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:15 AM Flag
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Op I would never base a friendship on how someone looks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:35 AM Flag
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Op I would never base a friendship on how someone looks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:35 AM Flag
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I think I’m pretty nice and I run into a lot of honestly good people. However, I just don’t have the bandwidth to be close with everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:14 AM Flag
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this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:27 AM Flag
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I’m nice! I’m not the most friendly, though, and a little guarded. Hard to meet really nice people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:23 AM Flag
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+1. I think I am a good person but I am not particularly outgoing and it's probably because I am guarded. I encounter so many selfish and/or shallow people. It always strikes me as odd that so many people out there seem to be genuinely unhappy. And some of the happiest people I know have had their share of adversity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:32 AM Flag
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So well said. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:35 AM Flag
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OR: I also don’t have a smiley face so that doesn’t help and I don’t like to make the initial contact bc I am guarded and have the mentality that if it was meant to be, it will work out so I tend to be passive. This year I’m trying to be more proactive and at least stick around after pickup to chat more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:59 AM Flag
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I'm nice. I don't really need anything from people -- nothing to sell, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:30 AM Flag
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I’m as kind and loyal as they come. But I don’t do bullshit. I don’t take it and I don’t give it. But if you need something and you are my friend I will give it and ask if you want more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:38 AM Flag
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I think I'm genuinely nice and not a user. I am great at making friendly chit chat and having a laugh but I never know how to move beyond that and make "friends" with someone. Or the few times I have tried emailing the other person or extending myself to possibly meet up, they are always wishy washy or end up flaking. So I don't even bother anymore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:23 AM Flag
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My philosophy as an adult with friendships is that if someone is still around after 3-4 years then they are a real friend. I've cycled through so many people like you describe and then you turn around and see that some people are still there who don't annoy you. I choose to make an effort with those people. I'm happier and have learned. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:38 AM Flag
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Great advice and so true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 05:48 AM Flag
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I am sincerely nice and pleasant to all. I have many mom friends, but only close with maybe 3 of them. My youngest is 10 and I have two in high school. I have zero energy to make any new mom friends. But I guess because my kids are older, maybe that’s normal? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:04 AM Flag
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you should move. I moved to a laid back small university town and literally everyone is nice. It is crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:49 AM Flag
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I also talk to everyone like pp above who read the how to win friends book. For me it is just from being from the south in the community we were raised in - my brother and I are both this way. We can start a conversation with anyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:50 AM Flag
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Op. Completely agree with you here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 05:48 AM Flag
[ - ] We got a freebie trial for two big cable channels and there is still nothing to watch. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:38 PM Flag
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There's always something to watch. Which ones? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:11 AM Flag
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Showtime and something else. Not HBO. I am still Netflix and poverty vision (basic network tv programming) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:55 AM Flag
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HBO has the best movies [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:21 PM Flag
[ - ] I am lpving our hudson valley weekend place. I am starting to dream about living there full time. Schools arent great but there are privates at half the cost. I can wah and Dh could do much less if we cash out nyc apt. Crazy town or what? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:33 PM Flag
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Try it for a couple months if you can before you commit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:37 PM Flag
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We don’t know if it’s crazy town yet. Tell us the name of the town. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:49 PM Flag
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Which town. We have a place up there in a more rural area. We love it but you could not pay me to move there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:30 AM Flag
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It is pretty rural. Gardiner. I love it. I enjoy talking to neighbors, little pancake breakfasts, chores around the house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:39 AM Flag
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I lived there. Great town. Can I ask where ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:09 AM Flag
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On Bruynswick Road. How long did you live there? Kids in private or public? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:12 AM Flag
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In Brooklyn now at private. There is a big difference between weekends and full time- different social.circles and interactions [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:30 AM Flag
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Can you please tell me more about living there full time? Anything that you particularly liked or didn’t like? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:39 AM Flag
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Have you lived there through a full winter? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:32 AM Flag
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Not full time, no. A week or so, but not where had to get kids to school in winter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:39 AM Flag
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Worse is cabin fever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:54 AM Flag
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The privates there don't seem too great either though. Do more research on it - there aren't many in that area - better ones seem to be in Dutchess Co. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Seem to have a very low fever (like 99.3). Otherwise feel fine. Should I still go to spin class (on the west coast - class is in 2 hours)? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:24 PM Flag
