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06.10.20, 16:36 PM General Topics
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Just spoke to a friend who moved in with her parents on LI. School district has 33 kids signed up for K. TOTAL. Reading specialists, aides, 15 kids per class. They'll have staggered schedules next fall. For free. Why am I doing this to us, why am I hanging on to Brooklyn? We are not rich, dreading paying for private K next year, dont need to go to the office. Renting. Why in the hell we cant just leave? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.10.20, 04:36 PM Flag
 

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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:37 PM Flag
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No family anywhere. We don't really have anywhere to go, we have a community in Brooklyn. I am more scared than anything. And we have 2 contracts we'd need to get out of - private K and rental (lease up July 2021). I am afraid of both of them suing us [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:39 PM Flag
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So stay. We know we wouldn't be happy in the suburbs, we love city life, even its overcrowded/unpredictable schools (we're public) and shitty infrastructure. Everything has trade-offs. If a 15-kid-K-class has enough value to you to give up everything else you love about Brooklyn + NYC, go for it. You selected a particular private school for a reason - was is just simply because it's "better than your public" or was there more to it that you valued, things your kids might not get elsewhere, even a quaint small town public? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:45 PM Flag
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np. all this. you pay a premium to live in NYC and you need to examine whether the trade offs are worth it. I know it's a luxury to live in the city and have a shorter commute and an interesting walkable environment, but if you can't afford it, go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:58 PM Flag
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agree to this and above. the city isnt for everyone. i hate the suburbs and really dont want to leave the city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 05:11 PM Flag
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me too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 11:58 PM Flag
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np. We are renters in Brooklyn with no family in the USA. Our community is in NYC and I consider raising kids here part of their education. It has to get really bad for us to leave. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 06:03 PM Flag
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Disease, crime, political unrest - are you waiting for locusts? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 01:40 AM Flag
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you sound like youd be happier elsewhere, but you have 2 contracts. i think you are stuckk here for a year. plan to leave in a year. or, by then, city life may be so different that you wont want to. i dont know how youd get out of both contracts, honestly. surprised you have a 2 yr lease. Thats rare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 06:52 PM Flag
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NP: I've lived in NYC since 1997, in 5 different buildings, 5 different management companies, and have always had 2 year lease options. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 07:24 PM Flag
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well, i have you beat. Native New Yorker born in the 1960s. Ive rented in a dozen neighbs (UWS, east vill, williamsburg...). Only one had a 2 year lease option, and it was optional. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 07:35 PM Flag
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Are you working mostly with individual owners or larger management companies? 4 of my 5 have been large, anonymous management companies (big, full service buildings), and one was a walk-up registered as an LLC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 07:39 PM Flag
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So you've moved roughly every two years for the past 35 years or so? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 07:41 PM Flag
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*3 years, that is [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 07:41 PM Flag
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I don't know, why can't you leave? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:39 PM Flag
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obviously need psych help. seriously. complete and absolute fucking denial of reality [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:40 PM Flag
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np. Or subconsciously you know you won't be happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 06:30 PM Flag
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what school district is that small? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:41 PM Flag
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I'm in a Chicago suburb (not the OP) and my district is that small. We have 3 kindergarten classrooms, all expected to run between 15-18. But we're likely to go hybrid, which means each class will run about 8-9 kids each 2 days a week. I'm beyond thrilled. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 09:03 PM Flag
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I would leave, but we own our apartment and I can't imagine cleaning and organizing it and listing it for sale right now. But if you rent, break the lease (or at least talk to your landlord about it and try to come to an agreement). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:46 PM Flag
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Just go. You'll build a new community. It will be so much better basically anywhere else. You'll hear all this "REAL New Yorkers wouldn't leave! You just can't hack it!" rhetoric, but that's just misery-loves-company sentiment from people who truly are stuck here for whatever reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:48 PM Flag
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I find "NYC is awesome and the burbs suck" and "the burbs are amazing NYC is miserable" to just be different sides of the same annoying coin. People are allowed to like different things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:50 PM Flag
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Yes. Pros and cons to both. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 05:46 PM Flag
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We left Queens for LI. Same for my kids elementary school. It was like a pink puff cloud of happiness at the elementary level. The HS is rigorous and the my kids are off to good colleges. I was not rich enough for raising a familly in the city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:49 PM Flag
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What town ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 05:50 PM Flag
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Because this is temporary. If you think you'll be happy there 3 years down the line, by all means, go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:58 PM Flag
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Just leave!? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 05:14 PM Flag
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^^particularly if you are a renter, just go sounds nice to me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 05:17 PM Flag
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LI is great but taxes are very high. Our taxes are 14k small home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 05:49 PM Flag
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im a native NYker, 3rd generation. Grew up in Manhattan up without a car, and failed my driving test as a teen. Mt driving lessons were navigating Park Avenue at rush hour! Not ideal. I never took it again, which I regret. I always thought the suburban friends I made at camp had such a cool life, with their houses and yards, but I never felt comfortable out there. I feel safer in a building with a doorman, than in a house "on the ground floor", if you know what i mean! I cant see living in a house and driving places. I love walking around NYC because its home. If I grew up in the burbs, I can 100% understand why moving to NYC would be a terrible choice. Maybe others feel differently, but its the way that your OWN bed is more of a comfort than a luxury hotel room anywhere else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 07:00 PM Flag
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Maybe you've already found the place you want to live? Maybe a school district with only 33 kids in a single grade works for your friends, but it doesn't for you? It's ok to want something different. Being in a large, diverse area can have many benefits and it's a reason that many of us stay here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 09:35 PM Flag
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Depends on the culture of the school and if your family will have any peers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 11:53 PM Flag
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A lot of the small towns on Long Island are full of carni folk. Just think about what kind of peers you want for your DCs and family [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 12:11 AM Flag
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