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08.09.16, 18:13 PM General Topics
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Geez. Had a nice lunch spread at the Hamptons house. My friend's nanny goes gaga over the spread and proceeds to eat three lobsters. Just the class and tails. Chucks the rest. If she ate them and enjoyed them, that's one thing. But to pick off the best parts of three whole (large lobsters) and throw away the rest is rude. Rude, rude and rude!!! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:13 PM Flag
 

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Claws, not class [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:14 PM Flag
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Let me guess: She was Jamaican [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 01:28 AM Flag
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If she was from the Caribbean she may be used to abundant seafood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 04:53 AM Flag
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No, it's that she may be entitled and rude [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 10:39 AM Flag
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No, a Caribbean nanny probably would have stood back. The nanny was probably Russian or Eastern European. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 01:01 PM Flag
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I would be mad if a guest did that. The nanny is supposed to politely take a bagel or something. Not dive into the main dishes. Wth [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:15 PM Flag
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When is the next time she's going to have lobster? What did you expect [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:15 PM Flag
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Trollette [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:30 PM Flag
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What if a non-nanny guest did that? Would she e limited to a bagel? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 10:16 PM Flag
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nanny was dining with you? huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:15 PM Flag
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She was there with my friend and her dds [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:15 PM Flag
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Not your nanny, not your problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:17 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.02.19, 08:23 PM Flag
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Does it really matter where this occurred? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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Yes. It's a relaxed atmosphere and the table was in the backyard. It wasn't a formal spread. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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Get over yourself or make more money [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:17 PM Flag
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Ily [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:19 PM Flag
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Tired of these angry renters chiming in on our threads. Just lock yourself in your shared bathroom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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GFY! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:25 PM Flag
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This is a troll post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 11:33 AM Flag
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I was thinking this too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:21 PM Flag
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Being poor has made you overly sensitive to matters that don't concern you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:23 PM Flag
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indeed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:32 PM Flag
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I hardly poor and you are rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:25 PM Flag
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Next time she shares with the garden boy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:17 PM Flag
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Put up a tasteful sign that says "One lobster limit. Unlimited bagels. Thank you." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:19 PM Flag
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Lmao [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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LOL, yes, very tasteful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:47 PM Flag
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In Spanish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:53 PM Flag
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Sólo una langosta! No sea un cerdo !! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:06 PM Flag
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jajaj [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:08 PM Flag
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a [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:08 PM Flag
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Только один омары, товарищи !! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 02:18 PM Flag
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Ily2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:19 PM Flag
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Nanny or otherwise, she doesn't sound like a considerate guest. Sort of like ordering the most expensive thing on the menu if someone else is treating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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Exactly. But poor people are like this. They aren't bred for being considerate. They are bred to survive. So if they see something good, grab it and as much of it as you can before it's gone. Because it will be gone for a long time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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And if you get a dollar, buy a lottery ticket. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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Poor person here: uh, no. There are greedy, rude people of every socio-economic station. I've seen rich people pilfer really dumb things (trying to stuff the Lego Build in their fancy purse) and wiggle out of paying their fair share on restaurant bills. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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THIS the cheapest people I know are all rich [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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True. I'm poor and I would not eat your lobster because gross! Ewww. I also am on diet so very little food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 04:37 AM Flag
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Well that's just the exact definition of a rich person too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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Good grief. Not all nannies are poor and not all poor people are rude. Also, lobster is widely available. Ever hear of Red Lobster? There are lots of people who just eat the claws and tails, myself included. Eating three lobsters is rude and greedy, but it sounds like this particular person was just rude and greedy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:32 PM Flag
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All nannies are poor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:33 PM Flag
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I interviewed several SUV-driving nannies and hired one who drove a Range Rover. I drive a beat-up Accord. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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Doesn't mean she's rich. Anyone can make foolish decisions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:44 PM Flag
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A man who pays the rent & a lease on the car can take care of that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:52 PM Flag
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My df was a nanny. She has a very wealthy family and is now a vice president in the family business. She has an amazing work ethic and likes children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:10 PM Flag
