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07.02.20, 11:43 AM General Topics
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Our DD started at a public K. I had just started back to work in September after maternity leave so I wasn’t involved much with the class and didn’t get to meet many of the families. Then with the pandemic there was no opportunity to socialize. Last week we got an Evite from the class parent that she was hosting a graduation BBQ at their house. She invited the whole class which is about 25 families and most rsvpd to attend. I wanted to go and socialize with the group but DH said no. I took a photo of the RSVPs and texted it to a mom friend in an older grade to get her perspective. She forwarded the photo back to one of the families that was attending to criticize them for gong. Now the host who I don’t even know is mad with me. Should I reach out to her or let it go? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
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Why was a photo necessary for any of this? I would apologize. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.20, 11:46 AM Flag
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I don’t know most of the families but she does so I wanted to know if she thought they were being safe. So I could tell DH and try to go to the event [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.20, 11:47 AM Flag
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Your started drama for no reason [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.20, 11:57 AM Flag
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It seems like the friend started drama. Although I don't really understand why OP had to involve her and couldn't just have an adult conversation with her DH. (Also, this seems like a stupid and risky thing to do. Don't go.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.20, 12:05 PM Flag
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OP it’s because a we’re new to the school and don’t know the families. Our friend has older DCs and knows many of this K group who also have older DCs. But yes I regret sending it to her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.20, 12:07 PM Flag
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Your friend is a Karen. She should have minded her own business [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.20, 11:58 AM Flag
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I know and I had no idea she would react that way. I really wanted to go and now I’m afraid it makes it look like I was judging their group when I was looking for support to attend. But what do I do now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.20, 12:04 PM Flag
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Na ha, you were definitely judging and being gossipy and it came back to bite you in the butt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.20, 12:42 PM Flag
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No - the friend may have genuinely been scared that the risk was now heightened for her family. That said she handled it inappropriately and without consideration of consequences to OP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.20, 01:29 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.20, 02:13 PM Flag
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Asking a friend if they think the party is safe doesn’t mean you need to eat out people who are going. You can’t go to the party now. Send your regrets and try to get your DD some Park play dates this summer so you can meet people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.20, 12:41 PM Flag
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The party was last week [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.20, 02:13 PM Flag
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Where do you live? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.20, 01:09 PM Flag
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CT suburb [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.20, 02:13 PM Flag
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1) friend is a jerk or 2) friend acted without thinking or both. And I agree with you to not go. 3) next time trust your gut 4) remember all tests can be screen shots. I started screen shots of a vindictive friends text as future insurance in case any mutual friends doubt me when I say she’s been spewing crap about them too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.20, 01:16 PM Flag
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Texts not tests [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.20, 01:17 PM Flag
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You shouldn’t have sent a screen shot. Just have asked her opinion. Oh well. I would call the host (no paper trail) and let her know you were just asking advice if you should go or not, that w a new baby, you’re feeling vulnerable. You appreciate the invite and either yes, I’d love to come or no, I’d love to come but are not ready for large crowds yet. When this is all over, I’d love to take You out for a coffee or cocktail. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.20, 05:44 PM Flag
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...PS, no way in hell I’d go. People are acting irresponsibly and I am not willing to risk my or my family’s health and well being for a bbq. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.20, 05:45 PM Flag
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