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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] I once rode a bike and canoed, do you think I can get a talk show? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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no, you need to be gay or have gone through rehab [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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Or have slept with someone famous [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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at the same time? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:36 AM Flag
[ - ] I am the mom who's 16 year old son got his 16 year old girlfriend pregnant and her parents kicked her out. They have come to a decision....she will have the baby and give it up for adoption. We are going to look at open adoption. They decided they wanted to give a childless couple the chance to have a baby. The girlfriend's parents are happy she isn't having an abortion but unhappy that she's pregnant because they think 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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That is a very generous and cool thing to do. So glad they had you to support them while making the decision. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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It's been tough, I won't get you wrong. The girlfriend will continue to live with us for the time being. Her parents are still upset at her for being pregnant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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that's great. what a wonderful gift. i'd be a little sad too about not knowing my grandchild, but it's for the best [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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I am a bit sad on that, but I also know that it will be really tough for them at this age to have a baby. And I am happy they choose to do this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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np: if its an open adoption, she may know her grandchild. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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I am hoping....I wouldn't want to step on the toes of the new parents, but it would be nice to know the baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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i know in some open adotions that does happen, but of course there is huge huge variation. i hope you all get a solution you cna live with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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We have been talking to people about this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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I bet adoptive parents would be pretty open to this too - an extra grandma is not threatening at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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I don't want to be overbearing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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Of course not, but I would be surprised if they were totally opposed to you knowing the kid. Also, your son and his girlfriend can basically negotiate this however they want. There are way more parents looking for babies then there are babies available. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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We're going to start meeting with people either next week or the week after to get more information and start preparing, etc. I know my son and his girlfriend have said they would prefer a family somewhere nearby so its easier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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Good luck with everything - I'm sure it's not entirely fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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OP: It's not.....trust me, it's been a rollarcoaster. Dealing with these decisions, plus the fact that the girlfriend is living with us and upset and confused with her parents. And also being upset wtih my son for being stupid and not using a condom one time. It's been tough and I am working through it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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You sound like a fantastic mom! Hope all this works out as best as it can for all of you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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Thank you and I will keep everyone updated during all of this. UB has been a lifesaver during all of this for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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i've heard that an open adoption is not that ideal for the adoptive parents. if i were adopting, i wouldn't want this at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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I would like to know my grandchild but also not cause a problem, we have to work this all out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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well the chld would have 4 sets of grandparents. how cool would that be lol? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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OP: I think it would be cool for the child, but I also want to have something that works for teh child as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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sounds like the IL set will not be involved [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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OP: most likely not....they are embarassed that this happened to their daughter and while I think they still love her, they'd rather ignore that she's pregnant and they're against abortion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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it really varies among adoptive families. there is, of course, a lot of stuff on the internet about this, but a great blog by an adoptive mom with a very open adoptionis "this woman's work." lots of links there too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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I will take a look. We've talked to some social workers about this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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your son and his girlfriend sound very mature, adn they have made a great selfless decision. i wish you all the best. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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I have been amazed at how mature they've been through this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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That's great that they have made a decision, even though they still have a long, hard road ahead of them. Can I ask what part of the country you are in? I know a very loving couple that is looking to grow their family through adoption. (they are unable to have another biological child). They are working with an agency in NY, and would be happy to share the agency's contact information. Either way, best of luck to you and to them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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We live in the NYC metro area. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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Same with this family. The agency is Forever Families through Adoption and their number is 914-939-1180. The agency is new but the executive director is a social worker and her husband is a lawyer and together, they have been doing private placement adoptions for 25 years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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Thanks, I will take a look into it. We plan on looking at a number of places and making the best choice. What my son and his girlfriend are most comfortable with. Best of luck to your friends. I know this is a long road and I figure we'll ride it through. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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We are adoptive parents of an almost 4 year old boy who joined our family through open adoption. (We also have a biological child who is 10 1/2.) Open adoption can be a terrific option for both birth parents and adoptive parents. My son benefits from knowing his entire family and we feel that it will help him later integrate all parts of his identity, particularly because he is multi-racial and we are white. We worked with an agency called Adoptions from the Heart (www.adoptionsfromtheheart.org) which was started by an adoptee before open adoption was "cool." Most adoptive parents in open adoption will tell you that they wish for more contact with birthparents rather than less. While some adoptive parents initially view open adoption with concern or fear that this kind of situation will threaten the bond with their child, this is not how it works. Rather, the connection with your child's birth family is precious and adds to your child's happiness. Our relationship with our child's birth family is like that one with extended family. Good luck with all of this! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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Nice summary. I think I agree with everything you say. (np) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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A friend did an open adoption through http://www.adoptionsbygladney.com/html/about/index.shtml . It is an open adoption. The birth parents were super young and the adoptive parents actually go on outings (think zoo, etc.) with the birth parents and grandparents, etc. Very open. It works for them. Another friend adopted through the same agency and the 16 year old birth mom chooses to be totally out of the picture. As she ages, I'm thinking that will change. But in 10 years, the birth mom will just be 26! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 02:27 PM Flag