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How do you know she's poor? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:22 PM Flag
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You know that rich people shop lift all the time. Class has nothing to do with money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:23 PM Flag
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Well la di da. Can you get that nose any higher in the air? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 12:11 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 07:40 PM Flag
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yup [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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almost as rude to watch her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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Hard not to notice. A good host is observant, riff raff poster [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:21 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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Nanny - maybe she doesn't know the "right" way to eat a lobster and didn't quite know what she was doing. Or maybe she's not used to eating with her employers and was a little nervous? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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A shy or reserved person would have garnered the benefit of the doubt. This was pure scavenger [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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it's bad behavior no doubt. a 300 lb man doesnt eat three lobsters at a sitting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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N - just trying to help. I still remember when my employer made tea and I didn't know what the heck to do with the fingerbowl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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But you didn't grab all the finger bowls and drink their contents, did you? No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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LOL, no, I watched to see what she would do. I still say she could have been nervous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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Was that some kind of weird employment test, or had she already hired you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:50 PM Flag
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Already hired, she was telling me the hours, rules, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:55 PM Flag
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So nervous she ate three? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 08:31 PM Flag
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Maybe, and as a result she over-filled her plate? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 08:49 PM Flag
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No. No one is so stupid they eat 3 or put 3 on their plate. She was being a greedy asshole. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 08:56 PM Flag
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completely inappropriate. and embarrassing for your friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:21 PM Flag
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Agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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There aren't many other parts of a lobster to eat - are you mad that she didn't suck the legs? or eat the knuckle-meat? or are you mad that she ate 3? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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It just seemed greedy. It would be like eating just the ears off of every chocolate rabbit at the candy table. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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no - it is like eating 3 whole chocolate bunnies. Eating only the ears would be eating the claws and chucking the tail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:32 PM Flag
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If nobody is watching, I'll crack open the main shell part and dive in - it makes a mess but I LOVE lobster! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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Love the brains! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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Their brains are in their abdomens? Wow, who knew? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:32 PM Flag
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It's all part of the main shell unless you think lobsters have separate skulls [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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Hahaha true [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:35 PM Flag
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Never actually considered it: I thought they would be in the "skull," even though lobsters would obviously have small brains. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:35 PM Flag
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false. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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no. they are not. http://www.gma.org/lobsters/trivia.html [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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that is what i thought. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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Hopefully your friend apologized for her nanny's behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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She shrugged and said, "Wow, X you were hungry today!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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Friend is rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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Next time tell friend not to bring nanny. Better yet ditch the friend. Nannies suck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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Agreed. The nanny also left garbage everywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:44 PM Flag
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They don't care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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It was done on purpose, because they think you should be ashamed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:53 PM Flag
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Stay in Queens [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:56 PM Flag
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In the future make sure friend is aware that invitations are meant for her, not for her, her nanny, and her child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:41 PM Flag
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True. I just didn't think her nanny would plunder the lobster [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:50 PM Flag
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OMG, I feel so bad for you OP. I feel bad for your friend too. I don't eat sea bugs but if I did, I would have spoken up at least. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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Haha sea bugs. Actually, they do look like sea bugs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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Yes. Prayers for all involved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 11:34 AM Flag
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Eating 3 would be the issue for me. Lots of fancy pants people only eat the tails & claws. A waste imo but there it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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agreed. signed, lifelong lobster eater. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:30 PM Flag
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+1 - that's a heck of a lot of food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:32 PM Flag
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What else is there though? One claw is a lot of meat though. I don't see how someone could eat three lobsters worth. That's 6 claws. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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You work through the arms & knuckles. The real enthusiasts even suck what they can out of the legs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:47 PM Flag
