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[ - ] Now that my dc is going to school, what kind of immunizations should we (parents) have? Dh has some health issues, had several surgeries last year. Chicken pox? Fifth disease (if there is immunization)? Thanks 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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anyone? suggestions? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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are you not vaccinated at all? you should talk to your doc about it. definitely chicken pox if you haven't had it. I don't think there is a vax for fifth disease. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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DC & I get the flu shot every year. I also got a varicella (chicken pox) vaccine because a test showed I didn't have immunities to it. You are probably overdue for a tetanus booster (because most people are). But because of your DH, the flu shot is most important for everyone in your family. Also, although you probably do it already, there are plenty of studies showing hand washing + hand sanitizer are critical for reducing disease spread. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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your ped knows. or you can call the school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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i mean for the adults [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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ok, then ask your doc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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You should be vaccinated for most things although some things do require an adult booster. I travel a lot and had to get a booster for MMR in my late 20s and a bunch of other vaccines which are probably irrelevant here (yellow fever, hepatitis C etc.). I also had to verify that I had the chicken pox through a titre. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:32 AM Flag
[ - ] long shot: 4.5yo wants to take a tennis clinic somewhere this summer (westchester). She's in camp during the week so looking for something on a weekend. Already tried Yonkers Tennis Center and Sportime at Harbor Island. Any other suggestions for Westchester? tia 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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maybe Doral Arrowood [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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thanks, will look into that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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Rye Racquet or Tennis Club in Harrison (can't remember the exact name). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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thanks, will check. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:40 PM Flag
[ - ] any decorator/designer mom on? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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how may I assist you ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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op:hi. We hired a "decorator" who seems to be researching his work as he goes along and I'm not sure what to do about it. For instance, we asked for new light fixtures for all the rooms. He sent a few choices from 1 web store. I asked for more options, he sent 4 choices from another web store. I liked one of them and asked for more options for living room since he'd only sent one to begin with! He sent a few more options from the 1st webstore. We live in Manhattan and there are heaps of lighting stores in town and surrounding areas. I asked if he's seen any of the options he's sending us and he said no. Is this normal? Am a little wary of buying something online - what if we don't like it when we see it etc? Tia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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Has he given you a "plan" for the overall design ? Did you get references and see his work ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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op:no plan for overall design. And we only got one reference (friend of ours) and liked the work he did in their bathroom. Now I'm worried that he's only good with bathroom. When we interviewed him he said no problem to everything we said we wanted done but am getting the distinct feeling that he is learning as he goes along. Eg. we need to upgrade our fireplace. He said he knew exactly what to do, 4 weeks ago. Last week I asked what progress he's made and 2 days later he sent me a link to a possible replacement. I went through all the info and picked what i thought could work but I didn't u/stand some of the terms. Asked for clarification and he said he'd get back to me. Today I asked again and he said he'd get back to me. Now he sends an email asking me to sned over digital photos of the fireplace for him to send to fireplace manufacturer. Surely this is something he shd take care of, not me? FYI, we have not yet signed an agreement with him since he has not sent us one, despite us asking for it. How bad would it be if we 'released' him now? Wld that be totally nasty of us? Tia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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^^sorry. To continue, now he sends me an email asking me to send him digital photos of the fireplace so he can send them to the fireplace manufacturer. Just feel he's taking us for a ride. FYI, we have no signed agreement with him. We asked for one and he said it's so simple that he'll have it over to us later. We first spoke to him in April and his first 'official' visit to our place was in mid-May. Our contractor is ready to start end of June and will not wait for us as he has another job lined up. Can we just "release" this guy ie fire him? Would that be totally nasty? Appreciate the advice. Tia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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I would just send him a Dear John email telling him that you enjoyed working with him but that you think you might be better off with someone else... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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op:I'd love to do that! But is that bad faith? I know I shouldn't worry abt his feelings (!!) but even though I want to tell him to go take a running jump, I'm wimpy enough to worry that it's "bad" to just fire him! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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If you haven't gotten a formal project plan, you need to get one... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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op:what if we don't continue with him. The real reason we hired him is because we were running out of time attending to the renovations. We had a contractor we liked and who'd given us his availability for the second half of the year. New db is due Nov and we thought hiring someone to coordinate eerything made sense as I also have another dc to attend to and dr's appts etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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I would tell you that he sounds a bit like he's either taking you on as a quick "bonus" client and he has no grand plan or that he is learning on the job... IMHO someone taking on a job for your home should have a concrete idea and vision for the job, lay out for you what he sees happening and the time frame, and you should feel that you do not have to be on him to get everything completed to your specifcations. Has he given you any type of presentation about his thoughts on the job ? If not, I may say go somewhere else... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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op:thank you! No, he hasn't given us any presentation. He said that is not how he works. His first 'official' visit was spent looking around the apartment and taking measurements. Then nothing for 2 weeks and when he came back, he had 12 lighting choices and samples for bathroom floor tiles. The following week he asked us if we could go by his apartment to pick up samples for kitchen backsplash. Last Wednesday he told me, when I asked abt it, that he'd placed an order for the bathroom tiles (which we had picked out before hiring him). Yesterday since I was fretting that we won't be able to start on schedule and also doubting him bigtime, I called the tile place and they confirmed that no order had been placed. I had them call him and he told them that he was just about to place the order. I just don't trust him anymore. Can we just tell him we're not impressed and want to discontinue working with him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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^^^btw, I think you're right about taking us on as a quick bonus. I think he has another project that is a gut renovation with a big client (overheard his conversation with a tile salesperson!) and he has carte blance with that one... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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he's not doing you right and a plan is how it is done... Not everything has to have big presentation boards and all that, but there should be a concise overview presented to you so that you are both in agreement as to how the job will be accomplished to everyone's satisfaction. This is your home and your money and you deserve to be kept fully aprised of the project and his strategy for it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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op:thanks. Will talk to dh about it tonight. I'm finding this way too stressful and feel it shouldn't be. His latest email of a few minutes ago was to say that we should reconsider starting end of June since so many things are undecided. But he doesn't acknowledge that he's been the cause of some of the delay. One of the instructions we gave him was that we woould like to only see items that were in stock. Chose new bathroom stuff and yesterday he told us that the vanities were not in stock and he was exploring other options. Just too stressful. I appreciate your feedback and advice (I think there is another poster too? not sure but thanks!) and will talk to dh. Thanks again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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good luck... a decorator is there to eliminate the stress... not add to it. in fact, I had a friend help with my home to take eliminate some stress... it should be enjoyable... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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thanks. I thought it would be fun too...and a lot easier. Just one last question:would a contractor be able to measure and work out how much stone/tile I need for the kitchen backsplash and order it? I know what I want but not sure how much I need. Tia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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yes... he should easily be able to do that for you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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op:thank you again. I truly appreciate being able to talk to someone abt this! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:11 PM Flag
[ - ] What are the best/recommended nursery schools in the Chelsea/Flatiron area? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.17.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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Schools in that area include: Jack & Jill, Beginnings, Acorn, Chelsea Day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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what are the better ones? How does Acorn compare to the rest? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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chelsea day is more midtown day seeing as how it is near the empire state bldg now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:38 PM Flag
[ - ] How do you know when you ovulate if you don't chart? All I have to go by is 2 positive OPK results on Day 16 of my cycle. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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TTC 06.17.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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that's good enough [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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So can I figure that as the ovulation date when it comes to taking a hpt? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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sure, or go by when you expect your period [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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that's a whole other confusing issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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in that case I would wait until at least 12 days after your pos ovulation test - 14 to be sure. good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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thx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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cervical mucus [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:48 AM Flag
[ - ] How long did it take you to get the nuchal results? I am just back from a TERRIBLE experience and am very nervous. TIA 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.17.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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once bloodwork was in, I think it was about 3-4 days. what happened? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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We just had this awful tech who did not communicate AT ALL. Her silence scared me. The baby was in a bad position and even though she poked me over and over - the baby wouldn't move - which scared me more. Then she made me eat and come back - which didn't help. She left the room not knowing what to do and came back and said that we could go.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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aw sorry, she sounds lame. did she say if they got the measurements needed or not? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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Sounds like a crappy tech. Write her name down so you can request not to have her at your next ultrasound. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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np: where? As much as dw and I hated LICH, the ultrasound department there is awesome! The doctor who runs it Dr. Heratz-Rubenstien is a saint. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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we had ours immediately. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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Like right after? What about the blood work? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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i meant we had feedback about the measurements right away. the full test results were about 2 days later. sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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didn't the tech have the doctor on staff talk to you afterwards? And if the baby was in an awkward position, the tech should have gone and asked someone for help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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Was this at NY Hopsital-Cornell? I had a horrbible tech for my 20wk. She hardly gave me any info, and then when she told us the sex, just casually mentioned it, and I could barely hear her. And then was annoyed when I asked her to repeat herself. Also told me to eat and drink or I would have to come back the following week if the baby didn't move. As if this was no big deal. She was clearly someone who should not be in the field she's in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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I had a peri perform my 20w u/s - did you have a dr present or just a tech? I would hate that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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Just tech...and would have had results the next day becasue I went for the bloodwork the week before. But, the Dr was out so I had to wait until the following week. So annoying! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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I think I had the same tech as you! She was terrible and wouldn't tell me anything at all after the 12 week scan so I assumed the worst. Thankfully everything was fine when my Dr called with the results. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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OP: We had it at St.Lukes/Roosevelt (10th ave). She did go to talk to a Dr. about it but then just came in and said you can go. Just a bad tech, but just makes for bad feelings in general, and when you don't hear positive things from the "professional" in a setting like this, you start thinking negative things and worrying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:11 PM Flag
[ - ] did not have a great breastfeeding experience with #1? anyone have this and great luck with #2? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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Me! It's really possibly. #2 just had a good latch from the beginning. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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lactation consultant, lactation consultant, lactation consultant. you deserve the support. gl! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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ita! I suffered so much with my first. Saw a LC really early on for second and the whole thing went so much better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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or: having one come to our house the day after we got home from the hospital was the best advice we ever got from our friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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It was better the second time. It hurt at first, but I knew what to do, and I also realized it was just going to hurt for a while. Then it was fine. The first time it was awful for months. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:54 AM Flag
[ - ] how many weeks were you when you started showing with #2? how many weeks when you told people and co-workers? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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it was hard to button my pants around 10wks. We told people at 12 weeks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:00 AM Flag
[ - ] In wedding on sat - blue dresses, blonde hair, what shade lipgloss and eyeshadow would you rec? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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what kind of blue? what shoes? what is your skin tone? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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np: itta.. I would do up the eyes esp. if a night wedding and go with a natural lip [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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where is the wedding? I am in a wedding on Saturday also. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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^^ to add we HAVE to get our make up and hair done. I say what is this prom 98. URGH!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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np: why wouldn't you want your hair and makeup done? If I were in a wedding I would want to look great [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:59 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have any idea which shapes (besides the obvious) were on the Bracken test? 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.17.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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My kid did really bad on that subtest. I kind of wonder, too, because she pretty much aced all the other subtests. I put a request to review the test in but have not heard back from anybody. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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same here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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tritto - wish I would have prepped [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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I believe pyramid, cylinder, octagon, hexagon, pentagon, cube, sphere, but not positive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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np: How can this be an indicator of intelligence for a 4yo? If a child has never been shown those shapes before, he cannot know what they are - even if he is a genius. So much would depend on exposure and parenting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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ITA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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its a school readiness test. its the test they use for g&t. That's all. It is what it is and you don't have to take it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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I am just reacting to how it is used to determine a very important path for children, especially ones that will otherwise be left in a bad school with no support. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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The path (elementary school g&t) is not as important as it seems to you at this moment in time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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I don't think it's important for any of the children whose mothers post here. Might be VERY important for a kid in East New York. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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The BRSA has nothing to do with intelligence. It's more a knowledge test. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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Right. So why is it used as the only criteria (if I understand correctly) for the G&T program? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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np--it's not the only criteria. it was worth 25%; the olsat was 75%. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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Ah. Thank you for clearing that up (we didn't do any of this). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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lucky you! the whole thing is ridiculous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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that isn't waht they based the "giftedness" on the OLSAT was the gifted indicator. The Bracken was only 25% of the test [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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np. The BSRA is not an intelligence test; no one from the DOE or its publisher ever claimed it was. It's a school readiness assessment. The OLSAT is the component that tests cognition. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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Which shows that it is a test of whether your parents have taught you this stuff, rather than a test of intelligence! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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cylinder, sphere for a 4yo? what kind of school readiness is that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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seriously. mine would look at a sphere and respond "ball". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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lol--not at the kindergarten level. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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my dd bombed shapes on bracken but did great on olsat and got 97 on bracken otherwise. i feel so bad not prepping her, she would have got a 99 otherwise and would have ended up in A. Oh well :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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my son got all but 1 right on the shapes section. he knows what an octagon is, but i don't think he would ever say "cylinder or sphere". so i don't think that was on the test. i could be wrong, but i have never heard him say sphere [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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I think it's more like showing 3 pics and asking which one is the sphere. He may be able to do it by process of elimination [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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fyi, i'm betting they'll drop the bracken next year because 1) everyone now knows what's on it and 2) it was meant to help disadvantaged dcs and i doubt very much it did [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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To the contrary, next year every public school student will be given the Bracken to help identify deficiencies. Not sure if they'll include it in G&T, but they'll need some other component besides OLSAT and everything else is too subjective [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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i'm talking about g&t (which is the context of this thread). now that every ub'er knows to teach their dc what a hexagon is, the whole notion of it helping disadvantaged dcs is a bit moot. i'll bet you ten dollars it's not part of the g&t testing next year. they really don't need anything besides the olsat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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Wasn't the original plan that the BRSA is given first to identify deficiencies? If the kid passes the BRSA he would haven given the OLSAT for G&T placement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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sorry. English no good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:03 PM Flag
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Why do they need some component other than the OLSAT? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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Before the Bracken (that means last year) the preschool teachers were supposed to evaluate your kids' "academic achievement" through a few essay questions. I guess the BRSA is supposed to replace this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 02:11 PM Flag
[ - ] You sounds like a peach 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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And you a plum [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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I find it very alienating for those of us root vegetables here... I'm off to that other place where they respect veggies of all shape and size ! So there ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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and you sound illiterate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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oh no! peach mom is back [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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and peachier than ever! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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i am rhubarb [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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how odd...me too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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L-O-V-E rhubarb... mmmmmm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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I love your ebonics. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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i think you all are avocados, and i am a brussel sprout [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:11 AM Flag