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why would you take your temperature if you have no other symptoms? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:26 PM Flag
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Lol this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:37 PM Flag
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OP - wondering if I’m getting sick :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:10 AM Flag
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That’s not a fever, especially at the end of the day. Go to class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:28 PM Flag
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OP - I agree! Just needed encouragement, ha. Thanks for weighing in [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Any SMS parents on? or any opinions about the HS? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:52 PM Flag
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what's sms? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:00 AM Flag
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Special Music School? I'm no OP, but that's my guess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:14 AM Flag
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St Mark’s? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:59 AM Flag
[ - ] When did your DC start piano/music lessons? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:47 PM Flag
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age 3 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:51 PM Flag
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Tiger mom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:05 PM Flag
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was it worth it that young? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:12 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:01 AM Flag
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my kids started in 3rd grade [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:53 PM Flag
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Ditto. I know parents who had kids quit at that time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:52 AM Flag
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age 4 and quit this year at age 12 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:05 PM Flag
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Around third grade. Did piano and violin and by fifth started with cornet at school and now really into clarinet in 8th. Finally found the instrument she digs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:05 PM Flag
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first grade, both of them. One still takes piano and also does cello. Other one is done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:12 PM Flag
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ds started toddler suzuki at 8months. They take babies from birth (free till 6months) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:13 PM Flag
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7 I think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:25 PM Flag
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Never [ Reply | More
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4 and 5. 4 was a little young. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:24 AM Flag
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This. I started mine at 4 and 5. Wait till 5. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:48 AM Flag
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5 is still challenging but so much better than 4! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:01 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have a recommendation for where to get a custom pair of men’s shoes or boots made in NYC? Where and what was the cost? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:31 PM Flag
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3 Musketeers for Halloween? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:33 PM Flag
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what kind of particular taste must you have for what you want to not be available anywhere else in the world? serious question [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:34 PM Flag
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Maybe his feet are different sizes? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:35 PM Flag
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Then you just buy 2 pair of what you want and cannibalize. I know this one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:36 PM Flag
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Because I live here? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:35 PM Flag
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You are incapable of measuring your own feett? Even on scaled printable lasts? ok [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:48 PM Flag
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google NYC shoe sample factory. I know a could of guys do this, just forgot their names [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:42 PM Flag
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Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:58 PM Flag
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Why is this such an outrageous question? DH has crazy wide feet and has trouble buying off the shelf. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:45 PM Flag
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Then you and your DH would not need to ask UB this question for the first time, would you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:47 PM Flag
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JESus you are cunts. Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:53 PM Flag
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Well that got awful awfully fast. Maybe, given that we're women here, we can avoid calling each other derogatory terms for vagina. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:02 PM Flag
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If the shoe fits.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:13 PM Flag
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I see what you did there, lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:23 AM Flag
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Just get custom. Ignore haters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:23 AM Flag
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Hey OP, i totally get your question. I am a native Texan and lots of people get custom boots and shoes. I don’t know why people are giving you a hard time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:28 PM Flag
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THANKS!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:49 AM Flag
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John Lobb 800 Madison Ave [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:59 PM Flag
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This isn't NYC, but I used to work in advertising with a guy who got sick of it and went and started his own shoe business. He's a nice dude if you're ever in SF. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:01 AM Flag
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https://www.beneduci.com/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:01 AM Flag
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Thanks! We're in SF and this would be perfect to get dh for Christmas, he's a 12EE and impossible to find shoes for. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:18 AM Flag
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Did you know that it used to be a serious insult to call a cordwainer (or shoe maker) a cobbler? Cobblers were only permitted to repair shoes, and couldn’t use fresh leather. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:25 AM Flag
