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[ - ] How many of the NYC moms do you think came along from the old board? I just came back after being mad about the redesign. I liked the old salty NYC crew. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.23.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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it's still pretty salty and nyc. i'd say most are back [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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phew. now I can enjoy my drink a bit more [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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drinking already! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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my friends! my peeps! xo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:45 AM Flag
[ - ] Any 116 moms on who don't live in the neighborhood? Did you accept? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.23.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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I do not live in the neighborhood and there are several other families that do not live in the area. I have had wonderfule experiences with 116. Only negative are some of the TAG parents and I am one of them..... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 04:31 AM Flag
[ - ] DHs out there: how many husbands do you know who are cheating on their wives? I think it is pervasive, but then second guess because I can't believe someone would risk wife and family (but that is my fear, not necessarily theirs, I guess.) 57 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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I am guessing 20% [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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really--so 1 on 5. That is scary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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over a marriage though, not at any given momet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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DH here: I know 1 who is cheating fulltime and 1 who had a one night stand. Every other DH I know would never cheat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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I am a cheating DH, any questios for me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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why are you such a sleazebag? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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I am not a sleazebag, I love my wife [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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then explain the cheating. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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I have a high sex drive and need more sex than my wife wants. Is just an activity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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real sex or online sex? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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real [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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could mast. work? DO you have kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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yes 2 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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Geraldo is that you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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that is such a cop out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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ITA. Grow up, selfish pig [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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Wow. Just an activity. Does the other woman feel this way too?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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np who cares about the other woman? She is a sleezebag too. What about his poor wife? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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so I assume you have communicated this to your wife and she understands? Otherwise you = sleazebag [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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I haven't told her about the affair, she knows I want more sex thoguh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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so she doesn't know, sleazebag [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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do you love the other woman too? How long has this been going on?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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Been going on a year, don't love the other woman, actually I find her personality annoying, but she's good im bed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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ok you just outed yourself as lying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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where do you live? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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outside of new york [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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no you don't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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do you cheat sporadically or do cheat consistently w/ one woman? Does your wife know? Would she leave you if she did? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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One woman, she doesn't know and she probably would leave. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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then why do it? why not man up and be honest? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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I need sex and I don't want to hurt my wife, I mean I love her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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no you don't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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ita. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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He's here all the time- has every excuse in the book [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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Would you be okay if she cheated on you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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I wouldn't be happy, but would want to hear her explanation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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You're on here a lot aren't ya. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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not a DH but mine tells me about people he meets or knows through work etc who cheat. It seems to be a pretty small minority. He always avoids them. He said he loses all respect for someone who would do that - esp if they have kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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in their defense - I think there are some DHs who are conflicted about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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probably so but they are still assholes. I like the fact that DH will not associate with someone who is doing that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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I used to be you. Wait till you the situation faces you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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I would not cheat. Period. Neither would DH. It's not like I live in a bubble. We have both been tempted but we would not act on it. Ever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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NP: each situation is different, and wrought. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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Again. Situational. Don't judge. You aren't there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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nnp: I hate this argument. I've never been in the situation where I felt it ok to murder an innocent person. Does that mean I can't say I'll never be a murderer? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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This guy has every way to get around the truth- plus why is he always on ub bragging about his cheating. lame [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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In my groups of friends one cheater BUT I found out he was cheating 'cause his wife found out... