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06.07.20, 14:05 PM General Topics
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Thinking of renting a house in Hawaii for a few weeks (3-4wks). I would have to work NYC hours so ~3:00am - 12:00pm. I would have DC (6y) with me and it would be just the two of us. Is this a crazy idea? I could potentially hire someone locally to watch him for a few hours (maybe 9a-12p). [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.07.20, 02:05 PM Flag
 

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Can you do it for 8 weeks? That's a really short amount of to adjust and then adjust back to the hours. Any college aged person in your circle who would do the babysitting in exchange for a bed and a ticket? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:10 PM Flag
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I would do it for 5-6wks and take last two weeks as a pto so the working part would be 3-4wks. I wouldn't want to have somebody live with us but I am ok hiring locally since I would be around the whole time and would need somebody to just superwise DC's play. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:12 PM Flag
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That sounds awful. The flight. The work hours. The being alone for weeks with a 6 year old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:11 PM Flag
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I alone with 6yr as is so that doesn't change. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:13 PM Flag
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I don't see how that would work. Six year old won't remember/doesn't care about the location. You'll be asleep by 7. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:12 PM Flag
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we went when DC was not yet 5 and he talks about going back to hawaii every day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:14 PM Flag
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It probably wasn't about Hawaii but about you being excited to go and him having your undivided attention. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:19 PM Flag
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no, it was not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:19 PM Flag
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Ok,well it seems like you really want to go and think it's the right thing for you and your DC so you should absolutely do it. Wjo cares what the rest of us think? You asked and we answered but we don't have to go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:23 PM Flag
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i asked about the working hours, whether DC remembers or not is completely irrelevant and has no bearing on a decision. if there were closer alternatives, I would consider them but it's either FL (hot and humid + potential hurricanes/tropical storms), CA desert (hot) or the Hamptons (40+K/month). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:26 PM Flag
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The working hours are ridiculous and you know it. Whether there is any sort of value in the particular location that offsets this id absolutely relevant. E.g., if you needed to be in Hawaii to care for a sick relative. But if it's just a place you and your kid liked going in the past, definitely not worth it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:28 PM Flag
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^^^ and there are lots of places, up and down the east coast or even inland where you could enjoy a house with a pool and nice weather and water, whether ocean (Maine to n. Carolina) or lake (lake placid, lake George, lake Michigan). You're being willfully obtuse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:31 PM Flag
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I found so many places on airbnb in about 3 minutes. I think OP just wants to go to Hawaii, which is fine, but she needs to cut the BS about how it's impossible to find a place on the east coast. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:45 PM Flag
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Do they still have the 2 week quarantine? They have been really strict about people staying at home if they have been coming from out of state. You will not be allowed to go to parks / beaches. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:13 PM Flag
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this. Hawaii enforces the 14 day quarantine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:15 PM Flag
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Yes, will you be able to grocery shop even? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 05:10 PM Flag
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This. They check up on people's social media posts, hotels give single-use room keys, etc. It's a real quarantine, not 'go the grocery store once a week and do outdoor activities" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 07:31 PM Flag
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they still do and likely will stay that way at least until EO June. We could stay in the house since it has a pool [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:17 PM Flag
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Locals do not want you there. Read some local news sites about the topic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:25 PM Flag
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well then why not rent a house just about anywhere nice that has a pool. It's summer, everyplace is nice (except maybe AZ or NV) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:36 PM Flag
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The places that are available And have private pools are either FL, Palm Springs ca, or hi. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:46 PM Flag
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Why? The times you’d have to work are miserable. Seems ridiculous [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:16 PM Flag
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You’d be sleeping from 12pm to 8pm , why does this seem like a good idea to you ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:17 PM Flag
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hm because ive been locked up in nyc apartment for the past 3m and I am sick of it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:18 PM Flag
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So rent a house in Florida. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:20 PM Flag
