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06.30.20, 18:51 PM General Topics
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Was invited to back yard barbecue for next week. There are going to be about 20 adults + kids. Not sure who is social distancing. Would you go? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.30.20, 06:51 PM Flag
 

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General Topics 06.30.20, 06:53 PM Flag
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Why lol? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 06:53 PM Flag
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Good heavens, no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 06:53 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 06:55 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:07 PM Flag
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Yup! I’ll bring the cole slaw. Time to start our lives again. I’m i. a NYC burb with little to no cases. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 06:59 PM Flag
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If you want to risk your life (and the lives of everyone you come in contact with) for cole slaw, then good luck to you all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:05 PM Flag
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You are being very dramatic. Nobody is hugging and kissing. The entire thing is outside. The world is opening up again. If you would like to continue to stay inside, knock yourself out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:12 PM Flag
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OP didn't say anything about hugging and kissing. Or about social distancing or wearing of masks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:13 PM Flag
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What NYC burb has little to no cases? Sounds like the next Chappaqua graduation ceremony TBH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:32 PM Flag
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many suburbs have zero active cases [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 02:47 AM Flag
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The chappaqua story is likely similar to other places. I know so many families who travel frequently between Westchester and Florida or Italy. Our family got sick from a family who returned ill from Italy in early March. Their DC still attended school because there were no tests available and no clear guidelines about what to do, and the idea was that kids couldn't spread the infection. There is a lot of debate about that stil, in our neck of the woods. After all, camps, sports practices, and pools are all open and running full swing. All I can say is many families we know are now quiet about their travel to Florida and some definitely give their kids Motrin or Tylenol when they have a fever, because they don't want their kids to have to miss more (sports practices, pool time, camp, etc depending on the age). Just saying.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 04:17 AM Flag
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That's exactly Texas and Florida ended up where they are now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:41 PM Flag
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No it isn't. Read something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 08:01 PM Flag
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You mean the record highs some states are registering because of behavior like this? Yes, I have been reading that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 08:34 PM Flag
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It's not because of "behavior like this." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 08:40 PM Flag
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Of course it is. Me, me, me. I need to have that party, I need to go to that bar. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 08:49 PM Flag
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This. "But it's my DC's BIRTHDAY! How can we not have a party?" Like the virus gives a shit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 11:39 PM Flag
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NP. She probably shares youtube videos of conspiracy theorists who have MDs and fancy themselves as virologists even though they have no training, but can use that MD to get clicks, likes, and radio appearances on far right networks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 12:09 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 09:00 PM Flag
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Yes. We are doing the same, as are all of our neighbors. There is very little chance of getting anything outdoors. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:02 PM Flag
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We were invited to two pool parties. Not sure which one we're going to but we are definitely doing one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:04 PM Flag
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Bye bye! Social Darwinism. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:18 PM Flag
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As much as I would love to, that is a LOT of people + all the people they are seeing. Doesn't feel worth it for a barbeque. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:05 PM Flag
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Since everything is opening up, why not? There are just as many people congregating in the grocery store, at the park, at the salon, at outdoor restaurants. Unless you are one of those people not believing the experts and remaining inside, washing your mail, then there is no reason not to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:09 PM Flag
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I don't see anyone congregating anywhere near us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:18 PM Flag
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That's because you refuse to go outside. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:26 PM Flag
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I've been out to dinner twice. Go to at least one store a week. I'm not hiding but I'm not being stupid either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 12:09 AM Flag
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I go out now, but wear a mask at the store, the park, etc, as do the majority of others I encounter. I'm going to take a wild guess that folks happily going off to a backyard party with 40+ people aren't wearing masks there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 09:54 PM Flag
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Now, it's 40+ people? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 10:07 PM Flag
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I took "20 adults plus kids" to mean 20 adults and their offspring. But even if it's 20 total, that's still unnecessary. Get together with another family in a way that you can all stay fairly distanced. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 10:14 PM Flag
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Are you in Florida? Or certain parts of Texas? If not, I think people are getting together this weekend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:11 PM Flag
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so stupid... and those people will turn their states into the next florida [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:25 PM Flag
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THIS! California had such low numbers, look what happened now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 08:34 PM Flag
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California's numbers have been steadily going up since March. https://www.google.com/search?client=safari&rls=en&q=california+covid+cases&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 08:43 PM Flag
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Why d you think CA numbers went up? All of my friends there are so cautious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 04:02 AM Flag
