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05.26.08, 11:41 AM Expecting
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Just got out of the pediatric ward with 6 day old db#1. She was hospitalized for jaundice. Feeling so extremely guilty for trying to breastfeed and not really knowing the whole jaundice and bilirubin situation. Mother is totally blaming me and I just want to throw up. So sad. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Expecting 05.26.08, 11:41 AM Flag
 

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this happens all the time, that's why peds see the baby soon after discharge. it's the ped's job to check, not a brand-new mother's. and if your mom can't say anything helpful, ask her to say nothing at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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well said. ita with this. also, it's very tempting to say "i told you so". especially b/c something like jaundice was much more common and much more dangerous when your mom was having kids. glad it was caught. good luck in the future. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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so what happened? she wasn't feeding enough? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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She was feeding all the time but not getting enough hydration (my milk was not totally in yet). She was putting out diapers but all of a sudden her bilirubin count went up and we had to rush to the hospital. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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so she was feeding and had wet diapers so how would you know anything could be wrong? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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What is your mother blaming you for? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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For trying to ebf and not giving the baby formula when she was obviously starving and dehydrated. She called me last night at midnight to make sure that I fed the baby.... Sigh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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np: She was "obviously starving and dehydrated". Tell your mom to STFU. You kid was eating (normal) and peeing (very normal). How in the name of god could you EVER know something was wrong???? You sound like you did everything the right way, which is great! You need some sleep, a big glass of wine and a break from your mom. Hang in there and job well done on bringing db home! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 12:10 PM Flag
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please don't feel bad, both of my baby's had jaundice, the first was hospitalized, they wanted to hospitalize the second but I asked them to wait a little and she was fine. It's not your fault. Stop blaming yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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yeah, but did you insist on ebf? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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np: EBFing just shows the problem sooner, it doesn't cause jaundice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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PLEASE do not blame yourself. It has nothing to do with EBF'ing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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is everything okay now? that's all that matters. it's not your fault. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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congrats on your new daughter. first dc and first few days are always really tough. get rid of your mom-seriously, if she is staying with you, send her away. and tell your dh or partner that you need them to stand in for you-make them the bad guys. if you are looking to ebf, see a lactation consultant or get to a bf support group (I had gl with the women at realbirth). my 2nd dc was jaundiced-it ended up being fine but scary for a few days. I can imagine how stressful this was for you. gl and congrats on your dd. it is hard but enjoy your new dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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