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isn't it miserable in the summer? hot and humid + hurricanes? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:21 PM Flag
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Np. Yes, don't listen to that stupid idea. Florida sucks in general, but even more so in summer. Does it have to be a beach? I would rent on a lake upstate, NH, VT or near the beach in Maine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 02:10 AM Flag
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Stay on the east coast, what you are saying makes zero sense [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:28 PM Flag
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This sounds insane. Why on earth would you even consider this? There are many other places you can go without the time difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:24 PM Flag
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agree. what about northeast coast? New England? it is drivable and same time zone [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:27 PM Flag
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most homes don't have pools. private pool is a must. I looked literally everywhere and the options are FL, CA desert, HI or the hamptons. I looked at places in the carolinas, GA, VA, NE. even places that list a pool often mean community pool and those will be closed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:29 PM Flag
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https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/42260471?location=New%20Jersey%2C%20United%20States&adults=1&children=1&check_in=2020-07-12&check_out=2020-07-31&source_impression_id=p3_1591540649_TkuE5YHLI4GlSEwc&guests=1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:37 PM Flag
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https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/27506295?location=New%20Jersey%2C%20United%20States&adults=1&children=1&check_in=2020-07-12&check_out=2020-07-31&source_impression_id=p3_1591540728_WhXFcOARL%2BOywg1b&guests=1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:39 PM Flag
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https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/6465805?location=New%20Jersey%2C%20United%20States&adults=1&children=1&check_in=2020-07-12&check_out=2020-07-31&source_impression_id=p3_1591540720_ufXttn27FjLoPn9U&guests=1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:39 PM Flag
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https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/10486432?location=New%20Jersey%2C%20United%20States&adults=1&children=1&check_in=2020-07-12&check_out=2020-07-31&source_impression_id=p3_1591540802_7ng%2FgmjkZ1HsL276&guests=1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:40 PM Flag
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Two are not available and two don’t have a real pool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:43 PM Flag
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https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/42983242?location=Massachusetts%2C%20United%20States&adults=1&children=1&check_in=2020-07-05&check_out=2020-07-26&source_impression_id=p3_1591541408_6nX9yPmku4sesi17&guests=1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:51 PM Flag
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Shared pool [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 03:23 PM Flag
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https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/32500857?location=Connecticut%2C%20United%20States&adults=1&children=1&check_in=2020-07-05&check_out=2020-07-26&source_impression_id=p3_1591541555_8Aq4WtGs5rfoSJsL&guests=1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:52 PM Flag
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You didn't look very hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:42 PM Flag
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None of this is even available for more than 1-2 wks at the time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:47 PM Flag
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most homes don't have pools. private pool is a must. I looked literally everywhere and the options are FL, CA desert, HI or the hamptons. I looked at places in the carolinas, GA, VA, NE. even places that list a pool often mean community pool and those will be closed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:29 PM Flag
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Will you be able to supervise DC around the pool while working? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 05:11 PM Flag
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Yes, depending where we end up going we could spend time in the pool before and after work and during the day for shorter periods. I wouldn’t let him outside alone while working (in or out of the pool). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 07:03 PM Flag
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where ? there actually aren't unless you are willing to spend 40k/month. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:27 PM Flag
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Smh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:26 PM Flag
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Well, 2 of those weeks you'll be under a mandatory quarantine, so that sounds shitty to me. I'm a big fan of working east coast hours when I visit the west coast, it's a much more reasonable 6-2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:34 PM Flag
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I considered palm desert but it’s really hot. I’ve never been so can’t tell if it would bother me or not. If you have experience would love to hear. Nothing available in la/San Diego area [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:45 PM Flag
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I'm a big fan of Palm Springs, it's hot but it's not the sticky humidity we think of and it cools off considerably in the evenings and mornings. It's hot in Hawaii and the humidity is rough. And bugs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:49 PM Flag
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Ty. Would you go in the summer ? Given lack of other options? The alternative is FL (or HI which clearly everybody thinks is not a good idea ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:51 PM Flag
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I'd go in the summer, I was there and in Joshua Tree last summer, but I think my preference right now would be the PNW. Oregon is a very underrated state. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:55 PM Flag
