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05.28.08, 04:43 AM General Topics
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PG with #3 and am still amazed how ppl (especially women) won't offer you a seat. I always offer a seat to a pg woman, elderly, mom with small dc, ect. Who are raising these ppl? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.28.08, 04:43 AM Flag
 

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you are in the NE, yes? I don't think we realize just how bad it is until we are pregnant or in need another way. Nothing has changed, it's just the way it is here, unfortunately. My eyes were opened for the same reason when I was pg. Get me outta here!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:53 AM Flag
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op: yes I'm in NYC. I was born and raised here and my parents always showed me manners. I also show my dds to give up their seat to those who need it. It just still amazes me how ppl just play dumb and choose to be rude [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:54 AM Flag
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I agree. I think we are the minority--and I'm not being obnoxious. I truly believe that there are more ppl here who just have no manners. I was 8.5 mths pg and it was so clear my shoes couldn't even get on my feet. Do you think ANYONE on the train got up?? Not one. I sat on the floor [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:56 AM Flag
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i hear ya. same experience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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absolutely ita, that's why I'm glad I'm outta there - it was shocking to me, I guess we're naive :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:01 AM Flag
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np I've even seen this in the south now. Growing up, it never would have happened. Now though? really crappy IMHO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:06 AM Flag
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I don't know what train you guys ride, but I've never experienced this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:01 AM Flag
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then that's dumb luck; it also happened to me regularly when I was on crutches [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:02 AM Flag
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dumb luck that in the 25 years I've lived here I've never experienced it? in fact, I've experienced just the opposite. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:07 AM Flag
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:08 AM Flag
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no, I've seen others complain about the same thing. I don't understand the discrepancy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:11 AM Flag
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well, that's why I suspect dumb luck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:11 AM Flag
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or karma [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:12 AM Flag
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well, I'm not seeing the karma, but whatever [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:17 AM Flag
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You were pregnant for 25 years? Wow. :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:09 AM Flag
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I meant, it's never happened to me nor have I witnessed it happening to someone else [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:12 AM Flag
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oh, and it was the 1,9, D, Q, N, R, and the 2, 3 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:08 AM Flag
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Are you serious? I experience this every day in the morning when it is crowded and people are tired. In the afternoon people usually offer me a seat, but NEVER during morning rush (I take the 1,2 or 3) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:04 AM Flag
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I also take the 1, 2, 3. Makes me wonder why my experience is so dissimilar [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:08 AM Flag
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Do you go during the morning rush (8-9)? The trains are usually packed so tight people can barely fit on them - I'd be shocked if people could even see a pg person, let alone give their seats up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:10 AM Flag
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I'm usually at work by 8 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:13 AM Flag
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^^^I should say BEFORE 8 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:14 AM Flag
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That could be the difference - after 8 people can barely get on the trains. Although I took the 2 at 7:30 this morning and no one offered me a seat (I'm 7 mos pg) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:15 AM Flag
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well, if I see you I'll offer you my seat... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:20 AM Flag
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Thanks :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:22 AM Flag
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i endured 3 pregnancies riding the subway and the train. honestly i was more grateful to people who gave me a seat than resentful of people who didnt. people are absorbed in their own world and dont always notice your pregnancy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:22 AM Flag
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that is certainly true, but there is a certain type of white, middle to upper middle class man (usually in a suit) who SEES you then looks away or buries his face in his paper [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:24 AM Flag
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If I'm standing, and there's someone who obviously needs a seat standing, I pick a guy like that and sweetly ask him if he'd mind getting up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:26 AM Flag
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i would be so mad at dh if i knew he did this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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I agree - poster above who never gets a seat in the morning - realistically, if it is a short ride I just deal. If I really feel that I have to sit down (really tired or uncomfortable or long ride) I'll just ask for a seat. No one has ever said no when I ask. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:25 AM Flag
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I often preferred to stand, because it was so hard to get back up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:45 AM Flag
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i'll never forget, i was about 7 mo pg, with my 2 yo dd on a bus. th bus was somewhat crowded, not bursting but standing room only. I had to hold my 2 yo cross town, and no one gave up a seat for me. well, 1 very elderly AA woman offered, but i declined. and then we glared at the men together [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:42 AM Flag
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you get more flies with honey, honey [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:46 AM Flag
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True, I'd ask a likely suspect if I needed to sit but I'm outspoken. I'd also ask people to help me with my stroller sometimes. 99% people were happy to do it - they just needed to be awakened out of their stupor [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:48 AM Flag
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normally, i agree. but after about 3 crosstown blocks, i had run out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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i will say that i think people who have never been pg, men included, really do not understand how very uncomfortable you can be. not that it makes makes it OK, but i'm just saying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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I totally agree with OP. Having said that (I do give my seat to pg woman -- and I have been pg twice. So I know), I sometime feel hesitant to offer a seat because I'm not totally sure that the woman is pregnant or just bit, well, plump. When it is obvious, it's no brainer. But I don't want to offend people by offering a seat to somebody who is not pg, but look pg... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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np: I think that's ok. I've found in 2 pregnancies that it really wasn't until towards the end-- when there was NO mistaking my condition-- that I really needed to sit. Or very early, b/c of morning sickness, but I couldn't expect anyone to know about that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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I disagree. I had twins (in August no less) and never really expected anyone to offer. I'm not disabled or 90 years old for chrissake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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I think it's more the principle of the thing for a lot of these women [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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np: maybe not, and I get the whole "I am strong woman" pride thing, but let's face it: Pregnant women very often have bad balance, swollen, achy feet, achy groin, and on and on. Offering them a seat is the decent thing to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:51 AM Flag
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I know! I'm in 3rd trimester and had to glare at a police officer to give up his subway seat. So rude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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quit being so passive/aggressive! just ask! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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