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07.03.20, 23:16 PM General Topics
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Our 8yo DD is very assertive and pushy, she gets impatient if she’s not getting her own way and will always steer things the way she wants. This isn’t much of an issue with her younger siblings but socially it’s tough as her peers don’t like it. At school she’s had issues where she’ll fall out with someone because they tell her she’s ‘annoying’ and then not include her. There are definitely times when she’s too much but how I do help her to tone it down? Thanks [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.03.20, 11:16 PM Flag
 

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i feel like i stopped this once my parents started spanking me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 11:19 PM Flag
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Ily. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 12:58 AM Flag
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I hope this is a troll post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 11:26 PM Flag
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OP no it’s a genuine post asking for advice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 11:30 PM Flag
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You need to work with her daily to tell and show her this is not ok. It really is not ok. Deal with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 12:07 AM Flag
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It’s not as obvious as it reads in my post. She’s a sweet kid and a great older sister. She’s always helping me and anticipating what I might need. But what exactly would you recommend I do or say to her? She tells me about situations and thats how I know about this pattern [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 12:25 AM Flag
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DS is this way. Was diagnosed autism spectrum. Now 15 and no friends. You have to get on it. That inflexibility is not good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 01:18 AM Flag
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I have an EXTREMELY assertive 8yo daughter too. Her first words were “I do what I want, Mama” and she hasn’t backed down since. However, she now knows that she cannot act like that all the time because we won’t stand for it and it isn’t appropriate in school or any other social situations. She’s still very willful at home and not a great listener with her parents but she’s a fantastic student and super popular with her teachers and classmates. She’s got a super sunny disposition and is very sweet and cute and she knows how to work that to her advantage, but she also knows when she can’t do that and she needs to fall in line. You need to teach your dd some boundaries. It doesn’t need to be spanking, but she does need to know that she doesn’t call all the shots. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 01:19 AM Flag
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Thanks this behavior is very subtle in our home but seems to be a bigger issue socially. I think I need to speak to her directly about it. It could also be that some of the other kids are mean or whatever so it’s hard to know [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 01:32 AM Flag
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Most kids will behave worse at home than in public but some are the opposite. If your daughter is assertive and pushy as you describe it isn’t the other kids. How do her teachers describe her? Does she have any friends? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 01:39 AM Flag
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Yes she definitely has friends and she’s a bright and attentive student. She started camp this week and had the same issues she had socially last year [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 02:31 PM Flag
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I have an EXTREMELY assertive 8yo daughter too. Her first words were “I do what I want, Mama” and she hasn’t backed down since. However, she now knows that she cannot act like that all the time because we won’t stand for it and it isn’t appropriate in school or any other social situations. She’s still very willful at home and not a great listener with her parents but she’s a fantastic student and super popular with her teachers and classmates. She’s got a super sunny disposition and is very sweet and cute and she knows how to work that to her advantage, but she also knows when she can’t do that and she needs to fall in line. You need to teach your dd some boundaries. It doesn’t need to be spanking, but she does need to know that she doesn’t call all the shots. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 01:20 AM Flag
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"assertive" is that the new code for "bratty"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 08:08 PM Flag
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OP it’s not bratty as she’s well behaved, listens to her teachers etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 10:45 PM Flag
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