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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? wait she cheated first? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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No. She found out he was cheating. Everything blew up. Then the friends found out. But none of the guys knew he was cheating until then. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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DH here: I know exactly one, but he is doing it spectacular fashion. It's like a goddamned soap opera on acid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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ohh! Pray tell! Details! is it the baby sitter? Some hot russian model? His secretary? All of the above? Is it even a female? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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yeah tell us!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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well, without getting so specific that I'll out the suffering wife, her husband (who has a serious substance abuse problem) works a loosely supervised job in NYC for a company based overseas. he went on about a dozen business trips over the last 18 months, many for more than a week. turns out (first) that he was getting some on the side, (then) that it was a regular thing with 1 woman, (and next) that there wasn't any business being done at all... he was paying for the trips with his savings (but even better) the other woman started harrassing the wife, to the point where the number had to be changed. And of course, neither one can afford the house on their own. And he's completely unrepentant. It's horrible but fascinating. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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why are you worried about what men other than your dh do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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As a wife who just found out I was cheated on, I think the number is suprisingly high. I would have bet my life on the fact that dh was completely faithful but he had a whole other life that I didn't know anything about. I don't know how he had the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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wow. What are you doing now? How did you find out? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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How did you find out? Are you still together? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 12:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone declining a D1 g&t spot? which school? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.23.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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taking our spot [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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is anyone on UB in D1? or are we all D2 and D3 moms? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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We are D1 and our son will be G&T K next year at ps 110, we took spot we were given. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 01:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it a red flag if your kid scores well on the verbal portion of the ERB but was weaker in the comprehension areas of the test? TIA 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.23.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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No, because they are 4. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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only if gap was big. like 20 pts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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Schools prefer consistent scores, but no "red flag" unless big gap (20 points or so, as other poster said). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 02:24 PM Flag
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OP--not a big gap. just surprised that since her verbal was high she had trouble with a language portion. Thanks everyone for your responses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:19 PM Flag
[ - ] If you could do something parenting related over again, essentiall "do overs," what would it be? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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I think I was pretty darn good when he was a baby, but from 2 on I'd try to be much more patient and not worry at all about what other people think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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ita on the patience thing. dds are 3 and 5mo and i am trying to work on my patience every day - some days with more success than others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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I wouldn't nurse or cosleep for so long. I was really all about Dr. Sears at the beginning. In hindesight, I would integrate a lot of other "suggestions" as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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ditto, i was same and thnk it was too hard on me & dh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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i'd stay home longer/work less. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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I'd sleep train. I thought CIO would be too cruel, but now I wish i had done something way sooner than I did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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me too. I still need to be with my son until he falls asleep, and he is 3. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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my dd is 4, and I am weaning her off of my staying. so regret not sleep training her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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How are you doing it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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Initially we set a timer, but not I just say that I will stay for 15 minutes. She used to fight it, but now she will stay in bed quietly. I am much tougher with her sister--she's just put in the crib, and is easier for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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I would fastforward to me and DH getting along well. So far we aren't. We disagree on basic parenting things constantly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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that has to be hard for everyone involved. I am sorry that you are going through this. How old is dc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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3. And acting badly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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Is there the good cop/bad cop dynamic? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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yep - me bad cop [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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not drink at all during pregnancy. I had a little wine with dinners, now dc is LD, I know it's not related but it is something I think about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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what is LD [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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try not to blame yourself. I seriously doubt a little wine caused the LD. We had a child with a heart defect and I obsessed about all the things I did "wrong". My doc told me that when a pg has a good outcome, the mom forgets all the little things she did like eat tuna or have a glass of wine. But when something goes wrong, we tend to obsess about every little thing. Give yourself a break [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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actually, kids born to mothers that even casually drank during pregnancy do have higher risks for LD. It is why I won't even though a lot of people around me do. Why risk blaming yourself? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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test for LD sooner [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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been more strict/consistent from the beginning. my 5 yo has such a fresh mouth lately and i can't help but think we are just too lax [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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though i'd want my same 2 kids, but I wouldn't mind having them a little further apart .... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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prep dd for the ERb (she's now 9) and not listen to to the fuoolish nonseense her incompetent PSD told us in the Spring before applications [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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It's psd's fault your kid didn't get into schools with less than stellar erb? Lady, it's an IQ test; you get what you get. High score? Appealing candidate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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I would have given up on breastfeeding way earlier than I did. It was a terrible experience for me and dc and I should have listened to everyone around me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 02:24 PM Flag
