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05.29.08, 13:55 PM New York City
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when maternity leave was over, I was so glad to get back to work. At home with a nb didnt agree with me. Now ds is so much fun, I wonder if Id be better at being SAHM than I thought initially. not that I can afford to SAH, but nevertheless... [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 05.29.08, 01:55 PM Flag
 

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so true. Much harder to leave them as they get older. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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how old [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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op: hes almost 7 mo now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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np- i went back to work and then quit to sahm when dc was 10 months. i really think it is great for both of us. i'll go back to work someday, but will want something much more flexible so i can still have a lot of time with dc (and #2 on the way) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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nnp - we are the same. i went back to work and recently quit when dc turned 1. we have another one on the way later this year. i also don't plan to sah forever but for a couple yrs. feel lucky to be able to do so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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wait until he is three or four....even better...get apormotion, make your mark, feel accomplished and then enjoy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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hmmm... there is something really wrong with your post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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op: Im probably asking for it, but why dont you tell me? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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Why, are you perfect? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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not at all but not wanting to be home alone with a newborn is rather strange for a mom. (np, btw) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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NNP: Maybe she found it lonely and isolating? (I am not arguing) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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op:. I did find it lonely and isolating, thank you. And I was really insecure about myself as a mom. And sleep deprived [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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having a newborn is hard. really hard. running away from it, I guess, is one way to tackle it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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sarcasm is such a lame crutch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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I wanted to cut short my maternity leave. I was so overwhelmed. Now that DS is older and fun I miss him much more and WOHM is harder. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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DH was no help whatsoever during those times? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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He loves the baby but he is a man, who works full time and was not faced with the same decisions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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huh? what do you mean? My DH is a man, too, works full time, etc. but helped out tremendously when he was home, especially at night. If he can't help with the children he would take care of chores like cleaning or cooking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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op: thanks for that. makes me feel loads better about myself. Ever hear of PPD, supermom? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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OP - forget her. I've got four kids and I DREAD the newborn stage. Not sure why but I really do dislike it and I'm a much better mom w/ every other age. My last two are adopted and I was disappointed when I found out they would be newborns and older infants - that is how much I dislike the newborn stage. And, I'm not weird and I'm a good mom. Actually, I'm a GREAT mom (I'd only admit that on UB). Good luck to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:52 PM Flag
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nnp - i disagree. being home with nb was often boring. now that dc is a toddler, they're much more interactive and fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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I dont think she was saying she didn't want to be. Just thought SAHM was not something that was in her cards. But i understand when they get older and the recognition piece happens with dc it is so much more fun. I actually did 1/2 my maturnity leave at newborn stage and the 2nd half at 8months. I thought it was great way to connect more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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I certainly felt that way...1st three months colicky and wouldn't sleep. I did eventually start staying home (when he was 10 mo) and afterwards felt much more confident with myself as a mom. Before, when things would go right I would wonder if that was becuase of the schedule that the daycare put him on etc, things they were doing. Now though, i want to go back to work and I can't afford to! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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not to be mean but where were your husbands/partners in those situations? Taking care of a newborn usually takes more than one person. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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It is fun at 7 mo but when they start walking you'll want to run back to work [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:48 PM Flag
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