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I did! "cobble together" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:28 AM Flag
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OR: for the longest time I did think cobblers were shoe makers too. I guess one could argue that the lines are more blurred now, but it was apparently regulated back then. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:37 AM Flag
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I got my custom field (riding) boots from Vogel, & know they make beautiful custom shoes as well. They are a fantastic NYC company. I think shoes start ~$1,100. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:22 AM Flag
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This, Vogel. [ Reply | More
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+1,000 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Help me figure out our middle school options! DC is 5th grader in public school. Public schools: We live in district 4, no viable middle school options in district, so only citywide/boroughwide schools. We will list CSS, ICE, Manhattan East, NEST+m. Other ideas/recommendations? Private schools: we will need fa to make it work. HHI 120K, renting, no assets, one DC, first generation Americans. DC is strong student, creative. Where should we apply? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 09.09.19, 10:17 PM Flag
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Test scores? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:07 PM Flag
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4th grade ELA 3.56 and Math 4.41 (I know chances are nil for NEST). No ISEE yet. ERB scores in 2nd grade were very high. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:12 PM Flag
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That ELA is going to be an issue. My son had all 4s on state tests, 75% 4s for final grades, good attendance and behavior and didn’t get in to Salk or Clinton, which are easier to get in to than citywides. That said, still not easy to get in to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:35 AM Flag
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Sorry, what do you mean 74% 4s for final grades--do you mean that the other 25% were 3s or lower? Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:03 AM Flag
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Yes, he had 4s in math, science, social studies, behavior, Art, gym and 3s in reading and writing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 08:20 PM Flag
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don't stretch yourself for private would be my first thought. tour everywhere and see what dc thinks. sounds like dc may be a good candidate for ICE. get on their open list immediately as it opens up. if you can't get an assigned seat, try showing up anyway. it's not a UB favorite, but super popular with my IRL friends. test scores won't matter (just about the entire middle school opts out), but understanding the school and being a good fit go a long way. what about School of the Future too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:32 PM Flag
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open house list^ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:32 PM Flag
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Thanks! School of the Future is D2 only, no? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:08 AM Flag
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My dd is from D1 and just graduated from SoF. The school is small enough that if you ARE really interested you can reach out to the principal and make sure she knows its your first choice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:36 PM Flag
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Also, DC is currently in progressive but genuinely hungry for more academic challenge. Progressive has been good for him but he's had enough. I think actually CSS would be the best fit. That lower ELA score is not representative of the kid, every teacher he's had will agree (idk what happened there. I probably should have prepped some). Qualified for CTY in both quantitative and verbal (though we never had the money for their expensive programming). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:13 AM Flag
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fwiw, my dc is at ICE and is very academic and loves the school. ICE is challenging, just doesn't do the common core which is why we like it. lots of difficult texts, lots of writing, and advanced science. math ramps up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:16 AM Flag
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sorry, but I had two kids at ICE and it is not at all challenging. Lovely place and my kids dug it, but it is not at all academic rigorous (still, they had the experience of loving school, which is invaluable). Both left for h.s. One is at B.S. and the other at Beacon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:37 AM Flag
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That would suggest it is a decent middle school! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:00 AM Flag
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Not really, IMO. My kids loved the fun of it, but frankly, even they knew they weren't learning much, and it was too loose. They are just good test-takers and students. I would not credit ICE for that. And fwiw, my ds was not well-prepared for BS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:56 AM Flag
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my dc was there for middle school, and i do think it was a strong program (the math was not great) overall. a motivated kid can get a lot out of it and have support, one who isn't can easily coast. dc was very well prepared for hs, except in math. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 07:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Got a call from a mom I don’t know well. I was on a call so let it go to vmail. Checked later and the message was from the moms dd asking if she could invite herself over. My dd is not good friends with the girl. The kicker is that the other girl has a phone but I would not have recognized the number. So I think the mom let the girl use her phone thinking I would pick up and be confronted with the girls asking me directly if she could visit. I have my thoughts, but wondering what do you all think about this? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:50 PM Flag
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It happens. Move on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:54 PM Flag
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i wouldn't think twice. your number is likely not in the kid's phone, just the mom's so she handed her kid her phone. new school year - things change so i am fine with a kid asking for a playdate even if the kid isn't my kids best friend. i would likely have said yes, but if not I don't think coming up with a valid excuse is very hard when talking to a kid or a parent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:57 PM Flag
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You are paranoid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:59 PM Flag
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I think the girl wanted a play date... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:03 PM Flag
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How old? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:17 PM Flag
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12 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:18 PM Flag
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OP fair enough thanks all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:18 PM Flag
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I could never imagine getting offended by a kid who likes my kid so much that they will initiate a call to set up a play date. Wow, people on UB sometimes really have horrible people skills. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:32 PM Flag
