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Dear UrbanBaby community,

Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

If you have any questions or concerns, you can email us at urbanbaby-support@cbsinteractive.com.

Thanks so much,

UrbanBaby Support

[ - ] I'll risk being accused of spam but I just bought the BusyBodyBook planner. It's the greatest. Highly reccomend. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 08.17.07, 12:11 PM Flag
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what's so great about it and where did you get it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.17.07, 12:11 PM Flag
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The way it's set up...check it out http://www.busybodybook.com/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.17.07, 12:13 PM Flag
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tell me more. I love planners [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.17.07, 12:12 PM Flag
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I've bought so many of them and this is the best so far. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.17.07, 12:13 PM Flag
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going to check it out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.17.07, 12:13 PM Flag
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you should look at a mom/graphic designer's site for her planner/calendar combo - too lazy to post URL, but search "erin condren" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.17.07, 12:23 PM Flag
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www.erincondren.com The best personalized planners, hands down. I'm on my 4th year of ordering one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.09.14, 06:40 PM Flag
[ - ] thinking of relocating to charlotte, nc, anyone been there or lived there? what's it like? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 08.16.07, 10:54 AM Flag
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We have family there. Living is much cheaper. Be careful with school choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.16.07, 10:55 AM Flag
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is it a nice place to live? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.16.07, 10:56 AM Flag
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BIL & SIL seem very happy. Weather is good---super hot this summer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.16.07, 10:56 AM Flag
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Charter schools are a good option. Cost of living is low. Work hours are much better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.13.14, 12:38 AM Flag
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Everything closes at 6pm. Not a lot of good restaurants. Social base for most ppl is their church. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.16.07, 10:56 AM Flag
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I disagree. Uptown closes early, since it's mostly offices. You can find lots of great small, good restaurants in the different neighborhoods [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.16.07, 10:58 AM Flag
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Okay, we can agree to disagree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.16.07, 10:59 AM Flag
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DP? is that you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.16.07, 10:56 AM Flag
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lived in Raleigh area for a couple years. cost of living is great. the schools in the nicer newer burbs are usually good, it's when you move further "out in the country" they can be dicey. There are lots of charter/magnet schools though which gives a lot of choices. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.16.07, 10:57 AM Flag
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^^tons of northerners down there too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.16.07, 10:59 AM Flag
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I have in-laws there too. A lot of Long Islanders down there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.16.07, 10:58 AM Flag
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Really? What town? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.16.07, 10:59 AM Flag
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Indian Trail [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.16.07, 11:00 AM Flag
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it is VERY pretty, but very southern in attitude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.16.07, 11:13 AM Flag
[ - ] Looking for cool art/ wall decor to put on nursery wall. Nothing too cheesy baby. Suggestions? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.10.07, 11:48 AM Flag
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check out rosenberryrooms [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.07, 11:52 AM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.07, 11:56 AM Flag
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Try http://www.splashwallart.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.25.13, 08:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Prettiest nickname you've heard recently for a dd? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.10.07, 09:47 AM Flag
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Lily [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.07, 09:47 AM Flag
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Why thank you (this name so often gets flamed) :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.07, 09:48 AM Flag
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I like it, too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.07, 09:50 AM Flag
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Talia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.07, 09:47 AM Flag
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np: that is very pretty [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.07, 09:48 AM Flag
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love the name talia, nn tali [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.07, 09:48 AM Flag
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OR: in this case the name is Natalia and the nn is Talia but I see your point [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.07, 09:49 AM Flag
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i hadn't thought of that. very pretty name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.07, 09:50 AM Flag
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Nickname? Like pumpkin? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.07, 09:47 AM Flag
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how do you know it's not the actual name these days? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.07, 09:48 AM Flag
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Annie [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.07, 09:48 AM Flag
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love the name annie [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.07, 09:52 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.14.14, 11:41 PM Flag
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Nelly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.07, 09:50 AM Flag
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nanie [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.07, 09:50 AM Flag
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Jo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.07, 09:53 AM Flag
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Gracie [ Reply | More
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Bella [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.25.17, 03:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Think there is confusion on this board about private schools. These are not all 'society' schools and the top two could not be further from that. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.11.07, 02:22 PM Flag
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Which top two? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.07, 02:25 PM Flag
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Brearley and Collegiate. Two of the best in the country [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.07, 02:29 PM Flag
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No one ever said Brearley and Collegiate were society schools but there are society schools here, like Chapin and Dalton [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.07, 02:27 PM Flag
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There are plenty of Brearley girls and Collegiate boys at Knickerbocker Cotillion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.07, 02:29 PM Flag
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that has nothing to do with anything, the schools themselves are NOT for or filled with or picked to include society people. end of story. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.07, 02:30 PM Flag
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Why do so many of them go then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.07, 02:32 PM Flag
