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06.05.20, 00:52 AM General Topics
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I posted about this woman who “rehomed” her special needs adopted dc, but the more I read about it, the more upset I get. This woman had the gall to say the dc is with his “new mommy” who had medical training. It feels as if she viewed this dc as a puppy that she could adopt and give away when things got hard. Thoughts? Link inside the post. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.05.20, 12:52 AM Flag
 

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General Topics 06.05.20, 12:52 AM Flag
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Are you perfect? Stop judging and myob [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:08 AM Flag
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Np: It’s objectively a really gross story [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:09 AM Flag
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They saved his life. He’d be dead in China by now without them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:28 AM Flag
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They s*ck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:33 AM Flag
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There is a list a hundred miles long for families desperate to adopt. He would have been adopted by a more worthy family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:38 AM Flag
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np - no way. there is not a long list of families wanting to adopt a very special needs child from China. Sorry but that is just not true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:43 AM Flag
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It is longer than you’d think [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:48 AM Flag
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pp in the orphanages they just let them wilt away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:48 AM Flag
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And, there is not a long list of families wanting to adopted special needs out of the good old USA. You don't even need to travel to find a project. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:49 AM Flag
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Have you tried to adopt recently, or is that just your personal opinion? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:13 AM Flag
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I'm actually a former foster child who was adopted as an "older" child. I'm one of 5 kids adopted, 2 with special needs. Any other questions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 05:27 AM Flag
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LOL FACED [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 12:24 PM Flag
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How old are you? What you went through 30+ years ago is very different from what the landscape looks like now. In the western world, teen pregnancies have plummeted, single motherhood is more socially acceptable, there is better genetic testing, so people are more likely to abort fetuses with genetic diseases. In the eastern world, China ended it's one child policy, so people are less likely to give up their healthy daughters. These are all great things, but the downside is that it does mean fewer children are available for adoption. I would go so far as to say, in this day and age, if you want to adopt a child and have a serious chance of getting one, you MUST be open to special needs, older children, etc. The days of getting some pretty, blonde teen cheerleader's prom baby are gone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:02 PM Flag
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Those are the only kids you can adopt now. They fully knew what they were getting into. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 04:58 AM Flag
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Found her on UB. Honestly if you really believe what you just wrote, fuck you! You don't adopted a kid as a vanity project and than literally throw him away when he gets hard and than justify it by saying he would be dead by now in China. You have no idea the circumstances he was living in China. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:48 AM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:13 AM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:17 AM Flag
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She is a registered RN as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:47 AM Flag
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I am trying not to judge because I realize there's a lot I don't know. That said, they should NOT have actively sought to adopt a child with "any type of disability" if they were not up to it. I understand that with other children in the home it's particularly difficult but they really should have thought it through and realized that those other kids may detract from their ability to effectively parent a special needs child. Also, it is pretty rich that they are withholding details to respect his privacy when for years they have plastered him and all of their other kids all over YouTube for money and/or their own vanity. I'm glad he's finally getting some privacy but they dragged him into the limelight in the first place. I can imagine that he may legitimately be better off with another family but they are far from blameless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 01:52 AM Flag
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The only reason she is getting judged so harshly is because she monetized this poor child along with her other kids. She has lost some sponsors. Hope she loses them all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:06 AM Flag
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Adoptive mom here and am so triggered and appalled by that story. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:09 AM Flag
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so upset about this poor boy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:28 AM Flag
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Hear me out - this story is horrific but this is the best possible outcome for this child. Look at what happened to Thomas Valva. There needs to be an option for parents that are in over their heads. A woman in NJ just committed murder-suicide of her SN 6-year old this week. I can't help but wonder how we as a society failed her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 12:20 PM Flag
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I totally agree with you. The boy deserves the best care possible from people who are able to give it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 12:53 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 03:26 PM Flag
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