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[ - ] Best place to find a tutor. UWS. Is there a website? Hoping to spend less than 100 per hour. Thanks! 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:03 AM Flag
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What grade? What subject? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:07 AM Flag
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Just general enrichment for 4th and 6th graders. Probably focused on math and writing mostly, maybe a little science for older kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:13 AM Flag
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Are you preparing for NYS tests? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:17 AM Flag
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That’s not my main focus right now. I used a tutor for this before who was good but she was 150 per hour. I might use her again but not until the winter. I want someone to stray now to do just general tutoring and I hope that they are cheaper. Maybe like a college student or something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:20 AM Flag
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Same! I want a math tutor for my 4th grader. He's fine in math, got a 3 grade and (barely) 4 on the state test, but I think he'd potentially excel with some help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:25 AM Flag
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I wonder if there are websites? Anyone know? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:26 AM Flag
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I have a great tutor - but word of mouth only. Have you asked your friends? Math and ELA 60.00 an hour [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 10:39 AM Flag
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Same! Need a tutor for Hunter test in Brooklyn. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:11 AM Flag
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Hunter mom - no need for a tutor, just have DC take the sample test on the website. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:25 AM Flag
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Made this mistake on ISEE. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:42 AM Flag
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Please get a tutor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 03:00 AM Flag
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You should absolutely tutor for Hunter test. Most kids do. I tutor kids in the writing and ELA sections. Some kids can do it without tutoring. Most benefit from some practice and understanding the expectations. Keller Prep is not bad for Hunter prep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 05:59 AM Flag
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My DC did not have tutoring, most kids I know who were tutored for Hunter did not get in. Waste of money IMO for a single school with 6% admissions rate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:27 PM Flag
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No, I think esp. for writing portion a tutor can be helpful . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:57 PM Flag
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Wyzant (my ds used to tutor using this). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 03:27 AM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 11:42 AM Flag
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Downloading now. This will be great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 11:43 AM Flag
[ - ] If you have a nanny, did your baby take to her (or him) immediately or was there an adjustment period? New nanny just started and my 4 month ol has been crying on and off with her all day for the past week. She is super sweet, but starting to wonder if we made the wrong choice. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:00 AM Flag
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FFS, your kid is 4 mos old [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:03 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:19 AM Flag
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+ 2 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:24 AM Flag
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What does this mean? My 4mo had no issues with other people watching her until this nanny started, so I am questioning if it's the right fit. What's wrong with that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:28 AM Flag
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Your baby is always going to prefer you... my five year old still cried when my husband puts her to bed (instead of me, her SAHM). The way your nanny deals with the crying is more important than if your child cries with the nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:29 AM Flag
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This. Also some babies hit the separation anxiety milestone earlier than others. Hang in there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:33 PM Flag
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are you in the room when it happens? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:48 PM Flag
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My kids never had separation anxiety but they always preferred me or my husband over the nanny. Even now 7 years later (and our nanny is wonderful and warm), they would pick us every time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:55 PM Flag
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Honestly, all kids are different and they're constantly evolving. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:05 PM Flag
[ - ] If you suspect you’re going crazy then it means you’re not... right?... 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:26 AM Flag
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Not necessarily [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:58 AM Flag
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more details then we can help [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:04 AM Flag
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I’m aware of my mental illness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:09 AM Flag
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Which is? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:29 AM Flag
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I am perfectly aware of how crazy I think/act sometimes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:13 AM Flag
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Go away [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:24 AM Flag
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what? Sometimes yes sometimes no. You need to say more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 03:27 PM Flag
[ - ] I am 32, single, no kids. Should I be dating divorced men with children? 57 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:05 AM Flag
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Not unless you want to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:06 AM Flag
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NO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:09 AM Flag
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never, ever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:18 AM Flag
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I mean... a friend of mine who was 30 did just this and has had a phenomenal life ever since. Sick apt in Tribeca, full time help at home, summers in east Hampton, private jets, amazing vacations yada yada... never say never [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:47 AM Flag