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go where? who? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.07, 02:32 PM Flag
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To Knickerbocker. Are they doing a social studies report? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.07, 02:33 PM Flag
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are you without any power of relative thinking? the post says that the two schools do not court society types. They look for brains. There are some society people who are bright you do realize. And knickerbocker is hardly society any longer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.07, 02:36 PM Flag
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I'm just messing with you. You have no sense of humor at all, you know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.07, 02:38 PM Flag
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No I do. I have had a looong day but I thank you for thee cajoling! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.07, 02:39 PM Flag
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On the boys side, St. B's and Buckley were always considered the society schools. I think the confusion is betweem society and tt. I would consider Collegiate and Brearley to be tt, but not society schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.07, 02:53 PM Flag
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2 kids at Dalton. A "society school". You madam are an imbecile. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.07, 03:13 PM Flag
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Where did you get the idea that these were the top two schools? Many would say Trinity is better than these two, and Many would choose Chapin or Spence over Brearley. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.07, 04:42 PM Flag
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LOL. I highly doubt that. Unless they think their daughter can't cut it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.20.13, 08:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Okay, so now in addition to TT schools and pre-schools, people are starting with TT colleges ( I guess we should let the Ivy's know there is a new definition in town) Is there TT camp, swimming lessons, toothpaste? I want dc to live a pure TT life. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.11.07, 12:25 PM Flag
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Of course. TT swim lessons are at the Colony Club. TT toothpaste is Toms of Maine. I don't know the TT camps, but the definitely exist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.07, 12:28 PM Flag
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whew, on hold with the Colony Club, sending the nanny out to replace the Crest. Will wait patiently for camp info to make any necessary changes in summer plans asap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.07, 12:30 PM Flag
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Great. When you come out to the Hamptons, I'll send you the name of the TT swim coach out there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.07, 12:33 PM Flag
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YOU are a lifesaver. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.07, 12:36 PM Flag
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Hamptons is not TT. Obivously. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.31.13, 05:42 PM Flag
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Have fun with that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.31.13, 05:42 PM Flag
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i am TT dad ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.07, 01:20 PM Flag
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He's not. Don't listen to him. He has a teeny tiny weenie. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.07, 01:21 PM Flag
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and that anwers the questions, how? Few on this board agree on everything, but I think all would agree you are creepy Go watch Robin Byrd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.07, 09:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Any Donor Egg moms on? I need some advice 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.14.07, 07:29 PM Flag
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no, but I want to donate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.14.07, 07:32 PM Flag
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i am in the process of choosing an egg donor..hardest thing i have EVER done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.14.07, 07:35 PM Flag
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really? dont put too much into this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.14.07, 07:35 PM Flag
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but choosing my future child's dna is so difficult..you didn't think so? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.14.07, 07:38 PM Flag
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yes - but what are you looking for??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.14.07, 07:38 PM Flag
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i have to ask why adoption isnt an option rather than this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.14.07, 07:39 PM Flag
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Adoption costs the same or more than donor egg (MUCH MUCH more if you do donor egg in Europe--instead of paying $30k+ for adoption you can do donor-egg IVF in the Czech Republic or Spain for $6k-$8k), also donor-egg works much faster. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.17.13, 06:35 PM Flag
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well, i feel strongly about very good mental health, no history of addicition in the family, longeveity and height. the group i'm using allows you to see current photos of the donors so we are getting too caught up in what they look like.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.14.07, 07:40 PM Flag
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i can understand that - but you have to also understand that anyone can have mental health issues - cancer - eye glasses etc etc - choosing an egg doner doesnt mean a perfect baby [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.14.07, 07:43 PM Flag
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i know. it's just overwhelming when you feel that you have a CHOICE as opposed to my egg and dh's sperm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.14.07, 07:43 PM Flag
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why dont you just adopt - isnt that easier? and less expensive? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.14.07, 07:45 PM Flag
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god no. the wait for a domestic, white newborn is FOREVER. spence chapin not even taking new applicants. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.14.07, 07:47 PM Flag
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no kidding - i guess its how much you actually put into it - i adopted three domestic white newborns - one took 8 mths one took 2 yrs and last took 4 mths - you need a good attorney honey [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.14.07, 07:49 PM Flag
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are you the mom in upstate ny? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.14.07, 07:50 PM Flag
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yup [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.14.07, 07:50 PM Flag
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while i'm happy for you, truly, your story seems to be an unusual one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.14.07, 07:51 PM Flag
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thanks- it is unusual - i am a worker -= i wil tell you this - i worked on this at least 40-50 hrs a week - its a full time job - not for the everyone [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.14.07, 07:52 PM Flag
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yes. dh and i just don't have it in us. we are doing the home study and paperwork for adoption while we pursue our gestational suurogacy..if a baby comes up for us first..great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.14.07, 07:54 PM Flag
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good luck - what is right for one isnt right for another - i hope you get your baby!!!!! good luck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.14.07, 07:56 PM Flag
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many thx. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.14.07, 07:57 PM Flag
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xoxoxoxox [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.14.07, 07:57 PM Flag
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I used two different groups. One let you look at photos and the other didn't. We ended up using the one without the photos. We felt it was better not to look at everyone's face like it could be the one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.14.07, 07:54 PM Flag
