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06.05.08, 07:48 AM General Topics
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moving to the suburbs and suddenly feel sick to my stomach. anyone else btdt and ended up liking it? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.05.08, 07:48 AM Flag
 

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I feel for you. We had the option to move out a few years ago and decided against it. I hope it goes well for you, but I couldn't do it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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where are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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nyc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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Give me a break. It's not sure death to live in the suburbs, especially the suburbs of NYC, where, if you really want to, you can get there easily. You're only going to hate it in the 'burbs if you have a bad attitude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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it's a big life change. give me a break. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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ITA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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np: big life change is not hell on earth; ITA it is about your attitude. I do much of the same things here in the burbs as I did in NYC, and I find everything to be easier and more enjoyable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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It's a big change but you just have to prioritize if, like us, you can't afford to stay in the city. If we'd stayed we'd have to have a smaller family and deal with the school battle. We moved, and we have 3 kids, a dog, and great schools that I don't have to fight to get into. I can grocery shop with ease (no crammed aisles and lugging heavy groceries home) and my kids, who have very different ways of learning (one has learning disabilities) each get what they need without a hassle. And we visit NYC at least twice a month, maintained our museum memberships, go to the parks, and get to enjoy the fun aspects of the city. We miss it most in the winter, when options here are fewer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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where do you live? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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North Shore of LI. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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ITA! It's diff't from the City, but not by any stretch inferior. There are so many things to do, easy to meet other moms and a real sense of community. I find the moms here to be so nice and helpful and not at all like the UB moms. I loved the City, but I don't miss it. What I would miss about the City were my single/early married years, but I don't miss the kids in the City at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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What town are you targeting? Could you find a NJ town with a real "city/downtown" feel? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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I live on the UES, but think this is most people. My friend in a nice suburb in Westchester was making fun of her new neighbor who was freaking out "What will I do here, we're from the CITY." My friend grew up here and lived here her whole life before going to the suburbs, and she said 99.9% of the town lived in the city too. There are pros to the suburbs when you have kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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i'm scared about the babysitting situation. where do you find a sitter? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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OR. I don't know - sometimes neighbors, or if you are near a college? Maybe there is a newcomers group or one on meetup and you they will advertise or you can get a recommendation? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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- Sarah Lawrence and Iona are in Westchester. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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yes, btdt. it's a hard transition, no doubt. but you'll be fine. there will be things about the city you miss and things you're glad to be rid of. try to relax and enjoy it. gl. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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thx! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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where are you going? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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westchester [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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^^^ and BTW, you're moving at a great time of year- we moved in the fall and it's only been recently that I've really enjoyed the "outdoor living" aspect of the move- coming home from work and sitting out on the patio with a drink, throwing dinner on the grill while DD plays in the yard is AWESOME. it's the best part, imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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np: same here -- we moved in november, couldn't really appreciate the whole outside thing -- but now, dcs hang out outside a lot, dh grills a lot, life is good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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ita-- this is hands down the biggest plus of the burbs (and I ain't knockin the city, bc I love it). it's just so easy to be outside. i feel like i've already had more "summer" than I've had in years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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I would feel sick too. Do you have to go??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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yes, it's time. it's too exp here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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we moved to the burbs (not nyc) 8 yrs ago and i still have days when i love it and days when i hate it. it's about weighing your options and when you have your down days remindiing yourself WHY you did it. we chose to move here b/c we got a bigger house for less money and the public schools are great. we'd be shelling out $45,000+ for private schools for our 3 kids each yr if we'd stayed in the city. when i get annoyed with my neighbors, i pack of the kids, drive downtown and we all eat somewhere that i wouldn't be able to afford if we'd stayed urban. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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We go out to Rye a lot and each time I wish we were staying - so nice this time of year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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How much do you love your car?!?! We spent 3-5 hours a day in the car before we moved to NYC...Just basic grocery, mall, school, activities... I love being able to walk everywhere. That is what would kill me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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People, please. They're plans are made, you're not going to change her mind. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:38 AM Flag
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And if you live in a walkable town, you can still get places without a car. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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3 - 5 hours a day?!?! were you commuting back to the city? i've got three kids to transport and we've never spent 5 hrs in the car. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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Not at one stretch, but over the course of a day--Yes. 15-25 minutes at a time: (1) School drop off; (2) Target; (3) Home; (4) School pick up; (5) Home; (6) Playgroup; (7) Home; (8) Grocery (several stops often caught in Rush hour)... Yes, I could have put more errands together, BUT naps, lunch, and downtime for kids happened inbetween. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:42 AM Flag
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ita. my suburban mom friends live in their car. some have hired chauffeurs for the kids just so they can do something with their day besides drive around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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we are walking distance to school and .6 mile from train. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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That will make a difference in your sanity level. Are there any cute coffee shops or other shopping within walking distance? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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the town is cute [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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Try to find some groups/places to belong: YMCA, Gym, playgroups, afterschool activities. Start to set up your new life now so you won't get depressed, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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We are moving next summer. I am sick to my stomach as well...and so is my husband. i feel for you. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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I'm here too. I hate it. Go to bklyn, go to queens--do not move to the dead zone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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do you like clean air and playgrounds where you don't have to get in a brawl for a swing? how about having more than one closet or being able to sleep well because it is quiet? how about not having to pack all your kids in one BR or alcove? here's a crazy thought - YOU MIGHT LOVE IT! It is not 1970 anymore - the suburbs are different now. And the best part about living in the burbs is not dealing with all those pretentious, wealth-obsessed and narrow-minded people who think Manhattan is the only place to live. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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I like you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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ITA! Also with all of the school drama (no room in Kindergartens in NYC!?!) I can't imagine being afraid to leave the City when you have kids. We were traumatized at first, but we love it here and can't imagine living in the city with our kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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oh yeah, i forgot about that! who has the time and energy for that garbage! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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I'm not sure you avoid pretentious, wealth-obsessed, narrow minded people by moving to the suburbs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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I was raised in Wash. Hts., NYC & lived there unitl I moved to NJ about 2 years ago when I got married. If it was entirely up to me I would have stayed in Manhattan, however, I would never have the space in NYC that I do now. It's not easy, I miss it alot. It's what you're willing to give up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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Any major move will make you antsy and a little apprehensive. I don't think it has much to do with city to suburbs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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you might like it. we left manhattan for a more suburban borough, and I'm still having a hard time, to be honest-- but there are so many perks to being out of the city. it takes time~ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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I loved to Long Island after living in the city all my life. After a year I must say that I love it. Even when Im in the city now I cant wait to be back home, its like a lil paradise. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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yes! it took time and adjustment but when you can walk outside barefoot, let your kids go out and in a million times a day, have one nap and one play outside...it makes it worth it. there's a great site that pokes fun at the 'burbs (you got to laugh at it to survive) you might want to look at, www.burbia.com. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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I you are moving to a surburb like Larchmont or Mamaroneck you shouldn't regret you can walk to most places in both towns depending on where yoy live of course and a lot of the residents are from the city (UWS types mostly), there is also a short commute 35 minutes or less from both places to the city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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