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02.06.13, 22:06 PM General Topics
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I walked in to see my nanny wearing my sweater. Do I fire her? She said she was cold. It was a new sweater, I haven't even wore it yet [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 02.06.13, 10:06 PM Flag
 

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was it in your closet or out in the open? tags? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:07 PM Flag
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No tags on a chair in bedroom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:07 PM Flag
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then not a big deal. she was cold. it's not like she started wearing your lingerie or put on an obvious new sweater. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:07 PM Flag
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It is not okay to put on your bosses clothing. That is crossing a personal line. I don't even let close friends borrow certain clothing. Let alone something I never wore. I would fire her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:29 PM Flag
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This. She could have turned up the heat. Fire. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:52 PM Flag
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+1 i think some of you women be crazy. she should have worn a jacket if she had one but maybe it's too bulky for inside. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:46 PM Flag
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It is not ok to go into your boss' bedroom and look around and decide to repurpose her things for yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:51 PM Flag
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does she do any straightening? my nanny did some light stuff like that and was in my bedroom all the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:56 PM Flag
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Then you are supposed to be straightening, not shopping. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:54 PM Flag
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she was cold. jesus. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:05 PM Flag
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Yes, I understand, and that is not an ok way to address it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:03 PM Flag
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i hope she wiped her pussy juice on it you dirtbag--- [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 04:38 PM Flag
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F-off [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:07 PM Flag
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LOL! i can only laugh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:04 PM Flag
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That's pushy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:08 PM Flag
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OP- ITA. I'm thinking of letting her go! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:10 PM Flag
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...brushes her hair with your brush... Wears your jewelry...toothbrush...looks at your husband... Okay - I'm just kidding. But it is pushy as hell! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:18 PM Flag
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+2. And just plain weird. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:47 PM Flag
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How cold is it in your place? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:11 PM Flag
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OP : that's the thing it's not cold. I have a thing about people touching my stuff too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:13 PM Flag
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Maybe she is feeling sick? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:23 PM Flag
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to you its not cold, but some poele get cold easily. I am one of them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 09:39 PM Flag
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Wire hanger time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:12 PM Flag
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Tags on a chair in your bedroom? That's not ok. Why was she in your bedroom? Aren't there any fleeces or sweatshirts laying around? She takes a sweater? If this is a first time situation I would not fire her, but make it VERY clear that this is not acceptable. Why was she in your room in the first place, she had no need to be in there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:09 PM Flag
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OP: she said she needed a sweater but I'm not ok with her in my bedroom or wearing my stuff It's too "hand that rocks the cradle" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:12 PM Flag
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Np: I thought the same thing! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:14 PM Flag
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She clearly saw no issue with it though. Consider it a misunderstanding. Make a space where she can keep an additional sweater and a change of clothes. Things happen as a nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:24 PM Flag
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I totally agree. I might feel too uncomfortable to keep her on if she crossed one of mine personal lines, like yours seems to be touching your stuff. We each have our own triggers that enough is enough. If you feel as though you are going to be angry just beneath the surface at her I would let her go. Mine is not cleaning up at the end of a shift. I left a nanny go over that. But I think it's creepy to wear your bosses clothing. Turn up the heat. And it's mild outside today. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:28 PM Flag
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let. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:50 PM Flag
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no tags [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:23 PM Flag
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OP said there were no tags on it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:26 PM Flag
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Ask her not to? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:15 PM Flag
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Well I yelled at her to never do it again & then I started crying so I think she got the point. I'm in my room crying. Do I go out & talk to her again calmly about how unacceptable her behavior was? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:18 PM Flag
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you sound nuts! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:20 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:23 PM Flag
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+1000 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:39 PM Flag
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x2000 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.09.13, 03:24 AM Flag
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And you were such a peach? Find something worthy of crying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:24 PM Flag
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NP: Oh dear. You sound a bit deranged. Are you typically this unstable emotionally? How do you handle it when you are upset with DH, work colleagues, DC, etc? Did you feel that you were free to yell at her because she is your nanny, or are you a yeller/cryer? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:26 PM Flag