[ - ] This board has finally convinced me that I do not want my child to go to HYP because the parents of those future HYP kids are head cases!!! ( If UB is any indication) Sorry- I love reading here, but it scares me! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.03.07, 06:58 PM Flag
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I'm not a HYP lover (I'm one of those always posting that I'd rather my child go to a liberal arts college for undergrad) but I've got to say that parents are out of the equation by the time college rolls around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.03.07, 07:02 PM Flag
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good point, score one more for the small liberal arts colleges. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.03.07, 08:22 PM Flag
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Honey, forget about HYP. Worry about the school dc will go to now. Avoid the ones with the hardcore HYP hopefuls is my advice to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.03.07, 07:30 PM Flag
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Op here-I hear you loud and clear! Dc is already in a school that I am happy with. I am not so HYP focussed- went to small liberal arts college where everyone ( including me) had been rejected from H, Y, or P. Brother went ivy and thinks the world owes hi im a living for it. I have been much more "successful" ( happier and more financially secure). Anyway-just happy with the path I took....I hope DC will be happy with his, wherever that may be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.04.07, 07:47 AM Flag
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ITA. They are like robots. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.04.07, 06:21 AM Flag
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The people on here who are so obnoxious are not actually assured of sending their kids to HYP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.04.07, 09:36 AM Flag
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Perfect. Honestly, we don't want your scared types in HYP. It is most competitive schools in the world. (maybe except the top tier ones in china and india). I need my child to have peers who can compete with the best and not scaredy-cats and kittens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.04.13, 04:19 PM Flag
[ - ] what is this hubbub about drummond adding an extra montessori 3-5yo classroom without consulting anyone? for the kids of "Friends of Drummond" or something? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Chicago 04.14.07, 07:58 PM Flag
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as i understand, they are not adding an extra classroom. However, it was not for Friends of Drummond kids, it was because the lottery did not follow the stated % of kids within the neighborhood boundaries. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.15.07, 11:53 AM Flag
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so they were out of compliance with the promixity lottery? Shouldn't they have to redo the entire lottery then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.15.07, 11:56 AM Flag
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that's my understanding of the situation - they didn't meet the proximity %. (I live in the neighborhood, but my child does not go there/we didn't apply, so I don't know the entire story). I don't think they could re-do the lottery (unfair to those admitted), so the new class was suggested. I heard the decision was not to add the class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.15.07, 11:59 AM Flag
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Well, we also live within the proximity boundaries, but we did apply and were flat out rejected, not even waitlisted. I am curious how they are going to rectify the situation, as the waitlist contains both neighborhood and non-neighborhood kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.15.07, 12:04 PM Flag
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^^^actually after reading this article, it kinda makes me glad that I didn't get in. Talking about possibly a second lottery or federal courts decided who ends up getting admitted. Happy to steer clear of that mess! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.15.07, 12:10 PM Flag
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I haven't heard what they plan to do. I did hear the meeting on Wednesday night was very heated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.15.07, 12:11 PM Flag
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It will be an interesting story to follow, for sure. The results will probably have larger implications for these "magnet cluster" schools city wide (the ones with the proximity lotteries). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.15.07, 12:17 PM Flag
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That's not possible. EVERY applicant gets a waitlist number. It may be ridiculously high but EVERY applicant gets one unless they screwed up your application and left that school off your list. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.04.15, 04:26 AM Flag
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ita. I saw that article in the Chicago Journal....did the president of FOD's kid not get in, or something? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.15.07, 11:55 AM Flag
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Is that the Bucktown/Wicker Park paper? What did the article say? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.15.07, 12:00 PM Flag
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here's the link http://www.chicagojournal.com/main.asp?SectionID=25&TM=52739.16 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.15.07, 12:05 PM Flag
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This is B.S.! I live in the neighborhood, but I don't feel it's right to add the extra classroom (and I was waitlisted). The $$$ to start the montessori in the first place came from a federal grant, so I think it's completely unfair to allow this man lation by that Friends of Drummond group. I know many of them, and have to say: loons! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.15.07, 03:53 PM Flag
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The principal is an idiot for not letting in the most active families. Ted Matlak is desperate about losing his job Tuesday and is doing whatever he can to get votes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.15.07, 05:04 PM Flag
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ITA! You really have to wonder why she didn't. Perhaps she agrees with the poster above you....loons. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.15.07, 06:08 PM Flag
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Because CPS has strict oversight on this sort of thing now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.04.15, 04:27 AM Flag
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That is NOT how lotteries are supposed to work, so the principal is right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.15.07, 06:08 PM Flag
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My son got in. I am declinging. I did not hear about this happening. So one spot has opened up. We also received our letter last week. A little late huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.15.07, 07:09 PM Flag
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Just curious....do you live in the nabe? Maybe you got one of the new spots, hence the late letter? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.15.07, 07:14 PM Flag
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I won't be specific, but I know a LP family who is using a friend's address so their kids can go to Drummond. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.12.13, 10:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Who wants to talk NPN? Bernadette is over 1400 posts. Any threads you've enjoyed following lately? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Chicago 04.08.07, 08:01 PM Flag
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why are you obsessed with NPN? I find these posts disturbing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.08.07, 08:03 PM Flag
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it has been WEEKS since we talked about NPN here. how are we obsessed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.08.07, 08:04 PM Flag
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lol.. were you chomping at the bit for the two week break to end? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.07, 12:14 PM Flag
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I was unaware we were on an official two week break. Were we? lol! Is that why nobody has posted about npn? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.07, 04:55 PM Flag
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no- they are making fun of you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.07, 06:13 PM Flag
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I was not the original poster. I am a np. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.07, 08:45 PM Flag