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+100 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:39 PM Flag
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Seriously this is peak UB. They are so caught up in trying to find some way someone is being offensive [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:49 PM Flag
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OP it is more that the girl has a reputation for being pushy and inviting herself everywhere. People disagree with me I get it it’s fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:52 PM Flag
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A pushy 12 year old is less awkward than a paranoid 45 year old. Just saying ... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:56 PM Flag
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Np: ILY [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:06 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:15 PM Flag
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you are nuts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:00 PM Flag
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This. So what she is asking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:40 AM Flag
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The kid probably got to know your DD this year or they are in a class together and she wants to get together. NBD [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:49 PM Flag
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I think you already overthought it. 12 is just a kid. NBD [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:52 PM Flag
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you and i would never be friends. I really detest people like you. These are kids and you are projecting your *twisted* view of the situation onto it. And worse, it ruminates to the point that you are compelled to post on a forum about it. Please get help. This is not normal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:59 PM Flag
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Consider yourself fortunate. A girl want to be friends with your dd. So many people have posted recently because dcs are having a hard time finding friends. Don't overthink this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:16 PM Flag
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aw, this kinda broke my heart. a lot of dc's that age wouldn't have the courage to make that call. I'd have her over unless my dc really objected. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:34 PM Flag
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OP - i’ll chime in to agree with you. One of my DS’ friends texts DH from the mom’s phone. Would be more comfortable if the mom would send the message herself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:56 PM Flag
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you women are SO WEIRD, seriously. How is this a problem? Why are you making life so difficult? So many secret, unwritten rules. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:16 AM Flag
[ - ] Even my pediatrician isn’t sure of the cause of my child’s inner ear itch. Can I get your opinion? Started 2 months ago. Was in only 1 ear until a couple of weeks ago. It only itches a couple of times a day, but always after shower which is at bedtime and in the am. DC was in a couple of swimming pools this summer but not sure if it itches prior. She has no allergies that we are aware of. We were using a heavier conditioner at this time, but I switched to a fragrance free super sensitive one a few days ago, but it still itches. Dr says seasonal allergies since she saw no excess wax or infection in her ear. But then if it were seasonal allergies, wouldn’t her ears itch more when outside?anyone BTDT? Tia!!why 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:39 PM Flag
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Op: dr said to try “Debrox” for a week, but was waiting to see if new conditioner solved issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:41 PM Flag
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I have the same issue - derm just said "oh eczema - shove a bit of cortizone ointment down there". sigh. not sure it helped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:52 PM Flag
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SEASoNAL ALLERGY [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:54 PM Flag
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Allergies cause ear itching at odd times, sometimes indoors, sometimes outdoors, hardest symptom to treat. Did they suggest Flonase type spray or is dc too young? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:04 PM Flag
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Op: they said Claritin would be ok and benaDryl at night. I want to avoid meds until I rule everything else out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:21 AM Flag
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In general medications that are absorbed locally like nasal spray are preferable to ingested meds like Claritin. Because they only affect that specific part, not the whole body. That said, there are steroids in Flonase, and I know the bottle doesn’t recommend for children under 9. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:02 AM Flag
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dry skin maybe? Have her suck on some honey. Honey aids in so much. It might help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:31 PM Flag
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It can be food allergies. Have to track diet. I am allergic to a food that makes one of my ears hot. Not both, just one. But I just looked it up and food allergies can also cause inner ear itching. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:07 PM Flag
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Op: hmm thx. I’ll see what she eats on days it is bad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:20 AM Flag
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my dh just recently got a prescription for what he thought was psoriasis, but turned out to be dandruff. he's so much better now. go to a dermatologist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:36 PM Flag
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Sleeping cockroach wakes up periodically to turn over. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:31 AM Flag
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Give her an antihistamine and see if it solves it. Simple [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:37 AM Flag
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Op: I will if nothing else works. It’s intermittent and right before she sleeps, so hard to medicate and gauge if it’s working. I will try Claritin if we have tp [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:23 AM Flag
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Sometimes a good way to diagnose is by trying the relevant medication- if it works, that’s what the problem was. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:04 AM Flag
[ - ] Wwyd? My neighbor hasn’t been around in months. His family hasn’t said anything about his absence. I really hope everything is ok. Would you ask? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:23 PM Flag
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Only if you are friendly to start with. If you wouldn't normally ask, "How is Bob doing on that hobby of his?" then you are just being nosy and you shouldn't pry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:25 PM Flag
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Are you saying my neighbor's dh hasn't been around but the rest of the family is there, I am so worried about him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:27 PM Flag
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Tbh, I’m more worried about them than him, but yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:35 PM Flag