[ - ] I really believe that if you are neurotic, you'll have a neurotic child. I know someone who won't ever take their child out for dinner because they are afraid she'll be a terror and is flabbergasted that I do this. My DS is very well behaved (for a toddler) when we are out to eat. We dont' go somewhere where we aren't welcome, but do go to places that aren 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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^aren't chains. it's all about teaching your child to deal with different situations. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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I agree when talking about older kids (3-4+) but I would rather not dine with my toddler. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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we take ours out frequently, though he still isn't great in that situation. (2yo). but honestly, we'd rather get a sitter when we go out so we can dine peacefully. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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^i feel stressed when i bring him, and i get indigestion from eating so fast so we can leave asap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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i get that but to not take your child out at all? that just seems strange to me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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weve always taken our kids to kid-friendly restaurants. but I'm not sure that not taking your kid to a restaurant makes one neurotic, or the kid neurotic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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it was just one example. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Where's a good place in Manhattan to get sheets and comforters for kids' beds? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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we got sheets at Bed bath and beyond. big selection adn let kidchoose [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:10 AM Flag
[ - ] real estate: is there any chance there will be any decent listings for 2-3bedrooms in Brooklyn in June? I'm so depressed by what's out there. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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i think a lot slows down during the summer. keep watching through nytimes.com/realestate or streeteasy.com for new listings though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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Try Streeteasy.com it has a lot of listings and keeps track of how long they've been out there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:58 AM Flag
[ - ] 3yo ds has suddenly started throwing major tantrums over random things -- putting on his shoes; going into a car; etc. I mean, screaming, heaving, crying tantrums. I've been dealing with it like I did with others, but these are intense. just looking for some reassurance that this is totally normal. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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Totally normal. Don't give in as your ds is testing his limits. He's trying to figure out if the rules are still the same. I've been trying to present a choice: You can wear your tennis shoes OR your flip flops...Then when it escalates I ask do you want to go to X or go to bed, because that crying tells me you are tired and need a nap. Doesn't always work, but it will get better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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totally normal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:56 AM Flag
[ - ] going to a party tomorrow and was asked to bring some veggies to dip in cheese fondue. what should I bring? was thining asparagus, green beans, red pepper. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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sounds yummy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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broccoli, cauliflower, mushrooms, grape tomatoes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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Asparagus, broccoli, cauliflower (BUT par boil them ahead of time.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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ahh, thank you, that was my other question [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:39 AM Flag
[ - ] Please help!! completely new to the ERB's .. just received the results .. the desciption page begins with the statement : Information on test-taking behavior frequently illuminates inconsistencies in test performance and aids in judging how accurately the test results describe the student's abilities.. can anyoone tell me what does this mean? Thanks 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.06.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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it mena, telling you how teh kid actually behaved during testing can help you understand and interpret the scores. What is confusing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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someone told me its a hiddne message to the ongoing schools that the child was prepped.. but mine wasn't .. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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that line is not the hidden message. supposedly hidden messages are in the report itself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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Correct. that line is a form. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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OK thanks a lot .. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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this is a general comment given to all test takers, not just your kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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how long did you wait for results. still waiting at 4+ weeks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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form line that appears on top of everyone's report. Means text of report may help explain kid's subtest scores. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 02:12 PM Flag
[ - ] I posted this morning about finding an email to my dh from another woman. I forwarded it to my computer and I am filing for a formal seperation on Monday. This is coupled by the fact that dh calls me a "whore, trailer park trash and a cunt". Enough is enough!!! 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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I know a good divorce lawyer if you need one! good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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who is it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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wow. good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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my divorce attorney told me that different people get divorced for different reasons. some do bc dh calls them a cunt, some do bc of infidelity, and some do bc of abuse (those were the examples she used). since you have a dh who has done all of the above I too would get separated. best of luck to you. you will get through this one day at a time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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please, PLEASE do not do anything to tip off your husband to your plans UNTIL AFTER you have secured yourself an attorney and have gotten a clear picture (bank statements, credit card receipts, financial papers) of your joint financial situation. do not give him a chance to leave you penniless. signed someone who knows :-( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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Wow - are you married to my ex-dh?? He called me all those things on a daily basis (no cheating), but the names were enough. Leave him - you will be so much happier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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Wow, I can't imagine being married to John McCain. (If it is way to early for levity, I'm sorry. I was figuring you might need a smile. Well, that and poking fun at John McCain which makes me smile.) Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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I'll give that a :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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Is this the dh who had the emotional affair? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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Those comments are inexcusable but what did the e-mail say that set you off? It may be you are misreading it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:47 AM Flag
