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05.27.08, 16:50 PM General Topics
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I was thinking today that had we stopped at one child, dh and I would have been happier, but ds is happier that he has a brother. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 04:50 PM Flag
 

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Why do you say that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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Because it would be easier and cheaper to have just one and focus all our attention on him. My two ds have a great time together. This weekend we were at the beach and they spent hours collecting shells and working on a castle and it was the kind of time that an adult would have a hard time providing. Don't get me wrong. The do fight also. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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np-but can you honestly say you'd be happier without #2? I cant fathom that feeling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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You are right. I guess I mean just that life would have been less hectic and $$$ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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yes, well that I can second! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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My only does that stuff by herself. You will never know what it would have been like with only one, so try to enjoy the two you have and the money stuff and stress will eventually subside. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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My two are best friends also (girl and boy) They play for hours on Saturday mornings and let us sleep in (yay!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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i totally agree, i have a 3 yo and 4mo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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np- you are in the heat of it now- but it is so great having more than one db. Im sure you will agree one day esp. when you see the joy they give each other! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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thanks, i already see the joy- and #1dd loooooves the baby- i think its great to have 2 of the same sex [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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what is the age difference between them? are you happy it was another boy or were you hoping for a dd? how did life get harder with #2? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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I don't want to have anymore. Have one dd and it is great to be able to spend all your $$ on them and give them 100% of your attention. I am just concerned about her not having siblings when dh and I are gone. It feels like such a catch 22... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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i have a 5yo and a 10mo and i often think that i would be happier selfishly without kids. they do bring me joy, but i also feel like they can suck the life out of me. now i understand all of those studies that say people with young children are less happy than people without kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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I don't think you are alone, but many people won't admit it. I waited eight years and I am glad that I have dd, but I also like all the things that I like...I am not willing to give up everything for someone else. I think you can have a decent balance with one child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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it's not selfish to be happy without kids, it's normal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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Actually most studies show that they rated themselves as more stressed, but more happy. That said you are not alone. It is a very common. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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np. I have only seen studies showing that people with kids are less happy than people without kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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really? I haven't seen those. Just goes to show you that a study can prove anything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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I would agree with that. You just have so much more responsibility when you have a dc. I can't imagine my life without dd, but I had such a relaxing, stress free life before her! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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We had two dc. One ds (15) and one dd (13). They are not best of friends but get along very well. The four of us feel like a real family. I'm always sort of sad for single child families because the child doesn't get to be a child as much (bad child to adult ratio), they get 100% of their parent's attention (something they will never get once they leave home) and they seem lonely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:19 AM Flag
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