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i'm pretty much over npn since finding urban baby [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.08.07, 08:03 PM Flag
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it doesn't seem like Chicago board is any more active than it's ever been, though. did you find ub from the npn posts about it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.08.07, 08:05 PM Flag
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no a friend told me about it some time ago. not sure how she found it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.08.07, 08:06 PM Flag
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i do think npn is better for local questions [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.08.07, 08:07 PM Flag
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I think npn has more stable people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.08.07, 10:13 PM Flag
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i think the chicago board is more active -- only because UB made searching a pain for a day or so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.08.07, 10:15 PM Flag
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I think Bern should consider replacing CH. She is full of advice...I don't know where she finds the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.07, 11:49 AM Flag
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While we are at it-Jac is back and not using her name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.07, 01:30 PM Flag
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seriously? she posted a while back that it was cowardly not to use your name! what is her ID -- not than you can't tell it's her by her terrible grammar and run-on sentences [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.07, 01:38 PM Flag
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If that is the case then why do you have to ask what her ID is? If her grammer and run on sentences are so bad then you would just know right? According to your theory that is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.07, 04:40 PM Flag
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i haven't been on npn for a few days [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.07, 04:47 PM Flag
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Well neither have I and I really could careless. I find it amusing that she has such a spell on you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.07, 04:52 PM Flag
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Oh I am so excited. Jac is back, Jac is back. I really would like to meet her in real life. I bet she is a lot of fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.07, 04:41 PM Flag
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np: I think I would too and I sincerely mean that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.07, 04:53 PM Flag
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why? you want to meet her "girls"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.07, 06:04 PM Flag
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I wish I knew who you were because I would beyotch slap you. What wrong with you? Someone said that on the NY board the other day. I was surprised at the difference in the reaction. What do you call your breast? Tits? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.07, 08:48 PM Flag
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omg. please relax. jac calls her own boobs "the girls" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.07, 06:32 AM Flag
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by even saying this you are trying to stir something up. Who cares what she calls her boobs. They are her breast and not your she can call them what she wants. This is officially the UB playground. I will let you know when nap time is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.07, 07:03 AM Flag
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well then send her a message through npn boards - it's weird for you to daydream about this here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.07, 11:06 AM Flag
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I think she's leaving NPN for good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.02.14, 10:29 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone have dc switch to thumb-sucking after taking the pacifier away? age 2-ish? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 04.08.07, 07:23 PM Flag
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General Topics 04.08.07, 07:24 PM Flag
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never switched to thumb - thought she would [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.08.07, 07:24 PM Flag
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i still secretly suck my thumb when stressed and I'm 34. It's too difficult to get them to stop. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.08.07, 07:25 PM Flag
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lord. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.08.07, 07:26 PM Flag
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Yep, that's what happened to me, and at age 2 also! I still suck my thumb and I'm an adult. I seriously wonder what would have happened if the pacifier wasn't "lost". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.19.13, 03:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Is Penn one of those schools that isn't exactly prestegious, but some very competitive students wind up going there? 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 04.07.07, 01:05 PM Flag
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It's Ivy, isn't it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:06 PM Flag
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yeah, but I don't really put it up there with Harvard. Maybe that's just me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:06 PM Flag
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no, it's not just you. It's nowhere near as prestigious as Harvard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:07 PM Flag
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:09 PM Flag
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U Penn is, but not Penn State [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:15 PM Flag
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I think its pretty prestigous [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:06 PM Flag
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Isn't Penn an ivy league college? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:06 PM Flag
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yes, it is. But that doesn't mean that it's as selective as some better schools (Williams, Amherst, and the other ivies). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:07 PM Flag
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more selective than Cornell, Dartmouth and some other ivies as well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:10 PM Flag
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Please. Dartmouth? Irritating people go there, but the smarter kids go there, as opposed to the kids who go to Penn. You've got to be kidding yourself. You must be a Penn alumni, who like most of them, is quite insecure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:11 PM Flag
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I'm not. They're supposed to be insecure? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:11 PM Flag
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np: it's alumnus or alumna. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:13 PM Flag
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They usually seem more driven than insecure. Cornell and Penn grads don't seem overly focused on th eschool they went to unlike the kids wo go to school in Boston who mention it every 5 minutes. I know 60 year olds that do this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.25.17, 03:57 PM Flag
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no way it's as selective or prestigious at Dartmouth (i'm not affiliated in any way with either school, by the way). i'd say it's about equivalent to Cornell in those respects. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:13 PM Flag
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Dartmouth isn't as competitive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:14 PM Flag
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you must be Penn-affiliated if you think that. my dh and i are both HYP, and Penn students were never considered as bright as Dartmouth ones (or Brown or Columbia, for that matter). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:15 PM Flag
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Do you realize that you sound ridiculous? np, btgw [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:18 PM Flag
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It is clearly as selective as Dartmouth. C'mon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.29.13, 04:28 AM Flag