[ - ] Please help!! completely new to the ERB's .. just received the results .. the desciption page begins with the statement : Information on test-taking behavior frequently illuminates inconsistencies in test performance and aids in judging how accurately the test results describe the student's abilities.. can anyoone tell me what does this mean? Thanks. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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I read that part and i think it means that the report is there to give additional information about child that the tester saw. report can either correlate with great results and/or maybe explain that a child who did not test well has ability to do better but bc of certain circumstances did not do too well. (ie had bad day) or it can explain that although a child tested well they were not focused etc etc etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:54 AM Flag
[ - ] Need some help. Our butcher keeps showing up at our house every night at 7PM to say hi and see how our meat usage is going. What do I do? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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Is your name Alice, and your butcher's name Sam? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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He wants you to get some usage out of his meat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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he wants you to suck his sausage [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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or sample his beefy pepperoni [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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or try his new footlongs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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his kielbasa needs to be stroked [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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or wrap his tenderloin [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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just go massage his rump roast [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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nibble his kabobs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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go handle his man-sized meatballs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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wrap your legs around his beefy bologna [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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I bet his barbecued pork is really juicy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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ask him if he links his own sausage [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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take a bite out of his braciole [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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ask if he wants you to caress his cappicola [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 11:06 AM Flag
[ - ] any opinions on the British International School? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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Friends have their dd there - they like it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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traditional [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 11:52 AM Flag
[ - ] Just got my integrated screen results back. I'm 1 in 1100 for Down and 1 in 10,000 for Trisomy 18. First preg I was 1 in 10,000 for Down S. Should I be worried? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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No. 1 in 1100 is still overwhelmingly in your favor. Amnio has a miscarriage rate of about 1 in 400. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:43 AM Flag
[ - ] Sorry for the paranoid question--did you get REALLY bad headaches when you were pg? I'm sure it's just hormonal but I freak out about everything anyway. TIA 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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Yes, in first trimester. Icy coke and cold pack on neck helped. I tried to stay away from caffeine in general, but a small coke with lots of ice made the headaches go away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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Thank you so much; I'm going to try this right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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yes, gatorade usually helped [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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I remember those days!!! I got some of the worst headaches of my life when I was pregnant last summer. I was told that it was hormonal and due to having dry sinuses. This helped me: Ice cold wash cloth on my eyes, sudafed (or anything of that type that your Ob allows)tylenol, saline spray to hydrate your sinuses and clean passageways of pollen and also STAY hydrated. A lot of pregnancy related symptoms ease up when you drink enough water. good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:45 AM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone recommend a good tub to buy for db? 5 wks old 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.06.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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We used one of those teddy bear shaped sponges in the bottom of the tub. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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oh I will look for that thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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just get one at Target [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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we just bought a very basic baby tub and used it in the kitchen sink. when he outgrew it got the munchkin inflatable duck tub [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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we used The First Years Sure Comfort Newborn to Toddler Tub, very happy with it. Can give you ours for $10. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:51 AM Flag
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i used the primo throughout. put a couple hand towels down when db was small for comfort. then when he started sitting up, i put him on the other side. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:57 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone been to Tulum, mexico? I'd like to go with 4yo for 5 days. recommendations? I'm not looking into an active vacation, building sand castles is enough..just affordable. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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I've visited Tulum when I went to Cancun. I thought Playa Del Carmen (which is close to Tulum) looked much nicer than Cancun. Sorry, don't know any hotels there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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tulum is wonderful. I have been 5 times. But it will be waaaaaay hot right now. There's not a lot of AC to b found there. I like ana y jose. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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Loved it! There was a great public beach on the way to the ruins (a cool pyramid that looks over the sea). Rent a car and show your kid the pyramids and the jungle...Our 3yrold still talks about it: "Remember, Mexico..." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:57 AM Flag
[ - ] UES Moms, I would like to sign my 2.6 year old for soccer. Any reccomendations - someone told me All Souls - but who runs the league there? Thanks 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.06.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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wait at least a year [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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you can do Super Soccer Stars this summer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:37 AM Flag
[ - ] Still need help with DH's birthday... 29, loves gadgets, books, wine, basically anything expensive. I won't get him a new iPhone or Wii/PS3...H 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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sorry, can't relate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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if he loves wine, get him wine. or a winetasting course [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:41 AM Flag
[ - ] Still need help with DH's birthday... 29, loves gadgets, books, wine, basically anything expensive. I won't get him a new iPhone or Wii/PS3... 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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how about the screwpull wine bottle opener. we bought friends a decanter that you can pull the air out of, they loved it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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wine of the month from wine.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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does he have a wine fridge? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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