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05.29.08, 13:45 PM General Topics
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Please help. really worried about 4yo ds who has behavioral issues and dh who has anger issues. Dh will be home all summer w/ dc and he told me he is worried about losing control. They fight constantly . DS tests him on everything, knows how to push dh's buttons and is very rebellious. DH reacts with a lot of anger, which is hard for everyone. what to do? should i put him in a camp? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.29.08, 01:45 PM Flag

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which one? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.29.08, 01:47 PM Flag

hahahaha! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.29.08, 01:49 PM Flag

seriously, i mean, the 4 year old is being a 4 year old and so is your dh [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.29.08, 01:50 PM Flag

how much will you be there? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.29.08, 01:48 PM Flag

i will be working all day [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.29.08, 01:53 PM Flag

I would definitely put him in camp. Regardless of your dh's issues, I would think a 4 yo is happiest when busy and playing outside and therefore, camp is best for everyone. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.29.08, 01:55 PM Flag

camp and a very clear behavioral plan for both you and dh to implement with ds [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.29.08, 01:58 PM Flag

some q's and some suggestions. is your dh being the primary caretaker? will your ds have any scheduled activities. first of all, i think a 4yo home all summer without camp or classes is not a great idea. Secondly, i'd start now by having dh have the evening home with 4yo once a week. (do you have only one dc?). identify a problem area (dc misbehaves at bedtime or when dh tries to dress him) and help your dh have a plan. what will he say to ds? how will he ensure ds listens? what will he offer ds in return? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:02 PM Flag

np: OT, but a lot of us were home all summer w/o activities and camps at 4yo! We were, and are, fine, even though every moment of our day wasn't scheduled. I guess this will be a new thread. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:13 PM Flag

i think it was fine b/c there were other kids around. in my neighborhood, all the 4yo's are in camp. i find the same thing with 2yo's during the school year. in principle, i don't think they need school at that age. in practice, it's not always easy to find playmates for them. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:17 PM Flag

Camp for son; counseling for Dad. Maybe counseling for you both. If Dh feels afraid of losing control, he knows he has issues. He needs to work with someone who can help him gain control. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:16 PM Flag

doesn't sound like he needs counseling. sounds like he needs parenting tips. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:18 PM Flag

Of course! How is this even a question? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:50 PM Flag

It sounds like the dad needs counseling -- there are counselors that specialize in parenting issues! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.29.08, 03:06 PM Flag