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06.03.08, 19:39 PM Toddler
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dh here, I need some dw opinions. Do you ever wonder what you are missing out on by being married? I do, not that I don't love my family, but I often wonder what else is out there, who else I could be with, etc. I'm unsatisfied, I guess, and I'm wondering if everyone feels this way or if it's just me. thanks. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Toddler 06.03.08, 07:39 PM Flag
 

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it's just you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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Personally, no. I dated plenty and I know what being single and dating is all about. I'm much happier married. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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^^but I seriously doubt it's just you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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ONe of the reasons I would never have marrie dyougn...I know what is out there and sowed my wild oats. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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It's not just you. But people like you are so freaking tiresome. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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op: why? I think more people feel the way I do than don't feel this way. We force ourselves into this conventionality, but the truth is, we aren't really happy. We just ignore the idea that there could be someone better so we don't have to face it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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God, you are just insufferable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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op: you are repressed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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np: You are a faker. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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No, I'm not. You are trying to build some stupid sociological argument for YOUR mistakes, YOUR bad choices, or perhaps just YOUR general asshole dissatisfaction. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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I think you are a little harsh on op. But I agree, don't generalize and say "we" all feel a certain way b/c it's not true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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He so deserves it. He can't stand up for his own feelings, is looking for validation so he can justify what he wants to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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I agree w/ you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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Actually, you're a dog. NP by the way. Stop fantasizing and get real. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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if there is someone better why did you marry your dw? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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The grass could always be greener. It could be browner too. As long as you've got a decent patch of grass cultivate that. Fully commit yourself to the life you have. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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op: but what if my "soul mate" (lame expression) is still out there? why should I live a life of quiet desperation when I could be happier? Wouldn't it be better in the long run for my kids? everyone's always telling dw's that sort of thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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No they aren't. Be a father and a husband. That is what you chose. Stop chasing rainbows. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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Work that out with a therapist, you child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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No one is always telling women this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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YOU aren't really happy. There's no we here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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why did you get married...Iwaited until I found some one "better." There is no socail convention that is so strong that it requires marriage from a man, especially, in this day and age. I think you are just looking for a justification for being a dick. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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I don't feel that way, but I'm sure it is common. It's not that I don't think I could possibly be living some other more exciting fulfilling life. But I could also be living some pathetic or tragic one. And the current one is loving, steady, happy. So I just enjoy what I've got. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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i sometimes think about what life would've been like without dh and dcs. but i can never picture myself (and don't even wonder about) me being with someone else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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No. started dating at 16 and married at 31 so I saw what was out there. I appreciate my dh and happily married. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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did you get married young? I would not go back to being single for anything in the world. Yes I traveled, partied, went out, etc. but it wasn't half as exciting as people think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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op: I was 28. Dw and I dated for 8 years. I also felt this way before with her, which is probably a bad thing in retrospect, maybe we shouldn't have gotten married. I love my family, though, can't stand the thought of losing them. Is that enough to stay in a relationship that doesn't satisfy me? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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np: if you have children yes you shold stay and go to counseling and make it work [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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op: what is the point of counselling, everyone says that but I don't see it. What's that going to prove? I'm unhappy? I'm a 'dick'? I don't ssee why I should put myself/us through it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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So do her a favor and leave. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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If you have all the answers and know yourself so well, you wouldn't be asking us these questions. That's what therapy is for--to figure out what you want and why you feel and behave the way you do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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Then just leave. Some people believe in commitment and family and all that and they try to work things out. Counseling might help you understand why you feel the way you do and give you some insight into yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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you have to try it - you owe that to your family. You just want the easy way out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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You need to talk to a marriage counselor. DO NOT cheat on your wife. Work it out or leave. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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when did you get married/have kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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I rarely think about who else I might be with, but I do get dissatisfied sometimes. I think more about the dreams I have that won't come true because of the choices I've made. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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