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Absolutely [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:50 PM Flag
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The thousand-dollar question: was there enough food for all of the other guests? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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Unfortunately they all starved. :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:35 PM Flag
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Ah. Well then, eating all of the food - whether it's lobster or hot dogs - is just plain rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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In case you see this. One of the best responses. Made me laugh the first time and did the same on this sad last day. Be Safe 7/5/2020 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.20, 09:24 PM Flag
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Ding Ding Ding. It was embarrassing because there were no lobsters left over. I think some didn't get to have one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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Seven lobsters for five guests. Nanny ate three. I didn't have one because I thought there weren't enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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Nanny was not one of the five guests I counted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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Wot in the actual fuck?! Let me tell you - she's going to screw your friend over big time with that sense of entitlement. Get out the way! Lawsuit comin'! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:44 PM Flag
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My mom used to call that the Family Hold Back, in other words, let your guests eat first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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Exactly. I never take from the best until I see that there will be plenty for my guests. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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The last thing I want is for my guests to go without or feel like there is a lack of food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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FHB we called it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 10:22 PM Flag
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OMG, that's right! Mom would whisper in my ear "FHB". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 12:26 PM Flag
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meh. np here but when i put out something like that, i buy extra assuming the abundance works so nobody feels bad about taking a second if they're hungry...and if i have extra, i'll make lobster rolls the next day. i don't care how mad people are at the OP for mentioning the location of her home. three is rude no matter WHO you are, but especially if you are not an invited guest. it's just wrong. period. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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Since when did Hamptons become a dirty word? And I agree with you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:41 PM Flag
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I think her point is that OP made a VBA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:42 PM Flag
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I think it's part of regular speech. It wasn't intentional. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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i think this thread is all over the OP because she mentioned where her house is located. the jealousy here makes people post weird things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:56 PM Flag
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Very odd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:58 PM Flag
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It's probably one troll responding over and over again [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:01 PM Flag
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What were the side dishes? Lobster meat is not very filling. Maybe she was really hungry? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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Noodle salad, peach beer, lasagna and Fiji water. It was an UB Buffet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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NP: I would have been happy with some deli cole slaw and dill pickles! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:41 PM Flag
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Turkey carcass goody bag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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ha ha ha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:21 PM Flag
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bread & water with pruno, LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 12:27 PM Flag
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Salad, lasagna and lobster was the meal? Ahhhh, white people and their poor meal planning. No wonder people were left hungry! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 11:01 PM Flag
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Tons of sides. Two kinds of salad including a bean one. Chips, dip and guacamole. Cold cuts, cheese platter. Bagels and lox. BBQ chicken. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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So the real issue here is that you view lobster as a delicacy. I would have been totally happy with those sides (besides the chicken). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:42 PM Flag
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This is a good point, because I doubt OP would be so upset if she put out barbecued chickens and the nanny ate 3 drumsticks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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Actually 3 lobsters of fair size might be equal to a dozen chicken legs. Still ok? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:53 PM Flag
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OP says they were very large. What if she ate 20 or 24 bbq chicken legs. Still ok? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:59 PM Flag
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I guess it depends on how much chicken she decided to serve. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:00 PM Flag
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Each one was $50. Yes, it is a treat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:46 PM Flag
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Oh, so you know how much it cost. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:46 PM Flag
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I bought them, so yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:48 PM Flag
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As a host, I would be hesitant to be judgmental of people eating the food that I bought. I agree with other posters that there is a standard for manners, etc., but you sound very miserly for someone with the means to host a spread in the Hamptons. I just want people to have a good time. I'm not creating mental spreadsheets about who ate what and whether they are entitled. Makes my job in the city during the summer all the more attractive, for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:51 PM Flag
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Whatever. It's annoying. You have someone's employee pound down $150 of your food. We rich people care about money, too. It's not a free for all and we don't like being taken for a ride. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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LMAO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:55 PM Flag
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+1 If it were a casual gathering in the backyard, the spread could have been something a little less expensive. Maybe chicken as the protein instead of lobster. I would save the lobster for a more intimate gathering with friends/family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:58 PM Flag
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Five people is pretty intimate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:06 PM Flag
