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05.30.08, 14:46 PM General Topics
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MIL is driving me crazy. I try my hardest to have her just deal with DH on things and she insists on calling me at work, my cell phone, email...she is all over me. we are expecting our first and she just will not give it a rest. sending name options, wanting to buy her ticket NOW for when i give birth in the fall....i can;t take it! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 02:46 PM Flag
 

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Don't answer her calls. She'll get the picture eventually. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 02:47 PM Flag
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I have tried that. but then she tells Dh she doesn't think i like her. she just wants so much attention. i mean, please. and i fear it will only get worse when the baby comes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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i am expecting my first and also have a very needy attention seeking mil (who also has a mean streak). it has been really tough and dh and I have had a sit down with her about it recently. my best advice is to have dh tell her he thinks she is smothering you and that she needs to back off. it will hurt her feelings but there's no way you can impress upon her what needs to happen without doing that. she's being overbearing and you need to set some boundaries now or it will get worse. you might want to see a therapist. i did and it helped a lot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:18 PM Flag
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wow. well she isn;t mean but she is manipulative and just bulldozes over me (and dh). he feels bad for her for the most part but also sees how much stress it puts on me. i end up being my worse self around her, passive aggresive. she has 2 sons and my SIL goes throw the same thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:21 PM Flag
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ARE you my sil? because MY sil goes through the same thing too, mil has two sons, is very manipulative. you really are going to have to set some boundaries if you want things to be better, i hate to tell you. realizing that and growing the spine to do it was incredibly hard and stressful but there is no other way. i really do wish you luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:27 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:29 PM Flag
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lol - i'm pretty certain you aren't but it's weird how common this is [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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oops. hit return. anyway, i am trying but i get fristrated and end up being kind of meanand drawing a line ni the sand..and then she pouts and says poor me and i feel bad and give her another inch and she takes another mile. I am trying to do better. I just wish she would try as well. but she plays dumb and it infuriates me. Dh ignores it for th emost part and just says "well thats her" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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i cannot believe how similar these situations are. STOP giving into her - you are making the situation worse every time you give in and you are going to end up really hating her which will be bad for everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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Put a stop to it NOW, it won't just get better. Be a bitch, she's not your concern. Focus on db and put her in her place. You can do it lovingly, but if she doesn't respond, stand your ground. My mil was overbearing and it was a real problem. I lovingly set the limits and now we are really close (but not TOO close...) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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np: how did you go about setting limits? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:41 PM Flag
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That is where I need to get to. Where she is simply just my mother in law. another family member. But she wants so much to be a part of our lives in a very intrusive way. Ways that my family (whom i am very very close with) would never dream of. it is like she can;t accept we are married and share things between just the two of us. she asks how we split finances, how much the crib costs, etc. she cried that we weren;t flying to see them for thanksgiving (db will be 6 weeks old) but yet when we told her to come to us she said no. my parents are coming and now she is upset about that. she cannot be pleased. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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change your cell number. Why does she have all of your personal contact info, anyway. I doubt my MIL would have any idea how to reach me at work, by cell, or by e-mail. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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Damn you're lucky. my sister is the same way..she barely has contact with her mil. my MIL has had tmy contact info for a while. i guess it just happened over time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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