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05.28.08, 09:30 AM General Topics
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I don't care anymore, I'll discpline your kid if you are not around to do it. Today this kid was hogging the slide, just sitting there while DD was waiting patiently. I told the kid to slide down so DD could have a turn too. DD was sitting behind him and he turned around and smacked her. I pointed my finger and him and said "Hey! No hitting". No mom or nanny in sight! I know I startled the kid because he sort of jumped and then slid down the slide. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.28.08, 09:30 AM Flag
 

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I think you handled really well. What the heck else could you do? Can't ignore hitting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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Good for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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you will be flamed by all the granola heads on this board, but you were right to do this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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hey I'm a granola-head and I think she did the right thing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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np- me too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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ITA...though you and I and the few agreeing posters are in the minority. Actually, I think kids really respect people who set and stick to certain boundaries...too bad it's not their own caregivers setting the example. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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yeah I basically gave him the same tone that I give DD when she hits, the "I mean business, you better listen to Mommy" voice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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I can't imagine ANYONE who would think you were in the wrong. If a kid hits my kid, and there isn't a parent around to scold, I will definitely do it. What choice is there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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op: i used to be really nervous about doing this when DD was little, now if someone snatches a toy from DD or hit, I'll tell the kid to quit it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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np - well...I think you have to be careful about not being too helicopter-ish. Kids have to also learn the law of the jungle to a certain extent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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i'm not a helicopter mom, but i don't like DD snatching toys from other kids, so why should i let other kids do the same to her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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but to a certain extent kids need to fight their own battles. Getting pushed or hit is one thing, toy grabbing another. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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i usually tell both of them whose turn it is (that DD was playing with it) and that we'll let him play with it when she is done. i usually do this when DD doesn't take it back and starts to cry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:51 AM Flag
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I want my kid to not snatch toys *and* to know how to deal with it when another kid does. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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I have a feeling your dc is your first and only. You will be much more laid back about parenting if you have another. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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np: they need to learn how to negotiate the world on their own a bit too---obviously if hitting is involved it's different. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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I would have done the same. Im always looking for those absentee parents at the park - why aren't they watching their kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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they are the same ones who are too busy talking on their phone. Same ones who were always offended when I pointed out their golden retriever just took a dump at the dog park (when I was single and took my dog to the dog park). Are you sure that was MY golden retriever? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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they should have instant poop dna kits - and Im a dog owner [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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np: how old are the kids? Honestly, when they're a certain age, most parents I know let them play on their own w/o being on top of them--sometimes they do something you miss, but I have no problem with someone telling them not to do something that's hurtful to another kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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good at 2-3 they should be watching. I don't care they have to take responsibility for their own children [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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of course, I'm just saying that as the kids get older and more independent, sometimes you're not aware of every move they make. Of course if you know they're prone to hitting or pushing, you should be more on top of them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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op: i understand that, but kids 18 mos to 2 yrs should be watched imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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or: agree, that's why I asked how old the kids were. I remember when my ds was that age I couldn't figure out where the moms of the older kids were, but now that he's almost 4, I understand a bit more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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i have no problem letting DD run around without me next to her when she gets older, or learning how to stand on her own when someone takes her toys. She actually is good at defending herself at times. i just hate it at this age, when nannies and moms don't watch their children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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op: they are the same age as my DD, around 2 yo or a little younger. i'm not talking about a 4 yo here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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I would put a tee shirt on my kid that said, "Feel free to discipline me if I am acting like an ass." But I live in Park Slope so... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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ooh, can I get one of those for my dh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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funny... (in Park Slope, in men's sizes, I could make a small fortune on these.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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you could! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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related question....was in the park with my dc. he was about 10 feet in front of us and fell on a dirt path. dc was fine and got partway up--hands and feet still on ground, looking at us and crying. woman closer to dc reached down as if to pick him up. i said...it's ok, he's with us. i was walking, not running, to dc because he was clearly ok and i didnt' want to make a huge deal about it so dc would stop crying. woman reached down and picked dc up anyway...just lifted him up to a standing position. i didn't freak out about it and said nothing, but i was surprised she touched my child in that circumstance (dont' know if woman had kids or not and i'm sure she meant no harm). should i have said something? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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i wouldn't have. but i always prefer to be left alone in situations like that as well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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no, she was just trying to be helpful. i'll help out a child sometimes if the mom isn't close by [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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but i was there and said to her "it's ok, he's with us" and she picked him up anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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well, there's no need to freak out over it. i probably would have huffed it a little bit more so the other woman wouldn't pick up DC. no biggie [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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OR: I would recognize that, " [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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^^that mispost is on UB... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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