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05.30.08, 07:16 AM General Topics
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Morality Police, are you out there ? I have been secretly reading our au pairs blog to find out what she says about us. Is this wrong ? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:16 AM Flag
 

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Of course not. She's posting it on the WORLD WIDE WEB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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I thought that too, but I really had to sneak around to find the blog which seemed unseemly, and she has no idea that I read it... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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I think you're doing the right thing. What if she posted a picture of your db? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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Actually, she seems never to really mention them much except to say that she would never have become an au pair if she knew that you had to play with kids so much ! She's not the brightest gal... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:20 AM Flag
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LOL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:20 AM Flag
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no. it's a blog - not a dary she keeps under her bed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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but I intentionally don't tell her I know abou it or read it... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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Why would you need to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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I don't know if it's like a "lie of omission" which I'm big on... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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so. she hasn't told you that she is posting it has she? she shouldn't be posting anything that she doesn't want you to read anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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She hasn't told me... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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i think you are fine. if she is dumb enough to post something that she doesn't want you to see then that is her problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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Hmmmm. It's hosted by a site open to the public, right? If it's in accessible cyberspace, I don't think you're in the wrong for reading it. But maybe you can drop a hint to her that you know she has one (if you didn't learn of it from her)? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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here is my "issue"... i don't want her to know I read it.. i feel like i get some secret info that way. that's the "dishonesty" part for me... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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Did she tell you she has a blog? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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She is very loud. i overheard her on the phone with a friend telling her to go read her blog... then I started sleuthing... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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I still maintain you are fine. She's putting it out there for the world to see and didn't try to lower her voice to hide it from you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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I see. That's tricky ( and I see the appeal of reading it covertly). I would probably do exactly what you're doing. It does feel dishonest not to let on, so maybe it is? The stand-up thing might be either to let her know you know about it, or stop reading it. Maybe you can send your question to the Ethicist at the NY Times! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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It would be a good ethicist question ! Part of me says that it keeps my family a bit safer if I know what's in her mind... I'm here all the time usually (I work from home) so there's not many times she has free reign in my kingdom, but I feel it's like a bonus nanny cam [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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Exactly. Our nanny cam doesn't have audio, so I wish the nanny had a blog! (I don't think my nanny even knows how to use a computer, though.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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Mine is from Italy and had no idea how to boil pasta... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:28 AM Flag
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ida. it's out in the public. if she had a concern, she should be posting it, and she certainly shouldn't be posting it where a 'little' sleuthing could find it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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I learned - for example - that she likes my cooking, thinks my husband is out too much, made out with a witer at the restaurant up the street, and doesn't much like the US... not world changing, but a little window into what's in her head which - of course - affects her attitude in my house... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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I meant to write "waiter" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 07:28 AM Flag
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