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I don't want to get drawn into anyone else's drama unnecessarily. I personally would not ask. but it sounds like you are a more giving person who would be open to hearing the answer. I think if he had passed away you would know from the dozens of vehicles that would have been parked outside his home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:30 PM Flag
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this is such a suburbs answer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:30 PM Flag
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Not in the burbs here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:45 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:33 PM Flag
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Do you think he was murdered, like the men on those “Deadly Women” episodes? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:35 PM Flag
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I think if he died we would’ve heard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:46 PM Flag
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That’s not my point. If he was murdered by his wife, you think she’s going to announce it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:22 PM Flag
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How do you now he hasn't been around? I can go lengths of time without seeing people who live right next door. And if something was "wrong," the family would know if they live with him and you wouldn't need to investigate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:57 PM Flag
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I wasn't around from June through Labor Day. Hope Scott and Deb didn't think I was dead! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:24 PM Flag
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Maybe he is traveling for work? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:42 PM Flag
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Or away at rehab? Questions might not be welcome. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:05 AM Flag
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Does he live alone or with his family? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:07 PM Flag
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There was a guy in Germany who was discovered in his apartment many years after he died. His bills were on autopay and nothing happened until his account was drained. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:08 PM Flag
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Paramedic Mom here: You can call your local non-Emergency Police Department line and ask for a "wellness check." State exactly what you just said above, and that you're a concerned neighbor. They might check the house and/or they might contact family. It's always good to get stuff like this documented because if there is a pattern or another person calls in something regarding the same individual they can pull this report. Thanks for being a good neighbor! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:05 AM Flag
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I miss you. Thank you for posting! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:30 AM Flag
[ - ] Spin off to on line dating post. I realize I get in my own way with trying to meet someone. Here are some reasons why, both practical and more psychological—1) I have limited resources for keeping my appearance at date worthy levels, 2) I’m still traumatized by the failure of my marriage, the toll on my self esteem , 3) I’m embarrassed about my financial situation, 4) deep deep down I feel I still need to be 100% available for my kids (now teens). Even though shared custody ds sometimes requests to stay with me .. 5) facing reality of limitations of my options. I’m lonely and don’t want to be alone but these issues are holds my me back. If you’re divorced/single, what holds you back ? If you overcame, how? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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Holding me back ^^^ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:04 PM Flag
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I'm you, for the most part. I can think of a million reasons not to try. Told my friend over the weekend that I've kind of given up on love. That made her sad. We drunkenly decided I need to watch some Brene Brown motivational videos to trick myself into caring. I mean...it would be nice to ever have sex again. I miss it. :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:23 PM Flag
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Op here thank you! Yes I loved sex and had fairly excellent sex with ex. It’s been almost ten years I can’t believe it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:44 PM Flag
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I am sort of disgusted with men. (Society at large, the patriarchy, etc.) And with myself for letting them matter so much to me and basing my view of myself too much on what they thought of me. Obviously this comes from upbringing, I have been to therapy to deal with the issues, but I’m just not sure I want a man in my life again anytime soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:20 PM Flag
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I feel this too about the typical man and all of my serious relationships were fraught. But I wonder about one day finding respectful mutuality with chemistry affection support and trust. The kind of relationship people in good ones describe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:02 AM Flag
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Or: I haven’t given up hope completely. And honestly I think, for me at least, this is part of my path, this phase of wanting nothing to do with them and needing them in no way. GL to you!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:31 AM Flag
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Thank you. You sound like you’re in a good place. Gl to you too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:23 AM Flag
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I was you and then one day, after about 10 years (seriously!) and a bunch of therapy, I was just done with my pity party. Made some other changes in my life, started taking better care of myself (doesn't cost anything to exercise a bit and take a few minutes to style your hair and you can buy some clothes that fit well on sale). Then I decided that I was truly ready to meet someone and I did. Mind over matter is real and it's amazing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:13 PM Flag
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Thanks for this. I feel that this is where my head is at now too. I’m ready but I’m scared shitless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:03 AM Flag
[ - ] Best favors for a holiday dinner party? 50 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:02 PM Flag
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Adults? No. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:05 PM Flag
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I did fancy sea salt caramels in cute little boxes at my last dinner party and they were a big hit, but to each his own [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:10 PM Flag
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Which holiday? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:05 PM Flag
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Night before Thanksgiving [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:06 PM Flag
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Pilgrim hats? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:09 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:11 PM Flag
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OK - give everyone a touristy t-shirt or baseball cap from Plymouth, MA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:19 PM Flag