[ - ] I am daunted by the CPSE process. How do I get in? I would like to have my son evaluated. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Special Needs 06.23.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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how old? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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Just turned 3. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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CPSE In New York City, after age 3, care of the child is transferred to the State Department of Education and the therapies are administered through a different program called CPSE (Committee for Preschool Special Needs). In New York City, this state program is administered by the New York City Department of Education’s (DoE’s) Committee for Preschool Special Needs (CPSE). http://www.vesid.nysed.gov/specialed/publications/policy/parentguide.htm#Elig [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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check out advocates for children - http://www.advocatesforchildren.org/ if you are in nyc - best resource and call their free hotline for answers to any questions [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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OP: thank you all!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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just call the school district and tell them your concern and that you would like to have the child evaluated. it is similar to Early Intervention in that it does done throug an agency, but it is coordinated through the school (instead of early intervention rep) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:52 AM Flag
[ - ] need to buy baby bedding for expected twins - boy and girl . . .what are your favs? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.23.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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The quick zip matress sheets [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 11:28 AM Flag
[ - ] Why do you think that moms can be so nasty to one another? We all face such common challenges ... 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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I posted about this a few days ago - not just moms though, all women [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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all people - not just women. It's human nature [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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we suck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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nah, men are shitty in different ways but generally much more convivial to other men [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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we truly are basic mammals. Perhaps a bit more advanvced thinking, but still very very basic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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because people are insecure, and think bashing someone else will validate their choices. And some people are just plain nasty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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I have found that this whole parenting/blood sport thing has made me more confident in my intuition and own perspective. It is really the only one I know the motives behind! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:23 AM Flag
[ - ] Do I need to lose any weight? 5'4", 125 lbs. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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I thought the crazy weight questions had died with the old UB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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No. Even the craziest weight moms say 5 pouds for each inch over 5', and that's thin for a lot of people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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totally depends on how you carry your weight and how fit you are. I'm 5'4 and weigh 115. That feels right for me, but I have always been on the light side (I may look just like you but weigh less for some reason) Do you feel healthy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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I want to be 5 lbs lighter. actually 115 sounds great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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wouldn't 100 be even better? or 85? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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OR oh for pete's sake! 115 is within the health guidelines. 85 is not. I am so far from anorexic that it's funny. I just like to run and that leeps me slim [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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I'm 5'4" and 125 is the goal weight I've been unable to get back to for the past 10 years.... (I'm 135) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:43 AM Flag
[ - ] My 3 yo son has been having out-of-control tantrums about strangely illogical things (crying in the morning because I drained the water of last night's bath, wanting a truck he saw to turn around so he can see it again, not wanting me to go to the bathroom, etc.). He become totally inconsolable. His tantrums last anywhere btwm 5 and 25 minutes. It really scares me. Please, I am nervous so if you are going to flame me, please do so in a constructive way. thanks! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 06.23.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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Previous behavior like this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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It started in the past 3 weeks or so. I can't identify what perhaps changed in our environment [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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Give it more time - its probably just a phase. I remember really worrying about a particular behavior and then it would just vanish (to be replaced by something else of course) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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thanks--I think I have a long road of phases ahead of me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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Just pace yourself, I used to think everything was a crisis and then it wasn't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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I think it's normal - sounds like my 3yo DD anyway. We have started calmly telling her to go to her room if she wants to scream. Seems to be helping a little but I think it's just a stage they go through [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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yes, it happens, address concerns and calm thm down before you try to rationalize [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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my 3yo dd has been very tantrum-y lately too. we have a relatively new baby (5mo) and its been much worse since i return to work PT in early may, but it also just seems to be the age. any other changes in your family? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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not that I can think of. He get so MAD sometimes, so intense... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:44 AM Flag
[ - ] Sephora gift certificate - what should I get? I want to order on line. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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I am very pleased with MAC High Definition powder - a translucent powder that really looks great on my skin - I use it in the summer instead of foundation or cover up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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Shideko (sp?) mascara - I have never had a mascara other than this that stayed put so well... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:29 AM Flag