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The dh was previously married and had a 3yo from 1st marriage. They (friend + divorced guy) had two additional kids and the rest is history. He’s also an amazing dh btw [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:48 AM Flag
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How did they meet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:03 AM Flag
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I’m responder above. I’m just reporting the facts and negating or’s sentiment to “never ever”, as she’s implying that op would be making a terrible mistake. If anything, isn’t it my DF that’s the gross one? I don’t think she’s gross. I think she considers herself very lucky. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:14 PM Flag
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Ewww. You’re kind of gross. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:30 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.12.19, 01:22 AM Flag
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You aren't thinking about the life of that first child! That's the casualty here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:41 PM Flag
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No date men in their early 30s that want to get married and have dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:22 AM Flag
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No, maybe if you're still single in 10 years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:25 AM Flag
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I married a divorced man with 2 children (very screwed up too) when I was 23. Biggest mistake of my life. Run away now! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:28 AM Flag
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Seconding. Except I did this at the OP's age. Run OP, RUN! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:46 AM Flag
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not really, but with that said, my df married a divorced man with a 3 year old and they then went on to have their own children and I think have been married for like 16-17 years now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:31 AM Flag
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Better to date w no kids but I wouldn’t rule them out. PS, I met my husband at 32, moved in together 33, engaged 34, married 35, got pregnant on the honeymoon, first kid at 35, second kid at 37. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:38 AM Flag
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You’re my twin. Almost. Moved in and engaged 34, married 35 pregnant on honeymoon, second 39. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 03:50 AM Flag
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One of my best friends married a divorced guy with kids when she was 36. I think he was 43. One of the happiest couple I know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:41 AM Flag
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How old were kids? What was the custody set up? Pre nup? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:46 AM Flag
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No prenup. She makes way more money btw. Kid were school age. Every other weekend/one night a week custody. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:01 AM Flag
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This type of custody is rare these days. And, I would be wary of any man okay with this kind of arrangement. Very old school and shows dad doesn't feel the need to be very involved. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 06:23 PM Flag
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I don’t believe this at all. Lots of men still do this arrangement esp if the mom doesn’t work. It is sort of selfish otherwise. And many moms that I know perfect to have more than 50% even if they do work because it helps to manage school etc. like I know a mom who does every other weekend with ex (fri/sat/sun) but then the ex only has Wednesday night during the week instead of having two nights. It works for them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 09:06 PM Flag
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Very few divorced moms who don’t need to work [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.12.19, 01:15 AM Flag
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Yes, why not? They've figured out what DIDN'T work out and aren't going to BS around so much because they don't have the same time as a single guy wo kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:58 AM Flag
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:17 AM Flag
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OP: Thank you to everyone who has responded. The man who is interested in dating me is 35, seemingly wonderful, and wants more kids (he has a four yo daughter)... but I just feel very concerned, especially since I was a child of divorce and remember very clearly how awful it was to deal with my father's girlfriends. Still, this man seems special so I was thinking about giving it a chance. But sounds like I should probably steer clear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:02 AM Flag
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Don’t get advice on here about this! Ask people in your real life. Date this guy and see what happens. Someone should not be ruled or because they are divorced with a kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:08 AM Flag
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This. My dad was divorced and had custody of me. His new wife eventually became my adoptive mom. I love her very much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:13 AM Flag
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Unfortunately all of my friends in real life tell me that I am crazy to even consider dating him--just bc of the child, there are no other red flags and they like him otherwise. So there's definitely a consensus. It's just been so tough for me to find someone who I really like that I think on some level I am looking for reasons to give it a shot, against my better judgment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:14 AM Flag
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This is weird. I posted above about my friend. None of us even gave his divorced with a kid status a second thought. I can’t imagine why people would be so focused on that. It is not uncommon at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:16 AM Flag
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Just make sure to be honest with yourself that there are no other issues that you are pushing to the side. Does he disappear when things get rough (like when having a young child?)? Why did he divorce? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:18 AM Flag
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Try steptalk instead [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 05:24 AM Flag
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That website is horrible. I wouldn’t recommend that to anyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:39 PM Flag
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UB recommended to me. I'm glad I checked it out, wished I had before marrying a divorcee. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 05:56 PM Flag
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I would def go on some dates and def don’t meet the daughter unless it becomes serious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:20 AM Flag
