< Return to Talk
06.01.08, 17:03 PM General Topics
16 replies
DD spent the weekend with my husband's parents. I am so pissed off b/c they did not give her a nap at all, she is 2 and needs one, she came back filthy and with a huge hannah montana tattoo on her leg. Tonight was the hardest night I have ever ha with her b/c she was so tired. She was fighting me, kicking, hitting, screaming! DH is away in the military so I have to deal with this on my own. I want to tell them if they want her to come out again they need to follow some rules. Am I over reacting? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.01.08, 05:03 PM Flag
 

Dear UrbanBaby community,

Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

If you have any questions or concerns, you can email us at urbanbaby-support@cbsinteractive.com.

Thanks so much,

UrbanBaby Support

»
you're not overreacting, but if they're babysitting for free, you can't dictate too much, other than things involving her health. she missed her nap but it won't kill her. you can say something like, "Jane gets really grumpy when she doesn't nap. Can you try to put her down at 2?" But don't mention it now -- mention it when you're dropping her off next time... [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.01.08, 05:05 PM Flag
»
your ILs watched your child for the whole weekend and you are complaining about it? Why couldn't you watch your own child for the weekend? What were you doing? Seriously, they did you a favor, so deal with it. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.01.08, 05:05 PM Flag
»
I went to see my husband who I haven't seen in 5 months so shut the f*** up [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.01.08, 05:07 PM Flag
»
np: Honestly, they were doing you a favor, even if they didn't do things exactly the way you would have. It's very hard to take care of a 2 yo when you're out of practice. Needing a bath and having a fake tattoo are just not that big of a deal. And my almost 2 yo completely refuses to nap when he's with my parents b/c he's too excited to be w/ grandma and grandpa to fall asleep. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.01.08, 05:09 PM Flag
»
i still stand by what i said. they did you a FAVOR. it sucks that she didn't get a nap but you got a whole weekend without DD. and they aren't even your parents, they are your ILs. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.01.08, 05:09 PM Flag
»
np: ITA. It's the price of free babysitting. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.01.08, 05:12 PM Flag
»
Hey, OR, read the whole post. Her DH is in the military and OP is effectively a single parent. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.01.08, 05:08 PM Flag
»
seriously, i commend her husband for serving in the military but i know MANY single moms who are REALLY SINGLE who have no help. they have no family to watch their children for a whole weekend. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.01.08, 05:10 PM Flag
»
np: My dh has been working out of town for the last 5 mo and I am in a similar position and my ILs have never once offered to help (my parents live 1000 miles away). I would be really, really grateful if they gave me an entire weekend off. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.01.08, 05:10 PM Flag
»
ittta. yes it sucks her husband is in the military but it doesn't give her the damn right to be ungrateful and bratty [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.01.08, 05:13 PM Flag
»
was she safe? was she loved? did she have a good time? if so, then breathe and let it go. i have btdt and am also a bit of a sleep control mommy, but - in this situation - the best thing to do is let it go for now. perhaps before next time, let them know her nap schedule and add that you had a very difficult time getting her down for the night the last time because she was overtired. but that's it. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.01.08, 05:05 PM Flag
»
ITA. I'm afraid you had unreasonable expectations from grandparents. Next time they babysit, make sure you get well-rested so you can deal with the expected blowback. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.01.08, 05:07 PM Flag
»
no. say something, but do it nicely. i would imagine it's nice to have the support nearby with your husband away for so long. no need to put them on th defensive [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.01.08, 05:06 PM Flag
»
A little. It does suck for you and I feel your pain, but at the same time, they did keep her for the weekend and I think that quality time with grandparents is worth the inevitable hassle that comes with unspoiling them afterwards. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.01.08, 05:06 PM Flag
»
well, it's hard to say w/o knowing how it was set up. did you say here is her usual routine, please try to do X and X because she really needs it, melts down otherwise, etc.? that's what I would do. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.01.08, 05:09 PM Flag
»
My ds is like that after spending time away,not because of naps or MIL, but because he's mad I left him. He behaves like an angel when I'm gone, but gives it to me later [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.01.08, 05:11 PM Flag
Refresh » New Post »
Select Category
close [X]

close [X]

Select a Category (only 1)

category
Stages
Regions