[ - ] Need some help, I have not had a period in 4 months and have been kina tired lately, what is wrong with me? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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I need help, what is wrong wtih me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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thyroid? call a dr. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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That's never happened to me. Are you entering perimenopause? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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np: perimenopause you don't usually miss your period for 4 mos. Gets close together, then father apart, flow changes, etc.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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how old are you? Are you having other symptoms? Has your cycle always been weird or are you regular? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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Assuming you aren't pregnant (and of course, even assuming you are), you should call your gyn and make an appointment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:33 AM Flag
[ - ] DH has not initiated sex with me in months...its never been a strong suit of his. 42 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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Have you initiated with him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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When was the last time you had sex? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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5 mos. ago [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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Why so long? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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I think he is not attracted to me? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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Have you chanegd at all? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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Why do you think that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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How old is he? Why is he like this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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41, I think he prefers masturbation to me...have you ever heard of this before? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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That's weird. How often does he masturbate? Have you talked to him about it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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I think a lot. I asked him not to do it in bed next to me (when he thought I was asleep), that is the most conversation we ever had and that was in marriage counseling [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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what did he say when you said it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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ok [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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What was he like early in your relationship? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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Was he sexually abused earlier? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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weird.....that would be an explanation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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I have an idea for you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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please share [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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Maybe you can wear sexy lingerie to bed and seduce him, maybe when he's in bed, come in and then stradle him and start undressing him or surprise him in the shower [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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I have another, but need to know one thing first.....what does he wear to bed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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he sleeps naked, I sleep in tee shirt or pajamas [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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Ah nice.....works perfectly then. Both of you go to sleep like normal, except you don't go to sleep. You undress quietly when he's sleeping and then climb on top of him and start kissing him rubbing yourself on him and go down for a BJ and then go ahead for more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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I am a DH, here's my question, is he stressed at work at all? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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sure but that is an ongoing issue since our marriage began. Plus, I know he is masturbating at least a couple of times a week (that I know of). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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that's weird.......one thought that came to me, is that sometimes when I am stressed I would rather not have sex since i am afraid if I can keep it up, I would hate it more with my wife than masturbating [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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another dh: has his testosterone been checked? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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Hey good thinking. Yes, I asked him to have it checked and he agreed - it was slightly low but def. normal/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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First DH: This sounds really weird.....is he cheating? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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Of course its possible but I have asked him. Can you tell me some thingsthat would turn you off from your wife? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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Have you changed in any way? Physically I mean? How many kids? When was your last romantic weekend? When was the last time you two had a date? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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Yup I have gained weight. Is that a deal breaker for you even if you were really horny and just wanted to get laid? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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You know probably not....if I was horny and wanted to get laid I probably would have sex with you.....my wife did have a sligth weight gain for abotu a year after our second child and we still had sex. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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well this is more than 10 pounds...but I look around me and see a lot of fat women who are married so someone is sleeping with them... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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Has he mentioned it to you? Have you tried to lose some of it? when was your last romantic weekend? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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a lot of weight? Has he? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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We ve both gained weight but it never seems to matter for the man [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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another dh: if my weight goes up, it effects me. I don't feel as desirable and am probably less aggressive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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when we were trying to concieve #2, dw took every bit of fun out of our sex life. It was like she was in school and I was helping her with her science fair project. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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DH Here: I remember that with both our kids.....I honestly thought it was a homework assignment. Watching the Food Network was more fun than sex......after that was out of the way, sex got really good again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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Yes, but when we were in high school, that's the type of science fair project that we'd volunteer to help a girl with [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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true dat! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:40 AM Flag
[ - ] there is definitely something wrong with me. i have felt like crying all day. i want my life to go back to the way it was when my kids were little and of course i know it can't, so why i am i so seriously heartbroken about what my life is now. i feel pathetic-jealous of sahm's, jealous of people with enough $$ to not have to work at unfulfiling jobs. just unhappy with no way to fix it. hate my life 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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Sorry. Hate to ask somthing so obvious, but are you premenstrual? Anyway, your hormones could be out of whack. If you keep feeling this way, I'd recommend therapy, and possibly meds, which really help a lot of people (although I've always resisited) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:19 AM Flag
