UrbanBaby

06.10.20, 14:17 PM General Topics
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I have 3 gamers at home, they are 15 and 17. The 17 y.o does have sedentary part time work. I turn off the screens but they kind of hang around waiting me out. My new idea is to get them fitness trackers and set an amount to complete each day. We are in the suburbs with a pool, bikes and dogs to walk so it is not lack of opportunity. All are thin but this sitting around seems so unhealthy. What do you think? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.10.20, 02:17 PM Flag

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My 18 yo is sitting around so much that he's been eating less because his calorie need has decreased. He's also happy and healthy, and tends to be underweight. I'm not micromanaging screen time, he's been through anxiety and significant depression so happy is equal to healthy for us right now. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:27 PM Flag

^^In other words, he's a gamer, it makes him happy, I accept that. We pushed him to go outside last weekend and the sight of so many in masks triggered a panic attack, not worth it. If your kids are older teens and gamers, and they are happy, and are doing their part in walking the dog, not sure what the problem is. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:28 PM Flag

the dog was just an example of their possabilities for exercise but no they don't walk him. I am not sure that it is healthy for anyone to sit inside all day, mentally or physically. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:32 PM Flag

Do you think that is a good long term solution. My son sufffers from anxiety and also wants to be on the game all day. I don’t think it is healthy at all and I do not think avoiding things that cause anxiety work in the long run. I do not mean this as a criticism at all. NP [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:35 PM Flag

My dh suffers from depression and anxiety and his parents allowed their kids to not do anything and watch tv and play games. His sister still has issues and his parents support her and her family. My dh has learned to cope through diet, exercise but I am not sure avoiding stressors really works. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:40 PM Flag

When you have had a kid be suicidal, your priorities shift. What is healthy for my kid might not work for you, but yes, for my DC we need to be more protective and limit the stressors. For example, he's going to a very nurturing college next year as we all knew that a pressure-cooker school could literally be dangerous. He can deal with most things given time and support, but he's been inside for over a month, a sudden exposure to a very different and frankly scary context wasn't our best move so we're not pushing for more right now. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:45 PM Flag

wow that sounds so tough, but my kids are not having any big issues and I feel that too much screen time could lead to problems [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.20, 02:51 PM Flag

My son is younger and I did not mean to insult you at all. My dh feels that avoiding stressors made his depression worse and he was suicidal as well. I am concerned for my kids. I just was curious if you worry about his coping in the future. I am sorry if my post upset you. It was not intended. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.20, 03:03 PM Flag

I would do that. Kids need to exercise. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.20, 03:11 PM Flag

How did you get through the depression? I have a very unhappy 13 yr. old. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.10.20, 05:15 PM Flag