[ - ] quick, give me some good wording for declining an invitation- we'd love to come but we are __________???? as vague as possible and still polite, please? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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already have plans for that day. Have fun (or other appropriate ending) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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have a previous engagement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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enjoying our lives instead [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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committed elsewhere [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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I'm very sorry we won't be able to make it to your party. I hope you have a fantastic day! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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no, that sounds way to ambiguous like "your baby is breathtaking" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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unless these are great friends, a polite "I'm sorry we won't be able to make it" is enough... you don't owe anyone an explanation as to your whereabouts... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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ITA. I'm taking a lot of RSVPs for a big event, and really, I don't want the details. Are you coming or not? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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I think we worry people won't like us or invite us again if we decline... I was happy for "no's" at the last thing i did... kept my costs down ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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no, people really don't care why you can't come. it's way worse to get some stupid obviously made up excuse than for someone to just politely say they can't make it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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correct, above poster... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:09 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone on who has done IUI at Cornell? How much monitoring is involved? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Went to Spandorfer. I start clomid on day 5, he started monitoring on day 10 - every other day if follicles were tiny still, or every day if he thought you were about to pop. Then hcg trigger, followed by IUI next morning. [ Reply | More
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yes, 2x. monitoring every other day, then every day. [ Reply | More
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5 morning visits per cycle. GL!!! [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Does anyone else think it is really f**ked up that NYC has a 40% c-section rate??? I find this really shocking and I think it's awful that as a pg woman in NY you face such a huge likelihood of having an unnecessary cesarean. 105 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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when i was in nydh with my baby, my roomate was 58 yo women new mother [ Reply | More
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they are unlikley to sue [ Reply | More
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nothing of value to say, so you resort to name calling. Really proves your point, dear. [ Reply | More
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ditto for me - pushed for over 2 hours. epi didn't work. aI wanted to die. So wish I had gone straight to a c. [ Reply | More
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it's not necessary to do a c in this case- [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.22.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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How ironic ... your understanding of the relative risks of a C-section and a vaginal birth is neither educated nor intelligent. [ Reply | More
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What's with all these old posts about childbirth? [ Reply | More
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^^^^ That! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.10, 03:24 AM Flag
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My water broke, I went to the hospital, and after 2 days and 2 rounds of induction, I never fully dilated, only getting to 8cm. Additionally, my 7lb, 4 oz. baby boy never dropped down and my pelvis was not large enough to allow his head to pass through. The result was a C. Should I have sat there, waters broken, risking infection for another 2 days hoping to dilate so I could push and have a vaginal birth? Absolutely not. I was on oxygen for the last 4 hours before the C and the doctors were concerned about infection. For subsequent pregnancies, VBAC is not an option for me and believe me, I've seen 4 different top doctors on this. Flame all you want, but I don't think the risk is worth it in certain cases, so take your righteous attitude elsewhere. [ Reply | More
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how are you drawing the conclusion that this reflect a "huge" likelihood of an "unnecessary cesarean"? What percentage of that 40% are "unnecessary"? Signed, mom who had full placenta previa and had no option but a C-section. [ Reply | More
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NP: I think WHO says that C-section rates should be around 10-15% and that if it's far above that, then some of those C-sections are not medically necessary. That doesn't mean yours wasn't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.10, 06:10 AM Flag
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But that's a general statistic. if NYC has a disporpotiantely large population of older mothers, and high risk patients (e.g., women who come from the surrounding area specifically because they want to have their high risk delivery at a top notch hospital) then it's going to throw the numbers off. What I'd like to see before jumping to the "unnecessary" conclusion is the stats on what % are not medically required. [ Reply | More
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NP: Yes, I knew that when I cited the "ideal" rate, but I don't think that the older and high-risk patients could possibly account for the 25% disparity. It's probably due overwhelmingly to our litigious medical culture (doctors being afraid of being sued if things go wrong). In a place like NY, I think that you can't ignore the less important but notable "trendy" factor - people love imitating celebrities and celebrities often get elective C-sections. [ Reply | More
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I am sorry I disagree with this. No one pushes you into c-sec. You are either higher risk than they are comfortable with or you schedule it for convenience of schedules yours or your doctors. And if you doc. is the kind to request major surgery because his schedule would clash with your delivery then get thee to a different doctor and report that one to AMA. [ Reply | More
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Not true. I was in a hospital in LI laboring for a long time and the drs. pressured me into a c-section because I wasn't progressing fast enough. I kept saying no, until they literally forced me to have one saying my baby will die if I don't, which was a blatant lie. [ Reply | More
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Eat Sh@t, OP. You have no idea that these high numbers include people like me, who have seizure complications that can put myself and child at risk. I was also told that my pituitary brain tumor was pressing up against my optic nerve and that pressure might make it burst leading to blindness and further complications. You are so ignorant not to think about people like me. There are a lot of us in NYC. Dumb@ss. [ Reply |