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06.02.08, 07:17 AM General Topics
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Confession: I am SO not interested in breastfeeding. Adopted baby #1, pregnant with #2. Will give it a shot in the hospital, but I am really not at all interested in breastfeeding and when my friends EBF babies are hanging off them all the time I am not jealous at their ability to breastfeed. Anyone else like this? Perhaps it is because I could not breastfeed #1? I feel freakish (but honest). [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 07:17 AM Flag
 

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just do what works for you. Really not a big deal. Give it a shot, try it for a couple of weeks and see if you feel any diff about it. Formula is fine though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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I hear you. Ignore the militant la leche wackos and do what makes you feel comfortable. If mommy isn't happy no one is happy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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ITA. a happy mommy = a happy baby [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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np to some extent sure. But you can go overboard with that! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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Well, if mom does want to breast feed she shouldn't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:20 AM Flag
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oh ITA on this subject. Just thinking that people carry that sentiment too far sometimes and act selfishly. Def agree on the BFing thing though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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nothing wrong with being honest about your feelings. i had no interest either, but did it out of guilt. i hated every minute of it because it was so painful and i got multiple infections included two cases of staph that landed me in the hospital. if i were to ever get PG again, i would never BF. not a happy memory for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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I would give it a try so you don't look back and regret it. If after a month it isn't for you, stop and switch to formula [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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ita- i think you should go in with a more positive outlook and give it a try, if it doesnt work out it doesnt [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:20 AM Flag
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How do I go in with a more positive outlook, really? I see how my friends/family have STRUGGLED with a screaming baby trying to make breastfeeding happen and everyone was just miserable. I am really not at all sold. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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np think about all the benefits for the baby maybe? Even a few days or weeks (colostrum etc) are good for him/her. Formula is good and when the baby is older I think no better or worse. Just seems like we were made to BF. It is made for them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:26 AM Flag
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it may not be that hard for you- give it a try, i find it enjoyable, my db gets BM and FF [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:25 AM Flag
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nnp ditto. It's not hard for everyone [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:26 AM Flag
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Hmm. It's a bummer you don't have women close to you for whom it's worked out well. Maybe seek out some moms you know who enjoyed bfing? I had trouble the 1st 10 days, but after that it was smooth sailing; I liked bfing because it was a nice time to cuddle with dd and it was surprisingly cool to know that I could make her nourishment from my own body (I'm not super crunchy, so this last part was an interesting and nice surprise). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:26 AM Flag
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positive poster- i agree- it was special time, something only i could do for her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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See I think I MAY in fact resent even giving it a try. I know that I do not want to do it but feel like I have to fake this "give it an effort" thing to avoid judgement. Stupid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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np if you feel that certain about then, just don't. But really think about it and see if there won't be feelings of regret that you didn't at least try it. If not, formula is fine. Just not good to haev regrets. :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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you don't have to do anything for other people/judgement. get that concept out of your head NOW - its your baby, your decisions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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np. I have a friend who was desperate to BF and would not consider ff but the baby was unable to latch at birth so she never bf and when it came time to have #2 she said she didn't even want to try bf because she was happy to ff. I was fully ff as a baby and I turned out ok! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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no judgement, but why are you so opposed to trying ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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Maybe you can look at it a little this way. You know how before you have kids people tell you, "your life will never be the same", "you'll love them more than you ever dreamed possible", etc etc and you kind of thought to yourself - "okay, right". And then you had kids and really understood what they meant. I think breastfeeding can be kind of similar. It does hurt (a lot) at first, but if you can get it going, it can become a really hard thing to give up because it's a connection with your baby that's incredibly close - obviously physically - but also emotionally. I hated it at first, but loved it later. But if you do it without really wanting to try, it definitely won't work because it's not easy for most at first. So don't feel guilty, just don't do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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i was breastfeed and have allergies, weight issues and every other thing its meant to prevent - do what makes YOU happy and thats how you'll make your baby happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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ok, you couldn't for your first & maybe you compensated by convincing yourself it was a huge relief. Now is a new situation & just start w/a fresh attitude. Yes it hurts for the first two weeks & yes you are pretty confined to being with your baby every two hours but one the other hand you may enjoy the whole bonding/loving interaction, the physical warmth & intimacy & most importantly - the excuse to sit down in a comfy chair & rest for twenty minutes because absolutely no-one else can to this feeding but you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:26 AM Flag
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