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I think dissolving into tears because an employee who works in your home borrowed a warm item of clothing is just as unacceptable. I think you drop the issue. She had no way to know that this was particularly touchy for you, and I don't find your behavior completely rational. I would drop it and move on. Obviously she's on notice now and would be unlikely to do it again unless she's trying to provoke you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:24 PM Flag
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Girl, you cray [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:28 PM Flag
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I would stress again how unacceptable that behavior is and that she needs to learn boundaries. I don't like confrontation either and would be rattled and crying after as well. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:30 PM Flag
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Then you need help too. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 12:00 AM Flag
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oh no you didn't.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:46 PM Flag
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Oh ok, this is fake. Good, I was worried this was a real crazy person. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 12:01 AM Flag
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WTF! you cried over this? I feel bad for your nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 12:56 AM Flag
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What is wrong with you?!?! Seriously, you sound f-ing hideous [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 04:13 AM Flag
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This is fake. No sane person would admit this even if they were Crazy enough to make it true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 04:17 AM Flag
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You yelled at her, and then you expect her to be nice to your kids tomorrow when you arent around? At this point, let her go because she will get her revenge. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 07:41 AM Flag
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WHAT??? 1) you YELLED at her? and 2) you're now crying? You sound like you're 12 years old. You need help, seriously. You have some major issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:47 PM Flag
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YOU STARTED CRYING OVER HER WEARING YOUR SWEATER???? OMG, don't worry, you won't have to fire her. She is not returning tomorrow. You are up shit's creek with your DCs tomorrow. LMAO. You are insane. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 04:32 PM Flag
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you started crying? I don't think you have to worry about firing her. she's probably going to quit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 06:02 PM Flag
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Omg you are totally over the top. If something like this makes you cry, the issue is not the sweater. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 09:48 PM Flag
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Oh wow, there's a real live one over here folks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 12:00 AM Flag
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What bothers you the most? That she was stretching or damaging your sweater? That you would have to launder it before you could wear it? Or that she was wearing it without permission? If she called you and asked permission, what would you have said? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:15 PM Flag
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She is much bigger than me so she did stretch it but it's more that I am little OCD about my clothes I wouldn't let anyone wear them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:19 PM Flag
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right, but she couldn't have known that you were particularly touchy about it. she was probably just cold and the sweater was out on the chair... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:25 PM Flag
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let me guess...no sisters [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 12:00 AM Flag
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Ha! Seriously...as long as it didn't come back with a huge stain on it or five months later after being balled up at the bottom of the laundry hamper--who cares? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 02:28 AM Flag
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Sounds like a little OCD is the LEAST of your issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:48 PM Flag
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Why didn't she put on her coat? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:19 PM Flag
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I can totally understand why she grabbed the sweater. If it was out and didn't have tags and she was cold, I think this is forgivable. Why don't you like her in your bedroom? We let our nanny go into whatever room she wants. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:19 PM Flag
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Would you borrow a co-workers sweater without asking? Call her at a client if she were out? All the people who insist on nanaies being treated as professionals. does it not go both ways? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:23 PM Flag
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I am not saying I would do it, and I can also understand why OP is annoyed, but I wouldn't think it was a big deal (certainly not a fireable offense) for my assistant or co-worker to grab the sweater off the back of my door if the office was really cold and I wasn't there to give permission. If my nanny grabbed a sweater and I didn't like it, I guess I would just tell her that I didn't want her to do it again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:33 PM Flag
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I would have said, why don't you keep a sweater and/or change of clothes here? And let it go. Geez. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:52 PM Flag
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They are not professionals. Just household help. The help does not wear the boss lady's clothing. Ever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:52 PM Flag
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go buy yourself a little african slave bitch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:19 AM Flag
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Jesus [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:54 AM Flag
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She's in the woman's house and the house is cold. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:49 PM Flag
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She should not have done this without asking you first. This is a boundaries issue (or lack of manners), either way, very hard to teach. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:19 PM Flag
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How long has she been with you? Is she good with your children? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:20 PM Flag
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lol the family I babysit for dreads coming home because I turn the heat up & they like their apt freezing! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:20 PM Flag
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70 is not freezing!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:46 AM Flag
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Sometimes they leave the windows open a crack in the winter. They are such freaks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:51 AM Flag
