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06.04.20, 19:09 PM General Topics
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I’m livid. I just found out my 17 dd gave my proposal wedding ring to her girlfriend. She asked for The ring months ago and I told her she could have it if she kept it safe and didn’t lose it. I see a text from her girlfriend today with a pic of the ring on saying thank you. I’m so mad. I asked for it back and she’s on her way home with it. I don’t even know where to begin with punishment. Help! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.04.20, 07:09 PM Flag
 

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Im still married to her father btw. It was a small ring he gave me when we were broke with a tiny diamond. Meant so much to me and I never wanted her to give it away. I’m so pissed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.20, 07:10 PM Flag
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What was her explanation? Are they engaged? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.20, 07:12 PM Flag
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+1, maybe they decided to get engaged! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.20, 07:18 PM Flag
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Nope. She said she just gave it to her. Not engaged at all. She thinks she did nothing wrong. They both just turned 17. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.20, 07:25 PM Flag
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Punishment??? It must have been a misunderstanding. I bet that she is mortified. She will remember this for the rest of her life. Punishment already happened. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.20, 07:24 PM Flag
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I would ask her what happened. I suspect you don't know the full story. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.20, 07:29 PM Flag
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she may not know what it meant to you. maybe give her a less sentimental ring that she can give to her GF. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.20, 07:46 PM Flag
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Why would you give your engagement ring, that you say meant so much to you, to a child? I'm guessing you upgraded from the "tiny diamond" to another ring (is this why you call it your "proposal wedding ring" - I've never heard that before). Maybe she assumed that since it didn't have much monetary value to you, and that you have another engagement ring, that it wasn't as important to you as it is. Also, 17 year old girls tend to be overly dramatic about the value of their friendships with their girlfriends, especially when they're graduating, going off to college, etc. I don't think a punishment is necessary, just an explanation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.20, 07:59 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.20, 02:20 AM Flag
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I'd be pissed too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.20, 08:00 PM Flag
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Why aren't they social distancing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.20, 08:02 PM Flag
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maybe she tied it to a rock and tossed it int her GF's window [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.20, 08:09 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.20, 08:11 PM Flag
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That is your concern in this story... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.20, 08:44 PM Flag
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Nah, I was being tongue-and-cheek and posted another comment as well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.20, 08:45 PM Flag
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"in" cheek - i'm losing it today [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.20, 08:45 PM Flag
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I would be pissed too. There need to be boundaries. Giving someone else’s thing to another person is not ok. I would tell her I am very disappointed with her action. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.20, 08:16 PM Flag
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No punishment. Just say 'Honey, that ring is to be kept in the family. Sorry we had a misunderstanding.' [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.20, 08:20 PM Flag
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Tell her to get it back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.20, 08:28 PM Flag
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I'd probe a bit about her friendship. Is it possible that she might be emotionally bullied by this person (so gave an inappropriate gift to smooth over a misunderstanding or something), or just truly being generous with someone she cares about? Bringing this up because I had a friendship like that in high school that I didn't realize at the time was super toxic. Of course, she could just be super sweet/overly generous, which is the complete opposite. But worth exploring. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.20, 08:30 PM Flag
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??? It's her girlfriend, not friend. As in they're dating... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.20, 09:41 PM Flag
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Ah got it. "Girlfriend" is a confusing term, because we use it for friends and partners - boys/men don't do this! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.20, 10:41 PM Flag
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^and my original check-in still applies, whether it's a friendship or romantic partnership. If they're just barely 17 and she's feeling moved to give something of such value to this person, is it a sweet act of puppy love, or is she feeling pressure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.20, 10:44 PM Flag
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don't be livid. calm down. your dd is still really just a kid. talk through it. teens are tough, but they need us to love them. ask a lot of questions and let her talk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.20, 11:31 PM Flag
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