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Why do you think that what "people are doing" is a good indicator of what is safe? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 10:14 PM Flag
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THIS! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 04:03 AM Flag
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No. I would want to know who was going to be there and how they have handled social distancing so far. We socialize with two other families but before doing that, we all disclosed our risk behaviors, how often we shop in stores, visit doctors offices etc. and we continue to be transparent with them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:17 PM Flag
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That may have been the protocol a month ago, but people are back to work, getting haircuts, seeing dentists. People are no longer "disclosing risk behaviors." I was just at the post office. There were 30 people in there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:21 PM Flag
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glad I am not where you are, our post office only allows 3 customers in at a time, wait outside until someone leaves, many of our stores are that way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:41 PM Flag
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In the words of your mom when you were a teenager, probably... if "People" jumped off a bridge, would you jump too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 10:14 PM Flag
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We're happing sticking to last months protocol, as you call it. None of us are back in the office. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 12:11 AM Flag
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I'm like you. I understand why people want to hang out now before there may be more restrictions, and there are a lot of things I want to do right now, but it doesn't make sense to me right now. The cases in our country are exploding. I can't believe we have gotten into this situation, actually. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 04:07 AM Flag
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I don't know, are you a fucking idiot? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:18 PM Flag
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This is all the same person responding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:39 PM Flag
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OR -- nope, only responded once. Dummies like you are why the numbers are spiking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:57 PM Flag
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You give yourself away by your syntax and vocabulary. "Dummies" and "stupid" despite expert advice to the contrary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 08:00 PM Flag
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NP. You can't honestly believe only one person thinks this is reckless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 12:11 AM Flag
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Have you seen OP's second post? She is bananas. She also believes everyone who disagrees with her is a shut-in who is still wiping down mail. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 12:12 AM Flag
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Yes, our neighbors are coming over and that's about how many we'll have. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:19 PM Flag
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Nope and I'm in a state with about 20 cases/day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:20 PM Flag
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I would go but if I felt the group was being reckless I would make an excuse to leave. I think that sized crowd sound reasonable and if it is all outdoors it should be fine as long as people act responsibly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:21 PM Flag
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You can't ask here. There are people who were suggesting we should stay locked up until there are zero deaths. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:28 PM Flag
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+1. When I posted I was getting highlights, people told me to get my will together. (It was 3 weeks ago, I’m still alive. And healthy) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 08:32 PM Flag
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Oh ffs. F you with your "I'm still alive and healthy" comment. Typical that the person who needed to go get highlights 3 weeks ago is the same person self-absorbed enough to think that any naysayers were saying so in regards to your particular health, ie "they told me to get my will together." No one gives a shit about you, it's about how your selfish actions effect everyone else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 08:58 PM Flag
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This!! And nobody gives a shit about your stupid hairstyle either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 10:47 PM Flag
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No, I would not attend. I would go to a family's house if we were the only guests, though. Small gatherings only for us for the foreseeable future. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:29 PM Flag
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^^^And if I knew they were taking basic precautions in their everyday lives. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:30 PM Flag
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Nope [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:31 PM Flag
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No. That is way too many people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:35 PM Flag
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Do you mean 20 adults AND their kids. Or about 20 people, total? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:43 PM Flag
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We just canceled a family get together because we realized that distance will be impossible with the kids. The adults could potentially do it but the kids just don't work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:49 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 07:49 PM Flag
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If you're not in a hot zone, it's fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 08:02 PM Flag
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lol and how do you think those hot zones became hot zones? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 08:52 PM Flag
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np EXACTLY [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 09:02 PM Flag
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Ha! Didn’t see your response before I posted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 09:17 PM Flag
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I don't have to "think." I can read. It is because they never sheltered in the first place and were going to large events like NASCAR races, frat parties and church. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 09:44 PM Flag
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Ah yes. You're the "exception." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 01:54 AM Flag
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How do you think hot zones became as such? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 09:17 PM Flag
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This is what foreigners would call America's difficulty with compliance. The virus is containable in other countries, but here it has bypassed that possibility. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 08:03 PM Flag
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Yes. America's difficulty with compliance is not understanding numbers and statistics. People either think flattening the curve means zero cases ever or they think it means only staying home from the Knicks game if they are feverish and coughing. Smart people know safety lies somewhere in the middle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 08:24 PM Flag
