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05.21.08, 17:40 PM General Topics
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ok need advice. I have a friend who seems to have dumped me. I have done what I could to keep the communication channels open but she has not responded. So far I have just donethings like send b day cards and an occasional email. I'm thinking about calling her though. I think after knowing her for 25 years, she owes me an explanation. I am just going to call and act like everything is fine. thoughts? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.21.08, 05:40 PM Flag
 

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good idea. maybe something is up and she doesnt have time or cant bring herself to spill to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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Just call. Who knows what's going on in her life right now. Don't assume anything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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thanks. This has been going on for a couple of years now. Definitely getting the feeling she is upset about something but no idea what [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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Give her the benefit of the doubt. That's being a good friend... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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thx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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my college roommate did this to me -- we had a lot of history and i can't figure out why she dropped me. but in the end, if she doesn't have the common courtesy to acknowledge your emails, i wouldn't bother calling her... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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that's what I have thought but it is bugging me and I miss her. I just think I will call and make her tell me what I did or said or whatever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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tell us how you make out. but if it has been a couple of years, she definitely doesn't want you in her life. i'd cut your losses and leave with some dignity in tact -- that's what my therapist told me.. sorry... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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np - I'm the poster below with the same experience. It's very hard advice to follow but ita. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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maybe but our families are still fiends and it's just damn awkward. SHe was more like a sister than a friend years ago. I don't feel the need to be that close again but I'd like to be able to call and say "remember that time..." or congratulate her on her new nephew etc. Just a civil superficial relationship would be ok. I just really hate feeling cut off and having no idea why [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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just call her and see. one last ditch effort can't hurt anyone but you i guess [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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thanks. I'm tough. I can handle it. It's the not knowing that is hard to live with [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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happened to me, after a year, suddenly she called. you never know what goes on in people's lives, may have nothing to do with you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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This is so strange - the same thing is happenning to me. I actually tracked my "friend" of 20 yrs down through her dh and we went to lunch had a great time and e mailed like crazy for about 6 months. i really love this friend and was so happy. Suddenly she dropped me - I e mailed, I left her a vm on her b'day - nothing!. I am very leery of trackingher down because she obviously has a problem with me or her own set of issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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^^^I aplogize for the all about me response - yes it's worth a try. It's very hard to make new friends so go for it. gl [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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no apology needed. That's what I was looking for really. BTDTs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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I had a friend like this. I finally confronted her and she told what I had done. We never became friends again, but at least I know why the friendship ended. It was still painful though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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that's what I mean. If I have done or said something, I would really like to know. Then it will feel settled. Right now I just feel in limbo. I think of her often and want to call but have been afraid. Screw it. I think I'm going to just call [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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I'd call but if this has been going on for a couple of years I wouldn't just act like everything is fine. Find out what's going on and then you'll know whether the friendship is worth your continued effort or not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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maybe. I thought I'd just call and say something about how much I miss her and wondered how she was etc. Not a big confrontation but I would like to at least be civil and be able to call when I think of her. We grew up together and have a history. I really miss her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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I'd tell her exactly that--that you are wondering how she is and that you miss her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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thx. I will [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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