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06.01.08, 20:46 PM General Topics
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I have just broke up w/ a married man after 3 years (He lied about his marriage.) Prior to this I had finally escaped a physically abusive husband. UB is the only thing that takes my mind off my troubles. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.01.08, 08:46 PM Flag
 

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try therapy. why are you attracting one schmuck after another? find a nice guy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 08:49 PM Flag
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They both seemed very nice in the beginning. I'll never trust again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 08:51 PM Flag
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when you say "you'll never trust again," you're actually setting up a dynamic where you've now scared yourself that you'll be alone forever which makes you more likely to panic and run into the arms of the next numbskull who offers to pay for dinner. Why not tell yourself, "I'll trust again when I'm ready" and take some of the drama out of the equation. Then try really being very very good to yourself for a while. Treat yourself with love and respect and you are more likely to find someone who loves and respects you and, if not, at least you didn't spend all of your time moaning, "never again, never again." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:10 PM Flag
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NP: you are good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:15 PM Flag
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it's the insight of a reformed drama queen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:19 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:21 PM Flag
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I'm not desperate for anyone to pay for my dinner or any thing else at this point. I'm just completely disgusted not afraid to be alone forever. It's just sad that people can be so cruel if you let them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:19 PM Flag
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exactly -- "if you let them." Why do you let them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:22 PM Flag
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probably because I'm pretty honest and upfront and have assumed that others are to. I'm much more suspicious than I used to be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:24 PM Flag
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Does not make sense. You let them be cruel to you because you are honest and direct? Try again. You let them be cruel to you because . . . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:30 PM Flag
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Are you really that dense? Have you never been lied to? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:32 PM Flag
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np: i'm not saying this to be mean. but your track record sounds really spotty. it sounds like there's something wrong with your expectations or your relationships. you can't keep blaming it on bad luck. and why would you want to if you have the ability to fix it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 10:01 PM Flag
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you didn't figure out he was married for 3 yrs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 08:54 PM Flag
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Yes! but not before I had already invested my emotions and was repeatedly lied to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 08:55 PM Flag
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and yet you stayed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 08:56 PM Flag
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if you are feeling holier than thou move along. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 08:57 PM Flag
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not at all, just think you need to rethink your own actions rather than blaming it all on those men [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:01 PM Flag
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this is a site that is supporitive to women. move along and make sure you know where your own husband or partner is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:03 PM Flag
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Please tell me you're joking! What do you consider being "supportive to women" - enabling their stupid, conscious, self destructive choices and then stroking their clueless little heads when the shit inevitably hits the fan?? Get a life! Get some self esteem!! The common denominator in your equation is YOU, not the general evils of men. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:20 PM Flag
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You must be man or a very ugly unlovable women. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:25 PM Flag
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Great logic there. only men or ugly, yucky ladies hold themselves in high enough regard to be in healthy, happy relationships. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:29 PM Flag
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Let's face it your fear of being cheated on is causing you to be so smug. Go find your husband and blow him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:31 PM Flag
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Happily, he's right here. And he's great. I have no need to be smug - I'm honest with myself and have some self esteem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:35 PM Flag
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I'm sure you're alone w. your vibrator. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:37 PM Flag
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This is also a site with a lot of married women on it who aren't necessarily supportive of women who sleep with married men -- for 3 years no less! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:25 PM Flag
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another brute [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:26 PM Flag
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This OP is a major idiot. And a self- righteous one at that. Let her drown in her little self-sabotage game. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:32 PM Flag
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You are the self-righteous bitch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:33 PM Flag
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Enjoy your misery, honey. I hope it keeps you warm tonight. xo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:37 PM Flag
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ITA. buh-bye now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:34 PM Flag
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Uh huh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:35 PM Flag
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how does UB take your mind off your troubles? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:06 PM Flag
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I can converse anonymously and not think about my situation. Except, of course, when I bring it up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:09 PM Flag
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i think the poster above has a really good point. you had a 3 year relationship with someone that at some point you knew was built on lies. and then you start thinking "poor me". that's really not healthy. i do think you need to speak to a good therapist. b/c you'll end up having a lot of trouble with this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:39 PM Flag
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Thank you sister. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:40 PM Flag
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