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06.02.08, 13:15 PM General Topics
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Wait a minute. i really don't understand. a woman telling her own daughter to ask for a turn on the swing is overbearing? or did i miss something about that post? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 01:15 PM Flag
 

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I know. That whole post was ridiculous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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here in da bronx you all would be laughed out of the park [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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manhattan too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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oh there are some normal people over there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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oh good lord. are you miss-i'm-so-tough-i-live-uptown mom? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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yes i live in the real world. go away yuppie [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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really don't think it's a class issue. lots of non-yuppies know how to share. it's really puzzling to me why you've chosen to become a champion for selfishness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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come on up to the bronx before you make that statement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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lol. you probably live on the UES and have an IB dh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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nope pelham bay 40 years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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that's right, we can form sentences up here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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np: Well, that's not a terrible neighborhood, kind of silly to adopt this faux gangsta attitude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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its not about selfishness. its about pushiness. pushy pushy moms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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Apparently the OP (and several other responders) believe that it's just fine to stay on a swing for an unlimited amount of time even when others are waiting - and that those who believe otherwise are "entitled". A little pot/kettle, imho. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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that's right!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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I am the OP from the swing post and I specifically wrote that the child swinging was NOT on for an excessively long time. So, there was no reason the child could not continue to wait. There is a big diff. The child swinging was just doing what you are supposed to be doing on a swing. Not abusing it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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You might have written that in one of your responses, but it was not part of your original post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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I didn't realize that I had to state every piece of info in the opening post. So, for the record, the child was not on the swing forever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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what bothers me is that they think asking is the same as demanding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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ittta. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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yep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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i can only think of two explanations. either they think that engaging other kids in the park is wrong (that old big city don't-talk-to-anyone idea). i can't remember the other explanation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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Yes, it's overbearing to ask because you should have manners and just wait. Do you just cut to the front of the line at the store because you want to? Same thing with the park. You teach your kid patience and it will go a long way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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It's NOT the same thing, and - if you can't see that - you're a little dense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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maybe so, but my kid won't get off the swing until he's go and ready! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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NP: Listen I would agree with you if it were anywhere but Central Park. There are 100s of children in and out all day and honestly, there has NEVER been an unavailable swing. So if a little girl is waiting for a very specific swing, it would make a whole lot more sense for her mom to tell her to wait patiently, or to get her over that weird swing fetish. We have tons of available swings..thats why it is so weird. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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yep! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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The OP was clear that all of the other swings were also occupied at the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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so what? then ask everybody. bring a loudspeaker and make announcements [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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But again, in Central Park, this little girl will have a very hard time if she always needs one particular swing. A better lesson for her would be that sharing in Central Park means trying out all sorts of new swings and swingsets because if every child wanted a turn on one swing, the city would fall apart...No really. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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for me, the issue isn't what's reasonable for this child to want. the question was whether or not the other mom was being overbearing and if asking is the same as demanding. and i think the answer to both is no. why would you think the answer is yes? and secondly, just b/c someone is asking does not mean your child has to say yes. even if it was a demand, your dc does not have to listen to some other kid's demands. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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...and that the kid in question had not been on the swing long. This is absurd. -np [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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np: So you are teaching your child to be selfish. Great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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and your kid goes around begging other to take the swing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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No. My point was, I teach my child that if he's been on the swing for 5 minutes and someone is waiting TO GET OFF AND SHARE. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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You can't be serious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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see, that's what scares me. they are being serious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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asking is not the same as cutting to the front of the line. don't you teach your child to ask for things? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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Would you consider my answer, "When we are done." rude? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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of course. just b/c i ask doesn't mean your turn has to be up right now. (although it would depend on your tone as well) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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I haven't noticed in any of this a discussion of how lone the kid was waiting before askind/how long the line is. I'm reserving judgement. -nnp [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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i don't think it's really relevant. for two reasons. if the kid walked up and found someone on the swing, she has no idea how long the swinger has been swinging. and secondly, there is nothing wrong with asking. teach your children to take their turns and then share, adn then this whole thing wouldn't even be an issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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