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05.28.08, 13:37 PM Newborn
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Help us! db's (7 mo) new thing is waking up at 5:30am which could be tolerable IF he didn't wake at 3:30 for a feed. We've tried earlier bedtime, later bedtime, everything. I'm so pooped here. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
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CIO for the 3:30 feed. As for the wake-up time, it may just be how he's wired. My 19 mo still wakes at 5:30. We handle it by taking turns getting up with him while the other one sleeps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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yeah, we're discussing ferberizing (which we swore we would never, hah) so that may be the deal. i'm very ready to drop the middle of the night bf.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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I did Ferber and waited until 13 mo. Please don't make the same mistake as me! It was such a relief to get him sleeping through the night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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you could have waited another couple of months and he would have slept much better w/o the need to make him cry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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I highly doubt that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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All the kids I know that were bad sleepers but were not CIOed started to sleep much better at around 18 months. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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Well, then I guess you are an expert. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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That's what experience and learning makes you, no? An expert. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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LOL, whatever hater. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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Dude, who is the hater here? You guys are attacking me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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an expert ON YOUR OWN DC - not everyone else's [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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not everyone's. There is no such thing (even though many claim to be one). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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well you wrote "all the kids I know..." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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yes, the ones "I know". Exactly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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omg [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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ita. hes totally old enough to cio. when is bedtime now? you could also leave him be at 5:30 and see if he goes back to sleep. thats what we do. works most of the time at least till 6:30 or so (knock wood) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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his bedtime is 6:30-7:30. i know i need to get on this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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i was curious. my ds goes down between 7:30 and 7:45 so if he sleeps till 6:30 im more than satisfied, but if your db is sleeping from 6:30 to 5:30 its really the same thing. I just cant do 5:30 am. I just cant [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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oh, i know it. there's something about seeing that little red five on the clock that is so brutal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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so incrementally put him down a bit later each night (by 10 minutes or so) and see if it helps. Even if you don't want to do Ferber yet, there is a chapter that discusses early waking as a sleep issue that might have some solutions to your problem that won't include cio. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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yep, my 8 mo sleeps from about 6:30 - 5:30 and it seems nothing I do helps her sleep later in the am. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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stop doing the 3:30 feed, first of all. Get that one resolved before worrying about the wake up time. Just go in and soothe, maybe offer water, but no food. He'll stop waking for it once he knows he's not getting anything good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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ok, arrgghhhh. how does one wean he night breastfeed? he goes bonkers if I don't whip it out.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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Let him cry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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cut down the time he's allowed to nurse. rock him until he's asleep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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send DH in to soothe. Eventually you might just find it easier to CIO. We did, after trying lots of other things, and it was quick. He still loves us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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the kid is only 7 months old. let him have his feedings. You will get used to the wakings. I have three kids at home and none of them slept mostly through the night before they were around 1.5 years of age. By 2.5 they all slept like rocks at night. Take it day by day and have DH help you out at night! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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You're quite the martyr mom, huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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why would you call me that? I preferred that over letting my children cry to sleep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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Yeah, but getting used to the wakings for 1.5 years for each kid? That's crazy. A good nights sleep benefits you and the dc. A little cio never hurt anyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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Why is that crazy? DH and I shared the responsibilities at night and we both got enough sleep. The kids didn't suffer at all because we soothed them back to sleep very quickly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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Obviously you don't work. I can't wake up multiple times at night for 1.5 years and still function. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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Sorry, but I am a working mom with a working DH. We just sat it out. The first months with #1 were really hard but then our bodies got used to it. By the time #2 and #3 came to this world we were able to live with minimum sleep. The human body is capable of a lot of things but most are not willing to go through the "training process". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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Some of us don't have dh's that can help with night time responsibilities. Continuous sleep is good for all parties. I think expecting 1.5 years of not enough sleep per child is a bit crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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call it what you will. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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ITA. I was anti-CIO and after I did it, I think it's magic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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op: here's my (our) deal. ds is a fussy baby, better now than he was, but still sensitive. is cio going to put him over the edge? = ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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No. I think it actually HELPED my kid. I swear he was calmer after CIO than before. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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My 5.5 mo was colicky for 6 mos. She's finally not crying and dh is ready to Ferber - I have the same fear as you - will it make her cry all the time again?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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I dont think that will be the result. you should do what you think will be best for you in the end. I WOH full time and neither of us wanted to be up at night with ds even tho we love him. so we knew we had to do whatever we could to get him sleeping thru the night [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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you wont know unless you try. every kid is different. in my case I learned it would only take a few minutes of crying and was well worth it. I also learned my ds almost has to cry a little to blow off steam and get to sleep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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The amount of CIO (little or not) depends on the child, though. Some kids don't respond to CIO at all, some need more than a little. If your kid really only needs a little but of crying you don't really have a problem at your hands. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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np - this is your choice, but it's not necessary is what most of us are trying to tell OP - you don't win points for nursing your 3 kids during the night until 1.5 - and fwiw no ped recs this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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Huh? Nursing is not the only way to soothe a baby back to sleep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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no ped recommends what? Going in and soothe your kid back to sleep at night until she is physically able to soothe herself? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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no ped recommends night feeding after a certian age. at that point its just a crutch and you are doing more of a disservice not having already taught db the tools to soothe herself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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Thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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"disservice"? My kids got weaned from night feedings when they were weaned of the breast (between 10 and 14 months). No harm done with that. Btw, all peds, eh? Not the ones I am in touch with. The ones that give me bollocks advise like that will not retain my children as patients. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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you can still bf your kids at that age and not have them waking at night to feed. They eat plenty during the day unless youre starving them. thats just plain too old to wake at night to feed. But you do what you want and Ill do what I want. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:27 PM Flag
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you don't get it, do you? You do not have to teach your child to self-soothe. They do this all by themselves as soon as they are mature enough. If you are in a hurry, of course, you don't have to wait that long and force them to so. I do not do that to my kids. That's me. Obviously, you think differently, so let your kids cry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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actually, I do get it. You dont have to teach your kids lots of things that they will eventually learn on their own, but you do anyway. that is just silly. if you can help them learn this skill earlier, why woudlnt you. so, actually - my kid doesnt cry. And he sleeps, too and that is the point [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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