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05.28.08, 16:41 PM General Topics
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3 yr old was fooling around at dinner - putting food in his water, banging silverwear, dropping them on the floor and generally being obnoxious. after a number of warnings - we said he was done. 2-0 minutes later he was clammeing for desert 9which is usually fruit) and we said no. (I did say if he was hungry he could have milk - which he rejected as "not food'). he was having a total meltdown. now he is in the bath - but I expect meltdown to resume and that it will result in a very late bedtime. DH wants to cave and offer him some fruit before bed and I say no way! His table manners have been horrible and every meal has been a messy nightmare lately. WWYD? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.28.08, 04:41 PM Flag
 

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I'd put him to bed with no dinner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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The one thing I can't stomach (pardon the pun) is a hungry kid. I would give him fruit and next time make the consequence something non food related. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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No way -- he won't starve to death. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:45 PM Flag
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I wouldn't cave [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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OP - so that's 2 supporting my (hopefully our) position. It is going to be a looong night! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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If you truly think he is hungry, offer him the rest of dinner. This is not quite consistent, but it would be mean to let him go truly hungry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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So NO WAY it's not even funny. Why would you go through all you went through already and then cave? What kind of a lesson is that? "If you stick it out long enough, they'll eventually cave. Next time: Six hours." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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OP - oh boy just noticed all my typos - it was 20 minutes later and clammering [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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six hours? six hours of what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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No way. The evening is going to suck. Early bedtime and call it a day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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i'd say that if he's hungry he can have a piece of cheese. (or bread, or whatever you ate for supper). if he persists, say calmly that he can not have dessert b/c he did not sit nicely at dinner but that if he's hungry, he can have cheese (or bread). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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OP - i think his cold corn and cold chicken (2 things he actually eats) - are still on the counter! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:46 PM Flag
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i'd offer one of them. not as a punishment ("eat what's left of your dinner!") but as an option if he's hungry. but definitely don't cave on the dessert issue. and again, make it an option for him, not a punishment or an angry thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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NP: the trick is to act like you are just informing him of a law of physics. Gravity keeps you on the earth. Dessert is for people who behave well at dinner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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ita. if you keep it away from a "YOU broke MY rule", it doesn't become as much of a conflict. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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in our house if you can not follow the rules and be polite you are given a warning and then after that you are sent to bed immediately following the meal. it usually works because if you are sent to bed you are missing the board games we play as a family every night and also any snack you might be given. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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