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^^Or someplace like Denver. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:57 PM Flag
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Those places don’t have private pool (even when they list them as such). Often you click on the posting and it’s either hot tub or communal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 03:00 PM Flag
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Do you have a preference between Palm Springs and palm desert? My main criteria are private pool and safe neighborhood. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 03:01 PM Flag
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Palm Springs is a bit nicer. And if Joshua Tree is open it's VERY worth the visit, great for kids too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 04:02 PM Flag
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If you rent a place with a pool, you’ll want a pool fence and alarm if you don’t have a sitter during your working hours. I think Hawaii sounds great. You’ll work most hours while he’s sleeping and have the whole afternoon with him. He probably still goes to bed early, as will you so you can be up by 3. Do it. You’ve posted about trying to find a place in CA. At age 6, my kids loved Hawaii. So much to do. Yeah, the flights he’ll but you’ll be there for weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:50 PM Flag
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Ty. At last a sensible answer. Yes I posted about CA or another option being FL. I wouldn’t let him outside alone but we could both take a dip during the day or even just work on the porch and he would play. He’s done a flight before so that doesn’t bother me. Frankly it’s really only working hours that are concern. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 02:59 PM Flag
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LOL so you were just looking for people to agree with you. No need to ask a question on a messageboard then, just agree with yourself and be confident in your own decision making. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 03:09 PM Flag
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Yes, finally a sensible answer that backs up my plan! That's what I was waiting for! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 05:12 PM Flag
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I agree. Your DC is at the perfect age regarding his sleeping hours. It may be rough on you at first to get up at 3 but I’m sure you’ll get used to it. You’ll be there for an extended period of time so you’ll really be able to enjoy Hawaii. I think it’s a great opportunity and if I could I’d do it in a heartbeat. On weekends you can enjoy the beaches and eat loco moco! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 05:21 PM Flag
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Private pool is only doable if you have babysitter for times you are working. Otherwise, how can you watch your kid and keep them entertained? Stay for 8 weeks and enjoy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 05:22 PM Flag
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I live on Maui. The expectation is that the curfew will remain until end of July. My adult kids have done what you’re describing and it Was absolutely wonderful for all of us, but 1. We are here so could babysit from about 6am when the kids woke and they still had to work and 2. Our 1st child (w grandkids) came before quarantine, so we could take the kids to the beach etc. We have a pool but even in Hawaii kids enjoy a change of scenery. Our 2nd child (single) arrived 3 weeks ago and quarantined. They do check up on you regularly and fines are serious. We stocked him with food etc so he was fine but this would be tougher without family here. Oh, plus it’s Still illegal for homeowners To rent their homes to anyone for less than 6 months. No idea when that will go back to normal. Probably staying on the mainland makes mor3 sense this year. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 05:48 PM Flag
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Thank you. Very helpful! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 07:05 PM Flag
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I love love Hawaii, and thrive on the off hours (I’m a radiologist and am currently considering switching to exclusive overnight shifts). I have a 5 yo DS, and he still brings up memories from when we went to Hawaii two years ago. That being said, I probably wouldn’t go unless I had reliable established childcare squared away ahead of time. Do you have a friend, family member, nanny/AuPair that could accompany you? Can you spin your ability to work on the off hours to get you more time there (eg. if I work overnight/off hour shifts, I would be reimbursed at a higher rate)? If not, maybe it would make more sense to rent more locally to NYC for the summer; or could you hold off until after summer when it might be easier to get additional time off? And I think 6 yo is totally fine to take out of “school” for the next year to be somewhere else. If DH’s job didn’t require him to stay local, I would move there in a heartbeat! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 06:29 PM Flag
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Unfortunately local (within ~4hr drive distance) rentals have gone insane and homeowners are asking 25-40k/month which is why I’m exploring different locations. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 07:08 PM Flag
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going to hawaii to swim in a pool ...sigh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 08:33 PM Flag
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x a million! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.20, 01:21 AM Flag
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look at NJ hackettstown area. 1.5 hours from the city, lots of houses with pools, not expensive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 08:34 PM Flag
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Too much w the hours and being just the two of you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 09:24 PM Flag
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I think there are still houses on the Finger Lakes available. He might enjoy splashing in the lake, skipping rocks (they are mostly rocky), looking at ducks, etc., even more than a pool. The biking is great in that area too. You would have to confirm that you have lake access for homes that are not directly on the lake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.20, 09:43 PM Flag
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