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Did you see the marble rye post yesterday? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:52 PM Flag
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NP of course she knows what her spread cost. The nanny was rude - any guest who pounds down 3 lobsters is rude - but it's like serving the expensive liquor: it's there to be consumed. And OP chose to serve an expensive protein. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:49 PM Flag
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Again, a host/hostess who sits around doing this is not a place I would visit, even if I'm well mannered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:52 PM Flag
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It's there for the guests. You'd think the nanny would have some tact. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:55 PM Flag
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Or have one large lobster. Not three. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:55 PM Flag
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Wouldn't work: all the rich folks would start fighting over the tail, LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:01 PM Flag
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OP said she set out 7 lobsters for 5 people. Uninvited nanny ate 3 so even OP could not have one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:06 PM Flag
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right? that is bullshit. and anyone chastising the OP is doing it out of jealousy only. you all are as green as a lobster tamale [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:22 PM Flag
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She was a guest of one of OP's guests. It's rude that the friend did not tell OP that she was bringing a plus one, but the OP should be gracious enough to include her. Also, why did she have so little food on hand? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 11:05 PM Flag
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LOL, I have a wealthy friend who would slip it into her bag if she could get away with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:41 PM Flag
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Too tough [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:09 PM Flag
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LOL, I can carve a turkey, but not a huge crustacean! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 01:04 PM Flag
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She is a guest! When I have parties for the kids, I ensure that I have food and drinks for the parents just in case they decide to stay. This is bizarre behavior from a hostess. If there's anyone to be annoyed with, it's the friend for not telling OP that she'd be bringing an extra person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 11:04 PM Flag
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We're they gold plated? That's ridiculous. I agree have one person scarf down $150 worth of food is too much, but she probably had no idea it was that expensive. I've eaten a lot of lobster in my lifetime and never paid that much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 12:21 AM Flag
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My family in Maine thinks this is outrageous. I just read them this post. They pay $17 for a lobster and some years, lobster is cheaper than chicken. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 11:06 PM Flag
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Did you intend for the nanny to east lobster or did you have something different for her to eat? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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I expected her to have one like a normal person at most. They were very large. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:42 PM Flag
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But above, you said that you didn't anticipate her eating as you didn't include her in your head count. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 11:07 PM Flag
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NP if nanny was there, then she was a guest whether she was working or not. The point is that it's just as important to be a considerate guest as to be a gracious host. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 11:08 PM Flag
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Shouldn't someone reply "STOP EATING SEA BUGS OCEAN KILLER" or am I too old school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:48 PM Flag
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It's a fake post and I'm supposed no one called Op out for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:53 PM Flag
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I just realized this when she posted "we rich people care about money, too." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:56 PM Flag
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Some people are tired of being taken advantage of. Oh you have a Hamptons home, you must be this or that. It gets frustrating [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:59 PM Flag
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Totally fake. Nannies are so klassy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:57 PM Flag
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About as klassy as counting the costs of what you're serving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:04 PM Flag
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Dumb dumb dumb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:07 PM Flag
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But all the lobster neuroscience could be educational [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:59 PM Flag
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You know what. This post just incenses me. These women come here, see we have so much compared to them, and then draw an assumption that what's yours is mine. It's not true. It's a job with a salary. Take the job or don't. But take the job and act classy. This is not a social experiment. It's work. I had a nanny who was like this Op, she ended up filing a case against us with the department of labor. She lied about what we paid her (mostly off the books - as she wanted), sat on her fat lazy ass all day, didn't help me a bit when I was pregnant and sick, brought her family over to enjoy our apartment, without asking. I begged DH to fire her, so many times, but because we are "nice" we didn't. If only I had taken a week off from work -even unpaid - to find someone else. These women are heinous. Even the religious ones, self-righteous brattiness goes across class lines. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:50 PM Flag
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They probably despise most of their employers for having more and for being weak [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:52 PM Flag
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I dint despise my boss for having more money than me. I despise them for being helpless and weak with their children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:58 PM Flag
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Do you have dcs of your own? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:01 PM Flag
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Why do you ask? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:05 PM Flag
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Parenthood is a humbling experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 01:24 PM Flag
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I know this. They think we are dumb and helpless. But they don't see the meta stuff we do. It's OK. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:04 PM Flag
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Most people with nannies have them because they are holding down full time jobs in the real world, that's not helpless or weak. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 10:17 PM Flag
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Someone with a "full time job in the real world" wouldn't have been at a party Out East with a full-time employee and no DH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 01:02 PM Flag
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Exactly. Most people don't want their nanny around when they're on vacation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 01:56 PM Flag
