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05.30.08, 14:48 PM Toddler
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My sister is not going to marry the father of her baby, but thinks they will stay together. He really wants the baby to have his last name. I'm nearly convinced they will not stay together, and she's asking my advice on what to name the baby....so give me advice. How to convince her to give the baby her last name, without telling her it's because I know this dude is a goner.... [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Toddler 05.30.08, 02:48 PM Flag
 

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General Topics 05.30.08, 02:50 PM Flag
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I predict: Completely out of hers, and mostly out of the kids. I could picture some spectacular trips and visiting in the future, becoming less and less over the years, then *poof* nothing. He has another child who we used to see ALL the time, who is pretty much a ghost to us now... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 02:53 PM Flag
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i'm not married to baby's father, she has his last name. never thought about it, and if, for some reason, we break up, i would be fine with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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Do you think he'll still be around for db? If so, I think I'd give db his last name. (And so you know, this is coming from a feminist who did not change her last name and who was raised by a single mother and I have her name - father never in picture. (If she does give DB her name and eventually marries someone else, then she should still keep her own name, otherwise it's like Db will have no one's name) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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if it were me the kid would have my last name as long as i weren't married to the dad no matter what. but most people would give the kid the dad's last name regardless (this has been my observation anyway). i took dh's last name and am generally very traditional in this regard, but i think the mom and the baby should have the same last name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:14 PM Flag
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ITA with you. Not married, then the kid gets my name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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I'm with you guys. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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I think you should think of your reasons that you are convinced they won't stay together. If others agree with you also. I would just be honest with your sister, tell her that you feel that since they are not commited to married that you fear he may not stick around and that her baby may have a name later that he will be unhappy with. But otherwise my true feelings are..what's in a name anyways when the baby is grown he will know who his Mom is and somewhat who his father is if baby decides to, a name doesn't tell you who you belong to in the end. But your sister should definitely think of the future affects of any name she chooses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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