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it's an ivy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:06 PM Flag
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That is a PERFECT description. The kids from my high school who got in were not the brightest of the brightest, but super-competitive, gunner-types, who couldn't get into Harvard, Yale, Princeton, Columbia, Brown, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:06 PM Flag
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It is easily as hard to get in as Brown and Columbia. There are only a certain number of spots at Y, P and H. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:09 PM Flag
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No way as hard to get into as Brown and Columbia. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:10 PM Flag
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More competitive than Columbia. Maybe on par with Brown. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:11 PM Flag
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np: these #s change year to year [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:12 PM Flag
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this is true. When I was in college (early 90s), Brown and Dartmouth were the flunky ivies. They are all good, and Penn is prestigious, even if it is ranked 10 this year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:14 PM Flag
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Penn or Penn State? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:07 PM Flag
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Penn [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:09 PM Flag
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Penn is the best undergrad B-school in the country (and perhaps the world). It is prestigious. You must be one of those fools confusing it with Penn State. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:08 PM Flag
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I went to Penn, and they sold t-shirts that said "not Penn State." Funny thing is, I ended up going to grad school at Penn state. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:09 PM Flag
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nobody's gonna jump on the typo? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:09 PM Flag
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no, we're over that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:10 PM Flag
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op: had no idea this was so contentious [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:14 PM Flag
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yes you did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:16 PM Flag
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funny ... Penn grads are always the ones trying to say how their school really is JUST as good as HYP, how they could have gone to HYP "if they wanted to," etc. etc. methinks they doth protest too much. the school is fine but nothing great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:15 PM Flag
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it is the best business school. Maybe second to Harvard, but nothing else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.07, 01:21 PM Flag
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I have never heard that from a Penn grad. In fact, I've seen Penn grads say they consider HYP grads to be more elitist geeks with Princeton being especially boring. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.25.17, 03:55 PM Flag
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Wharton is a top business school- TRUMP is an alumni! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.25.17, 03:35 PM Flag
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Penn is prestigious as an Ivy, but it is not HYP and doesn't pretend to be. Penn is more like a professional or trade school than HYP which are more academic. Penn has some extremely academic departments, but the big draw is professional and pre-professional. Lots of future doctors, lawyer business people and engineers. The student body reflects this so you will find some very competitive students there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.25.17, 03:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone belong to a private club in NYC? 62 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 03.27.07, 11:15 AM Flag
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such as? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:16 AM Flag
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University, Colony, Harmonie, etc... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:16 AM Flag
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New York Health and Racket!!?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:49 AM Flag
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Yale Club and the Junior League [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:16 AM Flag
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sad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:16 AM Flag
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NP - Huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:17 AM Flag
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Junion League - sad attempt at social climbing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:17 AM Flag
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to each her own. signed, NOT a jr .leaguer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:18 AM Flag
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great try...it's actually full of people who help others in need. how much volunteering have you done in the last 5 years? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:18 AM Flag
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I've volunteerred for 10 yrs at the same place...and I don't pay for my friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:21 AM Flag
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sure you have. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:21 AM Flag
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Mom get turned away when she applied? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:22 AM Flag
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guess you weren't in a sorority either? turned away? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:23 AM Flag
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you are so pathetic. you are likening JL to a sorority? You have your prioroties twisted and are actually supporting my position. haha [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:25 AM Flag
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ita with these "turned away?" posts -- really lame. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:27 AM Flag
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really a stupid stupid comment. ppl on here can be shockingly immature. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:23 AM Flag
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I work as an event coordinator for a non-profit, and Absolutely Love my Junior Leaguers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:45 AM Flag
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lol. not an informed post [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:18 AM Flag
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Please. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:18 AM Flag
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ladies, a lot of people grow up outside of NY and have an image of what they want to be, leave her alone, she is trying to reach a goal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:27 AM Flag
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what is growing up outside of NY have to do with the Jr league? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:28 AM Flag
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why is that sad? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:17 AM Flag
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easssyy..... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:17 AM Flag
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Well, we're not Soho House-types! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:18 AM Flag
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Where are you from did you always belong, parents belong? grow up wealthy or just want to play one on tv [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:19 AM Flag
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Didn't realize that this would cause such an uproar! I'm from NYC and my family always belonged to the Yale Club (my dad is an alum -- I'm not). I joined the NYJL after college (and continue to volunteer with them many years later). DH also went to Yale and belonged to the YC before we ever even met. (We use it like people in the burbs use a country club -- we go there for brunch on father's day and for things like that.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:28 AM Flag
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why. with so many wonderful restaurants in nyc do you waste time and money at the yale club. which btw anyone can join [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:30 AM Flag