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Honestly finding good men in this city is such a nightmare if you like each other and no other red flags. Young enough to start over. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:10 PM Flag
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men aren't special [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:27 PM Flag
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Hell, no. You'll always be 2nd best. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:11 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 05:25 AM Flag
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no, you dont "have" to ..yet. if in late 30's maybe, but no way you are too young to now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:53 AM Flag
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Give it a try. The stats are high about meeting a divorced person at this point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 03:21 AM Flag
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Divorced doesn’t require a child or more [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 05:25 AM Flag
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34F in nyc here. My friends and I generally don’t consider men with kids since there are so many never-married men here well into their 40s. That said, if the right divorced dad came along, I’d reluctantly consider it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 04:22 AM Flag
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Emphasis on the reluctant [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 05:24 AM Flag
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not yet. if you are single at 38, yes. You still have a few years before you need to go that route which is way more complicated. Focus on men your age who re ready to settle down. Honestly, i know its judgemental, but i think a divorced man with small kids is a high-risk bet. Its so hard raising a young child, that basically NO women would want a divorce unless the man were more trouble than he was worth. OR, he bailed because he cant put his own needs aside for his young children. If the kids are older, teens, ok, they tried to make it work, but splitting up when the kid(s) is under 5? A woman who had his own child cant live with him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:52 PM Flag
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That's a very good take. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 03:22 PM Flag
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What if the kids are teens? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 05:56 PM Flag
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Totally this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 06:23 PM Flag
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Divorced men with young children should not be getting serious in any case, and you should not be thinking about having children with these types of men. If the kids are older or you are willing to play second fiddle for years AND do not want children, then consider it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:39 PM Flag
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I was widowed young and married a divorced dad with a child more than 20 years ago, no regrets. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 06:00 PM Flag
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NO. Men in this situation want a woman to come in and handle all the shit their wives used to handle. Also, you'd be dealing with a messy dynamic. And someone divorced with young kids tells me that he wasn't really committed to trying to make it work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 06:22 PM Flag
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Sure, why not? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 07:37 PM Flag
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lmao. ready every other reply above! hahaha [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 08:38 PM Flag
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at 32 you would be throwing in the towel. of course he looks good. he already fooled one woman into having his baby. imagibe him leaving you with a 5 year old, or why youd want to divorce with one even younger. Or do you think they just "grew apart". You are asking for a mess. every Christmas, Thanksgiving will be a nightmare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 08:40 PM Flag
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if you are 40, fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 08:41 PM Flag
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be very careful. MANY do not want to re-marry and will string you along forever. BTDT (although I too have kids). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 09:31 PM Flag
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Are you in NYC (or other big city where people marry/have kids later than average)? If so, hell no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.12.19, 01:23 AM Flag
[ - ] WWYD: I was offered job A but really want job B (and think I have good chances of getting it). However they’re dragging their feet so I’ve accepted job A. I think I can drag out start date of job A until I hear back from job B. Then if I get an offer, I will withdraw my acceptance of job A. How bad is this idea? Any thoughts on how to deal with this greatly appreciated. TIA. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:56 AM Flag
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Worked for me. I explained that it was a once in a lifetime opportunity, which didn’t appease A, but didn’t completely burn the bridge. Job B turned out to be amazing. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:50 AM Flag
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Have you told job B that you have a solid offer from job A with a deadline to respond but that job B is your first choice? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:50 AM Flag
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+1 - Use your voice, call job B and let them know you're interested with an offer in your hand that you need to act on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:50 PM Flag
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just tell job b that they have to decide bc you have other offer. this is so easy why are you wondering what to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:04 AM Flag
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Blah blah blahhhhh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:24 AM Flag
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Depends on how small your industry is but generally speaking, most employers will be annoyed but get over it. It happens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Spoiler alert: vent. There's a never ending list of domestic shit to do. Since my name isn't on title of this house I have less incentive to do said shit. Also I modify my behaviour anytime I'm asked - like reducing how much recycling and trash I make - after the title owner educated me on plastic island and you can imagine the rest of that interlude. There is a particular chore that the title owner claimed (taking the trash and recycling to the street, which is a 20 minute walk), and has stopped me from doing, but guess what? It's been since June (the last time I did it), that chore has reached a crisis level, and now I am being asked? told? to do it. WWYD? (A) STFU and do it. Enabling codependency. Slippery slope to continued miscommunication, poor boundaries, etc. Tell myself I like, no need, the physical exercise. (B) Play dumb. Don't do it. Pretend I'm a man and I'm oblivious and it just slipped my mind/awareness. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:42 AM Flag