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Tupperware. They will need it for thanksgiving leftovers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:21 PM Flag
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This is a nice idea, everyone feels guilty about borrowing Tupperware and then being busy yet needing to return it later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:52 PM Flag
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That's why there are Ziploc bags, LOL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:59 PM Flag
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I buy those Rubbermaid Take-a-Longs. They are durable enough to use and wash repeatedly at home but cheap enough that one doesn't care if someone needs to take one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:43 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:05 AM Flag
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Small dish of chocolate-covered cranberries? Yum! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:22 PM Flag
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Isn't the dinner party the favor? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:14 PM Flag
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Pair of assless chaps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:19 PM Flag
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Chaps, by their very definition, are assless. That's the point of chaps. No need to be redundant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:01 PM Flag
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Yes, pedantic mom, that's been established ad nauseum. Its just an old running joke. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:37 PM Flag
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+1 - welcome to UB! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:38 PM Flag
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Individually-packaged turkey carcasses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:24 PM Flag
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Ftw [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:34 PM Flag
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In garbage bags [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:54 PM Flag
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Pack of elmo diapers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:25 PM Flag
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+ carcass [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:41 PM Flag
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Dalton sweaters [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:25 PM Flag
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sweatshirts! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:02 PM Flag
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Oh right, it was a Loro piana sweater ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:23 PM Flag
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Case of Fiji water [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:25 PM Flag
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I think I've posted this once before. If there were a Thanksgiving Fairy my mom would have been it. When she married my stepdad she gave up on Christmas and Easter so Thanksgiving became "her holiday". Most fun favors for a family environment were the Fanny Farmer chocolate turkeys in foil. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:32 PM Flag
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Bag of mixed raw nuts in the shell plus a nutcracker [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:32 PM Flag
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Aren't you supposed to roast them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:40 PM Flag
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I am pretty sure that walnuts etc. can be eaten raw? Peanuts probably need to be roasted. Otherwise not sure. My stepfather had a thing for cracking nuts by the fire so we always had huge bowls of walnuts, filberts, brazils. Never any peanuts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:13 PM Flag
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I'll have to look it up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:21 PM Flag
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It's funny, someone asked me what a certain nut was the other day (I got a nice basket for my birthday) and I literally faltered. I thought I was a nut expert for like 20 years because of my stepdad the christmas squirrel [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:23 PM Flag
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I can tell you for sure that he bought them the way they were meant to be cracked and eaten. He could not boil water. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:25 PM Flag
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Thats a lovely idea! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:05 PM Flag
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Nice idea, but first quietly make sure there are no allergy issues among your guests. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:47 PM Flag
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Orange jumpsuits [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:34 PM Flag
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Snuggies and fuzzy socks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:36 PM Flag
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Joggers and a big sweatshirt for me, thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:45 PM Flag
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HM - Paperback copy of William Bradford's "History of Plimoth Plantation" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:37 PM Flag
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I'm into craft beer - offer everyone seasonal pumpkin ale along with the usual beer & wine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 09:39 PM Flag
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When we have guests for Christmas dinner I put a small gift at each place as a place card. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 10:15 PM Flag
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Christmas tree ornament. Reindeer shaped wine bottle stopped. Box of blank holiday notecards. Cookie mix in a jar with recipe. Jars of homemade spiced and boozy eggnog. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.09.19, 11:18 PM Flag
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Hope the holiday dinner party isn't breaking fast after Yom Kippur. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:32 AM Flag
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Our first ever dinner party was the night before Easter. We gave everyone a chocolate bunny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 12:36 AM Flag
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Airplane bottles of booze [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:09 AM Flag
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And a few of those liquor-filled chocolates that look like little liquor bottles. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:57 AM Flag
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You can get them from the Vermont Country Store. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:50 PM Flag
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Hah, this would be perfect the night before T-giving. I always have a gathering of friends before the family onslaught and I'm totally using this idea then - thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:28 PM Flag
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nothing. i have my 8 year old daughter make cute placecards with everyones name. people smile when they sit down. Also gives DC some responsibility planning the dinner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 05:56 PM Flag