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OMG. I don't care if it's exclusive or not (and neither does anyone else in my family). Just meant that it's nice to have a "regular" place that can accomodate a big group without a fuss and that is child-friendly and centrally located (for non- NYC relatives) and that will make room for us with short notice (it's a good "fall back"). I know that it's not great food (it's fine), but it works for us. I don't think that this is a big deal (membership) -- was just trying to answer questions. (YC does have other things, too -- children's programming, book club, gym, discounts at other places.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:39 AM Flag
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unless you want a deal on a wedding why join at all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:31 AM Flag
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and a blah one at that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:31 AM Flag
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stuffy and food isn't great. like looking at all the old men? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:33 AM Flag
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hate the Yale club [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:25 AM Flag
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can't believe not one Harvard grad felt the need to say Yale s*cks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:41 AM Flag
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No need to say it, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:42 AM Flag
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fair point [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:43 AM Flag
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Junior League is great in many cities, just not NYC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.31.13, 05:45 PM Flag
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nah. they are silly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:16 AM Flag
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NYJL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:17 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:18 AM Flag
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which one? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:19 AM Flag
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below, forgot to put in original post [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:22 AM Flag
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Colony Club, Cosmopolitan, Vassar Club [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:21 AM Flag
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and how did you get in? (vassar i can figure out) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:23 AM Flag
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Colony and Cosmopolitan through members. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:24 AM Flag
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^^OP if you are looking to join avoid the colony club almost impossible but cosmopolitan flexible and then a college club [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:27 AM Flag
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how to go about joining cosmopolitan? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:29 AM Flag
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you need to seek out an old, long time member. what is your background? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:30 AM Flag
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^^ do you know anyone, not how white are you :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:31 AM Flag
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dh and i both ivy, one lawyer, one finance [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:32 AM Flag
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where are you from? did you go to private in NYC anyone you might know with a connection? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:34 AM Flag
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nope [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:35 AM Flag
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ok why do you want to join? confused [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:36 AM Flag
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looks like a nice place to go for a drink, and thought it would be a good way to meet new people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:38 AM Flag
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There are plenty of more social clubs out there, Cosmopolitan Club is a place where people join to meet with people they already know, not a lot of mixers. Have you searched for clubs that share hobbies you like or your university clubs? I don't really know how unconnected people, you need someone present you, find membership. It must happen, but my advice in that direction is going to be helpful. if you went and saw it you must know someone there right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:44 AM Flag
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yes, but not someone we enjoy seeing. which other clubs would you recommend. already member of our university clubs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:45 AM Flag
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Then I really wouldn't join for that reason. I would ask around to friends you know what if any clubs they belong to. You should know many of the clubs have a closed NYC network attached, don't know why or what the purpose is, but it always turns out t be a we knew someone who was at choate with (____). Tell them you are looking around to join sommewhere go to an event with them. Are you doing this for other reasons? Dcs maybe connections for private ongoing etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:48 AM Flag
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Was thinking of doing it out of curiosity more than anything else. We both liked the idea of somewhere quiet and comfortable to have a drink, maybe chat with people. seems better than going to a bar. certainly not doing it for school connections. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:52 AM Flag
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Pick one a friend belongs to and that is near your work or home. We are near the C Club but my dh hates going, it is really a women's club :-) I would offer to be your sponsor, but of course I don't know you. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:57 AM Flag
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thanks for the offer and the advice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 12:00 PM Flag
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Cornell Club, but only because they offered me a membership after college. We seldom go, but drop in occasionally for a drink or a cup of tea if shopping in the area. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:22 AM Flag
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NY athletic club [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:22 AM Flag
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Cosmopolitan Club and University. Why are you asking OP? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.07, 11:24 AM Flag
[ - ] Any cathedral moms on? What do you think of the head, Marcia Nelson? Has she been good for the school? Are there goals for improvement, and how are they being received by faculty and parents? 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 03.21.07, 07:40 AM Flag
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Haven't heard from Cathedral moms in a while. perhaps they don't exist? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 07:51 AM Flag
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Marsha Nelson, is a vile sociopath that bullies families she does not like by spreading rumors about the children. She is currently under investigation and her behavior towards parents in incomprehensible. She has been the proponent of corruption for years, but this is shortly getting ready to end. Marsha Nelson has no ability to lead ANYTHING...much less a school that is bordering on closing due to lack of funds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.29.13, 03:38 AM Flag
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I really like Marcia and I think she is putting in a lot of effort. But there is an underlying tension between the "old" Cathedral--UWS neighborhood, low-key school-- and the "new" Cathedral--higher academic expectations from the parents, better exmis s, etc. Change requires money, and that is something cathedral does not have in abundance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 08:30 AM Flag
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How does the issue of money contribute to this tension? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 08:31 AM Flag
