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06.01.08, 18:48 PM General Topics
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I am trying to figure out how my MIL is always getting to come and stay at our house. Since last year, she came in mid-July, bugged us alot for September but did not come till early November. Then again at Christmas. Then she bugged us again in February and so finally she got to come in April. Now we are moving again and she is coming again in late June. I've just had it with all these constant 4 day vacations at my house where I get stuck doing all the work and am especially peeved this month because we are moving. I want to limit contact with her so as to avoid talking to her about her next visits [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.01.08, 06:48 PM Flag
 

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"Constant" is 4 times a year? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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I have to do all the cleaning and all the meal cooking and grocery store shopping and she never offers to stay in a hotel. It isn't just MIL, it is my younger SIL too. MIL always travels with her, and she could leave her with a paid babysitter or respite care but she doesn't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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np: This is your dc's grandmother, right? Grandchild/grandparent relationships are important. And there are somethings we tolerate because they are good for our dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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What? Her daughter needs extra help? Is she mentally challenged? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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OP doesn't appear to be on any more, but if you check, find a way to make these visits less burdensome on you: do minimal meals and don't go out of your way to do any special cleaning. If you can afford it, have someone else clean the house. Please try to rearrange your head: your MIL is now your child's grandmother. She and your child deserve to have a relationship, even if it's not the ideal one you pictured. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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Sorry, but that's not that much - just get her to watch the kids while she's there, and suck it up - some day you'll be that MIL, trying to see your grandkids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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She can't watch our kids because she has bad judgement and has MR YSIL with her too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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agree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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She invites herself, I think that is what p**e s me off, neither DH nor I want to invite her here for that many visits. We would gladly meet her in a vacation spot or drive up to her house but she refuses to do that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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Someday, the woman your son marries may not like you. So once every three months, you drum up the courage to ask to spend a few days with your grandkids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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well, does she live in another part of the country? in which case, that does not sound like much and you def have to suck up. If she lives down the street it's a bit much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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decide how many times per year is ok with you and stick to it- [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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