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06.03.08, 21:39 PM Toddler
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i am so scared i may really be looking at a divorce. in laws are here and dh and i argued (rather small) but he told in laws i was a real "you know what", and that i was mentally unstable. has still not apologized, nor have they really said anything. few days later nastily admonished me to return library books on time in front of mil. he's now down w/her whining about me i'm sure. shocked, furious and terrified. he refuses to apologize. i feel disgust and hatred to him, but terrified w/two kids. is there a way out? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Toddler 06.03.08, 09:39 PM Flag

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when you figure it out -- let me know [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.03.08, 11:15 PM Flag

Oh god this sounds horrible. You should start researching your options and figuring out the finances to feel more in control. Perhaps pick up some literature about protection of wives and children in divorces in your state. try to learn as much as you can about what laws and protection you have (covertly of course -- until you decide what to do). It will help you feel less helpless. Also a counselor could help you navigate your options while you figure out a solution. Knowledge is power. gl. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:27 AM Flag

I'd say counseling so that you can learn to talk productively to each other and to give some structure to a conversation where you can tell him how his siding with his mom against you really feels. I don't disagree with the poster who suggested you put your ducks in order to in anticipation of a possible divorce. Better to be prepared. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.04.08, 03:28 AM Flag

Totally agree. Counseling, maybe divorce. Just remember that parents make even sane grownups act like crazy babies. He might be salvageable. Sounds scary, talk to girlfriends, get support. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:51 AM Flag

when can you get the inlaws out ? nothing can be done - imho - while they are there. this is a private matter no matter the outcome... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:52 AM Flag

ditto - and ask yourself is he like this always or only when they're around - if the latter, it's a matter for therapy for him big time - doesn't sound like you've done ANYTHING wrong [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:19 AM Flag

When are the parents leaving? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:14 AM Flag

get the in laws out of the house so he has to deal with you and you only [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:16 AM Flag