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05.28.08, 06:47 AM General Topics
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what should you say (or not say) to a woman who found out mid-pregnancy that her baby has serious medical issues and may not survive? (and does your advice differ for a friend vs a mil?). tia. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.28.08, 06:47 AM Flag
 

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Do NOT say, "God has a plan" or "Everything will work out as it's supposed to." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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so just saying "i'm sorry. let me know what i can do" is it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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np. Yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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Pretty much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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ITA. I HATE that. also, "God only gives us what we can handle". it's a horrible statement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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I would just offer my support and offer to be around if they want to talk. I would also say 'I don't really know what to say to you but I want you to know I'm thinking of you'. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 06:51 AM Flag
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thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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My friend went through something similar and she said she didn't know what to say herself so she didn't expect people to know what to say to her. I would keep it very simple. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 06:57 AM Flag
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i guess that makes sense. it's not like you can say anything to make them feel better about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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You can't. What will make them feel better in time is that you care for them and that they can talk to you about their child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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#1 Don't use this as a time to talk about adopting your dog. And how crowded the world is. (My childless boss.) #2 Don't be the person to talk about how lucky "you found out now, while you can still do something." (Step mom) #3 Oh and don't talk about your horror stories. (Too many to count.) | Just say, "Man that sucks." If you are close give her a hug. (If the dad is in the picture... this is a tough time for us too and we seem to be forgotten in all this.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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np: wow, you're a dh? this is a very good reply. so sorry for your loss. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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op: i had to get off before so i just saw your post now. i'm not sure if i should thank you or sympthize. people are incredibly stupid. sorry you had to go through it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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