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Maybe they do it to keep her under the blanket and on the couch and to cold to get up so she will stop stealing their wine! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 02:29 AM Flag
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Maybe the wine keeps me warm!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.13, 05:04 PM Flag
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Love how you think this is funny. If I knew I was doing something to someone else's home that made them upset, I would stop doing it. Bring an extra sweater. You're annoying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:35 PM Flag
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Why should she suffer? Because she is the hired help? WTF don't you try and accommodate people in your home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 11:09 PM Flag
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Bring a sweater. Or two. Or three. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.13, 07:11 AM Flag
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I typically wear about 3 layers and wear tall socks, sometimes leg warmers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.13, 05:02 PM Flag
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Do the kids appear to be cold? I mean that is crazy you have to wear that much. Maybe it is a financial issue? I just worry about those kids. Should you report it, do they appear other wise well cared for? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.13, 06:10 PM Flag
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The boy doesn't appear to be cold, he spends most of his time running around in his underwear & a tshirt. The girl's bed is covered in stuffed animals which I believe are to keep her warm. Parents are seemingly nice. Dad's a bit bossy & the mom keeps trying to set me up with her cousin. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.13, 06:13 PM Flag
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So the boy is fine? And what girl does not like stuffed animals? get out the mirror, look in it and you will find the problem. Stop bitching, or tell them you don't want to work for them anymore, but you sound like a nightmare so good luck finding anyone to hire you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.13, 06:50 PM Flag
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So get your ass of the couch and turn off the TV and move around a bit, that might warm you up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.13, 08:07 PM Flag
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So get your ass of the couch and turn off the TV and move around a bit, that might warm you up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.13, 08:08 PM Flag
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Here is the deciding question: was she wearing it while drinking your Fiji water? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:24 PM Flag
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Lolz [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 09:27 PM Flag
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Fire her. I suspect you'll be doing her a favor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:26 PM Flag
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OP; you are right it may be just what she needs to learn a valuable lesson. It is hard to teach boundaries . I'm a SAHM so I can drive kids school/activities while I search sitter city [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:30 PM Flag
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I call fake now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:31 PM Flag
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You cray cray. I think they meant do her a favor because you are nuts. She didn't go through your drawers, she was cold and put on something that was laying out. Just calmly ask her not to do it, and proved an alternate solution. How many nannies have you had? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:34 PM Flag
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I call FAKE!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:35 PM Flag
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OR: Funny, I meant so that she no longer has to put up with you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:50 PM Flag
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She's a fake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:53 PM Flag
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FAKE [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:53 PM Flag
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That's fine. She grabbed the first things she saw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:26 PM Flag
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This is what I was thinking. I wouldn't care but that's me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 10:08 PM Flag
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I'd hate to work for you. Couldn't you have just calmly told her not to wear your things and ask her to bring a sweatshirt or sweater of her own. You sound...not so nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:24 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:53 PM Flag
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You need a nannycam. Now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:25 PM Flag
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Buy her a uniform to change into when she arrives at your palace. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:33 PM Flag
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Boy, did the crazy employers come out on this post or what? WOW! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:36 PM Flag
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I can't believe how many people are OK with this. I'd be pissed and I'd fire her. It's your damn sweater. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:35 PM Flag
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She didn't steal it... She didn't even dig around in your drawers to find it... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:41 PM Flag
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Well, let's turn it around. Nanny puts her hoodie and purse in the corner. In a few minutes walks in and mom is wearing it. How does it come across? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:42 PM Flag
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Hoodie? Anyway, I presume nanny does not have any of her own clothes there, do needs go borrow something. Since op not home to ask, just borrowed something that was right there. It's a sweater not a toothbrush or underpants or jewelry or anything very personal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:47 PM Flag
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Sure, a hoodie, or a cashmere sweater the nanny brought along for the first day. Or maybe nanny and mom are at a gymboree class, mom has nothing else. She just goes ahead and "borrows" it without asking nanny- nanny is busy- appropriate or no? The problem with nannies is that they want the perks of being professionals while they enjoy the benefits of acting like teenagers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:46 PM Flag
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She didn't steal it, she wore it for a couple of hours while taking care of OP's snowflakes! And as someone who wears clothes and underwear that God knows how many people have already worn, believe me when I say that it won't kill her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:41 PM Flag
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Lack of boundaries though. I wouldn't do it, and I wouldn't like it done to me. No, it's not the end of the world, but it's pretty inappropriate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 12:07 AM Flag
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OP, I would not like it either. Though I would not cry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:39 PM Flag
