UrbanBaby

05.28.08, 11:25 AM New York City
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can't believe it. bf spent holiday weekend with me, dc and my family. he came away with us. now he is completely backing off. they were so great and warm to him and he seemed to have a great time. now the pull back completely. what is the story??? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 05.28.08, 11:25 AM Flag

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maybe he decided that it was too much for him. i'm sorry. how long had you been together? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:26 AM Flag

a couple of months. he has a dc too from a previous marriage [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:27 AM Flag

that's so soon for a weekend away. i'm not judging...but (i'm a single mom as well) that would be really fast to even go away just the two of you [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:29 AM Flag

the thing is, i didn't mean for it to be that way. last min he kind of invited himself. I felt it would be okay because there were so many people going to be there and it would be lighthearted [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:30 AM Flag

well, at least you weeded him out early [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:31 AM Flag

he freaked [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:33 AM Flag

darn. do you think he will be back? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:34 AM Flag

You don't know. My dh did that to me when we were both single, no kids. Just panicked for about a week, then called me to apologize. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:35 AM Flag

this could be it. sucks. i can't even believe it. did he say why he panicked? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:36 AM Flag

dh did this too, after a really great weekend together, then bam! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:37 AM Flag

did he say why? did he come back? i guess so, he is your DH [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:39 AM Flag

what's he doing or not doing? has he said anything or just gone awol? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:38 AM Flag

made sudden plans to go away himself this weekend, didn't ask to see me tonight which he usually does since dc is with my ex, blew off an event we have monday night because he has a "dinner". [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:39 AM Flag

I'm not an expert on any of this, but I would wait a week then ask to meet someplace unthreatening, like for coffee. Then just ask him straight out, wha happened? if he won't even give you that, then I'd drop it [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:42 AM Flag

its very weird and incredibly hurtful. i was patient when he suddenly planned the weekend away, but when he bailed on monday night that was the final straw for me [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:43 AM Flag

Maybe he's just not ready to jump back into the family/kid scenerio. He sounds like he's freaked out. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:46 AM Flag

could be. he is still hung up on the loss of his own family (divorce) so seeing mine might have been difficult for him [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:47 AM Flag

Sounds likely. Give him a little room, then ask him. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:48 AM Flag

thank you. i apprechiate your feedback [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:49 AM Flag