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...what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:50 AM Flag
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Are you drunk? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:56 AM Flag
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OP not yet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:45 AM Flag
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Yes, exactly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:09 AM Flag
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Definitely B. Sounds like a messed up relationship. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:28 AM Flag
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OP thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 05:26 AM Flag
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So you say you hate your in-laws but live in their hose anyway for the financial benefits... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 08:24 AM Flag
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OP no I didn't say that, but if you want to hijack: plenty of UBers 'hate' their jobs (or their attitude that you construe here as hate is on par) and yet "for the financial benefits..." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 05:57 PM Flag
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Is Title Owner your DH, your parent or your in-law? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:17 PM Flag
[ - ] So for 9 months I have been suffering at a job which could be an absolute dream job. However - I was hired at a low level, despite 15 years of experience; I have a lousy title; I am not allowed to make independent decisions just execute what HQ tells me; I have an annoying colleague whose work I constantly review; I am building up the entire department and fixing my colleague’s mistakes from years ago (so much work!). A recruiter emailed me with a job opening. Should I look I to it? Or should I wait to get my bonus (February) before I start looking elsewhere? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:55 PM Flag
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February is six months away almost as long as you’ve been working [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:59 PM Flag
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If you don’t think there’s any harm in looking then interview and line up another offer before counting your eggs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:59 PM Flag
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The company won’t wait for me for 5-6 mo the though, that’s for sure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:01 AM Flag
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^ I am almost certain there is no overlap. Completely different industries and geographical. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:02 AM Flag
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Always look at a job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:00 AM Flag
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If you’re the same poster who keeps posting about your colleague situation, please dear god, yes, go for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:03 AM Flag
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Yes I am the same poster. I think you’re telling me to go for the job because you’re so sick of my posts already! [ Reply | More
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It’s a two prong thing: that was my original advice and now I just desperately want it to stop! [ Reply | More
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Yes I know there was a poster who told me from the beginning that I should look for something else. It must have been you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:06 AM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:44 AM Flag
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Tolerance is low to no tolerance. Their solutions for most marriages is divorce. Which is opting out of problem solving. Consider the source. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:06 AM Flag
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OR: I’ve been married for 29 years. No, I’m not the one who tells people to get divorced unless that is the only option. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:08 AM Flag
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:11 AM Flag
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IKR? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 05:26 AM Flag
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You can use that offer (if you get one) to ask for a raise. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:36 AM Flag
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STFU with all your job hating posts. Who the F cares? Not I. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:00 AM Flag
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np: so move on. this is this poster's problem. who is to say her problem is less worthy of attention than someone else's problem. you're a jerk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:41 AM Flag
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Absolutely look into it. If you get it, you can worry about whether to take it (sounds like it) or stay for bonus. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:21 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm bored and want some fun sites to skim through. Any suggestions? lighthearted stuff... 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:42 PM Flag
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www.reddit.com/r/humansbeingbros www.reddit.com/r/aninmalsbeingbros www.reddit.com/r/aww [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:47 PM Flag
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you can usually follow links in those longer stories [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:47 PM Flag
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thanks - I usually avoid reddit because most of the sub redds seem to be populated by basement dwelling misogynists. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:51 PM Flag
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This seems serious. Wow thank you Which sub redds do you mingle with people? I wart to know so to cancel my scorpion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:56 PM Flag
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I ask because of the turkey carcass. WE surely don't want that happening again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:56 PM Flag
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Wow, sorry I missed THAT thread! [ Reply | More
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Not the ones I'm in. There are thousands of subs. I think a troll's on this thread though. [ Reply | More
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There are literally thousands of subreddits and people all over the world using them. I use the Excel and TEFL subs, and since everyone there is there for professional reasons, there are never any trolls. [ Reply | More
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NP Love these and eye bleach and dad reflexes. Also oddly satisfying is sort of meditative. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:23 AM Flag
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+1 I know I’m supposed to get these suggestions from twitter but I just hang out on The Old Internet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:51 PM Flag