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OP: stop calling me crazy. I am bit OCD about my clothing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:41 PM Flag
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You are calling yourself crazy by admitting you are OCD about your clothes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:06 PM Flag
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OP: stop calling me crazy. I am bit OCD about my clothing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:41 PM Flag
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You cried over someone wearing your sweater. You are crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:42 PM Flag
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She cried because the nanny violated her. I would have cried too- because it would mean I have to find a new nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:43 PM Flag
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omg. you people are all insane. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:45 PM Flag
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And you are inappropriate. Go into your boss' office while she is in a meeting and borrow her sweater. See how that goes over. Oh THAT'S RIGHT, your boss doesn't have an office BECAUSE YOU ARE A NANNY. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:50 PM Flag
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VIOLATED her? I don't think so. OP clearly didn't grow up with me and 2 sisters. She needs to get a real problem..and I hope nanny quits, for her sake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:48 PM Flag
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The nanny is not her sister, nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:52 PM Flag
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Is violate a strong enough word for this action? Isn't it really more like rape? Even murder perhaps? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:39 PM Flag
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Nice try nanny. Maybe next time when you're changing a diaper, mom will borrow $5 from your purse. She will put it back, what's the big deal? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:38 PM Flag
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Will you just shut up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:25 AM Flag
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lol you're nuts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 11:34 PM Flag
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ha! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 11:35 PM Flag
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Then go to Modells and buy her a nice warm hooded sweatshirt as a gift, and make up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:44 PM Flag
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No way, nannycam this one- I'll bet you fire her before the first hour is up on the video. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:47 PM Flag
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Oh, absolutely, she should photograph the nanny without her knowledge or consent so that she can catch her in the act of touching her precious property. She cray. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:51 PM Flag
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Afraid of what she will see? Nanny takes liberties, it is useful to know all of them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:52 PM Flag
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"Taking liberties"? What is this, Gone With the Wind? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:02 PM Flag
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Staff in the home was not confined to the Civil War era. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:04 PM Flag
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You're right. Go Scarlet Letter on her and put her in a pillory in front of your mansion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:13 PM Flag
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Wrong novel. A nanny is a professional employee and should act as such. Maybe you mean Jane Eyre, which is about a governess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:12 PM Flag
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OK, go Jane Eyre on her, and make her walk in a circle in the rain, holding an iron in each hand and wearing a big sign saying "Rebellious". (The black and white one with Elizabeth Taylor as a very young actress). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:18 PM Flag
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I have no idea about all of that. I read the novel. The point is that a nanny or governess should behave professionally. She is an employee of the family and however close she may feel, she is not a member of the family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:17 PM Flag
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^^And someone made Plain Jane Eyre played by ET? THAT is hilarious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:20 PM Flag
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No--elizabeth Taylor played Jane's friend Helen (who dies tragically of bronchitis or something after said marching around in the rain). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 02:30 AM Flag
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Correct. And a very young Orson Welles played Mr. Rochester. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:01 PM Flag
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What now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:31 AM Flag
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:04 PM Flag
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I'd fire a nanny for wearing a hoody. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:58 PM Flag
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Have you ever fired a nanny before? For what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:48 PM Flag
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You appear to also have a stuttering problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:51 PM Flag
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OCD maybe...but really crazy. OCD can be crazy. It is a psych diagnosis. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:56 PM Flag
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and did your nanny know that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 09:47 PM Flag
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Good one! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:46 PM Flag
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worn, not wore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:46 PM Flag
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It's weird, but I get it. Why don't you find an old sweatshirt or something and lay it out for her and designate it for her to wear when she gets cold? Explain to her that's what it's for and then put in a place where she can easily access it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 10:59 PM Flag
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NP: Good idea. Make her a cubby, and then if someone in the household has old, ripped, or stained clothing, instead of donating it, you can just put it in there. Have DC write "NANNY'S CUBBY" in block letters and affix the sign to it. Nanny will think it is so cute! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:03 PM Flag
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Get her one of those padded jumpsuits that the construction guys wear, that she can change to when she arrives. That will keep her warm and accentuate the difference between Us and Them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:06 PM Flag
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Whoa, nanny is no longer an employee? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:12 PM Flag