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Need to build endowment so they can improve facilities, pay teachers more, etc. In order to do so, must admit fewer of the "neighborhood" people and more IBers, biglaw and the like to contribute the funds. Money aside, some of the old school parents don even like the idea of higher academic expectations as they view this as being like those "snooty UES schools" (and implicit in this is the view that their wasy is better). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 08:38 AM Flag
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does that mean more counseling out, brokering, etc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 08:40 AM Flag
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Doesn't seem to. As it is a K-8 there aren't people just lined up to replace kids like a K-12. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 08:46 AM Flag
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have to say, we are in the nabe, and would love that school for many reasons. i think it could be good to work harder on ensuring high level academics and good exmissions. school has a lot of untapped potential. Good bones, as they say. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 08:43 AM Flag
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what are your feelings on SHSH, I think we prefer it for the very things that you discuss which are lacking in Cathedral. Fortunately the religious aspect is a plus for us as well and not a hinderance [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 09:13 AM Flag
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unfortunately, less religion is better for us. Not sure shsh's is better academically or in terms of exmissions. I have heard they are comparable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 09:29 AM Flag
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np: What are the changes that people don't like? i would think they would like higher academics and exmissions? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 08:35 AM Flag
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I am a NP too who lives in the neighborhood and has many friends who send their kids there. I think that the fear is that up until now, Cathedral has been a lovely, low key, community oriented and not "high pressure" but solid academic school. The fear s there will be a push to make it more Trinity-esque, which would change the character of the place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 08:45 AM Flag
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Exactly, expressed it better than I did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 08:47 AM Flag
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but what makes people think that? is it that the parent body is shifting, or are there new policies, approaches that indicate what you are saying? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 08:49 AM Flag
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I think that there is a lot more interest from families outside the neighborhood and it is attracting people who are interested in the more competitive traditional schools, and yes, people with a lot more money who have more of a "consumer" mentality re rding their kids schooling. Whether that is true, I have no idea, but that is the impression. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 08:51 AM Flag
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ITA, Horrace Mann was once a lovely little local, experimental school started by TC [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 09:15 AM Flag
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^^^albeit over 100 years ago [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 09:20 AM Flag
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There is tension between Marsha Nelson and all the families. She has a disconnect with everyone she meets. She will not look you in the eye and refuses to shake your hand. She hides in her office and only emerges to belittle the children. She will spread vicious lies about your family if she does not like you. Nobody stays there for long, including the teachers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.29.13, 03:42 AM Flag
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I'm a "new" Cathedral mom, and I love Marcia. The feel of the school as low-key, community oriented, and family friendly is what led us here. She personified that for us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 09:24 AM Flag
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^^^ and from what I've seen - this holds true for our class. We all want our kids to get a great education, but their approach is unique. I would hate for the school to become a mini-trinity, my friends feel the same. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 09:26 AM Flag
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sounds like you don't think they are making it into a mini- [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 09:30 AM Flag
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Trinity [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 09:30 AM Flag
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I really don't think they are. I think they are seriously looking at general improvements (new playspace, new classes, new lunch program), but education and the way we educate changes, so to keep an open mind is probably a good thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 09:37 AM Flag
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A few years ago Cathedral was described to me by someone at the Parents league as "wanting to be Trinity". As a parent there I would be happy if it was more like Trinity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 10:52 AM Flag
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np: in what way? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 11:01 AM Flag
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More consistent quality of faculty, higher standards for admission, more academic rigor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 11:41 AM Flag
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Trinity parent here: Don't idealize. Trinity has its own problems with quality of faculty, and some of the accepted children are accepted for a variety of reasons--meaning different standards for admission for different folks. As for rigor, that is ce tainly true. I imagine as admissions get tighter everywhere, standards for admissions will rise, but the same priciples for admissions that invite a variety of students will always be at play. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.21.07, 03:07 PM Flag
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I'm not idealizing. This is the perception, however, I agree that standards for admission will rise as things get tighter, but it all takes some time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.22.07, 05:34 AM Flag
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dc with 98 erbs--high 99 verbal accepted, and we will be going have heard others here say dc had high 90s erbs. don't think they are lax admissions standards. know many who wanted cathedral with high erbs, and were w/l'd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.22.07, 02:12 PM Flag
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That is quite recent. It is not the case in the upper grades. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.26.07, 01:50 PM Flag
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maybe. but it does seem to be true now. admissions are tighter, schools are competing and times are changing. Kids at these so called 2nd tier schools are as qualified as those at tt schools. Especially if the school is popular, such as cathedral. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.26.07, 02:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Honest question: why do people assume it's automatically a bad thing when a school recommends a child for OT, speech or a SEIT? Isn't it better to get intervention while DC is still in nursery school? 47 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 03.06.07, 04:56 AM Flag
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Well, people don't automatically assume its a bad thing. But they do question the schools that do this to a degree that does not line up statistically. KWIM? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 04:57 AM Flag
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OK. And I agree that there might be a tendency to "overdiagnose." Just surprised that some schools on the board are denounced with such vitriol--it's not like they're recommending a course of drug therapy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:00 AM Flag
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You haven't been there. When a school decides that your chid needs a SEIT (and wrongly so) there is NOTHING you can do. It is a terrible experience for the parents and the child. If you knew someon who went thru this, or had done it yourself then you would understand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:02 AM Flag
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it is a horrible experience for most parents because they canot face the truth, they choose to bury their heads in the sand [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:04 AM Flag
