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05.31.08, 22:35 PM Toddler
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DH and I are struggling financially. He is at a bachelor party this weekend and I just looked into the account. He has spent $700! I am so furious... dont even come at me with what is he spending it on because wether it is a lapdance or a donation to a local church it is money we can't spend!!! I just transferred the balance into savings so he cat touch it. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Toddler 05.31.08, 10:35 PM Flag
 

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sometimes you get roped into paying for things at these parties and don't have much of a choice - if they went out for a great dinner and he had to pay for the groom to be too, that gets pricey [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 10:37 PM Flag
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We can't afford this though. We discussed this and he went down with $300... I know they get pricey, but he promised to keep it within limits. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 10:39 PM Flag
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well, he could have at least called you if it went over what you had discussed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 10:45 PM Flag
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I doubt he got roped into a $700 dinner. Just saying... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:40 AM Flag
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you did the right thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 10:41 PM Flag
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Obviously DH is drunk and spending freely, why would you even let DH go to something like this to begin with? Nothing but trouble and there you sit worrying what he is doing. Not good at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 10:42 PM Flag
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np - Let? Are you kidding? Is she his mother? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 10:44 PM Flag
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Ahh, YES, LET!! No way in hell would my DH ever attend any bachelor party. What are you dumb? Even the best of guys get downright dumb and stupid at these things. Really! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 10:48 PM Flag
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np. i was just at a bachelorette party and we met a group of guys at a bachelor's party and they were really sweet, nicem people [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 10:50 PM Flag
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No, I'm not dumb. I'm an adult, married to another adult.I don't feel a need to stay on top of his every move. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 10:51 PM Flag
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Well you just go ahead and keep those blinders on honey bc eaither your DH is a "jerk off behind your back to some porno type or he will cheat first chance he gets like at a party type of guy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 11:02 PM Flag
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LOL! Are you 12? If a person wants to cheat they don't need a bachelor party or porn to do it. You sound very immature and insecure. As for my DH, he rarely goes to any parties and we usually watch porn together. If I'm not in the mood he watches by himself and usually mentions it to me. I don't have a problem with either one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 11:05 PM Flag
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Yes dear keep telling yourself this..... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 11:11 PM Flag
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Keep telling myself what? That DH and I watch porn together, that he watches it alone, that he rarely goes to parties? All facts. That if a person wants to cheat they will and there is no way for you to control that? Also fact. Anything else, dear? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 11:14 PM Flag
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I feel so sorry that you are unsure about your relationship w/DH. Maybe if you wore some makeup or something instead of trying to be that ugly Disney mom it may help. Get a grip dear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 11:19 PM Flag
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Is this really the best you can do? This doesn't even address any of my points. You're quite tiresome. How about making a real point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 11:21 PM Flag
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^^^I'm bored now. I'm off to watch some redtube myself.(without DH) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 11:25 PM Flag
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Goodness dear, are you still up? Thought you sniffed all hubbys shirts for perfume and did a once over for lipstick and went to bed {by yourself of course} you know, being that hubby is on the sofa due to the fact that he cant stand you anymore????? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 11:26 PM Flag
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boring [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 11:28 PM Flag
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Yes, he did say that about you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 11:30 PM Flag
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you are so weird. Your dh must be scared of you - YOU CAN"T GO TO A BACHELOR PARTY EVER BC YOU MARRRIED ME. so odd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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Let? Your dh asks permission to attend his friends social functions? Not in this house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:33 AM Flag
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He didn't have a choice. Don't make too big of a deal out of it. Just say WOW. And then work together to tighten up for the next couple of weeks (no lunch out, skip starbucks etc) to compensate. Things happen [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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"didn't have a choice"??? you are quite the sucker [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:36 AM Flag
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not in the least. There are social functions and obligations. I understand the male culture a little better than you. However, you are free to run your household in any manner that works for you and your dh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:39 AM Flag
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I"m not OP, and there's no such thing as "the male culture," dear. My DH would never disrespect me and his family by blowing $$ we didn't have at a bachelor party. He's not 25 and I don't expect him to act that way. You sound like a real victim and so does your dh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:42 AM Flag
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lose the dear a$$hole [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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hey, at least I didn't curse at you, but now I wish I had ;) considering you can't even respond like a grown-up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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you sound really sancti and judgy. You don't know any of the details. And why do you use that condescending "dear" all the time? Its rude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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I was responding to OR, genius, who claimed that he didn't have a choice. In what world would a grown man be forced into spending his family's money in such an irresponsible way? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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What is with you and all the insults? Lady, you have issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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Just because you are married to an old dude doesn't mean her husband isn't 25 :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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He's not an "old dude," but he's a grown-up, and neither him nor his friends were still going to these things in their 30s. Sorry that you guys are all married to neanderthals. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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may I ask how you know how old op's husband is? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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I didn't say his age - I was responding to OR"s claim that a grown man (whatever age you think would be) had a choice in how he spent his money and his time. You can infer from OP's post that she thinks her dh is not acting his age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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you've actually brought up age twice. But you can backtrack if you want. Actually, I think you should. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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The more you talk, the more apparent it becomes that you have anger isssues. We don't all have to live like you. There is nothing wrong with a bachelor party (or bachlorette). Simply because you and your dh don't enjoy them, doesn't make them bad. Open up your world and little and understand, we all live differently. We all celebrate differently. Its not "your way" or wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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Boy, you really can't follow can you. OP is upset and I'm saying that I would be upset too. I never said they were "bad," but I agreed w/ OP that HIS SPENDING MONEY THEY DIDN'T HAVE was irresponsible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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Actually, that is not all you said. But I'm glad you realize the error of your ways and are now trying to back peddle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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Hey, I'm 45 and if invited to a party to celebrate my friends upcoming nups, I'm there. Its her choice, not mine. She wants a party and wants me to be there, I go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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THat's cool, that's not my issue (see above). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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So you are not the person who typed, "he's a grown up and neither him or his friends were still going to these things in their 30's." I strongly doubt that you didn't type that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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Have you asked him what happened? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:42 AM Flag
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Wait, he is still at the party? You haven't talked to him? Maybe, just maybe he put something on credit card and the other guys paid him in cash and he is still within the budget. Why would you make it so he doesn't have access to money? Or causes you to get bank overdraft charges unknowingly? This seems really stupid on your part to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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