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Exactly, this is your mother not an employee! Oh wait. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:08 PM Flag
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i would be bothered by the violation of boundaries. would you borrow your boss's sweater if you were cold at work? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:18 PM Flag
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holy shit. yes, i have. it was a guy but still, yes i have. and i did not get canned for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:39 PM Flag
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Wait, what kind of office do you work in that you can go into your boss' office when he is not there and appropriate his sweater? Let me guess, subway sandwich shop? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:43 PM Flag
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wtf? the trading floor. his seat is two down the row. wtf is wrong with you people? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:49 PM Flag
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Trading floor is a different environment. You didn't go into his bedroom or office. And also, it's still a little obnoxious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 12:20 AM Flag
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he would not have given shit if i had gone into his office had he had one. and she goes into her bedroom for various reasons because she is a domestic employee. and no, my boss did not think it was obnoxious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 03:45 AM Flag
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She went into her bedroom to take her sweater, otherwise she doesn't have business in that room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.13, 02:43 AM Flag
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but asked first, yes? you didn't just take it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.09.13, 12:37 AM Flag
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OP: Called my husband to come home. I am going to have him fire her. ( I think.. But still considering) Do I owe her severance pay even though she violated my privacy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:32 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:33 PM Flag
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omg. you are a spazz. the nanny deserves a saner work environment. just your being unable to let her go yourself says something about your neurosis. give her some damn severance. she just wore your sweater. she didn't sleep with your dh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:39 PM Flag
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This is a nanny. Don't pay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:43 PM Flag
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Do you want to be a decent human being? Borrowing a sweater is not cause for firing with no severance. I hope dh is a bit more on the normal side. You sound mouth-foaming wacky. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:42 PM Flag
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She should just nanny cam her. The nanny may be great and just inappropriate or she might be doing more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:48 PM Flag
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ITA! OP, you are a nut job, and karma is a bitch if you are going to fire your nanny for something so stupid. Tell your kids that you got rid of their caretaker because she put your sweater on. LOSER. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 04:36 PM Flag
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Did she take the sweater off? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:45 PM Flag
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Fire her yourself tough guy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:53 PM Flag
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stop buying stupid expensive shit so you won't be a jerk to normal people! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:50 PM Flag
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I'm curious how $ this sweater was. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:58 PM Flag
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Wondered that myself.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 12:17 AM Flag
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I don't think it matters how $ the sweater is. My boss would not like it if I borrowed the blazer sitting on the back of her chair (she probably would not fire me, but I bet I'd pay big time over the long run). If nanny was cold, she could wear her coat or something. It is rude and disrespectful of boundaries (especially to go in your room and take it). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 12:27 AM Flag
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Old navy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 03:51 AM Flag
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You are allowed to own expensive things and are not required to share them. This is not a commune. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 12:24 AM Flag
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she doesn't have to share them. but if it makes her an asshole instead of a kind person who lends a hand when someone is in a bind, then fuck her christian dior. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 09:37 PM Flag
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So nanny, if your roommate wore one of your sweaters without asking, it would be "lending a hand?" lol sure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.13, 02:39 AM Flag
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uh, are you an idiot? did you fail to observe that she was on the JOB and not sharing the apartment with OP where she'd presumably have her own sweater? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.13, 07:09 AM Flag
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No but you're a nanny! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.09.13, 12:43 AM Flag
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Good, you need to fire her to put her out of her misery. You are a bat shit crazy lady! How does your husband deal with this?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.13, 11:59 PM Flag
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and this is the type of thing that you tell your next nanny - she should bring a sweater and a set of extra clothing to leave at your home in case she needs to change or gets cold and that in no way should they borrow any of your clothing. (a courtesy you should have given this nanny) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 12:30 AM Flag
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That doesn't need to be said. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 12:40 AM Flag
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So if kid had puked all over her, what should she do while she washed her clothes - if she would have been allowed to do that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 12:56 AM Flag
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What would you do at work if your clothes became soiled? Let's say you're a nurse and this happens? Do you grab a doctor's sweater from the locker room? No. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:00 AM Flag
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Hospitals have a supply of scrubs for just this reason. Obviously nanny should have had some extra clothes there. She made a mistake. OP is seriously over-reacting...and not in the most becoming way, imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:24 AM Flag
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Actually no they don't. That's changed years ago. Scrubs are numbered and assigned to specific or personnel. So if a floor nurse gets vomited on? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 02:14 AM Flag