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Read this: https://www.nytimes.com/2020/05/15/us/coronavirus-what-to-do-outside.html - i.e., you're fine, so long as you aren't breathing right on each other. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 08:04 PM Flag
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I agree, my parents live in Italy and the country is doing well now, because pretty much everyone has taken this seriously. Even after reopening, the numbers have gone down. in some provinces masks are still mandatory when going out. Even the beach clubs have taken precautions and therefore some people have been able to go on vacation... they think this country has not handled it well. And honestly, I believe more should have been done in certain states, especially where I am (not NY). Makes me sad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 08:13 PM Flag
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Depends on the size of the yard and the deck/house - they'll likely all be going in and out of a kitchen, bathroom, etc., clustering in shaded areas, and kids breathe on each other. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 10:41 PM Flag
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Meaning, absolutely hang out with a few friends outside, but 20+ people isn't really necessary right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 10:42 PM Flag
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No. I would go bbq w ONE family w an agreement to all keep a distance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 09:16 PM Flag
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How the hell do you expect schools to open with this attitude?? Should we SIP until a vaccine? See you in 2025! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 01:51 AM Flag
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NP. The idea is that we reduce risk in other non-essential areas, such as barbecues with ten families, so that we can "spend" the risk in essential areas, like schools. https://www.bostonglobe.com/2020/06/26/nation/reopening-schools-scientists-say-proceed-with-caution/ But people like you are ruining it for everyone. Thanks, selfish ahole. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 09:24 AM Flag
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How do you expect school to re-open if we all blow it over a stupid bbq? We're being careful so that we can keep the infection rate down so that schools CAN open! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 01:24 PM Flag
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No, I like my family alive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 09:32 PM Flag
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So do I. You sound like an insane person. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 01:52 AM Flag
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A lot of us think you sound insane, so I guess it takes one to know one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 09:25 AM Flag
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Everyone I know is doing something with more than 1 family this weekend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 09:41 PM Flag
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There's a lot of ground between "more than one" and "ten". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 10:03 PM Flag
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There is clearly no OP. It was clickbait. I am assuming an average sized bbq. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 10:08 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 10:39 PM Flag
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I would not go with that many people. I have had BBQs with a few families that i know were social distancing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 10:17 PM Flag
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We did it last week. No one had been anywhere since the start of this. So far all good. If it was someone coming from a state where there is now a hot spot I wouldn't have. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 10:26 PM Flag
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All 20 hadn't been anywhere? Got it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 10:39 PM Flag
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We all have different comfort levels with risk and that’s valid. But please don’t say simply “it’s all good” because no one came from a hot state. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 11:36 PM Flag
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MD Mom: no. A barbecue with one other family with kids who we know well and have been cautious is all the risk I can tolerate right now. Even still, someone has to always go to the bathroom inside the house unless you live literally next door and can go to your own house, kids get close to each other, and nobody besides me and another physician would wear a mask. You cannot control other people's behavior or risk tolerance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 11:13 PM Flag
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I think that is a lot of people and it is really hard for kids to social distance. I think if it was a smaller group, it would be fine, but you are asking too much of the kids alone to be able to stay apart from each other. Signed mom in a low, low covid area with kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 11:22 PM Flag
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No. I have gotten my annual physical because it is a necessity. I get takeout food to support a business. Socializing for fun doesn’t meet my criteria of necessary or economically helpful. But I am an introvert. I do understand people want to socialize. Just know all decisions now have repercussions. Just because we are allowed to doesn’t mean (for me) that I would. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 11:33 PM Flag
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Absolutely no fing way. How irresponsible. Shame on them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.20, 11:47 PM Flag
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Ok. Fine. But don’t be one of those parents who freak out when school doesn’t open in the fall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 01:48 AM Flag
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Are you comparing a BBQ party to school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 02:39 AM Flag
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NP. What?? We want schools to open in the fall which is why it is critical to be diligent with social distancing NOW . Forego the gatherings and parties for now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 03:11 AM Flag
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It's very difficult to convince people (and kids who see the pics on social media) to sit this out while others get to live it up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 04:19 AM Flag
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And this is why we're in this situation, because too many people in this country have the instant-gratification mentality of a five-year-old failing the marshmallow test! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 05:00 AM Flag
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This is a sickening comment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 01:36 PM Flag
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Idiot that is the whole POINT. Things are getting out of control for stupid bbq so we won't have SCHOOL. One family and keep some distance apart. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 01:35 PM Flag
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would totally go [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 12:15 PM Flag
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No. I would hang out with one or two friends in a backyard, but not 20. Plus, everyone's going to be taking their mask off to eat and drink. As another response said, it's not worth it for a bbq. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.20, 12:54 PM Flag
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