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PP Nanny - I don't despise my employer, and I don't think it has to do with whether you're rich or not. My job includes helping my charges with their homework, scrubbing toilets and everything in between, but I still know enough not to drink the fingerbowl or eat all the food - whatever kind of food. Its all about having good manners. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:59 PM Flag
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She sounds like someone who would find fault with Mary Poppins. Ignore. I'm sure you do a great job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 04:40 AM Flag
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TY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 12:27 PM Flag
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^^and she's really very nice, if very formal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 12:45 PM Flag
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Honey--just raise your own damned kids. Or I'll bake you a pie like in the Help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:26 PM Flag
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Better than a pie like in Titus Andronicus, I suppose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:42 PM Flag
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It's fake, you moron. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 08:16 PM Flag
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I had the same thing happen. Didn't want to change nannies because I wanted consistency for db. DH didn't want to fire here and I didn't want to take the risk on someone that would not work out and miss work. She lied about overtime and sued. Extremely religious, self-righteous woman. We were also very "nice" people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 08:45 PM Flag
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Very nice tax cheats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 12:28 AM Flag
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Eh. If you scrubbed Bill Gates toilets and he bitched at you you'd probably feel incensed too. The world is not right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 04:41 AM Flag
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the friend who brought her should have said something discretely after she ate the 2nd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:57 PM Flag
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WHAT DO YOU EXPECT FROM SOMEONE WHO COMES FROM THE BRONX?! PUT A TABLE OF LOBSTERS IN FRONT OF A BROOKLYN HOUSING PROJECT AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS TO IT. I DARE YOU [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:58 PM Flag
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LOL, puts me in mind of a social event I attended with escargot on the buffet table, and watching the guests wrinkling their noses! But people will still go for the lobster, even though it's much uglier than a snail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:02 PM Flag
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Np, i love this thread because it shows the need to hire a nanny with class rather than a classless one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 06:59 PM Flag
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NP: actually, the person who has "class" here is open to discussion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:01 PM Flag
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Illegal basemant apartment dweller? Is that you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:03 PM Flag
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No, just someone who has been fortunate in life and doesn't sweat the small stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:06 PM Flag
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Don't forget that rent check [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:09 PM Flag
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Okay, I'll assign my rental proceeds over to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:13 PM Flag
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Bingo! The nanny with the finger bowl would have waited to see what the other guests were doing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:05 PM Flag
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And she wouldn't even have to wait to see that a normal person doesn't take three lobsters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:07 PM Flag
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Low IQ people just do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:08 PM Flag
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No, a low IQ person would probably be more impulsive. And grab 3 lobsters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:12 PM Flag
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This is so true. At least hire someone who is conscientious. It reflects badly on the family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:03 PM Flag
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+10000000000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:42 PM Flag
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+1 I try not to use expressions like "low class," but this reflects very badly on the nanny's employers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:47 PM Flag
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Did your friend ask if she could bring nanny? many of these people resent the money people have, say no. I never had this problem with aupairs, they are more middle class [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:03 PM Flag
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The loud booming voices of Queens nannies is jarring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:05 PM Flag
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Probably brought her nanny on vacation and is too lame to imagine existing without her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:13 PM Flag
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This. I blame the friend. Who brings a low class nanny to someone else's home? Leave the nanny in your own house, keep her away from mine!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:19 PM Flag
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PP Nanny - I'm not judging, but part of my going on vacation with my employers is to watch the kids so that they can socialize. It would be very odd for them to bring me to a social event, which is why the OP is a little strange. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:43 PM Flag
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Definitely rude. I'm not sure how anyone could conclude otherwise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:05 PM Flag
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This is a great thread because it discusses the inappropriate things people do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:15 PM Flag
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This could have easily been your friend bringing over her son and her son's low class trashy girlfriend. Low class people do this all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:15 PM Flag
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eating only part of the lobster isn't rude but eating three of something is rude (does not matter if nanny or another guest) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:16 PM Flag
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This. Low class [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:23 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 08:11 PM Flag
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If you only had 7, and she took 3, that's insane. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:17 PM Flag
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Don't you have a separate area for the help? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:22 PM Flag
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This. Need to watch upstairs downstairs. Basement is for nannies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:23 PM Flag
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+100 I miss Mr. Hudson and Mrs. Bridges! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:47 PM Flag
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Wait--you suck on the legs too? That's so rude. And disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:23 PM Flag
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You're just not a lobster lover. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:43 PM Flag