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Do you read the Cut, on nymag.com? Fashion, frivolity, also feminism, https://www.thecut.com/ [ Reply | More
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My fav Reddit thread is still the ‘we want plates’ one. There’s also a ‘we want cups’ one too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:11 AM Flag
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The Onion and clickbait. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:23 AM Flag
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Try from Berkshire to Buckingham - all about Kate and fun! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:28 AM Flag
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If you like dogs, dog shaming.com. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:31 AM Flag
[ - ] DD applying to private HS in NYC. Which schools ask about parents’ educational background? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 09.10.19, 11:31 PM Flag
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:33 PM Flag
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Duh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:38 PM Flag
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Tell us where you're applying and we’ll tell you what we know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:41 PM Flag
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Dalton and Saint Ann’s. Dd at k-12 downtown, so not looking at many. Thinking that Saint Anna is the type of school that wouldn’t care about parent’s educational background but would care about their current professions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:49 PM Flag
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You're insane. I can't name a single kid in my DC's class at Saint Ann's who does not have a parent with a HYP degree. With the sole exception being the DC of a very, very famous actress. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:18 PM Flag
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This. The current professions are flashy, but that doesn't mean they don't have ivy degrees. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:22 PM Flag
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Just filled out Trinity app for HS and they did not ask. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:42 PM Flag
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That’s bc they know all about you already. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:42 PM Flag
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Good luck to your DC!!! Make sure you've already registered for the ISEE! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:07 AM Flag
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You can lie. No one checks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:53 AM Flag
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Really dumb move [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:00 AM Flag
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Applied last year for 9. I think all - or almost all - asked about parent education. However, that matters a whole lot less than it does for K. Fwiw, dd got into TT and both parents went to undergrad at not exciting state universities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 06:13 AM Flag
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All of them, and there's also google. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:08 PM Flag
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The parents' educational background and career path is the best predictor of where a child will go and what s/he will do. Why wouldn't they ask that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:39 PM Flag
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i dont know how it is now, but i went to a TT NYC. They asked for my parents educational info (both attended public schools, neither went to college). It must not have mattered. I do wonder how I got in, but my parents think it's because I could read at age 3, and they were in the arts (not famous tho). Obviously, if the parents went to prep school/Ivys, it indicates that they would be a more obvious fit, and are sure bets when it comes to exmissions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:59 PM Flag
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You'd have been the first generation college graduate which is a huge legs up (a real rarity!) among NYC private school students. Good for you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 03:16 PM Flag
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All of them: legacy acceptances to certain colleges reflect well on the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:00 PM Flag
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I’m surprised that Trinity doesn’t ask for parental educational background. Their college list is so impressive so I would have thought that legacy status played a part. But I guess not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 03:05 PM Flag
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(Trinity is a very fine school, but please bear in mind that all schools will include a school on their college list if a graduate went there. Ever.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 03:12 PM Flag
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schools care for 2 reasons: legacy and first generation college kids. dh graduated from top college and i went to a no-name one but Ivy for grad school. it is their attempt to game college admissions. a # of DCs at DC's school went to HYPSM and nearly all their parents are alum, so clearly on schools' radars. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 03:37 PM Flag
[ - ] So busy with work and my dcs that I am somewhat clueless when it comes to fashion these days. So please help me out. Is it okay to wear white now that the weather is still decent but it’s after Labor Day? What are some other popular colors now? TIA. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:05 PM Flag
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I think white jeans fine, but I wouldn’t wear a white summary dress. The are a lot of transitional dark color, but light fabric clothes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:18 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:23 PM Flag
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The only rule these days: there are no rules. FWIW, I work at Conde Nast and many a white dress is still gracing the halls [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:55 PM Flag
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I'm still wearing white jeans [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:08 AM Flag
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Dd wore frilly white sundress to church this past weekend. It was warm. Who cares. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:12 AM Flag
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+1. It will hot tomorrow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 03:15 AM Flag
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Navy. Classic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:18 AM Flag
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Where what you like. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 08:27 AM Flag
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You may wear white whenever you wish. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:08 PM Flag
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^^I'm wearing tights and a white sweatshirt right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:31 PM Flag
