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06.11.20, 17:31 PM New York City
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Anyone else having behavior issues with your son the longer they are out of school? My son is 10, almost 11, and will argue with me any chance he gets. Lately, it's been over the inappropriate videos he finds on YouTube. Since camps are closed I worry this is only going to get worse. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 06.11.20, 05:31 PM Flag
 

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My ten year old has been working his way through the Simpsons. It's led to some innapropriate comments (espeically about drinking, lots of drunk jokes in the Simposons) but in gereral he's become a more pleasant person during the shutdown. Dh and I have really focused on manors and appropraite behavior with our kids since we are with them all the time to reinforce it now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 05:34 PM Flag
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OP: I wish my son were into The Simpsons. He's very hot and cold about it, but I think it's a good show to like since it has universal appeal. All he wants to do is make makeshift drums and talk in a voice that makes him sound dumb. He learned it from a YouTube show we have since banned. But every day is just an exercise in pushing boundaries -- and we go out and move around every day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 05:38 PM Flag
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The Simpsons is worse that you would think especially since it's on Disney plus. I thought it would be fine and at this point it would be hard to backpeddle on it but DS has talked ALOT of excessive drinking and other inappropirate things since he sarted watching. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 06:26 PM Flag
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My 10 year old DS has been an angel... it's my 7 year old DD who is a freaking nightmare (defiant, disrespectful, punishments don't work), and is only getting worse! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 05:37 PM Flag
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OP: Maybe it's kids in general. We decamped out to Greenwich because I thought it would be nice for him to have a yard and lots of space to scooter, etc. And he likes the yard and our evening walks, but during the day, if he doesn't have a Zoom call, it's drumming and searching for videos. I had a local high school kid come by on Sunday to hang out, but DS thinks he is too old. He wants to meet other fifth/sixth graders. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 05:42 PM Flag
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I'm still in the city, in an apt with no outdoor space, and we work full time so can't take the kids outside for any stretches until work/school is done... but I know the biggest thing that's missing for my (normally very athletic) kids is just straight-up "play." Like physical running around, rough-housing, role-playing, etc. We take them out to the park and they can run and play catch a bit there - but it is all so supervised and structured. There is no time or space for them to just be careless, destructive, skin a knee, etc. You've definitely got the space and opportunity in the burbs, but I get your kid's reluctance to go all in if he doesn't have a same-age playmate to play with. When school is out, would you be open to hosting a friend for a week or so? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 06:18 PM Flag
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OP: Yes, def plan on having kids over. Even trying to scope some out now, locally. Sadly, the Greenwich beaches are not allowing guests until further notice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 06:21 PM Flag
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Are they checking papers for kids? If you're a homeowner, how would they know if you have 3 kids or 2? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 06:39 PM Flag
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OP: The process to get a Greenwich beach pass is NO JOKE. I had to send them my new lease, a bank statement that has my address and my son's birth certificate. There is a bar code on the passes to make sure you are legit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:41 PM Flag
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Wow. I mean, I totally get restricting to residents (and not bringing in other adults or entire families...) but what if you are caring for a relative or friend's kid temporarily or something? Would hope there would be some give there, given the taxes you pay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:55 PM Flag
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OP: You can get a nanny pass, and usually you can get a day pass for guests, but those are restricted for the time being due to Covid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:57 PM Flag
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In Greenwich you must have a beach pass. They are only given to residents for this exact reason. Yes, they check your car and you would be foolish to try to bypass them. Greenwich beaches are for residents. Not renters or visitors. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:49 PM Flag
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Going to be tough as you don't live or go to school in Greenwich. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:47 PM Flag
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OP: We signed a year long lease. Our passes are en route to us. :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:52 PM Flag
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My 7 year old has been a disrespectful nightmare too. We will get through this! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:46 PM Flag
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OP: Ha! Yes! Maybe we should just bring all our rude children to my house and they can spend the day sassing each other and chasing each other around with Nerf guns. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:53 PM Flag
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I'm appalled at her behavior, and at how badly we have failed. We've been in a 1,000sf apartment together 23 hours a day (the other hour we're together outside) for 14 weeks. There is literally no punishment or reward system that works under these circumstances with her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:14 PM Flag
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My 9 year old has had some real moments for sure. His default tone now is complete rudeness. I think he is just absolutely miserable being separated from his friends and sports. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 06:11 PM Flag
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OP: Yes! I think sitting around and staring at Zoom all day is really hard on a kid. My son LOVED the goofy, after school sports that he took. He made real friends there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 06:14 PM Flag
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This how my 12 yo is. I have to think its the same reasoning. We also left the city to give our DCs some more space and a pool, so he is without his friends and spring soccer was ruined. My 10 yo DD has been happier since we found her a barn to ride at. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 06:39 PM Flag
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We are in the city and not seeing friends or playing soccer, so def let your kid know he is much better off!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 06:50 PM Flag
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^if he is blaming you in a way for separating him from those things, that is. Nobody is doing it here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 06:51 PM Flag
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He is just mad at the world for being seperated from everything. He is a very social kid, and this is difficult for him, just as it is for many other kids. He has been playing FIFA online with his friends, most have also scattered out of the city. My DH has been kicking the ball around with him daily, and he has been teaching him how to surf. I think we are all just ready for some semblance of normalcy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:08 PM Flag
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I know it's all relative (and that I have advantages that others don't as well), but my kid would KILL to have a yard to play in and get to surf. Hang in there! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:10 PM Flag
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Yep. Making a 16yo boy socially distance from his girlfriend has been a nightmare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 06:44 PM Flag
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np: Oh Dear :) - [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 06:52 PM Flag
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Oh man :-( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:24 PM Flag
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OP: What if you just indulged him and let him see the GF? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:43 PM Flag
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My 13 year old gives me much more attitude. He needs his social outlets and I can't provide them as mom. I feel for all these kids - they are losing a year of their childhood to be carefree - [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 06:53 PM Flag
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OP: Can anyone recommend some good books to read about raising boys? I need ALL the help I can get these day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:44 PM Flag
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ditto. it's almost like i could write each of your posts in the thread. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.20, 09:06 PM Flag
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its been hard but trying to empathize very much with the child always keeping in mind how hard this is for them..the isolation, distance learning, etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:48 PM Flag
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we are having this issue. it's making us cry. we don't know what to do. lots of cursing and yelling by 10 year old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.20, 09:04 PM Flag
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some of the westchester camps are open - they are going to be a lifesaver to get the kids outside. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.20, 09:08 PM Flag
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