UrbanBaby

07.01.20, 18:17 PM General Topics
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I do I give my male boss anonymous 360 feedback saying he is creating a frat boy culture when I am the only woman on his leadership team? He will surely know it's from me. Something about inclusive culture in general? Valuing diversity (of which there is none on the team except me)? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.01.20, 06:17 PM Flag

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Why does it have to be anonymous? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.20, 06:20 PM Flag

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General Topics 07.01.20, 06:23 PM Flag

That is the way the request was sent out. It's "unattributed" feedback. I suppose I could sign my name but that might screw the other people who don't want to be known by eliminating me as a possible responder. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.20, 06:37 PM Flag

I think I’d find a different way to raise this, where it doesn’t seem to be targeted to one individual [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.20, 06:25 PM Flag

Don't do it, and start looking. There's no good way out of this one. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.20, 06:29 PM Flag

OP: Ugh. I fear you are right. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.20, 06:38 PM Flag

I have seen this a number if times (worked in the cannabis industry for a time, which is a frat boy culture nightmare across the board). If he's creating this culture, it's because he enjoys this culture. He will just remove the buzz kill (you). Your work will get scrutinized until they can find a way to get rid of you that is not obviously because you made this complaint. Do not bother. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.20, 08:45 PM Flag

OP, listen to the above poster! This is the right advice. I was in a similar culture and realized too late that the VC team funding the company had forced my hire in an attempt to fix what they saw as a frat boy culture. Unfortunately the exec leadership team and founders were happy with their frat boy culture and did everything possible to marginalize me, bash my ideas, and scrap my projects. I quit and it was the right thing to do. But it did sting to see all the work I’d done that they’d dismissed suddenly get revived as “their” initiatives. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.20, 09:31 PM Flag

OP: ugh, I can see this happening and then the congrats going to him [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.02.20, 12:26 PM Flag

I hate to say I agree. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.20, 07:47 PM Flag

Why don't you ask the non "frat boys" if they like the culture or not. Maybe more than one of you wants a more inclusive environment. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.20, 07:41 PM Flag

Actually, maybe commend him for the good ole boy feeling within the team and how it boosts productivity. But that it could be better if there were after work outings to clubs. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.20, 08:27 PM Flag

*more* after work strip club outings [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.20, 08:36 PM Flag

"gentlemen's clubs" [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.02.20, 04:13 AM Flag

OP: ha! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.02.20, 12:26 PM Flag