[ - ] You could not pay me enough to move to _________. 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.23.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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Kansas. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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omg--scorched earth. frightening. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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greenwich, scarsdale [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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I agree on Scarsdale but I would move to Greenwich. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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Speaking of suburbs, I would consider those, but would not move to Great Neck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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the midwest [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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What about CHicago? it's nice there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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np: nice but cold as hell [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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the south. btdt - won't make that mistake again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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what happened? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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people were horrible; they are racist and truly stuck in another era; moms were SO cliquey that it puts NY to shame; very small minded; limited career opportunities; and don't get me started on the restaurants! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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Yikes. Did they make disgusting pies and stuff like that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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no pie is disgusting. how dare you slander pie! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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oh come on - surely SOME pie must be disgusting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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yes, the speciality was ham biscuits - would serve them as appetizers, at any party/dinner we ever went to - oddest thing ever; ham, a roll with some butter slabbed on it just in case the ham wasn't fatty enough to begin with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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Oh my Gd I am going to BARF. Signed, UWS Jewish Mom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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bet they were roly poly fat too right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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the men definitley were. the women not necessarily. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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yes, trust me - it's no place for an UWS Jewish mom down there! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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I think it must depend on what part of the South or what city, no? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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op: no idea and i don't want to find out. i have heard that where we lived is especially bad in terms of the people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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sorry for your bad experience. My family is biracial, and I worry that there are still parts of the country (and the city (NY), for that matter) that we can not comfortably go to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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richmond? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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yep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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thought so! I grew up in sw virginia and even I knew richmond was nasty [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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so funny - many people have told me that now - makes me feel better when people understand; we blamed ourselves for a long time and then realized that it's just f'd up there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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the south is a BIG place, honey. try not to generalize so [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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Alabama [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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Buffalo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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Texas [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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there are some nice places in Texas...you just don't know where to look [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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youdo realize how rude this kind of poll/comment is, don't you...... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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Why? Do you live in Alabama, Richmond, Texas or Buffalo per chance? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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Skaneateles [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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Staten Island- but, oops, somehow it happened [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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...not pay me enough TO STAY in NYC [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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where's your happy place [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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anywhere outside of California. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 03:10 PM Flag
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this is so narrow- minded. I can't believe it. And you are proud you live in NY? NY is so much not what you are all about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 03:13 PM Flag
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las vegas [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 03:15 PM Flag
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Chernobyl. And given the choice, I'd say most of these responders would move to Kansas, the South, Buffalo, et. al before moving there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 03:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Fun things to do with toddler, age 3, in or near Old Westbury, LI on Sunday? Are there any YMCAs, pay-per-use community swimming pools we can use? TIA. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.23.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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LI Childrens museum, or go to the beach (long beach) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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How far is that from White Post Farms, I heard that was fun. The beach also sounds great unless you have to clean up to get somewhere else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 11:29 AM Flag
[ - ] Real Estate/Moving question: DH and I are moving soon and are thinking of moving to one of the co-ops on FDR and Grand street in LOHO. We're going to have a baby soon and I wonder if I will feel totally isolated and will be making a HUGE mistake. We want to stay in NYC if possible and would consider brooklyn, but for our $$$, this seems to be the biggest bang for our buck. HELP! Many thanks! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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We had friends who lived there with babies/toddlers and they really liked it. It is a little bit out of the way in terms of subway access, so just make sure you consider your commutes and the commute of a potential nanny. My friends said, that below 96th street, that part of the LES and the very far east UES were the best "bang for your buck". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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thanks so much. Just curious, my DH and I are in our early 30s...were your friends around the same age, did they make friends with kids around the same age? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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I hadn't thought about nannys. do you think the location would make it undesireble? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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Jackson Heights, 3 Bedrooms are around 550K--stunning places. Totally family neighborhood. jacksonheightslife.com is a good resource. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:36 PM Flag