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Unless you are loaded with ample to serve, you should serve each guest the delicacy directly and then let them fill up on the buffet. Put the remainder on buffet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:29 PM Flag
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The nanny is rude. Who eats 3 LOBSTERS at a person you don't even know home AND you're working (nanny)? I'd have a talk with my friend about her because she is sure to repeat this behavior in the future and your friend's other friend's may not be so forgiving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:41 PM Flag
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This is a good point. Two possibilities: one is that she didn't want to be there and was showing disdain. The other is that she honestly didn't know any better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 07:49 PM Flag
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I vote for disdain: she knew better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 08:27 PM Flag
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Your friend should have discreetly said to her nanny after the 1st lobster "Let's save some lobsters for other guests to make sure there are enough for everyone. The sandwich I had was really good, try one." That would be a diplomatic way to remind the nanny she is not an invited guest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 08:08 PM Flag
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Agree. This whole thing was your friends responsibility. People bringing staff for themselves need to oversee that staff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 08:13 PM Flag
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+1. It's on the friend. The nanny couldn't help growing up low class with no exposure to proper manners. Your friend brought people and should have been responsible for her people's behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 08:21 PM Flag
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+2 - she brought the nanny with her Out East and abdicated any involvement with her or her kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 08:25 PM Flag
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I have a bigger problem with your friend than the nanny. The nanny was an unexpected guest and your friend did not correct her nanny's rude behavior. That speaks volumes about about your friend's character. That she had no awareness of how rude the nanny was behaving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 08:29 PM Flag
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She also had no awareness of her own kids, which is why she brought the nanny to a small party. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 08:50 PM Flag
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This is all 100% on your friend. Not sure why people are ripping nanny - maybe they see themselves in your friends bad behavior? Not overseeing your children or the nanny is awful behavior [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 09:10 PM Flag
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And friend should have absolutely apologized to you or forgone a lobster herself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 09:12 PM Flag
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If this wasn't a troll post, it would be worthwhile to ask what the friend was eating. Probably lettuce and diet coke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 12:59 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 10:19 PM Flag
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Every summer we're invited to a couple lobster boils, I always eat 1 lobster. Have never taken more than 1. Taking 3 is very rude nanny or not. That's assuming the host should spend $100 per head for a summer backyard party which is insane. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 08:10 PM Flag
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I've never been to a lobster boil, but the rules are probably the same as being asked to dinner featuring expensive food: take one lobster, one steak, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 01:00 PM Flag
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Nice troll. good job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 08:15 PM Flag
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+100 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 03:02 AM Flag
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Did she grab 3 whole lobsters at once and put them on her plate? Or did she get 3 consecutively after finishing one at a time? Grabbing 3 on a plate would be incredibly rude. And you don't now what other rude poor manner behaviors your kids are learning by being near a nanny like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 08:16 PM Flag
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She held out the plate and they scuttled onto it. Didn't you see Annie Hall? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 08:37 PM Flag
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Did your friend take a lobster? Once she realized nannys mistake she should have declined a lobster. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 09:16 PM Flag
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More importantly did you check the Fiji water ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.09.16, 11:13 PM Flag
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ILY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 12:19 AM Flag
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Nanny here: I was laughing all the way home. I saved a claw to pick the excess lobster meat out of my teeth. Listen Richy Rich, next time I am eating four!! Bwahahahaha!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 05:47 AM Flag
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You I like! Please post more here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 12:54 PM Flag
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My favorite movie is the Nanny Diaries, showing the violent bitch war between snobby stuck up moms and their salt of the earth nannies. Wish UB had more of that flavor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 12:54 PM Flag
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Really? I thought the book was awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 12:58 PM Flag
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I loved book and loved movie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 01:22 PM Flag
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I come from the school that you don't put out food unless you want the people coming to your house to eat it. If I put out lobster, it's for anyone who is coming over - this includes the nannies. If you have the money to put out lobster for a brunch spread, then you have the money to not complain because someone ate 3 lobsters. So dumb. Some people ate lobster and some people didn't. That's how it works at a buffet. If you want to be upset, be annoyed that your friend didn't check with you about bringing a "guest" i.e. her nanny to your brunch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 10:53 PM Flag
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I see now that you have 7 lobsters for 5 guests. This is the problem. White people never anticipate hungry guests! You *always* buy 2-3x your head count. This would never happen at an Indian family's brunch. DH - who is white - makes fun of me for over-ordering for the kids' birthday parties, but in my book, it's poor form to show that your food supply has a limit; it makes the guests feel uncomfortable about eating more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.10.16, 10:59 PM Flag
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You are so right. And I am white. White hostesses usually don't have enough. But I have been to Indian parties and the food is off the hook! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.11.16, 03:29 AM Flag
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#throwback [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.01.19, 08:32 PM Flag
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Wow! I just read this on 11/2/2019. Epic post! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.02.19, 08:29 PM Flag
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Wow! I just read this on 11/2/2019. Epic post! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.02.19, 08:29 PM Flag
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