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I work in a hospital..if someone get vomit or poop on them, we'll find them a change of clothes. No worries. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 02:31 AM Flag
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I do too. You wouldn't "borrow" an inpatient's sweater, would you? There you go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 02:50 AM Flag
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Sometimes it might need to be said. We can't all anticipate what might happen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 12:57 AM Flag
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Please don't wear my clothes. And use my hairbrush, toothbrush and cosmetics, and wander around my bedroom and rifle through my medicine cabinet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:01 AM Flag
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Sorry, you are totally crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 12:59 AM Flag
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She certainly is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:19 AM Flag
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she violated... what? Did you say privacy???? you fire her for your craziness? And does your husband agree? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:00 AM Flag
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+10000 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 04:20 AM Flag
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You are a loser who isn't even woman enough to fire your nanny yourself. Do you call your husband to wipre your ass for you too? Yell, at the butcher because he didn't give you a good cut of meat? You are a loon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 04:35 PM Flag
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Are familiar with the meaning of the 'D' in 'OCD?' Do you not see that the 'D' means that you overreacted? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:33 AM Flag
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LOL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 03:52 AM Flag
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You are a heartless woman. Your nanny deserves better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:40 AM Flag
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I can't believe nobody caught on that this was fake! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:51 AM Flag
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This better be freaking fake. That said, if it is, can you please knock it the fuck off? I'm tired of having to put every single post through the smell test. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 02:32 AM Flag
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Are you sure of this? Did I miss something? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 02:32 AM Flag
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Wait is this the contest with the other poster about who could have the best fake? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 02:48 AM Flag
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I'm leaving. I wish I could take back the ten minutes I just wasted reading this thread. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 11:07 AM Flag
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Hysterical post - thanks gang [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 02:30 AM Flag
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Karma: I am confident you are a vapid, miserable soul. Anyone who would cry over this, and treat someone who cares for their children so poorly, must be lacking any sense of purpose and meaning in your life. I feel sorry for you on some level, but horrified by your values. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 04:26 AM Flag
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DITTO! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 04:37 PM Flag
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Lady, you are a little bit off your rocker. Do her a favor and fire the nanny so she can get away from the likes of you. No person deserves that. You're like Laura Linney from The Nanny Diaries. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 10:43 AM Flag
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When I am cold I have worn my nanny's fleece that she leaves at our house. I wouldn't expect her to quit over that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 01:38 PM Flag
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FAKE [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 04:02 PM Flag
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This. Grammar is suspicious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.13, 05:18 AM Flag
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LOOOOOOOOSSSSSEEEEERRRR! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 04:37 PM Flag
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Not if she's wearing it because your dc threw up on her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 07:31 PM Flag
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OP, are you seriously so fucked up that you can't have a reasonable conversation with your nanny, in which you communicate to her how you feel and what your expectations are around your clothing/personal items? The solutions you've come up with (firing her, crying hysterically, hiding out in your room) are so immature and unhealthy... and they won't even improve your situation. Don't punish your nanny for YOUR issues; just talk to her for chrissake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 09:21 PM Flag
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OP hers- This is NOT FAKE, I assure you. Thank you to those who supported me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 10:22 PM Flag
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I think the only support came from you posting support to yourself! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.13, 10:43 PM Flag
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fakity fake faker [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.13, 03:08 AM Flag
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Not a big deal at all. You sound like a piece of work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.13, 12:17 AM Flag
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Turn up the heat in your home you spoiled brat! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.13, 12:18 AM Flag
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i think what i'd want to know is how your nanny gets along with your child/ren. haven't seen it mentioned, but maybe i missed it. if she's good with them and it's a close relationship, i'd think twice before firing her on the spot. we always want to lump everything together when we make decisions like this, but really, it should be done on a case by case basis. what was she thinking when it happened? what was her reasoning? what's she like as a person overall? and again, what is her relationship with your kids? to me, that would be the key thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.13, 03:41 AM Flag
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But to OP, it's all about the sweater. OP never once mentioned her DC. Interesting, no? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.13, 07:08 AM Flag
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I can see being a little weirded out by the presumption of being in an area of my home I haven't authorized and putting on my stuff. But how about "hey nanny, i know you might be cold, but i'm not really comfortable with you just putting on my things. Call me crazy, but I'm just not used to it. Please don't do it again. But we're still cool." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.09.13, 03:30 AM Flag
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