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06.02.08, 08:17 AM General Topics
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DD is entering preschool this fall and her 3rd birthday is late in September. What's the etiquette around birthday parties for preschoolers? Invite the whole class or what? Thanks! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 08:17 AM Flag
 

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cupcakes for all! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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ditto, this is what we did. We didn't invite anyone from her class to her party at home- she just seemed too little to have 'friends' like that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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OP: I thought of this but we were told that we can't do sugary treats like cupcakes for the class (we also have to do snack for one week out of the year). But I didn't ask specifically about the birthday thing - duh. I will ask the school ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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do they have the option of doing the party in school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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Either whole class or single sex if you want to save some money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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If it's September of the first year, I would probably just invite her "old" friends--ie no one from school. It's the last year you'll be able to do that. The school etiquette is generally all or none. I wouldn't invite just a few kids from preschool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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OP: We actually moved and relocated to a new city a week ago, so most of her "old" friends are in our old city. Thinking about maybe inviting everyone to encourage relationship here? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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In that case, great idea! We went to a bday party the first month of ds's preschool and it was a nice mixer for the parents as well. You'll probably get to know people from it too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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That's my hope :-) See below - we have tended to do relatively "big" things for her because we enjoy it - would you think about being more restrained in this situation or just do whatever we want? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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Do whatever you want. I would have it at home and have wine/snacks for the adults. IME, parents are really curious about each other and eager to mingle the first couple of months of preschool. It's a big deal for everyone. It'll be great--have fun! And congrats on your move. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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Thanks so much! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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yes invite the whole class if you have a party and want to invite some classmates. Our preschool has a policy to not leave out any of the kids since kids talk and others will be hurt by it. BTW not once did the entire class come to our party [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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invite all or none. It's tough because she most likely will have the first bday and you will be setting the precedent. Personally, I would skip the bday party this year. No one is going to expect it 2 weeks into the school year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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OP: yeah, it's the precedent thing I am worried about. Thanks for picking up on that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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^^ my concern too is that we *like* doing birthday parties (we did a pony party for her second one) and I don't want inadvertantly to set a high bar that pisses other mothers off. Does that make sense? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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I would give yourself a break. New city, new school, etc. She is three. She isn't going to realize she is missing anything. If others in school have a bday party, she may ask about it later in the year and you can tell her "next year" and she can help plan it, have the summer to look forward to it, and will actually know the dc that come. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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That's good point. Thanks for the thoughtful reply. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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ITD. Our ds's 3rd bday party was a highlight of his year. It's a big deal for them at that age, and easy enough to do. It'll help make the transition (both to school and to the new city) easier on OP's dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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Thanks - that's kind of where my original thoughts were headed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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itd as well. this is a good way for OP to meet parents and make friends. also, DD will be invited to many parties too as the year goes on and it's only fair [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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I don't adhere to the "none or all" rule. We invited about 10 classmates, 3-4 neighbor kids and 3-4 cousins of the same age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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You can do a dress up party and just invite the girls in the class. It would also be a nice way to meet some of the other parents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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