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06.10.20, 15:53 PM General Topics
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Makes me feel awkward when people invite themselves to our summer house, even for just the day. I do it once in a while but I don't like feeling the pressure and feeling like I have to say yes and if I say maybe or we'll see or whatever then I'm a jerk. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.10.20, 03:53 PM Flag
 

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I mean either you have people or you don't really. if you don't then just say 'we're not there yet'. if [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:00 PM Flag
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I mean either you have people or you don't really. if you don't then just say 'we're not there yet'. if [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:00 PM Flag
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you never do it's a lot easier not to feel awkward [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:01 PM Flag
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Please just say no. I hate the feeling that people blurted out an invite but then when we show up I feel like they didn't mean it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:15 PM Flag
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OP: I was happy to have them come once recently, but i very quickly (within a day) got a request to set up a next time, it felt pushy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:45 PM Flag
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^^PS not a close friend, if it were a very close friend I'd be happy to do it a lot more often - I'm talking my kids' friends and their parents who I'm friendly enough with [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:49 PM Flag
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Even more reason to say No if they are not close and are imposing. Don't be afraid to say no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 06:00 PM Flag
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They can't really invite themselves, they can only ask in a very pushy way, you can always say no, which is a complete sentence, and you are not being a jerk by rejecting rude people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:16 PM Flag
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ITA. This year is very easy. Sorry we are trying to keep the company to a minimum this year. Done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:20 PM Flag
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Oh my god, what kind of friends does everyone have? I have a beautiful pool and I love with my friends come sit with me while the kids play and if it turns into a BBQ or ordering in all the better. I don't want to sit around my nice things alone, I get enough of that working remotely right now during the week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:37 PM Flag
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OP: everyone is different, DH and I are working hard during the week and really look forward to relaxing with our immediate family on the weekend, not entertaining. I did it one day this week and it was tiring and left me with a ton to clean up. I guess it depends on one's personality - I find it kind of draining but once in a while it's ok. And btw these aren't great friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:47 PM Flag
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so say no, we're busy. or don't mention your beach house to them. Maybe back off all together if they are draining, it can't be easy to maintain friendships with people if you don't see them, maybe mention an alternative plan like tennis. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 04:59 PM Flag
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OP: they are super nice people, they personally aren't draining they are just not my family or close friends and for some people (me) that feels like work. And they were already here a few days ago and asked to come back less than 24 hours later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 05:06 PM Flag
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^^but I did find a way to respond to her that both pumped the brakes and didn't insult her and she was very understanding [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 05:12 PM Flag
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NP, I'm an introvert and I would hate this. I also can't imagine *asking* to come back less than a day after being a guest. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 07:14 PM Flag
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np. i get it, i don't like playing hostess and feeling like i need to have food, drink, and do other things a good hostess does. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 05:03 PM Flag
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Awkward? It should make you think - these people are rude, and No. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.10.20, 07:28 PM Flag
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