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OK, if you say that there is not a problem with overdx in this country, it must be true. Thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:05 AM Flag
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sure, but not EVERY school overdiagnoses EVEY child and yet I have never met a parent who didn't scream fro the hilltops that it was a misdiagnosis. you do the math. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:07 AM Flag
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apparently you already have. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:10 AM Flag
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look, not trying to be nasty here, it is just common sense. I don't want to think anything but wonderful things about ds, because I thnk hes wonderful because he is mine, but when I think with my head and not my heart I understand he cannot possibly be s perfect as I think he is [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:11 AM Flag
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But that doesn't mean he needs therapy, either. That's what we are saying, which you obviously cannot accept [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:49 AM Flag
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Thanks. I'm not here to argue, and you're right, I haven't been there, which is why I asked the question. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:06 AM Flag
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It's a terrible thing to stigmatize a child. A child should ONLY be given a SEIT because there is need not because the school has an agenda and needs an extra pair of hands in the classroom. Schools need to be held accountable too for their referrals and at the moment they are not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.28.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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we felt pressured by our private to go through testing for our DS, and they tried all sorts of things in the classroom. turns out he was a wiggly 4 yo who is just fine at 6, at a different school BTW [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.15.16, 07:45 PM Flag
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np. For me the problem is when a school tries to pathologize or stigmatize absolutely normal child behavior, and some schools seem to do this a lot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:02 AM Flag
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exactly. And if you don't go along, you are out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:03 AM Flag
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Yep. It sucks. Is it ever possible to get another opinion and override the school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:06 AM Flag
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Yes. You go thru all the testing and you find that dc doesn't have any problems and you show the school, and guess what. They still don't think its a good "fit". Once an adult has made a judgement on a child it is almost impossible for the child to change the opinion. Children always mess up! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:09 AM Flag
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Then I'd have to agree with the school, it's not a good "fit". But not because of the dc, because there's something wrong with the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:15 AM Flag
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yup, that is why people come to this board and ask what schools are known for this type of thing as some ARE. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:19 AM Flag
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EXACTLY! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:53 AM Flag
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What schools? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:05 AM Flag
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Mandell [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:55 AM Flag
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Have heard from parents w/ dc at GHS that some big % of the dc receive therapies of some kind at the "recommendation" of the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 06:04 AM Flag
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that's not true at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 10:11 AM Flag
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Also, a couple of the stricter Montessori schools have bad reps for advising parents that dc need OT to deal with normal behavior. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 06:08 AM Flag
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All Souls [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 06:16 AM Flag
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Really? That surprising to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 06:17 AM Flag
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^That's [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 06:17 AM Flag
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Avenues [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.15.16, 07:42 PM Flag
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Yes, it's better. I don't know why it's a bad thing. And IME, I haven't seen any kid getting services who hasn't needed it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:04 AM Flag
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I agree. Though I'm in the burbs, not in the city. And there's no stigma in the class at all...there are 2 SEIT's in my dc's room, and the kids jsut know she's "there to help X". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:06 AM Flag
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I have, three child to date. All boys. Bad prek program that wanted the extra adult in the room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:14 AM Flag
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Aren't SEITs an extra adult in the classroom, there to provide one-on-one attention to the child? Unclear on how that is stigmatizing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:08 AM Flag
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Actually, they are supposed to "blend in" and help with all the children. Maybe why so many classes want them eh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:14 AM Flag
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That's not how it is in my dc's class. The kdis know who the SEIT comes to help (though not in a bad way). They do get pulled out in groups with the SEIT/child if that helps the child (and we, the other parents, have to give our ok for this) but otherwi she doesn't interact with my dc at all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:18 AM Flag
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No, a SEIT is assigned to work with one child for a certain # of hours/week. She will faciliate that child's interaction with other children, but she is not there to help out with all the children [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:19 AM Flag
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I'm not off base on this. The guidelines are that SEIT blend in. Maybe you are talking about a shadow? Are you in public or private? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:23 AM Flag
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No, not a shadow. DS had a SEIT in preschool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:25 AM Flag
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^And yes, they do blend in, but they are not there to help with all the children [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:26 AM Flag
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No, technically they are not there to help with the other children. But think about it. How exactly would you blend in if you didn't interact with the others?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:42 AM Flag
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It can become stigmatizing when other dc, or more often the other parents, realize your dc has a SEIT and start making assumptions about dc. And it can be a stigma when applying to ongoings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:29 AM Flag
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I remember a poster on this board who was extremely upset and felt it was her right to know about all adults in the classroom. She wanted to know why the person was there. General consensus was myob - but still. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:44 AM Flag
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Hey, if a strange adult suddenly appeared one day in my dc's preschool classroon, I'd want to know what he or she was doing there, too. But I'd be satisfied with the answer that the adults was a SEIT for one of the other dc. I wouldn't think it was my right to know which dc or what the dc's issue is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.06.07, 05:48 AM Flag
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Seits aren't strange! They are lovely!! :) [ Reply | More