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06.11.20, 19:02 PM General Topics
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Etiquette Question Hello Everyone I posted the below on another forum. No one seemed to get the point I am trying to make about etiquette. I am interested in what people think about the below situation. I of course am working from home during this time like so many others. I live with my sister, my mom and niece (who has asthma). I live in Long Island in a large house with a pool. A co-worker who I am close to (I'll call him S) had to come to LI for some reason and asked if he could stop by and visit me, he also planned on visiting other co workers on his day trip. He stopped by, we talked outside at a distance in my yard, we both wore masks, I gave him a tour of my garden. He left to visit another co-worker I will call C. The next day C messages me on Slack offering to visit me at my house where we will "work from home together". This request annoyed me, S who I am quite close to doesn't understand why this also annoyed me, he says he did rave about my house and showed C a video of my pool. Am I being unreasonable to be upset at both S and C. Also C has a general "it's your job to entertain me" vibe. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.11.20, 07:02 PM Flag
 

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Why did you let him come over? Let this be the last time you ever have him over to begin with? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:06 PM Flag
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I misread. Forget about S. Do it invite C! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:07 PM Flag
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Do not invite C. You have no obligation to her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:07 PM Flag
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I find his behavior gaudy. Why was he recording your home? Why did you let him over? You have no obligation to C [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:09 PM Flag
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Describe to us what S is like. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:13 PM Flag
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OP: Gay, married and in his 50s [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:15 PM Flag
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I just think it's a bit of an overreaction to be upset. I think you can just acknowledge to yourself that you know the type of person S is, so you shouldn't be surprised. You watched him video your garden, so you knew he was excited by it. Maybe you knew he was going to C next, so it's not a reach that he might share it. All you have to do in this scenario is say 'Oh, C, yeah, we're are still following social distancing rules and not having people over.' That's it. She keeps pushing, just repeat. There doesn't have to be any drama here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:19 PM Flag
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I had no idea he took a video, have no memory of him doing this. He certainly didn't say he was [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:41 PM Flag
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Wth. Ok, maybe take a break from S. That's a weird thing to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:51 PM Flag
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No, I'd be annoyed. So much jerk behavior in such a short story. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:19 PM Flag
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All three of them sound irritating [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:41 PM Flag
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You must be in a really casual industry. I work in finance and can't imagine that gall. Say no, your family doesn't want guests, end of story. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:03 PM Flag
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I wouldn’t read too much into it. Sounds like S thought you had a pretty pool and took a pictures and showed C when he visited with them. C is probably bored and thought it’d be nice change-up to work at your place since you have a nice home. That said, I understand your issue with boundaries and coworkers. It’s so weird right now with everyone working from home. The familiarity and privacy thing gets blurred. This particular instance/request from C is easy to shut down firmly yet politely. I might explain to S why it bothered me but it might be too subtle for others to understand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:18 PM Flag
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You can be annoyed at C for being a schnorrer, but S didn't really do anything wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:29 PM Flag
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