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The best advice I ever saw here was to dress for the weather not the calendar. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 06:25 PM Flag
[ - ] I have practiced law for 12 years and been miserable the entire time. It’s not that my job is particularly stressful, I just find it very boring. I work in-house and make $155k (plus bonus). Ideas for non-lawyer job that would pay similar? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 10:53 PM Flag
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Kindergarten teacher? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:00 PM Flag
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Har har hardy har har! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:20 PM Flag
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You're laughingbut teachers on LI come pretty close to that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:23 PM Flag
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Kindergarten teachers on LI make close to 155k? Which district and after how many years? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:25 PM Flag
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here...filter bu district. For example, median in jerichi is 145k https://www.seethroughny.net/teacher_pay [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:31 PM Flag
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That doesn't show grade level or how many years it takes. OP won't walk into a job tomorrow as a kindergarten teacher making 155k. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:34 PM Flag
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Of course not. No need to be so exacting, geez. The point was the teachers make more than you think [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:40 PM Flag
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Yes, I think we're all well aware that teachers in certain areas can do well. What an odd post to pick to make this point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:45 PM Flag
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I was responding to the laughter. Anyway, you're the type of poster that's truly irritating.Don't really feel like interacting with you anymore. Gots to go now. Bye, Felicia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:46 PM Flag
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OK, we won't miss your nonsensical advice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:47 PM Flag
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I've been writing for a financial services firm for 18 years and make $150k+ including bonus plus stocks. I have flexibility to come/go for school drop-offs and appointments as long as work is completed. I can also work from home twice a week, though I usually go into the office since I find it preferable. I probably work closer to 30 hrs a week on average. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:10 PM Flag
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This sounds awesome! What do you write? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:01 AM Flag
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I enjoy the work, people, and day to day. It also keeps me plugged into the world, as I’m always researching a variety of industries. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:58 PM Flag
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What kind of writing? Marketing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:01 AM Flag
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Not marketing. Reports on companies for banks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:55 PM Flag
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Doctor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:23 PM Flag
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I think you can still be a lawyer but you need to find a practice area that you care about. I’m in construction and there’s never a dull day. Plus, a lot of characters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:29 PM Flag
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hahaha, I know the character part is true. My BIL works in construction and has the best stories! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:02 AM Flag
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This. Data privacy and media/entertainment are two practice areas undergoing a lot of change. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 03:48 AM Flag
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OP: data privacy interests me. Can you advise on how to get foot in the door? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:50 PM Flag
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You are in NYC? That seems extremely low. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:57 PM Flag
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That's within range of average for her experience. There are almost 60,000 lawyers practicing in NYC. Not everyone works for Big Law or maintains a general counsel position in a big company. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:24 PM Flag
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I'm a paralegal and make the same base as you, probably smaller bonus. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:15 PM Flag
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And this is the insanity of the legal industry. An in-demand paralegal makes as much as an attorney b/c of market over-saturation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone here had a career setback and come back from it? I would love to hear success stories! 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 09:29 PM Flag
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Yes. Was demoted (and bullied) when I returned from maternity leave. I tuned out all the politics and noise and just remained focused. The bullying boss left after about a year, I got a new boss who gave me tremendous opportunity and a lot of exposure to upper management. My confidence soared and I eventually left to start my own business, and the upper management of this company is a large client. I am making great money, work mostly from home and have a lot of time for my kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 10:03 PM Flag
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Wow congrats ! What industry ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 10:36 PM Flag
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Finance [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 10:45 PM Flag
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that's great! op here and am hovering on the precipice of starting my own business (the last thing I did i essentially started and ran it but for someone else) but my confidence is in shreds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 11:31 PM Flag
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How much time do you have? Every job I’ve ever had has had major setbacks. The win is that I’m still here. From awful bosses to awful Co workers to awful projects. And I still am here! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 10:10 PM Flag
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Also showing resilience is a huge thing to demonstrate for your kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 10:12 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 10:45 PM Flag
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Me too still here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 10:36 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:44 AM